Parenting the Adolescent Years

Parenting the Adolescent Years

Out of all the work and jobs, I have done, parenting is by far the toughest I have encountered. You hope and pray that you are doing a great job raising well-rounded children – but the *something* happens and you are questioning your parenting skills repeatedly. When my eldest was still in high school, I thought he would NEVER graduate. Getting him to school wasn’t a problem, but staying in class, was a whole different topic. But alas, he did graduate – whew. And then he lived on my couch for a bit before I said no more, get up and get a job – and he did. But then he totaled my car but soon he was enlisted in the Army, serving his country….

Things I thought I never had to do as a parent

Things I thought I never had to do as a parent

When I first became a mom I thought about the conversation I would have with my kid. I dreamt about telling some of the crazy stories from my own childhood minus a part here and there. I dreamt of happy and healthy children, who would have amazing careers and create their own little families. What I didn’t envision is that one of my kids would be ill and that he would eventually be able to tell his own amazing yet scary almost unbelievable story of going undiagnosed for 4 years and three transplants later. And yet in all those 22 years of parenting and 11 years of being a special needs kind of mom, I never thought I would have the conversation about taking too much…

Connect without being a push-over parent

Connect without being a push-over parent

Being a Parent is such a tricky journey. You teach through role modeling and lectures. You love through facial expressions and gestures. You want to connect with them. You hope that your instinct is guiding you to help shape your child’s life, not only so they become a good moral citizen but also help them know they can have the life they envision even if their childhood hasn’t always been the best. When my eldest was born, I made the choice to not impose my religious and spiritual beliefs onto him and that his father would respectfully do the same. I opted not to baptize him and his brothers because deep down I feel they must choose their own path. I believed that pushing any faith…

The annual IEP

The annual IEP

  If you have had to have an IEP meeting.. or have to have them regularly as we do – you may feel apprehension about going because you know the only reason the IEP is needed is due to the fact that your child is struggling. I find myself often noting the negative thoughts surrounding an IEP or the struggles my kid is experiencing because he missed 3 years of school because he has suffered brain damage due to high levels of ammonia in his system. I struggle with the notion that he may always be behind.. but then… I go to his IEP meeting and I hear about ALL of this progress my kid has been making and while there is still SO much…