The fear of missing out


We all have experienced this at one point or another, the fear of missing out. But what you are really missing is happiness within yourself.

Social media is great but it certainly has its downsides because it traps us to check in and see how great everyone’s life is. But it doesn’t show the reality.

  • We check into seeing where people are traveling to and feel jealous.
  • We check and see how many dollars someone brought into their business and we feel envy.
  • We check and see how people are ranting and raving and create drama, leaving us feeling better about ourselves.

But the truth is that we can’t find our happiness on social media, nor can we achieve our own success by constantly checking on what we may be missing.

And here is what’s happening when it comes to the fear of missing out:

You stop paying attention to life, your life, and your own happiness.

The moment you decide to focus on yourself, your own happiness, you make room for your own clarity of what you want, where you want to go and what you need as a person.

But you can use the fear of missing out on to your advantage.

It can be your motivation. Take notice of where you are feeling unhappy and decide to make a change.

Ask yourself: What do you want? Where do you want to go? What do you need (and I am not talking material things here)?

Engage in mindfulness. Being aware of your own thoughts and feelings. It’s the process of self-acceptance of where we are right here in this moment without judgment.

Notice your breathing, your feeling and the sensations in your body. Know that your feelings and thoughts don’t define who you are and use them as a pathway to free yourself from limiting thoughts and beliefs.

Practice gratitude. You already have so much and gratitude helps you acknowledge all that is and all that is to come.

Make this part of your morning or evening routine, or both even. Create a list of 10 things you are grateful for. This could mean the rain nourishing the earth, or that you have food in the pantry to cook. It doesn’t matter how big or small.

Focus on what you want to create. This took me some time to figure out because I was wasting so much time on social media. I made a list of all the things I wanted to do and create and then I took inspired action to make them happen.

Fear of missing out only rules your mind, if you allow it. Make a choice today to focus on your own lane and your own happiness.

Petra is a coach and mentor for creatives, rebels and dreamers who are ready to find the courage to forge their own path because life is too short to feed the fear.

She’s the founder of the Rebel Soul Connection, a community for creatives, rebels, and dreamers to take action with tools, resources, support, and accountability.

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