Last week, I did the unthinkable. I shared my story with about 10,000 people.
When I encounter people, I always tell them my story. My story is powerful and impactful and in my 20’s it was very different from it is now that I am 40.
Back in the day it was about being the victim and receiving pity from the people around me.
Now, now its really about inspiring others and give them the little nudge to move forward to not only follow their dreams but really be well with themselves.
Here’s what I shared:
From Foster Care to Creating Freedom
I have had enough experiences that last me multiple life times.
I am a foster child and grew up in the system since I was 2
I was sexually, emotionally and physically abused during this time
I was raped twice in adolescent years
I married twice and divorced twice
I gave up a son at birth
I struggled with alcohol abuse until I had my a DUI
I loved the wrong people for the longest time
Left a 9 year relationship that had detoured into something else
I’ve seen my children struggle and succeed and struggle some more
I have watched my youngest son fight for his life from three liver transplants
Why am I telling you this?
Because people told me that I would not succeed and that I could not live my dream life
I have learned that listening to others is for the birds and that I love to go against what people tell me I should do
Here is what I know from the depth of my heart:
You have got to believe in your dream and know that you have to earn your dream.
What I didn’t realize is that by following my heart that it would give me the ultimate life I wanted. A life with freedom. But it also gave me so much more than that.
A life filled with love from my boys, my friends and most importantly, love from myself.
Love yourself and you will not only create your freedom but find your voice and unlock your confidence!
The feedback I received was overwhelming and had me in tears. So supportive and yet here is what I really got out of it:I was able to inspire and motivate people. I made connections and build relationships. I was able to love myself through my story by showing others that it doesn’t matter where you come from, all you need is to believe that you can.
It has been an amazing experience to be so open about it all and be transparent about my past.
I haven’t always felt good about myself or my past let alone despite appearance thought life was good. Life was damn shitty at times and I am owning it. Life was freaking hard on more than one occasion but the key has always been to not live there.
No matter how difficult things may get, there is always a way. You just have to allow yourself to take a moment and go within. Give yourself the rest that you need. Journal it out, writing about your thoughts and feelings is one amazing tool for you to reflect on in the future because you can then go back and see how far you have come.
Situations are temporary and you can’t control them anyway. What you can control is you and how you feel and respond to everything in your world.
Here’s to overcoming anything that tries to get in your way.
7 ways to incorporate Boundaries