The journey of healing is hard, interesting and a powerful one.
It’s taken me more years than I’d like to admit to looking at my upbringing in foster care in a positive light.
But I am incredibly excited to finally can look back and not feel ashamed because the reality is there is so much better I have learned that has played a key role in how I approach life and business.
Taking Risk – Now this has come with good and bad experiences but one thing I have learned is to not be afraid of taking a risk.
Strategizing – This has been playing a role in my survival. Learning this skill has proven to be one of the most profound lessons.
I am in charge – I control how I show up when I show up and the actions I take. Creating the life, I want, is up to me and the past does not hold any dark clouds over me.
How all of this serve me now:
It’s really amazing what appears to be so small at times, really has the most profound impact. Because I am willing to take a risk, I have started businesses, close them when they fell out of alignment and changed course as needed. I have written books
I have written books to share my story risking judgment and ridicule.
I have taken a risk in agreeing to my son’s liver transplant even though there are a lot of risks involved and lifelong medical care.
Taking risks is the cornerstone of being an entrepreneur. It’s like laying everything on the line because your vision and mission are so much bigger than who you are.
The ability to strategize allows me to see how to connect the dots from the big vision, working backward to the point where I am now. I am a visionary, the kind of person that dreams big can see that bigger picture and my mind just channels all the pathways to make it happen.
It’s the thing that I rely on when I hit a stumbling block and feeling the frustration because it will ask me to take a step back and reevaluate the strategy and come up with a new plan.
And because I am in control, I can decide which step is the best one and the next one. I can choose to follow the initial strategy or make a change.
This life is a journey and so is your business. It isn’t easy no matter what your past but if you can look at your childhood from a different perspective can make all the difference in the world.
Lessons are always to be learned and it’s important to reflect and acknowledge them.
You know how we always get hung up on the how to do something?
Here’s the thing, once you decide you want to do change something, the how comes to you by allowing yourself that you want whatever it is you want.
And yet, sometimes figuring out the how will bring you closer to the what because that’s how life is.
Years ago, when I was still stuck in poverty and I wanted to get out of that kind of living, I defined what I wanted and for me that included entrepreneurship.
I didn’t have a clue about how that would happen but by having this intention it opened the doors to my mind allowing in all the possibilities that could become a reality.
It all started with my artist business. I love creating wood burnings and crochet but I love art in general. Once I had my own business, it evolved in helping other artists to sell their creations and even though I had no idea how that would happen, eventually, I had a brick & mortar store.
And because life can be as funny as smooth sailing or crazy as the storm, we experience events to just really figure out what it is we want from our own life and even ourselves.
As a service oriented person, I know I want to help people and briefly thought that being a counselor would bring me the satisfaction I was looking for. I closed my brick & mortar store and became a counselor.
But here’s the thing I realized that working for someone else wasn’t really for me. I really wanted to work for myself because I wanted to be in control of my schedule. But I also wanted to be present for my kids at any given moment, or my friends or whoever may need love and support. I didn’t want to explain that I had to be at a j-o-b.
And the question became, how could I turn my life experiences and my skills into something that would bring me to the life I wanted. Enter transformational coaching.
There is a lot of mindset work that happens during this journey of deciding what it is you want, but the closer I focused on what I wanted, the easier the how became.
At the same time, sometimes by engaging the how and becoming strategic, you begin to take action.
How do you start following your dream?
By doing of course.
Decide what you want.
If the how doesn’t come to you, there are resources that can figure out what your steps are. And sometimes, looking at those steps and then doing them may even reveal if that is what you really want.
For some affirmations are silly gestures of things not true but we create the reality that we think! And for others, it’s a powerful statement to help you change your pattern of thinking.
I use affirmations regularly in my life. I will write them in a journal, I create art journal pages with them, I will post them all over my office/studio because that’s where I spent the most time.
For me, affirmations are the initial steps I take to help me transform my negative thinking about myself, my business, my family or anything else that has me feeling frustrated and I don’t feel confident about.
Affirmations are a simple tool to transform your mindset if you are willing to dedicate the work to it, pay attention to your thinking process and actively engage in reframing your thoughts.
If you keep telling yourself that you can’t do something or that you are not enough, you are attracting more of that into your life.
If on the other hand, you tell yourself that you are successful and confident then you will take inspired actions to move towards that goal or dream that has been hanging out on the horizon.
Think of an affirmation as the seed of a tree, the more you nurture it the bigger, stronger and confident it becomes. While without the positive nurture, it will simply not sustain the storms and other challenges it is exposed to.
Creating your own affirmations is a simple process of the following:
I am ________________________________________________________________
I will ________________________________________________________________
I can ________________________________________________________________
Fill the blank with a positive statement.
The key element is that it is in the present moment!
I am successful.
I will achieve my dreams.
I can take this action (whatever action that is for you).
Repeat the affirmation in the mornings for 5-10 minutes, throughout the day and/or write it in your journal. For me writing really affirms my positive statement.
Make this a daily practice in the morning and perhaps at bedtime.
The change won’t happen overnight but giving it some time, watch your world unfold with positivity and attracting your dreams because you are allowing the opportunity for possibilities.