Why following the hustle could actually hurt you

Why following the hustle could actually hurt you

There is this thing that is happening that could hurt you, rather than help you.

And I see it everywhere and it’s a huge problem for those who want to create a life according to their own terms and in a way that feels good.

For those who consider themselves, introverts, heart-centered and are driven by service rather than money.

And that is the hustle.

  • They tell you to get up at the crack of dawn.
  • They tell you to stop watching television or Netflix.
  • They tell you to stop playing candy crush.
  • They tell you to stop focusing on this or that.
  • They encourage you to only focus on your business and work.
  • They assume that if you take a day or the weekend off, you are not a hustler.

And frankly, you don’t have to be one to be successful!

I believe that if you follow the hustle but it doesn’t resonate with you, that in the end, you end up hurting yourself.

Part of creating the life you want is to show up how you want to, be who you are and be of service in a way that feels amazing to you.

The hustle can hurt you if you

  • require some downtime to recharge your batteries
  • are stuck in the struggle of “what to do next”
  • are in resistance that can benefit of some surrender
  • you are an empath and/or an introvert
  • you neglect family in friends

There is a big part that is forgotten when people start talking about the hustle. It’s like the part of living is not remembered. That the only focus should be to work, work and then work some more.

But where is the fun? The part of where you are living your life rather than just existing?

And while this does work for some people, there are some of you that need the down time, that need a wee bit of distraction so that you cannot give everything of you to other people.
And the biggest challenges when others preach about the hustle is that you start to question yourself.

You begin to doubt yourself that you are not doing enough. That you are not giving enough. That you are not showing up enough. That you are doing it all wrong.

It feeds the monster of “not being enough”.

And in a world where fear of taking action due to self-imposed doubts due to past interactions and experiences, is doing a huge disservice.

It’s one of the big reasons, I am I talking about boundaries, self-care and creating your ideal week because I think it’s so incredibly important that you take care of your mental health in the process. And you have to fill your own well before you can be of service to others.

So, if you don’t align with the word hustle, know that you don’t have to.

You can do business and life alive in a way that feels good to you!

You can work as many hours as you like but don’t forget to live.

Don’t forget to do those things that you love to do that do not work or business related.

Don’t forget to have fun.

Don’t forget to be human.

If you like to shut your brain off for a bit playing candy crush, do so.
If you like to spend your weekend on the couch watching TV, do that.
If you like to go to bed at 11 pm and wake up at 7:30 am, do that.
If you like to take a nap in the middle of the day, do that.

Therefore, planning and knowing how you work is so important. This is where being a bit strategic about your actions and your week are incredibly helpful.

You can work on 3-5 most important actions 5 days a week and be as successful as you want to be!

The key to success is becoming self-aware of who you are and what you want to be, do and have,

There are many ways to be successful, you have to choose your own path!

Tell me, how does the word hustle make you feel? Inquiring minds want to know!

100 Ways to Love yourself

100 Ways to Love yourself

No matter where you are in your journey, or what goals you want to achieve, I found that loving yourself is one of those things that needs to come first.

I have compiled a list of 100 ways you can do just that!

  1. Keep a journal about
  2. Share your emotions with those who feel safe
  3. Honor your feelings
  4. Take time out every day to be still and just be
  5. Try something new
  6. Go for a hike or a walk on the trails
  7. Do something you loved doing as a child
  8. Take a hot bath
  9. Make art
  10. Have a girls night out
  11. Learn a new skill you’ve been dying to try
  12. Practice forgiveness
  13. Rewrite old stories
  14. Connect with like-minded people
  15. Become a good steward of money
  16. Set Boundaries
  17. Honor your energy around activities and people
  18. Watch a movie or tv series that makes you laugh
  19. Break off relationships that don’t support you
  20. Build a fort in your living room and sleep in it
  21. Write a short story
  22. Eat food that makes you feel good
  23. Get a physical
  24. Send a thank you note
  25. Go on a road trip
  26. Take an art class
  27. Declutter a space that could use some uplifting
  28. Take an exercise class
  29. Go on a health retreat
  30. Let go of regret
  31. Make a list of all that you’ve achieved
  32. Ask for help
  33. Create Mantra’s that uplift you
  34. Dress up, even when you’re not going anywhere
  35. Dance to your favorite song
  36. Read a book that you’ve been putting off
  37. Update your wardrobe, maybe get some new underwear
  38. Take yourself out on a date
  39. Stop looking to fit in, just be you
  40. Write a letter to a younger version of you
  41. Write a letter to a future version of you
  42. Expect respect
  43. Establish a morning routine
  44. Get off social media
  45. Speak your truth, even when your voice shakes
  46. Share your dreams
  47. Volunteer at an organization that matters to you
  48. Get enough sleep
  49. Look in the mirror and speak positively to you
  50. Make a list of 100 things you are grateful for
  51. Call a friend you haven’t talked to in a while
  52. Go on a date (no expectations)
  53. Go to the movies
  54. Give compliments to people you encounter
  55. Pay it forward
  56. Trust your intuition
  57. Limit the amount of news you watch
  58. Sing your favorite song
  59. Take the day off and do nothing
  60. Take action on something you’ve been talking about
  61. Don’t engage with anything that feels like “should”
  62. Believe in yourself
  63. Go swimming in the moonlight
  64. Increase your water intake
  65. Go buy yourself a gift
  66. Create your own personal manifesto
  67. Have the most incredible and amazing breakfast
  68. Get a haircut
  69. Get some new feel-good bedsheets
  70. Go to a concert or a play you’ve been wanting to see
  71. Get real about your debt and make a plan of action
  72. Get some new wall decor that uplifts you
  73. Take a nap
  74. Unsubscribe from the email lists you aren’t reading
  75. Find a new blog that inspires you
  76. Take a selfie and share it
  77. Clean out your car
  78. Engage in sexual pleasure
  79. Choose a theme song
  80. Ask your friends what they love about you, be open to receiving.
  81. Bake your favorite cookies
  82. Give yourself permission to take a break
  83. Make a list of all the things you love about yourself
  84. Walk barefoot in the grass
  85. Be a tourist in your town or the next town over
  86. Create an evening routine
  87. Stop doing that one thing you’ve been saying you’re going to stop
  88. Cook something you’ve never cooked before
  89. Go eat at a restaurant you’ve been dying to try out
  90. Learn a new language
  91. Learn an instrument or play an instrument if you already know
  92. Tell someone you love them
  93. Make a list of compliments you were given
  94. Take your own advice on something
  95. Go on a getaway
  96. Attend a workshop you’ve been wanting to take
  97. Visit a friend that lives out of town
  98. Go watch the sunrise or sunset – or both
  99. Say no to things that you don’t want to do
  100. Stop comparing yourself to others
Creating art as a form of self-care

Creating art as a form of self-care

Do you engage in self-care? Why or why not?

Engaging in self-care is a necessity like brushing your teeth. If you don’t brush your teeth every day, you get cavities and will have to go to the dentist for things that could have been prevented.

Self-care is pretty much the same thing. If you don’t engage in self-care regularly, you will burn out and then have to take a much-needed break that can literally turn your life upside down.

Every Friday is art day, that means I am creating something (wood-burning, crocheting, drawing or doodling or maybe jewelry making). I don’t focus on business or anything else that is going on. It is my time to pretty much forget about the world and nourish my soul in ways that feel good.

I am not one to do spa days (you know manicure, massages etc.) and I had to find a different way to pamper myself, and creating art does just that – or going to the ocean but fall is almost here and there will be less of going to the water.

When I can create art, I get inspired with new ideas and I fill my well, so I can be the best version of me in my many facets.

I don’t self-care one day a week as my workouts also provide self-care but on a different level – they tend to balance my energy more.

If you are in a job, you get 2 days off (I hope) to recharge your well and do some of the fun activities not work related.  and if you are self-employed then building in a self-care routine of some kind is a necessity.

If you happen to be self-employed than building in a self-care routine of some kind is a necessity. You can make this a daily thing, 30-minutes to an hour a day or a full day when you can.

And I don’t have to tell you that when you are a mom, that this is essential to nurture and love yourself.  We can get so overwhelmed parenting and be doing all the things that we put everyone else first but ourselves.

Now go and do some self-care and tell me in the comments what you are going to do!

Top 5 Ideas to love you

Top 5 Ideas to love you

When someone asks you “Who do you love”, do you include yourself?

All too often we take a seat in the back when it comes to the love department – not by others – but from ourselves. One of the things I learned as a mother, and as a partner, if I don’t love myself, how on earth could the love me?

When I finally had enough of the struggle and frustration, and I started to show myself love more and more each day, the better my life became.

Loving yourself may feel weird and odd and may even be considered self-fish, except that it isn’t. Loving yourself is honoring you, your wants and needs, that frankly other people can’t give you, no matter how much you think they can.

Spend time Alone 

Yea this is totally a thing. Go for a walk, practice some yoga, read or just sit on the porch. It takes a bit of courage to spend time alone and will feel a bit weird to be disconnected from social media or people, but your soul and you will cherish time alone, to have a sense of self.

Shift your focus

Don’t look for external sources to feel good or be validated. Instead go within, talk to your soul and connect with your intuition about how you can feel good. What can you do that honors you? How can you create a life that allows you to feel good that isn’t about how thin you are, how tanned you are or how much money you have in the bank?

Change your eating habits

Food says so much about our emotional and physical health, and yes at times is definitely one of the hardest things to change. Why? Well, because we have built an emotional attachment to food and how it supports us – good and bad. I am not saying to not eat junk food or have drinks that may not be up to par with the nutritional standards. What I am saying is that we already know what we need to change, we just need to decide and make it happen.

Get moving

Movement can be many things. It can mean walking, dancing, running, going to the gym and so much more. It doesn’t have to be for a long time, sometimes 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the evening can be enough. But by moving your body, you allow the body to do its work as it is designed to do.

Speak your truth

Use your voice and speak your truth even if your voice shakes. Don’t sway from your beliefs just because it isn’t popular with some people. Loving ourselves is in part following your passions, stand up for our beliefs and we should never have to apologize for who we are.

We all have inner strength

We all have inner strength

I wanted to talk about our strength because of we all inner strength. We always go through situations and challenges and wonder if we are strong enough to make it.

In the past, people would come up to me and tell me they don’t know how I do it. Especially during the time when my son was hospitalized for months on end, going to college and still managing (somewhat poorly) things on the home front.

But here is the thing, we will find our strength especially during times when we literally have no choice. And I say this, as we do have a choice because we can pull the covers over our head or just get up and do it anyway.

And as we are going through some hard times, we should allow ourselves some downtime and some self-care and to just unplug and whatever it is we need to do, to take care of ourselves.

Inner strength comes from recognizing that we must put ourselves first, even if it seems to be the most challenging thing to do.

But then comes the point when you must get up, to find your strength to get going and too motivated or otherwise you won’t get over the hump. And if you have taken downtime and engaged in self-care, the next step or steps will reveal themselves to you.

So, this morning if you are facing anything that is challenging you, take care of yourself and know that you have the strength to get through it. Journal about what is going on, go for a walk or take a hot bath. Acknowledge yourself that you are doing the best you can in each given moment.

And if you want some help to have a different perspective or a boost in confidence take the challenge!