How you can get back to basics when it all feels too much

Life doesn’t have to be complicated and yet you – and I – are so incredibly skilled at over-complicating things.

Life, business, and all the other areas of your presence on this earth.

The mission behind Rebel Shine is to Rise Above – and that also means going back to basics.

To declutter
To simplify
To make it easier

Sometimes going back to basics means reinventing yourself and at other times it’s getting clear on your vision of what you want your life to feel like.

So what does going back to basics mean?

It’s whatever meaning you give it! Pay attention to the thoughts that come up as that is often your starting point.

Be mindful of the emotions that are emerging and sue them as a your own personal clues for you and your life.

Going back to basics may mean to restart or finalize your foundation and it could also mean letting go of what no longer is serving you.

The letting go part is far from easy because you have to recognize the thought and beliefs that you keep hanging onto.

For this past year, I had this program idea. Everything was planned and mapped out perfectly, and just this month, as I was working on it, I realized it didn’t light me up and it didn’t fuel my purpose.

It was time to release it and let it go and so I did.

And you know what, I feel lighter!

I also decluttered old toys now that my kids are older, movies we don’t watch and simplified my business. And that means being clear on what I want to do, how I want to serve and help and the overall impact it will have on my personal life.

And it can also mean letting go of people that are holding you back. We always encounter people that bring us down, whose energy is wonky and who just can’t support you because of their own stories that they tend to project onto you.

And maybe you there’s a career change you’ve been putting off. What if changing your career into a job or business that will actually simplify your life? What would that mean for you?

So you see, going back to basics is whatever it means to you.

What is the first thing that comes to mind when you think about the meaning and what does that look like?

Be the Phoenix and Rise Above

riseFor women who are ready to rise above and take charge of their mindset so they can create the life their want.

For many years, people asked me how I do it.

How do I go to work, raise children, go to school, care for a medically fragile child and still show up in the world believing and doing?

I never questioned the how of doing something as I just do but as a realization set in that this guide is to help you learn my process and create the change you want in your life.

I was driven by wanting to remove the frustration from my life, and the see the abundance that already surrounded me.

My story isn’t unique but it certainly is unique to me – a little bit of a huh? what?

There are plenty of other people who have risen above through challenging stories and each story is unique to the person. We all have what it takes to change our story and to rise above those limiting beliefs that we impose upon ourselves.

And this is exactly what this course is about, identifying what you want to change or improve and come up with a solution. You have the answers already, stuck inside of you and the course is asking you to open the doors to possibility.

Change always begins from inside before it can be translated into our outer world. This course is about the internal work and applying it to the external parts into our life.

If you had enough and you are ready to change the direction of where you want to go, then this course is for you. It’s time to stop being extra in your life and start being the main character.

Give yourself permission to dream, believe in yourself and take action.

Your time is now!

 

Fear everything and Rise

riseFear is useful because it provides us with a signal of danger or we are at risk. But to stop playing small we need to face it and push through it instead of hiding from it.

We are hard working so we can avoid failure but self-limiting beliefs will push your clients away, tell you that you can’t be successful and you wonder if anyone will ever hear your message. This causes you to procrastinate and doesn’t allow you to acknowledge your worth.

When you reflect on past events that hadn’t gone as hoped or even as planned, take them as a learning lesson. Look at the actions that lead to the outcome and take note of what not to repeat or what you could do to improve on them.

Fear has the powerful ability to enhance our intuition. When you know, someone hasn’t been truthful with you, you learn to detect that in them and others. Your intuition is your internal warning system.

Failing at something doesn’t make you a failure.

It boosts your own strength because you can acknowledge that you have overcome some other challenging times and you have now more experienced.

Every time you fall, you will get back up and keep moving forward.

On the flip side of failure is the success.

So, what would it mean you are successful in your business?

Or perhaps you are becoming a best-selling author?

Or maybe you go after that promotion at your job?

You may fear what people will think of you such as you’re too good to hang out with because your income changed, your business up-leveled and you are all over sudden famous.

Maybe you fear that you end up all alone?

But your friends and family are probably super excited for you – and if they aren’t maybe it’s time to evaluate your relationships with them.

Success isn’t always rainbows and glitter but making a list of the pros and cons of a being successful at something can help you decide whether it is worth going after your dream. It will also help you get clear in some of the actions you will need to take to make it all happen.

Feeling successful is rising above the fear.

Before I really started to make money in my business I feared to be visible. By facing this fear and turning it into a goal helped me to really put myself out there.

My fear really stems from feeling abandon in my childhood, and it held me back because somewhere deep down I believed that if I’m successful my friends would abandon me.

But I also know that since becoming more visible, people are watching me. They are watching my actions, the words that I say and evaluate if I am real or not in my message.

And for everyone that is watching me, people are also watching you – and we are setting an example to inspire and motivate and help others believe that it is possible.

One of the things that have us playing small or downplaying our achievements because we tend to not want to outshine others. But what if you inspire someone instead?

By achieving your own dream, you are uplifting someone helps and give them the gift of possibility.

Repeat after me:

Everyone has a different dream and I am going after my dream. This has no impact on someone else’s dream.

You are setting an example of possibility because we are all unique when it comes to who we are and our own dreams.

Not playing big and going after your dreams will only leave you disappointed in yourself.

Think about your dream and your future.

What does it look like for you?

What does it look like for your family?

What does it look like in 5-10 years?

What will you be doing?

Where will you be going?

Who are the people in your life?

What about this dream brings you joy, happiness, and excitement?

Are you willing to crush your dream by playing small and continuing to self-sabotage yourself?

Fear everything and rise above it!

Your future depends on it!

But I don’t know what’s ahead!

It’s easy to stay in that comfort zone because it feels too risky to do anything else. The truth is that you don’t know what 5 minutes or 5 years from now looks like and by keeping yourself all cozy and comfortable you are denying yourself everything you want to create in your life.

Fearing the unknown only creates worry and when we focus on worry, we create even more worry.

So, let’s face our fear and rise above it.

Ask yourself, what is the worst thing that could happen?

Go there within details.

Then write about what the outcome will most likely be like. Be realistic and honest with yourself, even when you must admit that your fear is ridiculous.

Now re-read everything and ask yourself which outcome is a) likely to happen and b) is going after your dream worth the risk.

Here are some tools you can use while you face fear:

  • Create a daily gratitude practice.
  • Use affirmations and mantras upon awakening and throughout the day.
  • Journal about your fears. What comes up for you and how valid is it. Do you have any evidence to support this fear to be true?
  • Create a success list and make this part of your evening routine. Write down all the things that went well on this day.
  • Mediate to help you be in the now and in the present moment. It helps you maintain centered and have peace within yourself.
  • Go outside and absorb the sunshine while taking a walk.
  • Visualize your dears about the unknown, the success and the failure and in your vision, have them disappear into the universe.

Focus on the positive possibilities and outcomes in your life as you turn your dreams into reality.

And just like we fear the unknown, change is closely related because again it’s asking us to step out of our own comfort zone.

Decide to commit to your dreams and that you are done bullshitting around.

Some change takes time but then we can decide how fast or slow we want to progress towards our dreams.

Don’t wait to make the steps towards your dreams and embrace taking action now.

How bad do you want your dream of owning your own business or write that book that has been lingering for years?

You can achieve anything you want by believing in you 100%.

Write a book?

Make a commitment to write daily for a specified amount of time.

Starting a business part of your dream?

Start researching and learning everything you can about being a business owner and all the things that need to get done.

Whatever your dream is, the time to start is NOW.

Face Everything and Rise means you acknowledge your fears and limiting beliefs and decide to not let them stop you from making your dreams happen.

Envision yourself in the future.
What personality traits do you have?

What does your mindset look like?

Take on those characteristics now. Decide that you will not allow yourself to hold back any longer and you are committed to who you are and your dream.

Here are the steps:

  • Stop feeding the fear and limiting beliefs
  • Believe in yourself
  • Create your life right now as if it’s already happening.

When committing yourself to face your fear, be really clear on why you want to achieve this dream.

Write in detail why you want to make this dream happen and what it will mean to you.

Every time you encounter a fear use this template to help you push through.

What am I being afraid of?

Actions steps to face the fear and rise:

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Fear everything and Rise

But don’t do it alone!