You, me and everyone else in this world have a vision!
Falling into the abyss of doing it like everyone else because it’s what you “should” do. But what if you could create your vision, bring it to life without falling into the dark hole of conformity?
Forging your own path is a framework to read, learn and mold from. It’s part of the blueprint that you use to map out the adventure of a lifetime. It’s knowing that even the best laid out plans, sometimes fail. It’s embracing the challenges and detours along the way.
But it is not the know it all answer to solving your problems, another possible solution to forging your own path. More than anything else, it’s becoming who you are, by undoing who you think you should be. It’s defining your own rules and follow your own ideas because that next one could change your life.
I wrote, “Forge your own Path” not only because this is what I have been doing most of my life without even knowing this is what I did. You see, I tried to be the 1950’s housewife, the model employee and even the picture perfect mother.
And every fiber of my being told me it was all wrong.
Forging your own path isn’t easy, but I do believe you will agree with me when I say, it will totally be worth it!
This book emerged onto the horizon on accidental purpose. I am knee deep into my first fiction book that I am writing, and without fail, more book ideas have been inspired by it all. I struggled for awhile to write this book only to realize that I had started this book with a different title back in February. So anyway, here it is… words unleashed into the world once again!
There is no one size, one system or one path that fits all. To think that there could be is an illusion and a huge disservice to you.
Sure, there are elements that may have commonality and this is where these three tips can come in handy!
Be open to learning
You don’t know, what you don’t know and the only way to know is to learn. Shutting yourself out from the openness to new information causes you to stay stuck and hinders the progress you would like to see in your life or business.
Tune into your intuition
Your intuition will help you discern what feels good, what information you want to apply and guides you on your own journey. They someone achieves their goals, may not be your way, trust that this is okay. Your intuition has no room for envy on how someone achieves their success. We are all on a different path and while the journey can look similar, how it’s achieved may not be.
Implement what feels good
When you have opened yourself to learning and taken in the information, given your intuition permission to guide you, it’s time to implement what feels good. Sure, there are things we all have to do that we don’t enjoy and some of those things can and ought to be delegated, but not everything can be. But the more you do that feels good, the less you are avoiding those that don’t.
Some things that can help is to look at it from a new perspective. Instead of saying “I have to do x, y, and z… you could simply say “I get to do x, y, and z …”
You don’t have to do anything, okay well except maybe pay taxes and such, but when it comes to your life or your business. you don’t have to do anything except what you want.
There’s is no diet that is the true and right way.
There’s no goal setting that is true and the right way.
There’s no business system that is true and the right way.
There is, however, your way.
And what that looks like is totally up to you.
You just have to decide what it is you want, start learning and begin to implement.
Similar to motherhood or parenthood, forging your own path isn’t for the faint of heart.
You have to ask yourself if you want to keep living in a box or if you are with 100% certainty okay with going against the status quo.
I see this phenomenon all the time and you’ve seen it too. Here are some examples:
Orange is the New Black, 50 Shades of Grey and yes even with Twilight. And I totally could go on and on about this.
But you know it’s totally okay to not ever read a single Harry Potter book or watch a Lord of the Rings movie.
I think the fear of not being liked because you don’t have a molecule of interest in any of those things, maybe at times greater than we like to admit too. And I get it.
I drank because I thought it was cool to do and it helped me fit in, nevermind the fact I didn’t really like myself.
And here is my one single tip for you:
Turn down the noise.
Turn it all off, the people, the TV, the radio, the social media – everything that’s literally interfering in not only stepping who you are but being in that truth of your soul being.
Get the journal or a piece a paper and your pen and start writing what YOUR path looks like.
Write it all out. The work you do, the love you feel and with whom. The joys you are experiencing, the impact you are having – even just for yourself. The truth you stand for and the emotions that in intent to invoke within you and therefore the people around you.
And as you are getting super clear with who you are, what you are about and what this life means to you, know that your boundaries will be pushed, obstacles will rise and you’ll want to quit and squish yourself into that little box of conformity.
Stay in the room, feel the feelings, and keep forging your path ahead.
How do you feel about going against the grain? Does it make you feel uneasy, or maybe you feel a little out of place, because well you know that sets you apart from others?
Going against the grain and being different isn’t exactly easy.
I remember when Harry Potter first came out and everyone went crazy. I have yet to read a single book or watch a movie.
And people still love Harry Potter and I am totally okay with that, but it isn’t for me. And it doesn’t have to be.
We are all so very different and because most people like this or that, doesn’t mean you must either.
Those things that set us apart from others, the mainstream, those can be the most things about us.
But most importantly, what if they help and get other people to think.
- To think for themselves for what they desire.
- To speak for themselves to what is in their heart.
- To be true to them and have a life that feels good.
Isn’t that really all that we strive for in some way? And those who go against the grain, pave the way for those who are trying to still figure it all out. For those who are just a little afraid to speak up, to be true to who they are.
Going against the grain may feel like you’re an outsider, someone, who doesn’t fit it, but trust me there are more of those around than you think.
I had this conversation one day about how I do these things that make me feel good and take action on those ideas that inspired me. I have no desire to fit in and to play it safe.
My desire is to feel free of the pressure of needing and being like everyone else. The freedom to do the things I love and help those who would like to find their own path in this world.
There are other people like you who enjoy random genres of music and dislike the holiday season – and it’s not that we don’t love giving gifts.
There are other people like you who have never read Harry Potter or watched Twilight, let alone read 50 Shades of Grey.
There are other people like you who don’t like playing it safe, who take inspired actions on their ideas and live their life according to their own truth.
Be okay with who you are – even when it means going against the grain.