You are only limited by your own imagination

You are only limited by your own imagination

You have dreams to make a living through creation but somewhere in your mind, you told yourself that you can’t, you shouldn’t or holy moly maybe you don’t feel good enough.

Your imagination as a creative is not only what brings you fulfillment but it maintains the balance of alignment. And isn’t that what we are all striving for a life that feels amazing, aligned with who we are at our core and leaves us fulfilled.

And in the end, it is more about the journey of how far we can stretch ourselves outside of our comfort zone.

It’s one thing for me personally to create coloring books. I love the process, I love creating tools and resources for others on a similar journey because as I create them, I am finding myself fulfilled, aligned and amazing that I get to share my imaginations with you.

I heard about Society6 a long time ago, but never did I consider that I, as a creative, an artist, could sell my work on this platform. It seemed to stretch me in areas I didn’t feel comfortable. It made me consider the stories I was telling myself.

Why the heck could I not? 

Really, there was and is no reason why I can’t other than me telling myself that I couldn’t. And then I took the leap.

This is the essence of mindset work, to dig deep into the stories that tend to hold you back. It’s also about recognizing that your imagination is here to serve you, to bring you closer to your own purpose.

What you can believe, you can achieve! 

And the thing is we tend to think linear which limits us in our growth and stepping into our imagination. Let me share with you that I am working on one of my biggest projects right now, with 183 original drawings, doodles, and illustrations. And then I realized that out of all those images, I have several more project ideas that I can make for you.

So where are you thinking too small right now?
Where do you need to allow your imagination to roam some more?
What is stopping you from tapping into that part of yourself that helps you feel fulfilled?

Tell me in the comments below!

What’s your blog about? 3 Steps to discover your niche

What’s your blog about? 3 Steps to discover your niche

As a writer, I know how challenging it can be sometimes to know exactly what to write about. I’ve been blogging about personal development and goals consistently for well over 2 years. Here’s the thing, I love writing.

I love writing because I get to tap into my imagination but I also get to share what I know. When I decided to start this new blog, I wasn’t quite sure what it would stand for as my other blog has a very specific purpose and I found it challenging to incorporate a variety of topics that I love.

And this is what this blog is about. It’s about sharing more knowledge but also more about my life as a quirky, coffee loving, mom of three boys. Could I have turned my other blog and website and rebranded? Yes, of course, I could have, but I didn’t want to because I knew that my main focus for the other blog was to help you achieve your goals.

And before you wonder how I manage to write for two different blogs, there will be a future post about that because I don’t necessarily believe in doing just one thing, but rather finding the harmony to make it all work.

Which brings me to my first point to “what is your blog about”? 

Your blog can be anything you want it to be with a multitude of topics and categories like this blog or it can be single focused, such as my other blog where goals setting, planning and how to make it all happen is the main focus. This blog is more about other passions that I have in my life.

So how do you narrow down what to write about exactly?

I already touched on one point, which is passion.

So ask yourself, what are you passionate about? Like true passion! Something that you talk about all the time or even do all the time. You can’t imagine your life without it.

Maybe you are a bit of a foodie and you could write about anything food related. Or maybe you are a crafter or love gardening. There is so much you can write about. And maybe you have a multitude of interests like food, travel, photography and create a lifestyle blog where you share your passions in one place.

My next point is, teach what you know!

Think about for a moment what people in your life ask you about all the time. Or maybe you have spent years learning a particular skill or craft that you could be teaching. Even if you don’t think about yourself as an expert but you will probably know more than some other people that may want to do what you doing now. Or maybe you have had a particular problem in your life you have successfully overcome. Helping people solve problems and frustrations are always a good start.

What is your vision for your own life?

This is perhaps my favorite way to figure out what to write about and what to do with your life in general. Spend some time writing about where you see your life in 3 or 5 years from now. Where do you want to live? What are you doing for a living? Who are you living with? What do you do all day long? How do you feel about your life? A great way to get started is to write it as if you were looking back on your achievements. Read it over and see if you can find a theme that emerges for you!

Your blog and the topics that support your blog are only limited by you. Maybe you are a funny sarcastic person and want to put your own spin on topics such as motherhood or relationships. Or maybe you are a bit more serious and want to show others that being a little linear isn’t really a bad thing.

Use a mind-map to help you figure it all out. Mind-maps are a visual tool to help you brainstorm and problem solve. That with acknowledging all the parts that are you. Then refine it with your passions, interests, skills, talents, and knowledge.

This can help you not only brainstorm topics but specific categories for your blog which will also help you define the focus and the goal of your blog.

There is no right or wrong answer about your blog, truly as I said before it can be anything you want it to be. The decision is completely yours! The biggest thing here is to decide, yes you will and what you don’t know, you will learn along the way.

How to Find your passion

How to Find your passion

multi-passionateWe hear it all the time, find your passion and you will never work a day in your life again. But what if you have no idea where to begin? Or when fear of being you truly scares you because of all the things you would be losing such as

  • friends
  • security
  • stability

But what about all those things you are gaining?

  • Freedom
  • Love
  • Truth

I get it stepping into who you are and following your passions is scary because it pushes you out of your comfort zone and really your ego is helping you stay there. Because when ego deems things unsafe it will sabotage you although you believe it to be protected.

But what if you are really wanting to find that passion despite the ego and fears?

  1. Start with deciding to stop for other areas to fall into place.
  2. Make a list of interests that you have. What brings you joy and what fires you up.
  3. Make a list of the things that frustrate you or make you angry.
  4. What can you do about feeling less frustrated and angry? Where do you have control and where do you not feel like you have control?
  5. If you had a superpower that could change the world, what would it be? How can you create this word without having the superpower?
  6. Write down what having a purpose means to you. Be clear and identify what you would be doing, how you would feel and what would be different about your life.
  7. Are you already doing some of those things? How can you bring into your life what is meaningful to you now?
  8. Decide on a goal that lights you up and makes you feel inspired.
  9. Brainstorm all the ideas that come to you to help you achieve this goal. Include your skills and talents that can support you in this.
  10. If you like visions boards, create one and print off the images that bring your purpose and meaning.
  11. Keep track of your negative thoughts and beliefs. Journal about them and do some evidence-based writing. Where has this been true? Where has this been false?
  12. Surround yourself with people who will support you on your journey.

Finding purpose is a journey and may even change over time because our mind and awareness expand. If you are following your passions, the things that light you up and excite you and bring you a tremendous amount of joy, odds are you will find your purpose sooner rather than later.

Celebrating confidence in seeing success

Celebrating confidence in seeing success

I’m a foster kid.

I used to be so embarrassed about that part and hated to talk about it because life as a foster kid was everything but roses and glitter.

I questioned for a long time why anyone would love me if my own parents couldn’t even love me. It’s taken me years to stop looking for love in all the wrong places. It’s taken me even longer to move on from co-dependency and self-destruction.

I was promiscuous all through my teen years and abusing alcohol because I didn’t want to feel a damn thing. It was much easier to drown how I hated myself rather than recognizing all that was good in me.

I not only married the same guy twice, but I broke up a long-term relationship trying to break free just to end up back together. Until last year when I finally called it quits and started putting myself first. Co-dependency at its finest but once I started setting those boundaries, I knew I had to make a change but the shift wasn’t easy to come because as a single mother and special needs mom, I didn’t believe that I could become self-sustaining let alone raise my kids on my own. I was riddled with lack of confidence and self-doubt.

And then one day it dawned on me, I am a foster kid success.

And this is where my shift happened. When I started to look at all the things I achieved despite the naysayers, and my own disbelief, I could celebrate my existence.  There are some negative statistics about foster kids who are unable to break the cycle of abandonment, self-loathing and rising above everything that comes in our way.

I not only recovered from alcohol abuse and self-loathing, I am independent and self-reliant. I not only graduated high school, which is a huge deal considering but I also put myself through college, twice earning myself a spot on the National Dean’s list three years in a row and made honor society. I never gave myself credit for those.

When I began working as a therapist, I had the guidance of a supervisor, who validated that my work was good. Sometimes outside validation isn’t a bad thing, but I knew that validating myself would bring me to the life I craved.

When venturing into being an entrepreneurial my confidence was lacking even though I fully believe in my mission and am passionate about helping people move forward. But it’s been a hard journey going from hating myself to loving myself and truly believing that I am on this earth to help and support women on their own journey, but I am so glad that I made this shift and that I have the confidence and mindset to keep pushing my own life forward but help others along the way, because that for me is the best feeling ever.

Celebrating confidence in my success!

 

We never arrive but we can live in the moment

We never arrive but we can live in the moment

Some years ago, I shared that I felt like that I had arrived because I truly believed I had figured out my calling but it wasn’t shortly after that it dawned on me that we never fully arrive.

Yes, we can figure out our passion and call in life but because we are amazing creatures that evolve time and time again, everything is subject to change.

15 years ago, I believed that my calling was to become a CPA and so I put myself through school. I was good with the numbers and detail oriented enough as well as quite tech savvy. But a few weeks into an accounts receivable position and I was bored out of my freaking mind and realized that I am not a cubicle girl. I took a different position as a bookkeeper to help me get by until I figured out what I wanted to be when I grew up.

My heart has always been called to helping people and after some more twists and turns in my life story, I went back to school to become a mental health counselor. I knew deep down what it meant to recover and heal from the pain that we endure through actions of others and when I finally got myself a job as a counselor, I had this feeling of having arrived once again.

I took so much pleasure in serving my community and helping people and gave it my all and literally found myself at the end of a burn-out. I realized that I was no longer aligned with the work I was doing and sabotaged myself out of the job.

But it was a total blessing in disguise for me because I truly love helping people believe in their dreams and support them in taking action. There is something quite magical that happens when I see dreamers do the work and do what it takes to create their own reality. And I find myself once again has having arrived at my next destination.

I am fully aware that each destination is only temporary but what feels so much more incredible about this is that I am in the present and for the moment I am enjoying the ride.

And that is what life is about, to enjoy each arrive with excitement fully believing this is it because, in that moment in time, it truly is it. And if you are still looking for that feeling that has you jumping for joy because you’ve finally made it, trust that you will know when you arrive.