Are you taking enough time for you?
Do you prioritize yourself!
Are you always saying yes to everyone else?
Does that leave you feeling alone or perhaps even resentful?
Are your personal needs met?
As Mother’s Day is approaching, a day where mothers are being doted on for all that they do each day, it is often forgotten that self-care and prioritizing yourself is something that needs to stand always in the forefront.
I know first-hand that this is easier said than done!
When my son was first hospitalized in 2007 and even the years to follow, my health (emotionally and physically) was not number one. My priority was my son and his life as it took everything I had to keep him alive and so I continued to smoke and eat an unhealthy diet. I always told myself one day would it would all change, but for the moment my priorities were not with me.
You succumb to eating the processed cafeteria foods or take-out out of ease and comfort. And at times it can seriously feel like you don’t have any other choice. But you do. There’s always a choice.
How can you move from being everything to everyone and start being who you need to be for you?
- Decide you deserve to be a priority
- Decide how you will spend it
- Evaluate the things that waste your time
- Learn to say no!
- Ask for help!
- Schedule the things you must do
- Commit to me time daily and make it a ritual!
We talk about nurture and self-care all the time but what sometimes you don’t even know what that means!
Self-care in its simplest form means taking it easy, take a break, do things that you love.
Self-care is doing things that feel good to your body and soul in that moment and time.
What they mean to each of us, can differ from individual to individual.
Self-care is just allowing you some downtime from the daily hustle and bustle of work, parenting and whatever else usually keeps you overwhelmed. It’s a time to connect with yourself and allow your body some peace so it can rejuvenate itself.
And this can look so very different for everyone. Below you find some of the things I have used to support me.
- Make time for food that nourishes your body and soul. How much junk are you fueling your body with that leaves you tired and exhausted? How much fresh food do you eat to really give your body what you need? When you feel good, the soul feels good because it knows you are taking care of yourself.
- Exercise in some way through yoga, walking, running, Zumba, dancing or whatever call you to move your body. Allow it to feel good. It will help you from becoming to still and it’s just good for you to feel positive especially if you have been feeling down.
- Make bedtime a priority allowing you adequate rest time. For me, this is about 7-8 hours of sleep. For you, it could be a bit less or more. The important thing is that you rest your body!
- Do one thing you truly enjoy. Write, paint, crochet! Do it because you will feel amazingly good afterward for having done it.
- Connect with nature. Go outside, hug a tree, walk barefoot, sit in the sun. Allow yourself to feel the wind and the sun rays on your skin. Surround yourself with nature in every way.
- Practice gratitude throughout the day for each moment. For the raindrop that falls to nourish the earth. For the driver going too slow in front of you to keep you safe and quite without the speeding ticket. For the paycheck, you earn to provide a roof over your head. For life and the opportunity to experience it. Be grateful.
Self-care is respecting you enough to make time to be with just you.
Honoring who you are through the good days and tough days will help you learn to love yourself more, teach others that you are valuable and life will start to feel a whole lot better.
Do you engage in self-care? Why or why not?
Engaging in self-care is a necessity like brushing your teeth. If you don’t brush your teeth every day, you get cavities and will have to go to the dentist for things that could have been prevented.
Self-care is pretty much the same thing. If you don’t engage in self-care regularly, you will burn out and then have to take a much-needed break that can literally turn your life upside down.
Every Friday is art day, that means I am creating something (wood-burning, crocheting, drawing or doodling or maybe jewelry making). I don’t focus on business or anything else that is going on. It is my time to pretty much forget about the world and nourish my soul in ways that feel good.
I am not one to do spa days (you know manicure, massages etc.) and I had to find a different way to pamper myself, and creating art does just that – or going to the ocean but fall is almost here and there will be less of going to the water.
When I can create art, I get inspired with new ideas and I fill my well, so I can be the best version of me in my many facets.
I don’t self-care one day a week as my workouts also provide self-care but on a different level – they tend to balance my energy more.
If you are in a job, you get 2 days off (I hope) to recharge your well and do some of the fun activities not work related. and if you are self-employed then building in a self-care routine of some kind is a necessity.
If you happen to be self-employed than building in a self-care routine of some kind is a necessity. You can make this a daily thing, 30-minutes to an hour a day or a full day when you can.
And I don’t have to tell you that when you are a mom, that this is essential to nurture and love yourself. We can get so overwhelmed parenting and be doing all the things that we put everyone else first but ourselves.
Now go and do some self-care and tell me in the comments what you are going to do!
This past weekend, I spent my afternoon painting with a free event hosted by Shiloh Sophia called Visionary Woman. I was unsure what to expect, though one of my goals this year is to create more art – not the kind I usually do like Crochet or Pyrography. I am being drawn to have vibrant colors in my life.
Going into workshops and classes with an open mind can be challenging, I was moved to tears during various moments of the process. When tears come up, it resonates with us.
I think I was expecting to just paint but I allowed myself to stay open through the process. This is no small feat for a perfectionist – which by the way I wrote down to release in the middle of the class.
I am all about letting go of shit that no longer serves me.
What I thought was so profound for me is that I just moved into Reiki Level I&II and then a lovely card reading confirmed my mojo mantra for the year (mind you I painted this before the card reading):
Moving through each section of the class, it was clear that my trauma from childhood and during motherhood still takes hold of my life.
You see, my past is riddled with trauma and it has stunted me. Stunted me in my creativity, stunted me in what I share with people often holding back – holding back my true self.
Well, no more of that.
One of the first human conditions I learned is that I can’t make money as an artist and that I will always need to be considerate and empathetic to others. Well heavens, I am a Libra, I never make a decision that involves thinking about how others are impacted. But I am also an empath and introvert and man I love me some freaking alone time.
The trauma I experienced supported me being an introvert as it literally helped me hide from people. Thus, never giving the opportunity to truly know what moves me.
During this class, this is what came up:
As I continue my self-healing journey, I will become the catapult to help women heal. My life vision.
My lesson, of course, is you never know what will come up and what your path looks like, except for the universe because we are always exactly where we are supposed to be.
So, here’s to healing the shit out of any kind of trauma you and I have ever experienced.
So, let’s pack that shit up and let it go.