That idea…. that dream in your heart and in your head, is begging you to do something about it.
You wake up thinking about it… you go to sleep thinking about it and I am here to tell you that if you don’t do something about that, it will never go away.
And you know deep down that unless you get over your fear, it is never going to happen.
But you must decide whether you are going to listen to that fear or if you are stepping up and out and take action anyway.
It’s time to stop the bullshit stories you tell yourself of how you can’t and really dig deep into what is stopping you.
And if I was a betting person, I venture to say you are being held back because
- you don’t feel good enough
- you don’t’ feel smart enough
- you worry about what other people will think
- you worry about failure before you have even started
It’s all hogwash! These are all stories you have learned along the way, and really, they are no longer serving you, because
You are enough!
You are smart!
And really who cares what people think? 9 times out of 10 those people are afraid to take action, so how about you pave the way?
And failure… failure is a good thing… it’s allowing you to see what is or isn’t working and then revamp how you are going about it.
Those ideas that have been swirling in your head, they are yours for the taking. They come to you because you have something amazing to offer to this world.
Incredible gifts to share and how dare you to deny others from what you are so carefully hiding.
The pain of not taking action, of not doing that thing, ask you: Is it worth it?
Because I know you are aching to bring it to life.
- Time to stop hiding.
- Time to stop worrying about being enough.
- Time to stop worrying about whether people will like you or not!
It is time to start doing!
Overwhelm and Procrastination hit because confidence has decided to hide from you. There are so many things you want to be, do and have but you are finding yourself thinking, who the heck am I to do this or maybe you are surrounded by the inner critic of not being enough, feeling enough and many other fears that you may not be aware of.
I am not one to beat around the bush (as you can see) and I like to dig right in and get to the core of the situation. But first, we need some clarity.
So, I want you to think about a goal you have for the next 90 days, and answer the following questions:
- What is your vision for the next 90 days?
- Who do you want to become in those 90 days?
- What goal do you want to achieve in the next 90 days?
- Why do you want to achieve this goal?
To get from point A to point B, we need directions or we end up lost in the middle of nowhere. So now that you have answered those questions, let’s go a little deeper.
- How will having confidence help you achieve your goal?
- How is lack of confidence serving you right now? In other words, how is it stopping you?
- Who can you reach out to hold you accountable and support you?
Self-awareness is the magic pill of becoming who you want to be, doing what you want to do and have all that you desire.
So, take some time today and sit with those questions. Make a cup of tea or coffee and then answer those questions in a free writing atmosphere. Don’t hold back because you really want to tap into that core of who you are.
Having answers to your motivation aka the why and knowing who you want to become, will give you the GPS coordinates to get there.
Tell me in the comments one insight you have gained and come back tomorrow for day 2!
We all have experienced this at one point or another, the fear of missing out. But what you are really missing is happiness within yourself.
Social media is great but it certainly has its downsides because it traps us to check in and see how great everyone’s life is. But it doesn’t show the reality.
- We check into seeing where people are traveling to and feel jealous.
- We check and see how many dollars someone brought into their business and we feel envy.
- We check and see how people are ranting and raving and create drama, leaving us feeling better about ourselves.
But the truth is that we can’t find our happiness on social media, nor can we achieve our own success by constantly checking on what we may be missing.
And here is what’s happening when it comes to the fear of missing out:
You stop paying attention to life, your life, and your own happiness.
The moment you decide to focus on yourself, your own happiness, you make room for your own clarity of what you want, where you want to go and what you need as a person.
But you can use the fear of missing out on to your advantage.
It can be your motivation. Take notice of where you are feeling unhappy and decide to make a change.
Ask yourself: What do you want? Where do you want to go? What do you need (and I am not talking material things here)?
Engage in mindfulness. Being aware of your own thoughts and feelings. It’s the process of self-acceptance of where we are right here in this moment without judgment.
Notice your breathing, your feeling and the sensations in your body. Know that your feelings and thoughts don’t define who you are and use them as a pathway to free yourself from limiting thoughts and beliefs.
Practice gratitude. You already have so much and gratitude helps you acknowledge all that is and all that is to come.
Make this part of your morning or evening routine, or both even. Create a list of 10 things you are grateful for. This could mean the rain nourishing the earth, or that you have food in the pantry to cook. It doesn’t matter how big or small.
Focus on what you want to create. This took me some time to figure out because I was wasting so much time on social media. I made a list of all the things I wanted to do and create and then I took inspired action to make them happen.
Fear of missing out only rules your mind, if you allow it. Make a choice today to focus on your own lane and your own happiness.
Have you ever said, why me?
Another situation that is leaving you overwhelmed.
Another struggle that is causing your frustration.
I know I have many times in my life. But it was never from a place of what I can do about it. It was always from a place of “I have been through enough shit already”.
I was consistently asking myself, why me.
Why did I have to be the one to grow up in foster care.
Why did I have to be the one to experience hurt and rejection.
Have you ever asked yourself, why you?
Why you had this experience or another?
Now, look at how far you have come and ask yourself:
Why not you?
No seriously, you have all those things and much more. It’s the reason you have made it this far in life, which means you can go even further.
- the light in someone else’s life because of your experiences
- the guidance someone needs to handle their own struggles
- the inspiration someone needs to get out of bed in the morning
You are all those things and so much more and I want to really feel and believe that. Own the parts of you that have helped you get here.
You are meant to be here, right in this moment and in every moment, because you are showing others what can be done. You are literally guiding the way for those that can’t see another way.
You have a dream of a better life, a life that brings peace and joy and every day you get up going for it, again and again, because you really don’t know any other way, and perhaps part of you is wondering, when will it change.
It will change when you are ready to say, “Why not me” and look at your experiences from a perspective of having strength and courage.
We are all human and we all want to feel inspired and motivated to make a change, so why not you, showing all the other humans on how it can be done?
Get your head right and get into the damn game of life
Do you want to know how many times I hear why someone can’t do something?
And every single time, I call bullshit, because that is exactly what it is.
Isn’t it time to get your head out of your ass.
I mean, our past does not define who we are and what we can achieve.
We define that.
We dictate on whether we are going to write that book, get that dream job or have these amazing businesses.
BUT if you keep telling yourself that you don’t deserve it, that you are not worthy, you will not achieve all those dreams bottled up inside. And seriously, is that how you want to live?
Life is so much bigger than the stories we tell ourselves. We, not the little kids told to be silent, playing quietly in the corner. We are not children anymore, we don’t have to stay well-behaved because we might cause a ruckus.
It is time to step out of the damn shadows of your past and stand in the light and shine your spirit into this world. Be energetic and excited about the possibilities but for crying out loud stop talking about how miserable your childhood was.
Enough is enough.
Time whining and complaining about the way things are right now because you know what, you have a damn choice.
Decide to change.
Commit to the change!
Do the change!
All that fear and self-doubt is just extra noise keeping you stuck on that treadmill going nowhere when instead you could be running that marathon amongst beautiful trails and mountainside and.
Imagine getting into your car with a destination and driving down the best route ever with amazing places to visit and delicious food along the way. This, my friend, is living, not talking about how bad you were treated by mom or dad.
Trust me I get it. Did I grow up in foster care remember? But hanging onto my mom and dad’s stories, and all that other shit doesn’t do me any good. It’s wasted energy on things I cannot change. Instead I choose to be the best me and have the best life I can envision and of course make happen.
I can’t change your life for you.
You must be committed and willing to look at the cold hard truth of your so-called baggage and allow yourself to be challenged, so you can step into that damn power and finally take control of your life.
So, what’s it going to be, living a life in which you are stuck and procrastinate to going after what you want, or a life of going after your dreams and make shit happen?