No one likes a challenge that leaves you overwhelmed but I am going to share some concepts that make it feel and look like a piece of cake.
When you’re faced with a big obstacle, you can tackle it much easier when you take on small actions, rather than thinking you have to do it all and make it happen right now.
Clarity will help you overcome just about anything, you need to look at the problem. Write down exactly what the situation is, what it is you need most and what the end goal is. For example, if you’re are in a situation in which you require money, be clear on the purpose for the money, how much money you need and when you need it by i.e. write down the date! Now that you know exactly what you’re up against, it’s time to make that major problem and turn it into something manageable.
You’ve still got your pen and paper in front of you, so start jotting down any ideas you can think of that can help you solve the challenge. Don’t leave any idea out and just free writer all the possible ways that money can come to you! Write down what you can sell, who you can borrow from, what odd jobs or services you can provide for extra cash and other such ideas.
Now that you have a list of ideas, look them over. All of the ideas have a possibility to work but choose the one that makes most sense or ist most like to work for you to solve the challenge. If some of them are a bit outrageous or too tricky, that’s okay just keep them on the bottom of your list of possibilities.
You’ve named the challenge, brainstormed the possible solutions and now it’s time to make a plan. Start with the first solution, and write out small steps you can take to make that idea a reality. The smaller the better. These tiny actions are easier to approach than your overwhelmingly larger goal. As you complete each one, you’ll start to feel more confident and see your goal coming closer to reality. In our quest for rent money, you may want to write down just what steps you’ll need to take in order to begin selling off your unneeded possessions. Start by making a list of what’s most valuable, and then gather the items. Next decide where to place your ads, such as in Facebook sales groups or Craigslist. Maybe you have a pawn shop near you that will give you quick cash. With each baby step you add to your plan, you’ll see that coming up with the money you need just might be doable, after all.
All the problem solving and planning won’t work if you don’t take action. Schedule activities in your planner and cross them off when you’re finished. Before you know it, you’re closer to your goals. In our example, your available funds will start to grow. Every little bit counts.
There’s no need to get stuck in overwhelm when faced with challenges. Breaking it down into baby steps will help you reach the goals you need to overcome nearly any obstacle.
There are always lessons to be learned in life if you are open to recognizing them and most importantly if you are willing to listen.
My son Lennon has been changing people’s lives, inspiring them and motivating them into being more present, to not take anything for granted and also showing the shadow side of life is too short to be miserable.
When I tell people that, Lennon is my greatest teacher on how to do life, I am not joking.
The kid knows what he wants and he’s quite verbal about it too.
And what you may not know, if you’ve never heard about Lennon, read the blog posts or the book is that he survived his first 4 years of life, living with a potentially fatal rare genetic disorder. And since it was undiagnosed for some time, his brain took a little bit of a hit in the cognitive area – but don’t let that fool you.
He is often one of the smartest people in the circle. His wisdom is often leaving me speechless.
The other day he said:
You have to be ready at some point, so why not be ready now?
Sure, you could delay being ready but aren’t you just putting off the inevitable?
The moment you decide to go after what you want – your dreams, goals and a life that feels good – is the moment you are ready. You can, of course, keep talking yourself out of it but why? What’s the point?
- Start that business
- Write that Book
- Get healthy
Be ready now and stop waiting for one day.
It isn’t always about the things he said, although they are brilliant and yes I realize I may be a little bias, but the thought has crossed my mind that people needed to spend time with him and hear his story. He’d never go for it and I got to respect that. That, of course, doesn’t mean I won’t share life lessons along the way.
Like anytime I hear someone complain about how shitty life is or how miserable they are.
Because of the genetic disorder becoming unmanagable after his diagnosis, it was recommended that he has a liver transplant because while there is no cure, this can change his life for the better. And so that’s what we did but we couldn’t fathom the fact that he’d have 3 liver transplants between the ages 5-8 and that things were really tricky for a while. (You can read about his journey in Lennon Steps).
But here’s the thing, no matter how dicey things were, how painful everything was (physically or emotionally), he got up and did what he needed to do. That doesn’t mean he didn’t complain but it seemed he just knew what he needed to do in order to get home from the hospital or get back to school.
Or like now where he’s saving up for an XBOX One and he’s diligent about the chores that help him earn money.
And some days are hit or miss, but he’s never quit if it’s something he wants.
I think that’s an important lesson.
Don’t quit the life you want to have.
It takes dedication, commitment, and a willingness to go against the status quo. Even if it means people don’t like you or you don’t fit in.
Lennon isn’t worried about fitting in.
Lennon is worried about what video game he’s going to play.
So, don’t worry about fitting in, instead figure out what you are going to do next that you want to do and of course could have an impact on your life.
Worry (not really) about the important stuff. Get excited (Yes this) about it!
Choose to wake up with joy in your heart!
There aren’t many days I recall Lennon ever to be angry or grumpy (unless the pain was too much). That doesn’t mean he doesn’t get upset, it just doesn’t stick around long enough. I think he doesn’t know how to hold a grudge of any kind because he just is filled with joy and it shows.
There’s something very genuine about it and it always reminds me that you get to choose how you feel, how you engage, express yourself.
Choose to be angry, you’ll feel miserable and wonder when life will change.
Choose to feel and be joy, life looks different filled with gratitude and like an adventure.
What will you choose?
That idea…. that dream in your heart and in your head, is begging you to do something about it.
You wake up thinking about it… you go to sleep thinking about it and I am here to tell you that if you don’t do something about that, it will never go away.
And you know deep down that unless you get over your fear, it is never going to happen.
But you must decide whether you are going to listen to that fear or if you are stepping up and out and take action anyway.
It’s time to stop the bullshit stories you tell yourself of how you can’t and really dig deep into what is stopping you.
And if I was a betting person, I venture to say you are being held back because
- you don’t feel good enough
- you don’t’ feel smart enough
- you worry about what other people will think
- you worry about failure before you have even started
It’s all hogwash! These are all stories you have learned along the way, and really, they are no longer serving you, because
You are enough!
You are smart!
And really who cares what people think? 9 times out of 10 those people are afraid to take action, so how about you pave the way?
And failure… failure is a good thing… it’s allowing you to see what is or isn’t working and then revamp how you are going about it.
Those ideas that have been swirling in your head, they are yours for the taking. They come to you because you have something amazing to offer to this world.
Incredible gifts to share and how dare you to deny others from what you are so carefully hiding.
The pain of not taking action, of not doing that thing, ask you: Is it worth it?
Because I know you are aching to bring it to life.
- Time to stop hiding.
- Time to stop worrying about being enough.
- Time to stop worrying about whether people will like you or not!
It is time to start doing!
Overwhelm and Procrastination hit because confidence has decided to hide from you. There are so many things you want to be, do and have but you are finding yourself thinking, who the heck am I to do this or maybe you are surrounded by the inner critic of not being enough, feeling enough and many other fears that you may not be aware of.
I am not one to beat around the bush (as you can see) and I like to dig right in and get to the core of the situation. But first, we need some clarity.
So, I want you to think about a goal you have for the next 90 days, and answer the following questions:
- What is your vision for the next 90 days?
- Who do you want to become in those 90 days?
- What goal do you want to achieve in the next 90 days?
- Why do you want to achieve this goal?
To get from point A to point B, we need directions or we end up lost in the middle of nowhere. So now that you have answered those questions, let’s go a little deeper.
- How will having confidence help you achieve your goal?
- How is lack of confidence serving you right now? In other words, how is it stopping you?
- Who can you reach out to hold you accountable and support you?
Self-awareness is the magic pill of becoming who you want to be, doing what you want to do and have all that you desire.
So, take some time today and sit with those questions. Make a cup of tea or coffee and then answer those questions in a free writing atmosphere. Don’t hold back because you really want to tap into that core of who you are.
Having answers to your motivation aka the why and knowing who you want to become, will give you the GPS coordinates to get there.
Tell me in the comments one insight you have gained and come back tomorrow for day 2!