No one likes a challenge that leaves you overwhelmed but I am going to share some concepts that make it feel and look like a piece of cake.
When you’re faced with a big obstacle, you can tackle it much easier when you take on small actions, rather than thinking you have to do it all and make it happen right now.
Clarity will help you overcome just about anything, you need to look at the problem. Write down exactly what the situation is, what it is you need most and what the end goal is. For example, if you’re are in a situation in which you require money, be clear on the purpose for the money, how much money you need and when you need it by i.e. write down the date! Now that you know exactly what you’re up against, it’s time to make that major problem and turn it into something manageable.
You’ve still got your pen and paper in front of you, so start jotting down any ideas you can think of that can help you solve the challenge. Don’t leave any idea out and just free writer all the possible ways that money can come to you! Write down what you can sell, who you can borrow from, what odd jobs or services you can provide for extra cash and other such ideas.
Now that you have a list of ideas, look them over. All of the ideas have a possibility to work but choose the one that makes most sense or ist most like to work for you to solve the challenge. If some of them are a bit outrageous or too tricky, that’s okay just keep them on the bottom of your list of possibilities.
You’ve named the challenge, brainstormed the possible solutions and now it’s time to make a plan. Start with the first solution, and write out small steps you can take to make that idea a reality. The smaller the better. These tiny actions are easier to approach than your overwhelmingly larger goal. As you complete each one, you’ll start to feel more confident and see your goal coming closer to reality. In our quest for rent money, you may want to write down just what steps you’ll need to take in order to begin selling off your unneeded possessions. Start by making a list of what’s most valuable, and then gather the items. Next decide where to place your ads, such as in Facebook sales groups or Craigslist. Maybe you have a pawn shop near you that will give you quick cash. With each baby step you add to your plan, you’ll see that coming up with the money you need just might be doable, after all.
All the problem solving and planning won’t work if you don’t take action. Schedule activities in your planner and cross them off when you’re finished. Before you know it, you’re closer to your goals. In our example, your available funds will start to grow. Every little bit counts.
There’s no need to get stuck in overwhelm when faced with challenges. Breaking it down into baby steps will help you reach the goals you need to overcome nearly any obstacle.
At the beginning of this year, I was in a downward spiral. Every morning I got up, did the work I believed I needed to do, tried to live as if and just brought about financial ruin. And there are lessons to be learned.
But here is what I know about myself, I am not a quitter, if anything that makes me push harder, and that was exactly the problem.
As I am sitting in my living room now, I reflect on the last 7 month and realized that not only has a lot changed for me, I am no longer pushing as hard, and life – well life is good.
Here are 7 lessons that I learned so far, this year:
Business and life need to be on your terms
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in how other people are doing things, and we believe that if we do it like those other people, life will be grand. The truth is, however, that we are living on someone else’s dreams and terms and not on our own. The moment, I got really clear on what that meant for me, I could align my goals and actions accordingly.
Money isn’t a true motivator, it’s a bonus
I like money and needed just like everyone else but it isn’t my motivator of why I create art, coach people on getting started nor the reason I blog or build websites. I love helping people, supporting them in going after what they want and seeing them taking action and taking steps forward, that lights me up like nothing else. The money I make is truly just a bonus.
Reading is of the essence in your growth
I used to be an avid reader, usually, crime related in fiction and non-fiction, but ever since I graduated from my master’s program, I hadn’t felt the desire to read. But I had a choice to make and to expand and grow, reading had to once again be part of my life. It’s essential if we want to expand our knowledge and grow as a person. There is always something new to learn.
Create a morning routine that supports you
I wasn’t always aware of my morning routine, other than my habitual coffee drinking. I started reading the Artist way, and began a daily journaling practice and added reading time. Just a few hours to myself, to support me mentally as well as emotionally. Writing about my fears and doubts and then bust through them with affirmations and actions, has really done wonders for me.
Stepping away from Facebook gets things done
When I first began the journey of 100% entrepreneurship, I totally got sucked into Facebook. Everyone talked about how great it is to build your business but 6 months in, I was burned out. They tell you to be vulnerable, give value and answer questions, but it has become such a spam fest in the groups, that I no longer feel excited about them. And I stepped away from groups and all over sudden, I found myself to get things done, such as my Academy finally getting off the ground.
Staying true to your values and feelings is key
I have 3 primary values that I want to embody every single day: Freedom, Peace, and Joy. If my activities don’t provide these feelings alone or in combination, odds are I won’t complete them. But also, by asking myself every day: How can I feel free today? How can I feel peace? How can I feel joy? Those questions guide me and truly provide for me.
Being open to opportunity and possibility brings achievement
At the beginning of the year, I found my word to be: experience. I wanted to experience more freedom, more connections, more adventure. I started off with going to a workshop with one of my favorite coaches, Rhonda Britten. This followed a fun 2-day trip into New York and going to a concert, walking to Strawberry Fields and seeing the city for the first time. And then I went to visit a friend in North Carolina, someone I connected with in a Facebook Group and one of her summits I participated in.
And now a few months later, more opportunities have presented themselves and more possibilities have shown up for me. Financially, I am in a much better place and emotionally I feel free, peaceful and joy every single day. Yes, there are still days where I feel irritation and frustration creep up, but I am more aware of them now, thanks to the lessons I have learned.
What lessons have you learned so far, this year?
So, you think that when you work for yourself the money is coming in and you will be rich and all your worries will be taken care of. Being in business isn’t about the money, because if it was why would you leave the job?
You can make amazing money in your job and be utterly and completely miserable. You may love the job at first and wonder how lucky you have been to land such an amazing position that shows off your skills, knowledge, and talents. Some time goes by, a few months, a year or more and you are starting to feel the strain.
The strain of the demands of the job, the lack of validation, the lack of support in the development, growth, and expertise. And you realize that no matter who you work for it is always about the money for them, the bottom line. How many sales can you get in a day or week, and then week after week without burning out? Because in the end, your salary stays the same and you may even have to fight for a raise.
When I decided to be an entrepreneur it was never about the money. Although money is nice and well of course needed for basic survival.
For me being in business means freedom.
Freedom to be who I am, without ever pretending something or someone I am not.
Freedom to always speaking my truth and stand in my own power.
Being in business is about truly doing the things you love because you are so passionate about them that you can’t imagine doing anything else, but you know that you will never truly be able to experience this working for someone else.
I have had several businesses, some didn’t work out and some I am continuing to build. This is the freedom I have, to push myself, to learn and add to my knowledge box and continue my own personal development.
Being in business is about growth!
Every time I started a business it pushed me. It wasn’t like you know a fairytale that started and ended like this:
She had a dream to be in business and decided it would be so and all the money started flowing in and she was changing the world.
No! Being in business is getting your head in the game and realize that there will be times you are ready to quit and go back to the job. Being in business is work on your mindset every single day and every single day you must decide the actions you will take – whether you like it or not.
Being in business isn’t a vacation, it’s learning strategies and adapting the ones that call you. It’s changing and growing as a person and realizing that some of your friends, well they just can’t hang out in your circle anymore. It isn’t anything against those friends, but being in business means surrounding yourself with like-minded people.
The people that yes want to change the world, change how business is done and who without a doubt believe I’m their success. Success is a hard-fucking road, often compared to a roller coaster or climbing a mountain. what it isn’t is a linear path where everything is smooth sailing.
And yet, no matter the hard times, and no matter how many days I wanted to quit, I remind myself of the freedom I desire. To have the ability to live life and work in my business according to my own damn rules without having to worry about what I say because my clients want the real shit. They don’t want me to sugar coat anything – they want to be pushed and know they are supported during the highs and lows. Always!
You see being in business isn’t about the money. It is about helping and supporting others to achieve their dreams and goals. This is what gives me the freedom because I believe everyone can change their life, their world and become the person they want to be.
And don’t get me wrong, money is nice and necessary but please do not believe the illusion that it is about the money.
Every year during this time, I spend time reviewing the year, the good, the bad and the ugly and the super exciting things that happened.
I also spend time planning my dreams and goals for the following year to follow my vision and create the life and business I want to create.
One of the elements that keep me moving is to really look at the lessons that I have learned, because they bring so much insight about whether my dreams are aligned with me, what new actions I will need to take and create my own freedom my way.
I am worthy and deserving of my dream.
This is so huge for me because I think that whatever messages I have received I allowed living in my subconscious. Externally I always believed that I can have my dream and eat my cake. It’s been a year of growth and really stepping up and into the person I am and I want to be. My word for the year was “emerge” but only after I did the work of feeling and enough doing this really come into play for me.
There isn’t a single thing wrong with being of service and earn money doing it.
I think for so long the message of being of service means that well service people don’t make a lot of money and that they shouldn’t because of the value we bring into this world. But here’s the thing, even people of service in coaching and healing deserve to be paid. This is closed tied to lesson #1. I know when I worked as a counselor the underlying message was that counselors don’t make a lot of money. Why the hell not? We are bringing a tremendous amount of value to this earth, so let’s earn that money while we do what we love.
Creating a vision is key
Creating a vision board of what I wanted my life to look like but also how I wanted to serve people helped me focus on the bigger picture. Even with setbacks of not filling a webinar or struggling to bring clients on board, there is a much bigger vision that I am fulfilling. By honoring this vision, not only for myself, I remind myself that someone out there needs to hear what I am sharing, even if they are not able to act this very moment. This requires me to believe 100% in myself and my vision and allows me to be present every day.
Patience is hard but necessary
Patience hasn’t always been my strength but I learned more and more that this is a necessary ingredient to my vision and my purpose. When I am feeling impatient, I simply remind myself of the recovery process of my son after his second liver transplant and it was hard to be patient during this time BUT being patient and persistent in my mindset work has paid off in full.
Your dream won’t happen sitting on the sideline
Dreams are awesome because they give us something to thrive for but the key is really understanding that dreams are earned. Dreams require some planning and total and complete effort in knowing that you are giving it your all because you can taste this dream and by not creating in, well life may just suck. Dreams require you to show up and act.
Surround yourself with like-minded people
If you have big dreams but surround yourself with people who love to complain and feed the victim persona, then odds are your dreams will not come true or they take 10 times longer to happen. By surrounding yourself with like-minded people, you have a much better chance for your dream to happen because the vibrations that you share with the world is positive energy. It’s that whole “If she can do it, so can I” process.
Invest in yourself
This has been so crucial to my learning process this past year. In 2014, I bought several courses because I am really a DIY kind of girl and learn best on my own, and really there isn’t a thing wrong with that. BUT if you really want to move your dream forward and get over the negative mindset and experiences transformation, hiring a coach has really moved me forward not only in life but my own business.
Do it your way
There are so many systems out there that won’t work for everyone and parts of it won’t resonate with everyone. There are some great systems out there, but ultimately how you run your life and business is completely up to you! Take the parts that you learn, find out if they resonate with you and then start doing things your way. There really isn’t a right or wrong way to do it, just don’t give up.
Comparing yourself to others – don’t do it
This ties in with lesson #8 in some way because I think when we go on the journey of transforming our lives that we get caught up in seeing what others are doing, how they are doing it and get stuck in comparison mode when we note they are more successful. It’s totally okay to look up to someone as a role model, but it’s never beneficial to compare yourself to someone. Each one of us is on a different journey that began at different times in our lives.
Love yourself to create your dream. Love yourself enough to take a break. I remember the days where I was always going and in some ways, I still do this but I have learned to shut down the computer and to lay in bed watching a show or even take a bath. It’s so crucial for your mental health to go out of your house, have some fun and nourish yourself with the right kind of food, company, exercise, and downtime just for you. These means have boundaries in place for personal and business!
Life is too short – stop waiting
Stop waiting until 2016 or another day to start working towards your dream. If you keep planning and you keep waiting, odds are that your dream will never happen. Instead, start today. Define your dream, be clear on why you want this and then decide to act. You never really know what you are capable off until you start doing and if you want it bad enough, trust you me, it will happen. Don’t wait another minute to go after what you want.
I would love to hear from you the lessons you have learned in 2015!
I have quite a bit of experience when it comes to dealing with frustration. As a matter of fact, I have a lifetime worth of experiences with it. It is as if I trained for a frustration marathon and I have completely and utterly mastered the skill.
Experiencing frustration initially is well umm frustrating for a lack of a better word. And yet, it is an amazing moment for growth. So here are some of the key points I learned to move and grow!
- Allow yourself to ask why
For example: Why am I broke? I am broke because I don’t earn enough money! Why are you not earning enough money? Because I haven’t applied for that new job. Or because I haven’t completed my training.
Just keep asking yourself why until you get to the answer that sort of tells you exactly what it is that you need to do to change your current situation!
- Frustration is only temporary
You are truly only frustrated in the moment. One of my biggest frustrations is when I am driving and people aren’t using blinkers, stopping at stop signs or go the speed limit. But you know, at some point I will not be traveling the same way as them alas it’s truly only temporary. Your current job or frustration about a relationship are also only temporary – at least until you are ready to do something about them.
- Frustration is part of reality
We all get frustrated about love, money, not enough sleep or maybe even people in general. It’s truly part of life. The challenge is what are you doing with this frustration. Are you staying in a grumpy zone or are you using it as a learning/teaching moment that allows you to grow? I used to be frustrated about money so damn much that I got tired of it and started working on my money issues. I learned so much about me, my story and how I can change my frustration into something positive.
- Frustration helps you shift focus
What evaluating your frustration and what is causing it, you have no a focal point that you can guide yourself too. If you are frustrated with your relationship, going through the process of asking yourself why will help you shift your focus and show you what it is you need to do or work on.
- Frustration motivates you
When you get so sick and tired of being frustrated you are motivated to change it. For instance, I know exactly when traffic is the heaviest on my way into town and so I tend to leave a few minutes earlier to not get stuck and allow myself to get frustrated. When I was tired of being broke, I worked on my money stuff and improved my income and am reducing my debt. It literally will get you inspired to make a change!
Tell me what has you frustrated and how do you handle your frustration?