Whatever your heart is calling you to do – go do it.
No one else is going to do the work for you. This is the reality and waiting on winning the lottery or getting that big fat paycheck isn’t going to do it either.
Your heart and your soul will guide you, but you must give it permission. You must fire your ego, acknowledge the fear and the doubt that arise and be willing to do it anyway.
Money does not provide happiness. What money does is support it.
Can you be passionate about money?
Yea I suppose but isn’t the true underlying feeling to be
- more at peace?
- more joyful?
Follow your heart and you will have all those things and money.
So, what is your heart telling you? What is your soul calling you to do?
- Write it down.
- Then do the research. Google, it, read about it in books.
- Talk to the people you need to talk to.
- Have a journal with you so can write down all the thoughts, information and ideas coming your way.
And then act.
Years ago before I wrote my first book, I talked about writing my story. The story of betrayal and self-destruction but I had no idea how to go about it. I only knew the traditional way of publishing but I hadn’t even written the manuscript yet, nor did I know how to go about it. And since I am not the traditional kind of person, what happened next was the thing to move me forward.
Because I talked about writing a book, I did the research on the best way to write an autobiography/memoir type book.
Then I talked to people, I told them one day I will. I ran into a friend who told me how I could bypass traditional publishing and make it happen all on my own.
I went home and did some more research.
And then I acted – I wrote the book.
I am on a mission to show you what is possible no matter where you have been or where you are right now.
Because you owe it to yourself to try – to stop wishing and hoping but do act about the things that feel impossible.
At the beginning of this year, I was in a downward spiral. Every morning I got up, did the work I believed I needed to do, tried to live as if and just brought about financial ruin. And there are lessons to be learned.
But here is what I know about myself, I am not a quitter, if anything that makes me push harder, and that was exactly the problem.
As I am sitting in my living room now, I reflect on the last 7 month and realized that not only has a lot changed for me, I am no longer pushing as hard, and life – well life is good.
Here are 7 lessons that I learned so far, this year:
Business and life need to be on your terms
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in how other people are doing things, and we believe that if we do it like those other people, life will be grand. The truth is, however, that we are living on someone else’s dreams and terms and not on our own. The moment, I got really clear on what that meant for me, I could align my goals and actions accordingly.
Money isn’t a true motivator, it’s a bonus
I like money and needed just like everyone else but it isn’t my motivator of why I create art, coach people on getting started nor the reason I blog or build websites. I love helping people, supporting them in going after what they want and seeing them taking action and taking steps forward, that lights me up like nothing else. The money I make is truly just a bonus.
Reading is of the essence in your growth
I used to be an avid reader, usually, crime related in fiction and non-fiction, but ever since I graduated from my master’s program, I hadn’t felt the desire to read. But I had a choice to make and to expand and grow, reading had to once again be part of my life. It’s essential if we want to expand our knowledge and grow as a person. There is always something new to learn.
Create a morning routine that supports you
I wasn’t always aware of my morning routine, other than my habitual coffee drinking. I started reading the Artist way, and began a daily journaling practice and added reading time. Just a few hours to myself, to support me mentally as well as emotionally. Writing about my fears and doubts and then bust through them with affirmations and actions, has really done wonders for me.
Stepping away from Facebook gets things done
When I first began the journey of 100% entrepreneurship, I totally got sucked into Facebook. Everyone talked about how great it is to build your business but 6 months in, I was burned out. They tell you to be vulnerable, give value and answer questions, but it has become such a spam fest in the groups, that I no longer feel excited about them. And I stepped away from groups and all over sudden, I found myself to get things done, such as my Academy finally getting off the ground.
Staying true to your values and feelings is key
I have 3 primary values that I want to embody every single day: Freedom, Peace, and Joy. If my activities don’t provide these feelings alone or in combination, odds are I won’t complete them. But also, by asking myself every day: How can I feel free today? How can I feel peace? How can I feel joy? Those questions guide me and truly provide for me.
Being open to opportunity and possibility brings achievement
At the beginning of the year, I found my word to be: experience. I wanted to experience more freedom, more connections, more adventure. I started off with going to a workshop with one of my favorite coaches, Rhonda Britten. This followed a fun 2-day trip into New York and going to a concert, walking to Strawberry Fields and seeing the city for the first time. And then I went to visit a friend in North Carolina, someone I connected with in a Facebook Group and one of her summits I participated in.
And now a few months later, more opportunities have presented themselves and more possibilities have shown up for me. Financially, I am in a much better place and emotionally I feel free, peaceful and joy every single day. Yes, there are still days where I feel irritation and frustration creep up, but I am more aware of them now, thanks to the lessons I have learned.
What lessons have you learned so far, this year?
So, you think that when you work for yourself the money is coming in and you will be rich and all your worries will be taken care of. Being in business isn’t about the money, because if it was why would you leave the job?
You can make amazing money in your job and be utterly and completely miserable. You may love the job at first and wonder how lucky you have been to land such an amazing position that shows off your skills, knowledge, and talents. Some time goes by, a few months, a year or more and you are starting to feel the strain.
The strain of the demands of the job, the lack of validation, the lack of support in the development, growth, and expertise. And you realize that no matter who you work for it is always about the money for them, the bottom line. How many sales can you get in a day or week, and then week after week without burning out? Because in the end, your salary stays the same and you may even have to fight for a raise.
When I decided to be an entrepreneur it was never about the money. Although money is nice and well of course needed for basic survival.
For me being in business means freedom.
Freedom to be who I am, without ever pretending something or someone I am not.
Freedom to always speaking my truth and stand in my own power.
Being in business is about truly doing the things you love because you are so passionate about them that you can’t imagine doing anything else, but you know that you will never truly be able to experience this working for someone else.
I have had several businesses, some didn’t work out and some I am continuing to build. This is the freedom I have, to push myself, to learn and add to my knowledge box and continue my own personal development.
Being in business is about growth!
Every time I started a business it pushed me. It wasn’t like you know a fairytale that started and ended like this:
She had a dream to be in business and decided it would be so and all the money started flowing in and she was changing the world.
No! Being in business is getting your head in the game and realize that there will be times you are ready to quit and go back to the job. Being in business is work on your mindset every single day and every single day you must decide the actions you will take – whether you like it or not.
Being in business isn’t a vacation, it’s learning strategies and adapting the ones that call you. It’s changing and growing as a person and realizing that some of your friends, well they just can’t hang out in your circle anymore. It isn’t anything against those friends, but being in business means surrounding yourself with like-minded people.
The people that yes want to change the world, change how business is done and who without a doubt believe I’m their success. Success is a hard-fucking road, often compared to a roller coaster or climbing a mountain. what it isn’t is a linear path where everything is smooth sailing.
And yet, no matter the hard times, and no matter how many days I wanted to quit, I remind myself of the freedom I desire. To have the ability to live life and work in my business according to my own damn rules without having to worry about what I say because my clients want the real shit. They don’t want me to sugar coat anything – they want to be pushed and know they are supported during the highs and lows. Always!
You see being in business isn’t about the money. It is about helping and supporting others to achieve their dreams and goals. This is what gives me the freedom because I believe everyone can change their life, their world and become the person they want to be.
And don’t get me wrong, money is nice and necessary but please do not believe the illusion that it is about the money.
Mindset is one of those things that comes into your awareness when you allow possibility into your life. If you have never heard about mindset before, it is about how we think about our life, ourselves and our dreams.
Here are a few tips that can help you shift your mindset:
Detach from the outcome
This can be a challenge because we want what we want when we want it but dreams are earned and you must take action but your focus shouldn’t be on the result because you will find yourself frustrated that it is taking forever to come to live – whatever it is that you want.
Step away from the shiny object syndrome
You don’t need another course or this or that to go after your dream. You can tap into your own wisdom that helps you bring to life your dreams. Just get really clear on what it is you want, create an action plan and take action.
Trust that you are unique enough
No one is like you. we may all have the same experiences but the way we feel them, handle them and share them is unique to us. No one is like you.
Money doesn’t determine your worth
Money is money but you can’t nor should you allow it to determine your worth. I don’t care if you make $7.00/hour or $100/hour – this is not your value. Your wall is what you bring into this world and frankly, that is so much more than money – seriously.
Always act from a place of abundance and never from a place of lack
When we act from abundance and live with gratitude of all that we have right here right now, we are all ready to incredibly rich in our lives. The more we focus on what we don’t have the more we bring in of that lack feeling.
Allow yourself to be playful
When we are having fun, and allow yourself to be playful in our work and with our friends and families, life is just much more pleasurable. If it isn’t fun, is it worth it? Maybe but maybe not so much. Life is about having a great time and we should have more fun.
Allow your fear
All too often we steer away from fear because we think we must always focus on the positive. Instead, when we embrace fear and allow it to come in, we can look at it and learn from it. Fear allows us to grow and transform our lives because we can challenge it, and who doesn’t like a challenge? Ok maybe not everyone but give it a try anyway.
Trust your intuition
Get in a relationship with your intuition and trust it. Whatever your gut tells you is usually right on the money, so-to-speak. Listen to it, honor it and respect it. My intuition has never steered me wrong but I haven’t always given it the trust that it deserves.
You can embrace and do all these little mindset shifts today and allow them to have a big impact in your life no matter where you are on your journey.