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18 Ways to a Mindset On Fire

18 Ways to a Mindset on Fire

For many years I didn’t understand what mindset was. As a matter of fact, it wasn’t even part of my vocabulary. What I do know is that a successful mindset for me was all was a part of who I am. This is how and why I was able to face many challenges I encountered through the years.

I’ve compiled a list of 18 ways to create a Mindset on Fire

Use what feels good, try new things and trust that you have what it takes to create the life you want.

Be open 

It’s through openness that we are allowing us to be willing to see opportunities and possibilities. We obtain information when we are needing it the most. It’s the magnetic way of coexisting with the universe.

Be optimistic 

A negative and pessimistic mind has never achieved anything successfully unless you consider living in misery a success. Being optimistic is more than just hoping though. It’s about an inner knowing that everything will be as you want it. Maybe not overnight, but in time.

Learn from experience 

We have all made mistakes and decisions that ended up being a slap in the face of some kind. It’s in that situation however that you gain so much information that will help you next time you face a similar situation.

Be a student of and for life 

Even at the perfect moments, there is something to learn. It’s in those moments we can acknowledge what we did that went well and how we went about it. And even if we are facing new challenges, we can ask you, what do I need to learn to get to where I want to be!

Allow the actions to guide your decisions 

Sometimes we do have to act before we make a decision. It’s like trying on that new outfit at the store, deciding if we want to buy it or not. You can always make new decisions!

Challenge the status quo 

There’s no right or wrong way in forging your own path, and sometimes that means going against what everyone else is doing or thinking. I believe that we are here to show other’s what their life could feel and be like by simply giving a different perspective.

Process and analyze often

Our thoughts and behavior are intertwined, and we are not always aware of them. When you can acknowledge why you do something, where it stems from (and it’s often from your childhood) you can engage new thoughts and behavior.

Change what you can about yourself 

If you are playing small, hiding from you truly are, start there. If you don’t like something about yourself, change it. Want to be more assertive, then seek the information that you will need to be more assertive.

Take the next step even you think you are finished 

Sometimes we think we are all finished with something, just to realize that there is another step to take.

Always be true to you 

There’s nothing worse than pretending something you are not or now showing up as who you are by hiding behind a charade. You have values and core beliefs that are true to you, show them, live by them.

Start small when necessary and you feel the need to 

Sometimes goals can look bigger than Mt. Everest. It’s in those moments that it’s good to remember that no mountain is climbed through big actions, but rather one small step at a time.

Believe in you, your dreams and your journey

If you don’t believe in yourself, who will? You have to without a shadow of a doubt believes in you, your dreams and your journey. Your faith will be tested over and over again and that is what this matters so much.

Have rituals 

Have a morning and/or evening routine that helps you shatter the doubts that may have crept up overnight. Be it through journaling, meditating or exercising. Crush those doubts and make them shiver with fear.

Make no excuses

Truly, excuses are only going to keep you playing small and fuel the avoidance of really showing up in this world. No one has ever achieved a goal by saying they can’t do something.

Be relentless

If you want to achieve your dreams and goals you have to keep going after them. like a wolf goes after its prey. (and I may have just been reading too many werewolf books).

View problems as challenges

Stop thinking that they are here to stop you. Instead view them as a challenge, as that next goal and figure out how to overcome it, instead of throwing up your hands and walking away.

Have a vision

If you don’t know where you are going, how will you know that you are arriving at each stopping point? Having a vision of dreams and goals and what you want your life to be like, is of the essence.

Be courageous despite fear

Have the courage to take action even when you are scared. Confidence is creating through doing and not waiting for the right moment. It’s in those actions you can really see how amazing you are!

Petra is a coach and mentor for creatives, rebels and dreamers who are ready to find the courage to forge their own path because life is too short to feed the fear.

She’s the founder of the Rebel Soul Connection, a community for creatives, rebels, and dreamers to take action with tools, resources, support, and accountability.

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The story behind the dream doodle

2008 was a rough year for my family but more challenging for my youngest kiddo.

It’s no cake walk receiving 2 liver transplants 3 days apart. You go into surgery one day, wake up just to go into the second surgery a few days later and then be in a medically induced coma for the coming weeks.

In order to keep my head and thoughts above water, I needed another outlet other than studying for my degree because there’s only so much homework you can do in one day.

As an artist, I am always expanding my arsenal of creative outlets and decided that doodling would be perfect while we lived in the intensive care unit. It’s not like I could bring in my wood-burner, though that would have been great. But realistically it wasn’t an option and although I had my crochet work, it just wasn’t enough.

And off to the craft store, we went to pick up pen and paper and the doodling began.

I needed to affirm the words, believe, faith, hope, dream and created different versions of each doodle.

Jump ahead a few years later and I am able to take my art and have them on different products. 

Drink your coffee in the Dream Doodle Mug and envision all of the possibilities you can create in your life.

Dreaming expands your imagination and creates room for opportunities, provided you don’t censor your thoughts and talk yourself out of it.

Dreaming can provide new ideas on how to solve problems and lead you into action.

So why don’t you get your mindset support in the form of a mug and every time you take a sip you are reminded to dream?

Give yourself permission to dream! You are only one step away!

Petra is a coach and mentor for creatives, rebels and dreamers who are ready to find the courage to forge their own path because life is too short to feed the fear.

She’s the founder of the Rebel Soul Connection, a community for creatives, rebels, and dreamers to take action with tools, resources, support, and accountability.

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The truth about pulling yourself out of the trenches

There are some people in this world that can hit rock bottom again and again and the next time you look, their life seems to be on par.

And here you are wondering when the breakthrough, or rather the break free is going to happen.

And trust me when I say the people who keep hitting the proverbial rock bottom are wondering the same damn thing.

What keeps these people going? Why do they not just quit and throw in their towel?

Well for starters, they don’t have it within them to quit, There is this internal drive fueled by the belief and inner knowing that in the end, everything is going to be okay.

That doesn’t mean they don’t feel the pain and the frustration. Quite the opposite actually, they feel it in every fiber of their being.

So what is it about them that gives them the fuel?

It's their vision and mindset and holding steadfast onto the dreams they hold onto in their heart. Click To Tweet

They get super clear on what they don’t want, maybe even make a list of it all. And then with purpose and intention, they rewrite the list with everything they do want.

I don’t want to be broke then becomes I want to always have money in the bank.

I don’t want to be alone becomes I want to be in a loving, funny, equal relationship.

I don’t want relationships that suck becomes friendships that are nurtured.

I don’t want my son to die becomes I want my son to have a full life.

I don’t want my kids to fail becomes I want my children to succeed.

I don’t want a soul-sucking job becomes a business that lights me up.

Transforming your thoughts and beliefs is a constant act of reminding yourself of all the things you have overcome and achieved and that inner knowing that all will be well in the end.

But ask yourself, what does having money in the bank look like? Is it an extra $100 or $1000? What will this bring you? What feelings will this give to you?

What does haveing a loving, funny and equal relationship feel and look like?

How about your friendships?

My son’s medical journey meant really turning on the faith and steadfast on the mindset that one day he will walk out of the hospital.

And the kids not failing mean that I am giving them the tools and resources to follow their own dreams.

And what does the work you do bring to you? What kind of work? What mission are you on when it comes to your job or business?

Being in the trenches and hitting rock-bottom looks very different for everyone. For me, it was always being broke, being homeless, my son fighting for his life and my job not giving me the satisfaction I wanted in my life despite the good I was doing in this world

Pulling yourself up is messy and requires a soul walk of sorts. It’s shedding all the layers you’ve been hanging onto for so long and embracing who you are at your core.

It is known that every action you are taking will get you to where you want to go because let’s be honest, no one loves living in the trenches but no one is coming to save you either.

You’ll need to surround yourself with people that get you, that understand that this is a transformation and that… Click To Tweet – perhaps even a little more than you believe in yourself.

Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help.

 

Petra is a coach and mentor for creatives, rebels and dreamers who are ready to find the courage to forge their own path because life is too short to feed the fear.

She’s the founder of the Rebel Soul Connection, a community for creatives, rebels, and dreamers to take action with tools, resources, support, and accountability.

6 Books I think everyone ought to read

I’ve been attempting to read more but have struggled with it since graduating from college 7 years ago. And isn’t it funny the excuses we make because I was reading text heavy academic books for four years I made the excuse that it caused a reading burn out!

And then I made the excuse I didn’t have time to read books, well hello audiobooks but then I made, even more, excuses like “I can’t listen to them while at home”. It’s crazy!

But growing and learning are important to me and so I made a bit more of an effort to read and here are the books I have read so far this year.

She Means Business by Carrie Green

This one was perhaps a pivotal part in (finally) making the changes in my business I have been craving. Carrie Green not only talks about her own journey but gives some incredible steps to move your business forward even if it means to adjust the sails a bit. It’s definitely a good read and one that I will more than likely read again.

Start with Why by Simon Sinek

I think this one of those books that every business owner needs to read. It’s definitely about how to develop your own leadership and gives some incredible insight on why a business fails and what it will take to succeed.

5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins

This was definitely one of my favorite books, there are parts where Mel is so real about what she was experiencing but also sharing other people’s story where you could just hear her well up with tears. I listened to the audiobook version and I am glad I did. If you are a procrastinator, then this is totally the book for you.

The Success Principles by Jack Canfield

I am in the middle of this book, listening to it on my walk for 30 minutes. Not five minutes into the book I was feeling a-ha moments and became emotional which is pretty interesting to me as this is not a fiction book. But if you are struggling in your life right now with anything, then this book is a goldmine.

The Wealth Mindset by Neville Goddard

Mindset while not everything is an important ingredient for your success. Perspective is everything and this book can really help you gain that next level of awareness.

Expert Secrets by Russel Brunson

There are leaders and there are leaders but what creates a movement is truly based on the kind of leader you are. It’s definitely one of those books that I read in a day because I wanted to know the next step and then the next step. If you are ready to share your message with the world, then this book is a must read.

Have you read any of these books? I would love to hear from you what you thought about them!

 

Petra is a coach and mentor for creatives, rebels and dreamers who are ready to find the courage to forge their own path because life is too short to feed the fear.

She’s the founder of the Rebel Soul Connection, a community for creatives, rebels, and dreamers to take action with tools, resources, support, and accountability.

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Behind the Scenes of Creating 365 Days of Becoming

So I just released 365 Days of Becoming and thought it would be helpful to give you a glimpse of what it took to put this beast of a Journal/Coloring book together.

Because it is a monster of 365 coloring pages and 365 journal pages.

How I came up with the idea!

I had a thought that it would be amazing to create something that helps you step into your power with two of the tools that have been super helpful to me: coloring and writing.

Then I thought, wouldn’t it be awesome to create something for every single day of the year.

And voila, the idea was born. Now I didn’t have a name yet, only that I knew if would have a lot of coloring pages and writing pages.

Getting to work

I started doodling and initially thought it would only take me about 15 days to create all of the pages. Yep, I am a little bit ambitious but I realized really quickly that I needed more time.

I encountered days where I had other things pop up, I just didn’t feel like doodling and for someone who preaches about self-care, I needed to manage my energy.

So, I extended the deadline and found my energy to be on par.

I finished all of the pages in 25 days. Scanned and edited them in another 3 days.

And then it came down to laying it out, creating a spreadsheet to not duplicate any pages and creating the feel I wanted to create with this monster of a book.

From there it was just a matter of getting the proof ready and correct to the printing standards it needed. This took another 5 days.

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The Lessons Learned:

Deadlines are awesome and I kinda live by them but giving yourself enough time is key or you will burn out on the project/goal. If I am ever going to undertake another project like this, I am giving myself a much longer deadline.

Familiarize yourself with all the printing needs from CreateSpace.com. I spend way more time editing and going back and forth to get it to proper printing quality than necessary. There bigger the book, the bigger the gutter and the margins need to be in retrospect.

Take enough days off so I am not burning out on the project. Again this was a big undertaking and 30 days was pushing it and I still had to extend the deadline. Also, there are still other things that need to happen in life and in business and it’s important I don’t neglect them.

Get your copy of 365 Days of becoming! 

Petra is a coach and mentor for creatives, rebels and dreamers who are ready to find the courage to forge their own path because life is too short to feed the fear.

She’s the founder of the Rebel Soul Connection, a community for creatives, rebels, and dreamers to take action with tools, resources, support, and accountability.

5 Tips on How to Set up your own Boundaries

Boundaries are what honors you – all of you.

For you to have healthy relationships with yourself and others – setting and maintaining those boundaries takes time and practice.

It means you are aware and know your limits.

Here are some examples of when you are struggling with healthy boundaries

  • Saying yes when you want to say no
  • Feeling guilty when you say no
  • Going against your own values to please
  • Not speaking up when someone impedes your boundary
  • Not sharing thoughts & feelings or opinions when you have something to say
  • Accepting sex and physical touch when you don’t want it
  • Allowing others to say and do things that make you uncomfortable

All of those won’t feel good and impact your personal, emotional, mental and spiritual health. They leave you lost, frustrated, confused about who you are, afraid of taking action and even lack of control over your own life.

So how exactly can you begin to honor yourself?

  1. Mindset – Acknowledge that having boundaries are not only okay but they are healthy to have
  2. Identify and name your limits – think about times you didn’t feel so good about a situation or person. Include your values, belief system, and outlook and acknowledge what does feel good.
  3. Share with others about your boundaries. Have a conversation about what feel good and what you can’t tolerate. Share with them how they may have made you feel.
  4. Be willing to give yourself permission to feel fear and self-doubt and acknowledge that people around you may not respond well. And be willing to accept that it is okay. Maintaining your boundaries is connected to your self-respect.
  5. Self-Care is and should be your priority. Allow yourself to put you first. This includes seeking support when you have a hard time with boundaries.

It’s okay to not have it all figured out and take small steps. One Boundary, one person at a time.

 

Petra is a coach and mentor for creatives, rebels and dreamers who are ready to find the courage to forge their own path because life is too short to feed the fear.

She’s the founder of the Rebel Soul Connection, a community for creatives, rebels, and dreamers to take action with tools, resources, support, and accountability.