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6 Books I think everyone ought to read

I’ve been attempting to read more but have struggled with it since graduating from college 7 years ago. And isn’t it funny the excuses we make because I was reading text heavy academic books for four years I made the excuse that it caused a reading burn out!

And then I made the excuse I didn’t have time to read books, well hello audiobooks but then I made, even more, excuses like “I can’t listen to them while at home”. It’s crazy!

But growing and learning are important to me and so I made a bit more of an effort to read and here are the books I have read so far this year.

She Means Business by Carrie Green

This one was perhaps a pivotal part in (finally) making the changes in my business I have been craving. Carrie Green not only talks about her own journey but gives some incredible steps to move your business forward even if it means to adjust the sails a bit. It’s definitely a good read and one that I will more than likely read again.

Start with Why by Simon Sinek

I think this one of those books that every business owner needs to read. It’s definitely about how to develop your own leadership and gives some incredible insight on why a business fails and what it will take to succeed.

5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins

This was definitely one of my favorite books, there are parts where Mel is so real about what she was experiencing but also sharing other people’s story where you could just hear her well up with tears. I listened to the audiobook version and I am glad I did. If you are a procrastinator, then this is totally the book for you.

The Success Principles by Jack Canfield

I am in the middle of this book, listening to it on my walk for 30 minutes. Not five minutes into the book I was feeling a-ha moments and became emotional which is pretty interesting to me as this is not a fiction book. But if you are struggling in your life right now with anything, then this book is a goldmine.

The Wealth Mindset by Neville Goddard

Mindset while not everything is an important ingredient for your success. Perspective is everything and this book can really help you gain that next level of awareness.

Expert Secrets by Russel Brunson

There are leaders and there are leaders but what creates a movement is truly based on the kind of leader you are. It’s definitely one of those books that I read in a day because I wanted to know the next step and then the next step. If you are ready to share your message with the world, then this book is a must read.

Have you read any of these books? I would love to hear from you what you thought about them!

 

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Behind the Scenes of Creating 365 Days of Becoming

So I just released 365 Days of Becoming and thought it would be helpful to give you a glimpse of what it took to put this beast of a Journal/Coloring book together.

Because it is a monster of 365 coloring pages and 365 journal pages.

How I came up with the idea!

I had a thought that it would be amazing to create something that helps you step into your power with two of the tools that have been super helpful to me: coloring and writing.

Then I thought, wouldn’t it be awesome to create something for every single day of the year.

And voila, the idea was born. Now I didn’t have a name yet, only that I knew if would have a lot of coloring pages and writing pages.

Getting to work

I started doodling and initially thought it would only take me about 15 days to create all of the pages. Yep, I am a little bit ambitious but I realized really quickly that I needed more time.

I encountered days where I had other things pop up, I just didn’t feel like doodling and for someone who preaches about self-care, I needed to manage my energy.

So, I extended the deadline and found my energy to be on par.

I finished all of the pages in 25 days. Scanned and edited them in another 3 days.

And then it came down to laying it out, creating a spreadsheet to not duplicate any pages and creating the feel I wanted to create with this monster of a book.

From there it was just a matter of getting the proof ready and correct to the printing standards it needed. This took another 5 days.

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The Lessons Learned:

Deadlines are awesome and I kinda live by them but giving yourself enough time is key or you will burn out on the project/goal. If I am ever going to undertake another project like this, I am giving myself a much longer deadline.

Familiarize yourself with all the printing needs from CreateSpace.com. I spend way more time editing and going back and forth to get it to proper printing quality than necessary. There bigger the book, the bigger the gutter and the margins need to be in retrospect.

Take enough days off so I am not burning out on the project. Again this was a big undertaking and 30 days was pushing it and I still had to extend the deadline. Also, there are still other things that need to happen in life and in business and it’s important I don’t neglect them.

Get your copy of 365 Days of becoming! 

5 Tips on How to Set up your own Boundaries

Boundaries are what honors you – all of you.

For you to have healthy relationships with yourself and others – setting and maintaining those boundaries takes time and practice.

It means you are aware and know your limits.

Here are some examples of when you are struggling with healthy boundaries

  • Saying yes when you want to say no
  • Feeling guilty when you say no
  • Going against your own values to please
  • Not speaking up when someone impedes your boundary
  • Not sharing thoughts & feelings or opinions when you have something to say
  • Accepting sex and physical touch when you don’t want it
  • Allowing others to say and do things that make you uncomfortable

All of those won’t feel good and impact your personal, emotional, mental and spiritual health. They leave you lost, frustrated, confused about who you are, afraid of taking action and even lack of control over your own life.

So how exactly can you begin to honor yourself?

  1. Mindset – Acknowledge that having boundaries are not only okay but they are healthy to have
  2. Identify and name your limits – think about times you didn’t feel so good about a situation or person. Include your values, belief system, and outlook and acknowledge what does feel good.
  3. Share with others about your boundaries. Have a conversation about what feel good and what you can’t tolerate. Share with them how they may have made you feel.
  4. Be willing to give yourself permission to feel fear and self-doubt and acknowledge that people around you may not respond well. And be willing to accept that it is okay. Maintaining your boundaries is connected to your self-respect.
  5. Self-Care is and should be your priority. Allow yourself to put you first. This includes seeking support when you have a hard time with boundaries.

It’s okay to not have it all figured out and take small steps. One Boundary, one person at a time.

 

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What does empower really mean?

As I sat in meditation this morning, connecting with my intuition, the word empowers came about. Fitting perhaps for National Women’s Day, but it’s been a word that has been on my mind quite a bit.

Feeling empowered is boosting your confidence.

When you make a choice to do something, to work out, to start a business, to change your job, you feel confident because you are taking control of your own life and the decisions you make.

It can be challenging when you are told you are weak, you can’t, or you should just keep playing safe. But one of the things I learned that even during the days I beat myself up for not meeting my own expectations, it’s really listening to the voices from my past who didn’t believe in me.

You make decisions every single day, some small and some a bit more daring.

Your choices can help you break free to be you!

Being you may be the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. To show up as you, to speak your truth even if it doesn’t conform to someone else’s beliefs and line of thinking.

You have everything within you to create the life you want even if there are people in this world that don’t agree with you. Stand up for yourself to be you. Stand up for your beliefs. Stand up for what you love and hold dear. It can be downright scary and intimidating and it is easier to just go with the flow and live in the mainstream. But ask yourself, is that how you want to live your life? Is following the norm and playing it safe really what you want to do? And then ask yourself, if this is how you want to live or are you craving something different?

Make the decision today to set yourself free and empower yourself by creating the change you want.

Give yourself permission

You have permission, to be, do and have everything you want. And I’d be lying if I say it is going to be easy because it won’t be. It means digging deep into the stories you have hung onto. Some of the stories are easy to identify, but you have to dig deeper to really uncover the subliminal messages that are stopping you from creating the kind of life that you believe is only for the lucky ones.

Luck really doesn’t have anything to do with it. Empowering yourself to take action, the willingness to do the work and to really look at yourself from the inside out, that has everything to do with feeling empowered.

You have permission to bring your dreams to live.

You have permission to be who you are.

You have permission to say no when you don’t feel like saying yes.

You have permission to stand up for what you believe in.

You have permission to speak your truth!

Today make the choice to step into your power!

 

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You have permission to dream big

Remember when you were little and you were dreaming about all the things you would do one day.

You knew that when you were all grown up you would be

  • a dancer
  • an artist
  • an astronaut
  • a doctor
  • a veterinarian
  • a writer
  • a police office
  • a firefighter
  • a lawyer
  • a rancher

And the list goes on and on. And it changed all the time because when you were little, you wanted to do all the things.

And the adults in your life, they smiled at your ability to dream, wishing to never need or want to crush your dreams. And as you got older, slowly you were told to be realistic while still supporting the notion that you can be anything you wanted to be, with hard work of course.

And their let downs were sometimes gentle, sometimes not so much. But it was their own projection, their own regret and their own fears that stopped them from doing what they love and becoming who they wanted to be… who they were inside on the deep.

But there is so much beauty in being a human and having the amazing brains you do. You can change our mind.

I once thought that I wanted to be a certified public accountant. I am good with the details and Accounting 101 came easily to me. It’s not that I loved math or anything but tracking all the financial business needs, it was fun. For a while anyway.

But then I started working in an office for 8 hours a day. Day in and day out it was the exact same thing. Review this, write a check for that and balance whatever needed balancing.

I was bored out of my freaking mind. They only thing that pretty much kept me going was my artwork. And I simultaneously decided to start selling my work. The work I have been given away for free for the better of 10 years.

And I realized that I lost the ability to dream big over the years due to no fault of my own.

As kids, we are told to dream big.

As teens, we are told to get real.

And we are left with mixed messages: to dream big or not to dream big. We are left in the middle of the confusion. To go after our dreams to not go after our dreams.

And frankly, that’s a problem.

Sure, some things we may want to do may require a clear-cut trajectory and maybe for *some* things it may be a little too late. And yet at the same time, I totally believe, anything and everything IS possible.

All you need to do is give yourself permission.

Give yourself permission to believe that you can.

Give yourself permission that you can figure out how.

Give yourself permission to be, do and have whatever the heck it is you want.

Because the reality is, the only one and the only thing that is stopping you is YOU!

How not to get overwhelmed setting goals

Do you have a lot of ideas, dreams, and goals you want to achieve?

Do you struggle with getting started because there is just so much you want to do?

Yep, I have totally been there and it isn’t fun feeling like a hamster stuck in the wheel.

While I very much encourage you to start taking action today, I think it’s important that we find harmony in it all.

Here are a few steps you can take to reduce the overwhelm:

1. Make a list

Having a list of all the things you want to do, all those ideas in your head will help you clear your head.

2. Prioritize through the process of elimination

When you look at your list of ideas, dreams, and goals, take the first two and ask yourself which is more important. Now use the one you chose as most important and compare it to the next idea and goal on the list.

This is a good time to either give them numbers or rewrite your list according to importance.

3. Brainstorm your actions

Take some time and brainstorm all the actions it will take for your idea and goal to be a reality. Sometimes what is helpful is working backward, from the result to the beginning, if you are trying to identify the steps more clearly.

4. Create an action plan

This is essential to taking action! Create an action plan that doesn’t overwhelm means that you are choosing 3-5 actions you will take every single day. Maybe you can only do 3 things in a day and build on this until you get to 5. And maybe all you need to do is 3 actions a day.

5. Don’t focus on the outcome but be in the journey

The overwhelm happens when we are so focused on the outcome and don’t pay attention to the journey. Know that each step, each action you are taking will get you closer to the goal. You can’t become a marathon runner in one day. It takes time and practice.