How Fear shows up in your life

How Fear shows up in your life

Fear is a bit of a tricky beast every now and again and it shows up in different ways and from different places in our body.

Fear is a signal of danger but the challenge is that you don’t always know if it’s real or fake.

If you are going hiking and standing on the edge of the path, and there is that possibility of falling, that is an actual fear because you fear the result, which depending on the height of the edge can be landing you in the hospital or worse.

There is some reality to that kind of fear because you know it could happen and you are being signaled to get off the path for your safety.

But what about the fear when it comes to our dreams and goals?

This fear is often self-imposed because you fear change, success, failure and even missing out. I will be covering all of this in my posts this week, so you can go after what you want and have a better understanding when fear is sabotaging you.

For today I am going to just cover how the beast shows up as that can help you as you move through the actions you must or want to take to move forward.

Procrastination

Procrastination is when you are having an idea of what you want to do but you just can’t sit down and make it happen because you are riddled with doubt and second-guessing. It’s the internal messaging system that signals you with limiting beliefs that you may be holding on to such as “I am not good enough, no one wants what I offer or I am a fraud”. These are things you may have picked up over time from experiences that chipped you a bit in your mindset and tend to hang on to. It is also a signal of not knowing how important something is. Procrastination is when you keep putting things off which leads me to the next point.

Lack of Clarity

When you don’t know what you want and where you want to go, the beast is telling you that right here right now, this is the best you’re going to get. Because there is a lack of clarity, you don’t know what you ought to be doing, what the steps are to get there and how it will all turn out. Having clarity will enable you to feel excited, and it does not mean you won’t feel the fear, but once you know, you are willing to go after what you want anyway. If you have clarity and you can make this idea or dream a priority, your ego will be a little more silent as you are making progress. But this brings me to the last and final point of today’s post.

Are you over-committing?

See the thing about fear is that the ego will find excuses and activities to keep you so busy that you do not have time to prioritize your own dreams and goals. And in the end, you are allowing the beast to win because you are not prioritizing your own stuff and then wonder why you are not progressing and again it comes down to fear. So maybe you could look at your commitments and get some clarity on what you are able to let go?!

When I first started my business, I didn’t realize that a lack of clarity for me personally actually meant that I have a fear of success and that procrastination meant that I have a fear of failure.

Here is what I know however that fear shows up for you to push through, to look at it for what it is, recognize it and know that you are much bigger than your fear and most importantly your ego.

If you are tired of fear getting in the way and you are done making excuses, 5 Minutes to Freedom is exactly what you need. In just 5 minutes a day, you can break free and out of your comfort zone!

My favorite books that I’ve read or listened to in 2017!

My favorite books that I’ve read or listened to in 2017!

Only a generation of readers will spawn a generation of writers – Steven Spielberg

Making time to read can at times be challenging for me, so I added audiobooks to my arsenal of how I obtain information.

The 5-Second Rule definitely has been a must read and I highly recommend it, if you are stuck in procrastination mode. It can really transform your life and your work through one simple action called the 5-second Rule. Mel Robbins get’s into the heart of the matter for sure.

The Success Principles generated new visions for myself and cemented what I wanted to be, do and have in my life and the kind of work that I do. I listened to this book when going on my walks and often found myself in tears because the stories that Jack Canfield shared reached the core of my soul.

How I raised myself from Failure to success in Selling – while the book was a little dry at times for my liking, there was some valuable information I was able to gain. If you’re in business, then selling can be the most challenging thing on the planet, especially if you don’t want to feel like a can of Spam. It highlights the message of there is an art of conversation that happens, by asking why.

I hope I screw this up – I didn’t know what to make of this at first but through listening to Kyle Cease, I learned to appreciate his message and even his humor. There is no right or wrong answer to do this life and screwing things up can often lead you to the path you want to be on in the first place.

Unfu*k Yourself … and it was and wasn’t what I expected. Certainly, I expected the cursing but I didn’t expect to hear the Scottish voice to be so … I don’t know… it was funny and real and true. It was like the wakeup call I needed and just keep doing my thing – whatever that may be.

Rising Strong is what I am currently listening too and only a few chapters in, it already resonates and affirms that I am on the path I want to and need to be on.

The only physical book I read was Expert Secrets by Russel Brunson and I love the way he talked about stepping into leadership. Just prior to reading his book, I read She Means Business and there was a definite correlation between the two books for me. Sometimes we don’t see the leader we are until we are ready to.

What one book has changed your life that is not on this list and I need to be listening to or reading?

 

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8 Steps to elevating your life

8 Steps to elevating your life

The 2018 Theme for Rebel Shine is YOU RISE ABOVE

And of course, that means talking about how you can elevate your life!

Your life doesn’t have to be what it is now if you make the decision to create change because that is all it takes!

Decide what you really want and how you want your life to feel like. Acknowledge your dreams and passions and choose to follow them.

Decide to not be afraid to speak your truth! Speak up and speak out – for yourself and for those who don’t have a voice. Speak from your soul with clarity and purpose.

Decide to listen to your inner voice and intuition in your life. Don’t judge or think too far ahead and be present with an open mind.

Decide to get back up any time you fall. We all fall down sometimes, it’s life but that isn’t an invitation to stay down, feeling defeated. Instead, dig deep into your inner strength.

Decide who will be part of your life and who won’t be. You will have a hard time elevating your life when you allow negative ninnies, naysayers, and doubters into your inner circle. So choose wisely who you spend time with.

Decide to let go of pain and anger because it doesn’t serve you going forward. In fact, it will hold you back like you’ve been shackled to an invisible cage. It’s not about forgiving those that hurt you, but freeing yourself!

Decide to make time for knowledge! I am not saying don’t watch TV but spend 30-minutes or 1-hour learning. You can still watch TV but perhaps have this at the bottom of the priority list.

Decide to look forward and not backward. You can’t create the life you want and elevate you when you keep looking back at all that happened. Learn from your past and use that knowledge to go up and forward.

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How imagination can help you win at life

How imagination can help you win at life

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been an artist, embracing and expressing myself in different forms. But it’s also held me back and as I dove more into personal development it showed me how much.

Especially when I sold my artwork at festivals and people would tell me one or all of the following:

  • I wish I had your talent
  • I am not creative
  • I don’t have the skills

And the truth is that they are false and limiting beliefs you picked up or imposed on yourself throughout the years.

But just because you don’t write, draw, crochet or paint, doesn’t mean you don’t have talent, that you are not creative or have skills. They may just be looking a bit different what is being understood as creative, talented or skilled.

You at some point made the decision to not bother because you haven’t given yourself permission to feel talented, to be skilled or feel creative.

Those words: talented, skilled, creative…they are open to interpretation!

And what does that have to do with imagination?

Only everything!

Think back for a moment to your childhood and remember the times you

  • were in art class and were given a prompt
  • were hanging out at the playground with your peers
  • were playing with your siblings or friends

And then remember the games you played, the stories you told and the dreams you talked about of what you would become one day or do for a living.
This was imagination at play.

You didn’t wonder or tell yourself that you are not talented, creative or skilled.

If you can see it in your mind, you can hold it in your hand. Bob Proctor

Imagination moves you into visualizing what you love to be, do and have.
Imagination taps into your current talents and gives you a starting point.
Imagination seeks out your inner child that believed in the impossible.

When I was about 13 years old, I dreamed of being a famous singer and actress. I would sing loudly going to the grocery store. I didn’t know then that this isn’t the way to be discovered, but I fueled my imagination and believed it was possible.

Now I am not a famous singer and actress and enjoy a night out singing karaoke, but more importantly, I have learned to use that imagination of when I was a teenager to fuel my dreams.

When you say you don’t have skills, talents or that you are creative, maybe it’s time to challenge yourself.

Is there a specific thing you would like to be doing but made excuses because you or someone else told you that you are not talented?

Have you bothered to take a class to learn a talent or a skill?

Have you ever solved a problem?

Have you ever helped someone with something that they perhaps didn’t know?

Do you have a career that requires specific knowledge?

I ask these questions so you can be honest with yourself about your talents, skills and your creativity.

A bookkeeper has a skill and a talent.
Tax accountants are creative (and not in an illegal way)
Musicians are creative – some natural an some have dedicated themselves to a skill.
Handymen are skilled, talented and creative.
Mechanics are skilled, talented and creative.
Real Estate agents? Yep them too.

And they every one of them has or is always tapping into their imagination in order to do what they love to do.

So isn’t it time that you too embrace your imagination, to give yourself permission to believe it’s possible and decide to follow the activities you would like to be doing.

Saying I wish has never made dreams come true.

Even lottery winners had to take action.

Deciding and committing, now that has changed lives.

You are only limited by your own thoughts and ideas of what life is or should be.

If you want to win at life, tap into your desires: What do you want to do?

It doesn’t have to be to make a living, it could be just a hobby.

  • Now take that and make it a goal.
  • Develop an action plan.
  • Commit to your goal and plan.

And if your objections is that you don’t have time, then frankly it isn’t important enough to you.

But in as little as 5-minutes a day you could

  • Learn a new skill that will help you move forward
  • Embrace current talents and expand on them
  • Acknowledge that you are a creative human being

So if you really want to win at life, then tap into that imagination of yours and know that no matter what you do for a living or have as a hobby, you are creative, talented and skilled.

And as always,

remember that you are one decision away.

Cheers,

Petra

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In Rebel Shine, you will rise above the doubts, limiting beliefs and your old stories, because isn’t it time that it’s time you tap into your inner child and not be inhibited by outside constraints?

Soul Approved: How to unleash yourself to have an awesome life

Soul Approved: How to unleash yourself to have an awesome life

If there is one thing I know all too well, it’s the feeling of the box getting smaller and the air is getting tighter. It’s becoming unmanageable to move and breathe within your space that you call life.

And it all comes from being chained to a life you think you are supposed to create because it’s what you should do.

  • You should do this for a living because it’s the safe way
  • You should act and behave this way or that way because it’s the nice way
  • You should put yourself first because everyone else is more important

But are not feeling like you’re suffocating and unable to move in the direction you want to go?

Yes, you have the option to stay chained in the conformity of your box where it feels cozy and safe – but at what cost?

Do you really want to look back at your life and say

  • I wish I did __________
  • I’m sad I didn’t _______
  • I regret not to ________

You’re tired and wonder what the heck this life is all about.

And the truth (it might hurt a little)

You’ve been chained to someone else’s idea of a life!

And the time has come for you to break free!

It’s time to unleash yourself!

The time has come that you stop

  • Being afraid of failure
  • Believing you’re not good enough
  • Talk yourself out of the things you want to do
  • Keeping your thoughts to yourself
  • Living a life designed by someone else

Deep down you know that you

  • Have incredible ideas
  • Have a voice that matters
  • Have to step out of the comfort zone

It isn’t enough to just exist anymore because you know there’s so much more to life than live in a box of shoulds.

No doubt unleashing yourself will be uncomfortable – all growing pains are – as you start being the person you’ve been all along but too afraid to share you with the world.

Your life can change at a moments notice.

Anytime you get in the car, you *could* get into an accident and yet here you still getting in the car every day.

So why not face your fears and do what you to want to do and start being true to yourself?

What do you have to lose?

Nothing!

Because you aren’t going to be further ahead if you fail but you are going to be wiser through the lessons that emerge through your willingness to put yourself first for a change.

Life is a journey and you will die one day – this is a fact!

So why not make this the best journey you can imagine by finally breaking free from the chains of conformity and embrace who you are?

When you’re ready to have an awesome life, it’s time to break those chains!

Remember, you’re one decision away!

Cheers,
Petra

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