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Remove the “shoulds” from your life

A quick search on my blog posts, I can see a handful of times I have told you to “should” something.

And it’s really a word that can feel incredibly heavy.

Seriously, it’s hard to know what you want when you are “shoulding” all over yourself.

Do you remember your parents telling “you should do x, y and z so you can _______”

Or maybe “you should A, because _______”.

Or maybe even teachers, coaches and peers have given you a bunch of shoulds.

And let me tell you, it’s all a freaking set up.

It set’s you up for a life that isn’t yours to live. In fact, it creates a life on someone else’s terms. It seriously interferes with the heart of the matter:

Doing what you want by doing what you love!

For example, parents have told you that you should have good grades, so you can go to college, earning a degree chosen by your parents.

Or maybe your gym coach told you, that you should practice 5 days out of the week if you wanted to become a competitor. Now don’t get me wrong, becoming the best at something takes dedication and hard work and yes even practicing 5 days a week.

But if it’s a should and not something you want to do, it feels heavy.

A friend of mine is a writer and she believed that she “should’ be a coach. She believed that is what she had to do in order to reach her destination: To be a writer.

Should, just like doubt, kills dreams!

This is the kind of stuff that happens when you listen to other people and not your intuition.

Because of other people “shoulding” all over you, you will talk yourself out of it.

And it feels heavy because it doesn’t excite you or inspire you to show up.

The moment you let go of all the shoulds you will experience a sense of relief, a sense of freedom if you will. You will feel lighter because you are now willing to follow your intuition and your heart!


Intuition Summit

The Radical Sacred Life Summit: Awaken Intuition, Experience Love, Stop Anxiety

When was the last time you felt TOTALLY in sync with your intuition, love, sensuality and sense of peace?

You might be feeling unloved, broken or stuck, right this very moment.

You probably have experienced life transitions and situations that have weighed on you.

When was the last time you put YOU FIRST and really took care of your body, mind and spirit like THIS?

I know that I have been there with some big changes and hard decisions that were almost too big to handle.

I’m speaking about Self-Love, Self-Strong & Soulful Energy. In my interview, I’m sharing a bit of my PERSONAL journey. The one that doesn’t allow me to question my intuition ever again and the one that rattled me to my core. You hear me talk about it all the time, but never in this much detail than in the intimate interview with Michele – and it’s a conversation about life, love and healing.

But I am not the only one! This summit has an amazing team of experts and every one of us is making a difference. You’ll meet over a dozen incredible life-thinkers and problem solvers who’ve come together at the request of my friend Michele Paiva, a licensed psychotherapist and coach who has taught and guided hundreds of people on every continent.

Join us!

The Radical Sacred Life Summit: Awaken Intuition, Experience Love, Stop Anxiety begins April 30th and yes, it’s totally free but there are some incredibly amazing bonuses if you want to like a Certificate of Ascension!

Click here to get connected to your truth again!

Together, we want to help you to stop living a half-life of feeling bad about yourself, missing who you used to be instead of living a life so full of radical peacefulness, happiness and bliss that you never stop pinching yourself!


Life and Business Goals in 2017 – Be, Do and Have Goals

When I created my Colorful workbook, I purposely create the goal section with be, do and have goals. In the past, I would make lists and lists of goals and found myself incredibly overwhelmed. By breaking down my goals into Be, Do and Have, I am able to really tune in who I want to be, what I want to do and call in what I want to have.

Who I want to be:

  • The best me every day
  • A partner for life .. hint hint
  • Successful Business Owner – doing it my way
  • Speaker on Stage – put an application in for an opportunity! Big Scary Goal!
  • Best Selling Author – working on a book now!
  • Healthy and Fit – regular workouts, more water intake, regular movement
  • An inspiration to 5,000+ women
  • Be a podcaster
  • Be featured on elephant journal, Huffington post (again),

What do I want to do:

  • Change the lives of 5,000+ women
  • Travel to New York
  • Travel to New Mexico
  • See Bon Jovi in Concert
  • Speak on Stage
  • Write Books – I have several planned already
  • Hike Often
  • Go camping
  • Read Books for Business & Personal Development
  • Take the Citizenship test
  • Give 10% of my income to organizations I believe in
  • Run 6 Challenges
  • Invest in my business through courses, coaching and outsourcing
  • Write guest posts
  • Finish my color therapy course and holisitic nutrition course
  • Create art, lots and lots of art
  • Work in a way that feels good to me
  • Grow my own food
  • Pay down debt

What I want to Have:

  • A garden with vegetables we actually eat
  • Remodeled Kitchen and Bathrooms
  • New appliances
  • A party for when I become a citizen
  • A business I love that allows me to create
  • Kia Soul in Purple with Teal Trim
  • Freedom, Fun, and Joy
  • Entrepreneurial Friends – worldwide. I already am well on the way.

Just looking at this list makes me feel really good and less overwhelming.

Every day I get to ask myself how I can experience more freedom, fun, and joy.

Every day I get to tune in on how to be the best me and how I want to show up in this world. Every day I am presented with new opportunities bringing me closer to it all.

What is your Be, Do and Have Goals in 2017? Share in the comments!


How to use the Create your Colorful 2017 Workbook

I wanted to take some time and review my workbook with you. I am already head over heels into planning my own colorful 2017 and couldn’t be more excited about the things to come.

It is time to dream and to dream big.

It’s time to call in the vision you have of who you want to become, the things you want to do and all that you want to have.

Creating your colorful life is a personal journey of creating your vision.

Deciding what you are letting go off.

Being mindful about your mindset and how you want to feel in each moment.


Know where you have been and how you have grown.

Acknowledge what you are willing to release.

What you are giving yourself permission to call into your life.

The workbook is meant to be highly customizable.

Print only what you need so you have the option to print pages multiple times if you are called to.

There is room to reflect on where you are right now with the Flower of Life, so you can tune into who you want to become as you write out your vision and all that you want to do during the year.

The workbook comes with monthly planner pages to map out 3 Goals each month and the main actions that are going to get there.

It comes with mind-maps to help you get a visual on how to put all the pieces of your dreams together.

It has a goal pyramid to help you work backward so you can see all the steps to take and free-writing space to note your thoughts and feelings.

There is no wrong or right way to create your colorful life, there is only your way!


Give yourself permission to dream!



Lennon Steps

Lennon Steps

Lennon’s story is really kind of crazy and maybe even in parts unbelievable except that it is as real as you and me.

You see when he was born, life was complete. I had 3 amazing boys and I was good with this decisions. Little did I know that having my tubes tied perhaps was my saving grace with the years that followed.

Here was this cute little boy (yes I am biased) but life wasn’t cute at all. I knew deep down that something was not right but for the life of me I couldn’t put my finger on it.

All I knew is that I was losing my mind with days of screaming and unable to bring satisfaction to my little guy.

And little did I know that he would bring tremendous amount of hcange to our family. There is no doubt that parts of me are filled with guilt because it caused me to neglect my other children throughout, but I am also so incredibly grateful for having such amazing boys.

There is a level of understanding that sacrifices needed to be made in order to save their brother.

When my prayers were finally were answered and we finally had a diagnoses, Lennon was 4 years old. And he (we) are so lucky that he is still here with us today.

Urea Cycle Disorder is no joke, it’s deadly. It has taken many lives before Lennon and continues to take lives to this day.

And as we ventured onto our journey of living in medical chaos and survival, I started writing. And as we were sitting in Pittsburgh Hospital in January of 2011 and the doctors gave him his third liver, I decided it was time to write a book.

His story needed to be shared because it brings to the forefront what mindset, faith and hope really mean in this world.

And I know full well that it all could have gone so differently.

And I know full well that it still could but I keep the faith and the trust that all will work out with the best intentions.

And I live life with gratitude because if it has taught me one lesson, it is that life is too short and the time is now to take action on your dreams.

You can get the paperback or kindle version here!


Why Gratitude Matters

I have always expressed gratitude when I was down and out with nothing. I have this belief and philosophy if you will that “where there is a will, there is a way”.

It’s so easy to get lost in the struggle, in the frustration of feeling like life will never be what it is you want it to be. And day in and day out, you keep going and you hear it all the time, just be grateful for what you have right now.

There is something about it though that will actually keep you stuck because it’s asking you to be grateful when you don’t know how to pay your bills and you are working so incredibly hard just to survive.

But here is what I know, true and genuine gratitude matters that the half arsed thanks you may be given in whatever situation you are in.

Practicing gratitude only when shit hit’s the fan isn’t really fruitful or beneficial to your stress or your well-being in general.

Gratitude matters every single day and it needs to be a concious part that you are engaging in, be it in a morning or evening routine through writing it down or reciting it in your head.

It’s about really noticing all the small and big things in your life right here and right now, but also calling in all that you really want.

And it matters that you do it every single day, like commit to it and engage with it.

Gratitude is one of those things that helps you truly transform your life and the more you show gratitude, the more you life will improve.

And let me tell you that at some point I only expressed gratitude for what is in the now, never what hasn’t happened yet. But the moment I also wrote out the things I am grateful for that I want to happen in the present moment, consistently every single morning, there was a shift within me but also in my life and business.

I learned some really hard lessons in life to not take anything for granted, which I will write about later this week. With that being said, gratitude comes from within, from the inmaterial things we already have before what it is that you want can actually materialize.