Vision boards become all the rage this time of year and yet I can’t get myself to make one anymore.
Yes, there once was a time where I would diligently find my vision in pictures, glue it to posterboard and infused it with intention.
And in the end, all it did was piss me off.
I get that for some vision boards are the best invention since sliced bread, but I think it’s okay to not have all the feels for them.
So why does the vision board not work for me and maybe even you?
It is lacking in the way I infuse feelings into my vision and transfer them to my goals.
I have experienced more success by simply writing out my vision and reading it often to get the feeling that I supposed a vision board could be doing for you.
By writing out what the year feel be and feel like by reserve engineering, aka looking back, I am giving my soul the position of leadership to guide me. Intuition is its right-hand man, confirming that this is the way to go.
The thing is, visions change… dreams change and therefore goals change.
I can literally write a new vision, during my writing hour in the morning, but a vision board takes way more time and to me feels a little inconvenient.
If a vision board works for you, that’s fantastic! Like seriously, I love that you have found something that works for you.
But if a vision board isn’t working for you and you are trying to find a different way in how to create the life you want, the goals – the dreams and so on, check out my “Create a Vision” Workshop.
It’s a 45-minute video where I share with you how I’ve brought my vision to life and share with how to use the Rebel Soul Handbook – the tool I use every year to create my be, do and have goals.
You will also get the downloadable PDF file of the Rebel Soul Handbook, so you can print it and start your journey using your soul guidance to bring your vision to life.
Not only do I get to embody the person I want to be based on my vision, but I set goals that feel good in every fiber of my being… and it’s based on my inner guidance.
There is power in writing it down and if you’ve struggled with vision boards, it’s time to give the Rebel Soul Handbook a try.
You, me and everyone else in this world have a vision!
Falling into the abyss of doing it like everyone else because it’s what you “should” do. But what if you could create your vision, bring it to life without falling into the dark hole of conformity?
Forging your own path is a framework to read, learn and mold from. It’s part of the blueprint that you use to map out the adventure of a lifetime. It’s knowing that even the best laid out plans, sometimes fail. It’s embracing the challenges and detours along the way.
But it is not the know it all answer to solving your problems, another possible solution to forging your own path. More than anything else, it’s becoming who you are, by undoing who you think you should be. It’s defining your own rules and follow your own ideas because that next one could change your life.
I wrote, “Forge your own Path” not only because this is what I have been doing most of my life without even knowing this is what I did. You see, I tried to be the 1950’s housewife, the model employee and even the picture perfect mother.
And every fiber of my being told me it was all wrong.
Forging your own path isn’t easy, but I do believe you will agree with me when I say, it will totally be worth it!
This book emerged onto the horizon on accidental purpose. I am knee deep into my first fiction book that I am writing, and without fail, more book ideas have been inspired by it all. I struggled for awhile to write this book only to realize that I had started this book with a different title back in February. So anyway, here it is… words unleashed into the world once again!
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I’ve always felt different since I was very little. Like I didn’t fit in or belonged anywhere. This was fueled by being a foster kid and then later when I immigrated to the U.S.
It’s like I didn’t have a place to call home and walking lost in this world trying to find my way.
It didn’t help me that I felt things so strongly, knew the feelings of those around me even if we never spoke about them. It’s then I discovered that I am an empath and that I also am clairsentient, which to me, of course, goes hand in hand.
But there was more. Because I don’t follow mainstream very easily and it had me again wondering what was wrong with me? Aside, the fact, that I didn’t have to like what other people liked, it still made me feel like I didn’t fit in anywhere.
It became frustrating, to say the least. I wanted to talk about the latest personal development book, but couldn’t/can’t get myself to read it. I wanted to talk about the latest TV Show, to have that thing in common with others. But it still eluded me.
But there is always light at the end of the tunnel and as I was on my own journey, I started paying attention to my intuition. I analyzed what it meant to the past and current situations, and came to the conclusion that my intuition repels what does not move me forward.
Think about it, if your gut, your intuition gives you a big fat no, it’s doing it because it’s your internal knowledge center. It’s connected to the higher powers that be to ensure that you are walking the path that is only intended for you.
This means that being a rebel, going against the status quo is the thing you ought to be doing. Even if it means you get the eye roll or question from those around you that may not understand.
And in the end, I am not so much different and neither are you.
Feelings and thoughts are universal.
This is how your journey to self-acceptance comes about. When you can recognize that there is a commonality among us, that in the end, we want a life that feels amazing and that we are all just going differently about it.
I believe that we all are here to give each other a different perspective, to learn and grow from. And that may just be the best thing ever.
There is no one size, one system or one path that fits all. To think that there could be is an illusion and a huge disservice to you.
Sure, there are elements that may have commonality and this is where these three tips can come in handy!
Be open to learning
You don’t know, what you don’t know and the only way to know is to learn. Shutting yourself out from the openness to new information causes you to stay stuck and hinders the progress you would like to see in your life or business.
Tune into your intuition
Your intuition will help you discern what feels good, what information you want to apply and guides you on your own journey. They someone achieves their goals, may not be your way, trust that this is okay. Your intuition has no room for envy on how someone achieves their success. We are all on a different path and while the journey can look similar, how it’s achieved may not be.
Implement what feels good
When you have opened yourself to learning and taken in the information, given your intuition permission to guide you, it’s time to implement what feels good. Sure, there are things we all have to do that we don’t enjoy and some of those things can and ought to be delegated, but not everything can be. But the more you do that feels good, the less you are avoiding those that don’t.
Some things that can help is to look at it from a new perspective. Instead of saying “I have to do x, y, and z… you could simply say “I get to do x, y, and z …”
You don’t have to do anything, okay well except maybe pay taxes and such, but when it comes to your life or your business. you don’t have to do anything except what you want.
There’s is no diet that is the true and right way.
There’s no goal setting that is true and the right way.
There’s no business system that is true and the right way.
There is, however, your way.
And what that looks like is totally up to you.
You just have to decide what it is you want, start learning and begin to implement.
A quick search on my blog posts, I can see a handful of times I have told you to “should” something.
And it’s really a word that can feel incredibly heavy.
Seriously, it’s hard to know what you want when you are “shoulding” all over yourself.
Do you remember your parents telling “you should do x, y and z so you can _______”?
Or maybe “you should A, because _______”.
Or maybe even teachers, coaches and peers have given you a bunch of shoulds.
And let me tell you, it’s all a freaking set up.
It set’s you up for a life that isn’t yours to live. In fact, it creates a life on someone else’s terms. It seriously interferes with the heart of the matter:
Doing what you want by doing what you love!
For example, parents have told you that you should have good grades, so you can go to college, earning a degree chosen by your parents.
Or maybe your gym coach told you, that you should practice 5 days out of the week if you wanted to become a competitor. Now don’t get me wrong, becoming the best at something takes dedication and hard work and yes even practicing 5 days a week.
But if it’s a should and not something you want to do, it feels heavy.
A friend of mine is a writer and she believed that she “should’ be a coach. She believed that is what she had to do to reach her destination: To be a writer.
Should, just like doubt, kills dreams!
This is the kind of stuff that happens when you listen to other people and not your intuition.
Because of other people “shoulding” all over you, you will talk yourself out of it.
And it feels heavy because it doesn’t excite you or inspire you to show up.
The moment you let go of all the shoulds you will experience a sense of relief, a sense of freedom if you will. You will feel lighter because you are now willing to follow your intuition and your heart!