There are always lessons to be learned in life if you are open to recognizing them and most importantly if you are willing to listen.
My son Lennon has been changing people’s lives, inspiring them and motivating them into being more present, to not take anything for granted and also showing the shadow side of life is too short to be miserable.
When I tell people that, Lennon is my greatest teacher on how to do life, I am not joking.
The kid knows what he wants and he’s quite verbal about it too.
And what you may not know, if you’ve never heard about Lennon, read the blog posts or the book is that he survived his first 4 years of life, living with a potentially fatal rare genetic disorder. And since it was undiagnosed for some time, his brain took a little bit of a hit in the cognitive area – but don’t let that fool you.
He is often one of the smartest people in the circle. His wisdom is often leaving me speechless.
The other day he said:
You have to be ready at some point, so why not be ready now?
Sure, you could delay being ready but aren’t you just putting off the inevitable?
The moment you decide to go after what you want – your dreams, goals and a life that feels good – is the moment you are ready. You can, of course, keep talking yourself out of it but why? What’s the point?
- Start that business
- Write that Book
- Get healthy
Be ready now and stop waiting for one day.
It isn’t always about the things he said, although they are brilliant and yes I realize I may be a little bias, but the thought has crossed my mind that people needed to spend time with him and hear his story. He’d never go for it and I got to respect that. That, of course, doesn’t mean I won’t share life lessons along the way.
Like anytime I hear someone complain about how shitty life is or how miserable they are.
Because of the genetic disorder becoming unmanagable after his diagnosis, it was recommended that he has a liver transplant because while there is no cure, this can change his life for the better. And so that’s what we did but we couldn’t fathom the fact that he’d have 3 liver transplants between the ages 5-8 and that things were really tricky for a while. (You can read about his journey in Lennon Steps).
But here’s the thing, no matter how dicey things were, how painful everything was (physically or emotionally), he got up and did what he needed to do. That doesn’t mean he didn’t complain but it seemed he just knew what he needed to do in order to get home from the hospital or get back to school.
Or like now where he’s saving up for an XBOX One and he’s diligent about the chores that help him earn money.
And some days are hit or miss, but he’s never quit if it’s something he wants.
I think that’s an important lesson.
Don’t quit the life you want to have.
It takes dedication, commitment, and a willingness to go against the status quo. Even if it means people don’t like you or you don’t fit in.
Lennon isn’t worried about fitting in.
Lennon is worried about what video game he’s going to play.
So, don’t worry about fitting in, instead figure out what you are going to do next that you want to do and of course could have an impact on your life.
Worry (not really) about the important stuff. Get excited (Yes this) about it!
Choose to wake up with joy in your heart!
There aren’t many days I recall Lennon ever to be angry or grumpy (unless the pain was too much). That doesn’t mean he doesn’t get upset, it just doesn’t stick around long enough. I think he doesn’t know how to hold a grudge of any kind because he just is filled with joy and it shows.
There’s something very genuine about it and it always reminds me that you get to choose how you feel, how you engage, express yourself.
Choose to be angry, you’ll feel miserable and wonder when life will change.
Choose to feel and be joy, life looks different filled with gratitude and like an adventure.
What will you choose?
There’s no denying that I love my coffee. Truth be told, I’ve been drinking coffee since I was a teenager and, yes I am slightly addicted (and please spare me all the health reasons of why I should stop drinking coffee).
You see, I come from a family of coffee drinkers and at one point in my life, I was drinking coffee all day long, an average of 2 pots a day.
like love coffee. And there were times where I had to make changes because in my last pregnancy the coffee was gross, but due to my slight coffee addiction, the headaches were insane. And so I added creamer and a few pounds.
I’ve since gone back to black coffee and drink about 3-5 cups depending when I wake up. I switched to water for the rest of the day.
I applaud the person who decided that this one little bean and engaging it with water came up with this nectar.
I sometimes, wake up to coffee in bed with a few moments of closeness with my partner.
And at other times, I sit on my deck with my cup of coffee and my journal, enjoying the sounds of nature that surrounds our home.
This is a perfect start to my day.
Coffee and I have the perfect relationship because coffee understands, and it also doesn’t talk back.
I sit and ponder about the day, conjuring ideas and my next steps. And it’s beautiful.
I know coffee get’s a bad rap at times and other’s simply don’t like it. I don’t like matcha green tea. It’s all good!
We all over our likes and dislikes and we all choose what we allow to be part of our dreams.
I choose coffee.
There was a time where my love for coffee was frowned upon. And instead, I chose to embrace it.
There’s nothing wrong with turning your coffee, or tea or other favorite things into your dreams.
But coffee and me, we get along.
I created this t-shirt to show my love for coffee and that it is really a part of my life.
That idea…. that dream in your heart and in your head, is begging you to do something about it.
You wake up thinking about it… you go to sleep thinking about it and I am here to tell you that if you don’t do something about that, it will never go away.
And you know deep down that unless you get over your fear, it is never going to happen.
But you must decide whether you are going to listen to that fear or if you are stepping up and out and take action anyway.
It’s time to stop the bullshit stories you tell yourself of how you can’t and really dig deep into what is stopping you.
And if I was a betting person, I venture to say you are being held back because
- you don’t feel good enough
- you don’t’ feel smart enough
- you worry about what other people will think
- you worry about failure before you have even started
It’s all hogwash! These are all stories you have learned along the way, and really, they are no longer serving you, because
You are enough!
You are smart!
And really who cares what people think? 9 times out of 10 those people are afraid to take action, so how about you pave the way?
And failure… failure is a good thing… it’s allowing you to see what is or isn’t working and then revamp how you are going about it.
Those ideas that have been swirling in your head, they are yours for the taking. They come to you because you have something amazing to offer to this world.
Incredible gifts to share and how dare you to deny others from what you are so carefully hiding.
The pain of not taking action, of not doing that thing, ask you: Is it worth it?
Because I know you are aching to bring it to life.
- Time to stop hiding.
- Time to stop worrying about being enough.
- Time to stop worrying about whether people will like you or not!
It is time to start doing!
Now that you have a vision of your future of what you want to be, do and have, it’s time to refine some of your ideas. My favorite exercise to release all those ideas is to brainstorm. Looking at the vision you have created, what will help you get there.
Take 15-20 minutes to brainstorm some ideas. It doesn’t matter how small or big they are. Right now, it’s just about finding all the possibilities, personally and professionally.
Once you have all ideas jotted down, look at your list and see what gets you so excited that you are just about laughing or crying at the same time. Your heart is singing, your mind is going a million miles an hour. Also, take note of what feels crazy and insane and so far out of reach but wouldn’t it be amazing if that was a real thing?
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed with your list of ideas, and I will discuss setting a goal in the next section. But for now, take a deep breath and look at all those possibilities. All those ideas or just a few of those thoughts can help you create your vision. Some of them won’t even work at all or are not worthy of consideration. All of which is okay.
So, what do you do with all those ideas?
I like to rate them according to how I feel about them and level of importance. As you look at your brainstorming list, write a feeling word next to them. And then look at your list again and give it rate them to what feels most important.
As you are rating the priority of each possibility, consider:
- What would it mean if you didn’t act on this idea?
- What is the best or the worst thing that could happen?
- What would it mean if you did take action on this idea?
- How does it relate to your overall vision?
Don’t be afraid to compare each idea to the next. For example, if part of your vision is to write a book or take dance lessons, which one is more important? If you want to start a business and learn how to set boundaries, which is more important. Continue this until you reach that one thing you want to start right now.
This doesn’t mean you couldn’t start doing some of the other things, but focus on one goal and get started as you create your mind set on fire.