There’s no denying that I love my coffee. Truth be told, I’ve been drinking coffee since I was a teenager and, yes I am slightly addicted (and please spare me all the health reasons of why I should stop drinking coffee).
You see, I come from a family of coffee drinkers and at one point in my life, I was drinking coffee all day long, an average of 2 pots a day.
like love coffee. And there were times where I had to make changes because in my last pregnancy the coffee was gross, but due to my slight coffee addiction, the headaches were insane. And so I added creamer and a few pounds.
I’ve since gone back to black coffee and drink about 3-5 cups depending when I wake up. I switched to water for the rest of the day.
I applaud the person who decided that this one little bean and engaging it with water came up with this nectar.
I sometimes, wake up to coffee in bed with a few moments of closeness with my partner.
And at other times, I sit on my deck with my cup of coffee and my journal, enjoying the sounds of nature that surrounds our home.
This is a perfect start to my day.
Coffee and I have the perfect relationship because coffee understands, and it also doesn’t talk back.
I sit and ponder about the day, conjuring ideas and my next steps. And it’s beautiful.
I know coffee get’s a bad rap at times and other’s simply don’t like it. I don’t like matcha green tea. It’s all good!
We all over our likes and dislikes and we all choose what we allow to be part of our dreams.
I choose coffee.
There was a time where my love for coffee was frowned upon. And instead, I chose to embrace it.
There’s nothing wrong with turning your coffee, or tea or other favorite things into your dreams.
But coffee and me, we get along.
I created this t-shirt to show my love for coffee and that it is really a part of my life.
That idea…. that dream in your heart and in your head, is begging you to do something about it.
You wake up thinking about it… you go to sleep thinking about it and I am here to tell you that if you don’t do something about that, it will never go away.
And you know deep down that unless you get over your fear, it is never going to happen.
But you must decide whether you are going to listen to that fear or if you are stepping up and out and take action anyway.
It’s time to stop the bullshit stories you tell yourself of how you can’t and really dig deep into what is stopping you.
And if I was a betting person, I venture to say you are being held back because
- you don’t feel good enough
- you don’t’ feel smart enough
- you worry about what other people will think
- you worry about failure before you have even started
It’s all hogwash! These are all stories you have learned along the way, and really, they are no longer serving you, because
You are enough!
You are smart!
And really who cares what people think? 9 times out of 10 those people are afraid to take action, so how about you pave the way?
And failure… failure is a good thing… it’s allowing you to see what is or isn’t working and then revamp how you are going about it.
Those ideas that have been swirling in your head, they are yours for the taking. They come to you because you have something amazing to offer to this world.
Incredible gifts to share and how dare you to deny others from what you are so carefully hiding.
The pain of not taking action, of not doing that thing, ask you: Is it worth it?
Because I know you are aching to bring it to life.
- Time to stop hiding.
- Time to stop worrying about being enough.
- Time to stop worrying about whether people will like you or not!
It is time to start doing!
Now that you have a vision of your future of what you want to be, do and have, it’s time to refine some of your ideas. My favorite exercise to release all those ideas is to brainstorm. Looking at the vision you have created, what will help you get there.
Take 15-20 minutes to brainstorm some ideas. It doesn’t matter how small or big they are. Right now, it’s just about finding all the possibilities, personally and professionally.
Once you have all ideas jotted down, look at your list and see what gets you so excited that you are just about laughing or crying at the same time. Your heart is singing, your mind is going a million miles an hour. Also, take note of what feels crazy and insane and so far out of reach but wouldn’t it be amazing if that was a real thing?
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed with your list of ideas, and I will discuss setting a goal in the next section. But for now, take a deep breath and look at all those possibilities. All those ideas or just a few of those thoughts can help you create your vision. Some of them won’t even work at all or are not worthy of consideration. All of which is okay.
So, what do you do with all those ideas?
I like to rate them according to how I feel about them and level of importance. As you look at your brainstorming list, write a feeling word next to them. And then look at your list again and give it rate them to what feels most important.
As you are rating the priority of each possibility, consider:
- What would it mean if you didn’t act on this idea?
- What is the best or the worst thing that could happen?
- What would it mean if you did take action on this idea?
- How does it relate to your overall vision?
Don’t be afraid to compare each idea to the next. For example, if part of your vision is to write a book or take dance lessons, which one is more important? If you want to start a business and learn how to set boundaries, which is more important. Continue this until you reach that one thing you want to start right now.
This doesn’t mean you couldn’t start doing some of the other things, but focus on one goal and get started as you create your mind set on fire.
Oh, you know it’s only those little nudges that tell you to take action. Intuition is different from your ego. Ego will try to talk you out of taking action. It will try to convince you that your dream and vision is just a silly notion and why bother.
Your intuition is your inner compass of moving forward, calling you into action. Go quietly for just a moment and listen to your intuition. Notice what it is telling you and the feeling that comes up. But let’ not overcomplicate things, which is something we all tend to do.
Most common response to vision is “I don’t know how to get there”. And that is scary but as brilliant as you are, you know there is away, and there is always a search engine with the answer. Saying you don’t know how to get there, disappoints you because you are backing out on the commitment you have made to your vision.
Intuition is also the voice that tells you, nope this doesn’t feel aligned with who you are. But how do you tell the difference between intuition and ego?
Journal it out. Write about it. Acknowledge any fears, resistance that may come up and see how you feel afterwards. If it’s still a nope and you are left with that uncomfortable feeling in your gut, then your intuition is telling you either that it’s not for you, or at least not right now.
Give yourself permission to change goals and revisit the list of your ideas. Remember not all your ideas are going to be great or awesome. I once decided that opening a retail store supporting artist would be exactly the thing I wanted to do for the rest of my life. I closed the store a year later.
I stuck with it for a year but 6 months in, I hated it.
My intuition told me that this isn’t my thing. Being stuck in a store 5-7 days a week, not having the freedom that I wanted, just wasn’t my thing. I worked through the pain of it not being the success I had hoped for.
And then I wrote out my vision of what I wanted to achieve in life, and I realized that retail with a physical store front was and is not part of my vision. Be okay with your vision changing and trust your intuition. It is after all the best navigational system we have
For more on creating your vision, check out this blog post!
Last week, I took the day off.
No social media, no content creation for blog posts or courses. Nothing.
And it was the most incredible fun day I have had in quite some time.
It was a day in the waves, playing in the sand and eating dinner at sunset.
But there are amazing lessons I learned:
Taking time off is vital for memories and recharging.
The memories I have made with my family can’t be replaced. My family is as much as part of the life I am experiencing and it doesn’t need to involve work all the time. Getting away together just for a day brought joy and fun for all of us.
Inspiration will hit when you are not trying so hard
One of the challenges is to come up with new content, new ideas and all the things we do in running our business – to achieve the life we want. While being disconnected from my email and Facebook, I had three new inspirations and ideas plus new content for the blog.
Taking time off is a great reminder of why we do what we do
We all start on our journey to create a life that feels good. But feeling good doesn’t always involve work. Being able to eat dinner at sunset, seeing my kiddo amazed at the pigeons (yes pigeons – we too thought it was odd) and feel grateful for being able to do these things and to have those experiences – it’s just good stuff.
Freedom is the ability to take detours
Quite often we avoid detours because that means it may take longer to get where we are trying to go. We decided to take a different way home and it added 2 extra hours to our drive. The ability to handle the challenge without getting too aggravated or too much negativity, that’s growth. And even in the moment, I was feeling myself getting frustrated, I reminded myself that my life is about freedom and that sometimes it means taking detours.