3 Ways to Stop the Overwhelm dead in it’s tracks

3 Ways to Stop the Overwhelm dead in it’s tracks

Sometimes the biggest obstacle you face in moving forward after a crisis or major change has occurred in your life is your own sense of overwhelm. It’s scary to wonder where to go from here or how to dig yourself out of a tough situation.

Sometimes it just all seems like too much. And I know even for me that is true on numerous occasions. As I think back to the day when my son was diagnosed with his genetic disorder, I kept saying over and over again “Why me? Have I not been through enough already? Why my child? Why must we face another thing”?

And even with less crazy situations, you can experience the same emotions and while I advocate having some kind of plan on hand. You can’t prepare for all situations but when you can approach it with a level head, then you can come up with a plan, break it down and implement it!

Keep reading to learn how you can stop the overwhelm by setting smaller goals you can more readily attain.

Break It Down

I recently shared with you how journaling can help get your worries out of your head so that you can start to face them head-on. Brainstorming works much the same way. Take some time to write down all of the ideas you have for ways you can move ahead in your current situation. No matter how small or how far-fetched, just get them out. Then begin to break it all down into tangible, manageable and realistic steps you can actually take to overcome your problem. This act alone may help you to feel less stress and more hopeful, as you can now see the possibilities that may have been blurred before.

Set Milestones

Next, you’ll want to set some milestones or checkpoints to help to keep yourself on track. Again, consider taking baby steps to help you overcome the overwhelm by setting your check-ins fairly regularly. Making your first goal post something readily attainable will help to increase your confidence, as well as your motivation to make it to the next milestone. Creating these assessment points also forces you to develop some sort of plan for your goal, rather than just hoping things will get better.

Review Regularly

Take time to regularly review your original goal in order to be sure it’s still working for you or that you’re even still on the right path. Sometimes we find ourselves set on achieving something that’s no longer in our best interests simply because we’re too stubborn or scared to assess our circumstances. Reflect honestly on where you’re going looking back on the milestones you’ve passed so far. If it feels right in your gut, keep on keeping on. Should something seem off or if you’re not making the progress you’d hoped, go back to the drawing board. Take notes on your situation, jotting down your ultimate desire and brainstorming steps to help you attain it. Then begin anew with your revised game plan.

Doing something is almost always better than doing nothing. This is true when facing times of change, for sure. Follow these suggestions for gaining control over the obstacles in your life and moving ahead one baby step at a time. You’ll soon see that what you want can be achieved and your troubles can be overcome.

3 Tips on doing it all your way

There is no one size, one system or one path that fits all. To think that there could be is an illusion and a huge disservice to you.

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Sure, there are elements that may have commonality and this is where these three tips can come in handy!

Be open to learning

You don’t know, what you don’t know and the only way to know is to learn. Shutting yourself out from the openness to new information causes you to stay stuck and hinders the progress you would like to see in your life or business.

Tune into your intuition

Your intuition will help you discern what feels good, what information you want to apply and guides you on your own journey. They someone achieves their goals, may not be your way, trust that this is okay. Your intuition has no room for envy on how someone achieves their success. We are all on a different path and while the journey can look similar, how it’s achieved may not be.

Implement what feels good

When you have opened yourself to learning and taken in the information, given your intuition permission to guide you, it’s time to implement what feels good. Sure, there are things we all have to do that we don’t enjoy and some of those things can and ought to be delegated, but not everything can be. But the more you do that feels good, the less you are avoiding those that don’t.

Some things that can help is to look at it from a new perspective. Instead of saying “I have to do x, y, and z… you could simply say “I get to do x, y, and z …”

You don’t have to do anything, okay well except maybe pay taxes and such, but when it comes to your life or your business. you don’t have to do anything except what you want.

There’s is no diet that is the true and right way.

There’s no goal setting that is true and the right way.

There’s no business system that is true and the right way.

There is, however, your way.

And what that looks like is totally up to you.

You just have to decide what it is you want, start learning and begin to implement.

Stop talking and start doing – the time is now!

Stop talking and start doing – the time is now!

painStop talking and start doing – the time is now!

You can talk about your dreams all you want, but they won’t happen if you don’t take action and implement.

  • Have you bought course after course?
  • Signed up for one freebie after the other?
  • Scrolled through Facebook, trying to find the thing that will catapult you forward?

I have totally been there, like knee-deep in “holy crap I don’t know what to do or where to begin”.

And it’s so easy to get overwhelmed with what is the first, second and third step. There is no secret on how to get take action, it comes down to just getting started.

Here are a few things you can do to get you going:

  • Look at your list
  • Pick one thing
  • Do that thing

But perhaps you have this ONE big goal that has a lot of moving parts. The key here is to break down the big goal into all the actions required to make it happen.

Let’s say you are wanting to make X amount of money.

What are the moving pieces to get you there?

  • Grow you Newsletter list
  • Sell x amount of product or service
  • Be visible

Alright, now what?

Let’s break it even down some more:

  • What are the steps to grow your newsletter list?
  • What do you need to do to make an offer for your product or service?
  • How can you be more visible?

And of course, it doesn’t have to be around money. Maybe you want to write a book.

So, what are all the steps needed to write that book?

  • Create an outline
  • Write the words
  • Publish the book

And what are the steps in the process, perhaps you need to decide:

  • How many words a day or week do you need to write?
  • When do you want to publish the book?
  • What do you need to know to publish the book?

The more you can break down your goal, the easier it is to see what you need to do.

Whatever steps and actions you decide on, plan them into your week. Schedule them, give them deadlines etc.

And most importantly COMMIT to making it happen.

  • Stop scrolling through Facebook
  • Stop buying other courses
  • Stop signing up for freebies

Start taking action by implementing!

 The time is now!

 

Say YES to frustration

Say YES to frustration

frustrationAre you feeling frustrated most of the time? Frustration builds on frustration!

The more you focus on being frustrated, the more overwhelmed you become and the more you can’t see all the amazing things in your life that are present.

It’s like we are in this unhealthy relationship with frustration because really, we don’t want to be frustrated but find us constantly battling the war of how to get out of this feeling.

So instead of fighting so hard against it, what if we invited frustration in and say YES instead.

Frustration is here to teach us what we don’t want and it helps us grow because it pushes us out of our comfort zone.

One of my favorite activities is to use a bubble map to help me move through frustration.

I write the frustration in the middle of the paper and then create bubbles around it with possible solutions and action steps. It’s allowing me to acknowledge that I can do something about the situation, I just need to be open and sit for a moment to bring in the ideas to help me move through.

One of the biggest challenges I see is that most of us tend to be frustrated with money. We get stuck thinking we can’t do anything about it and it just is the way it is. But here’s the thing it doesn’t have to be that way. I am using money as an example but you can use this process for just about anything that could use brainstorming and that is essentially what my bubble map is.

As you can see there are several things I can do and I have implemented most of these already for the past few months.

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I think that sometimes when we become frustrated it is because we focus on only one thing, but the heart of an entrepreneur means that they do and have multiple things going on for them.

But the process as mentioned before can apply to just about any kind of frustration you may experience. You can use this or a list version to help you get clear not only what you want but what you can do about it.

My becoming an entrepreneur for me means that I am also traveling and I hadn’t done much of it in the last year. In the next 2 months, I am going to three different states, and this includes fun, business, and personal development.

It was something I wanted but couldn’t see be reality because as a single mother, my support network in helping care for the kids isn’t big and so I held back and made the excuse that I couldn’t.

I created a list of all the people who do support me and connected with them for help and their support and voila I am no longer frustrated about it nor am I holding myself back because of it.

As you maneuver this life and come across frustration, sit for a moment and allow the ideas to come to you because when you are willing to hear them, you will be provided with actions!

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