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Behind the Scenes of Creating 365 Days of Becoming

So I just released 365 Days of Becoming and thought it would be helpful to give you a glimpse of what it took to put this beast of a Journal/Coloring book together.

Because it is a monster of 365 coloring pages and 365 journal pages.

How I came up with the idea!

I had a thought that it would be amazing to create something that helps you step into your power with two of the tools that have been super helpful to me: coloring and writing.

Then I thought, wouldn’t it be awesome to create something for every single day of the year.

And voila, the idea was born. Now I didn’t have a name yet, only that I knew if would have a lot of coloring pages and writing pages.

Getting to work

I started doodling and initially thought it would only take me about 15 days to create all of the pages. Yep, I am a little bit ambitious but I realized really quickly that I needed more time.

I encountered days where I had other things pop up, I just didn’t feel like doodling and for someone who preaches about self-care, I needed to manage my energy.

So, I extended the deadline and found my energy to be on par.

I finished all of the pages in 25 days. Scanned and edited them in another 3 days.

And then it came down to laying it out, creating a spreadsheet to not duplicate any pages and creating the feel I wanted to create with this monster of a book.

From there it was just a matter of getting the proof ready and correct to the printing standards it needed. This took another 5 days.

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The Lessons Learned:

Deadlines are awesome and I kinda live by them but giving yourself enough time is key or you will burn out on the project/goal. If I am ever going to undertake another project like this, I am giving myself a much longer deadline.

Familiarize yourself with all the printing needs from CreateSpace.com. I spend way more time editing and going back and forth to get it to proper printing quality than necessary. There bigger the book, the bigger the gutter and the margins need to be in retrospect.

Take enough days off so I am not burning out on the project. Again this was a big undertaking and 30 days was pushing it and I still had to extend the deadline. Also, there are still other things that need to happen in life and in business and it’s important I don’t neglect them.

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Come away with me and join me in a journaling journey

This blog is about 4 years old and I’ve been wondering when did I become a writer?

Truth be told, I’ve been a writer all my life but when my foster mother read and wrote in my personal diary, I quit.

I struggled with the invasion of my privacy for a long time but it’s a huge part of me. When I first met my ex-husband it was through writing letters that I communicated with him.

And a few years later I had the urge to write a book.

But what is the point in all this?

The blog and my morning journal practice are a huge part of my own journey. Journaling helps you not only solve your own problems but gives you a path of creative expression.

Every time I am faced with a challenge or a fear, journaling about it allows me to check the validity of any fear and find ways through the hurdles.

It can also improve your memory, which in turn can help you be more productive.

Some tips on creating a journaling practice:

  • Make it a non-negotiable and have a set time every day you are going to sit down and write.
  • Write down the first thought that comes to mind and just keep going. Ditch the censoring and judgment and just write. This isn’t for anyone to see but yourself!
  • Use prompts if you are struggling to get started!

What to do when your journals are full!

This has always been such a curious question and I wanted to share some ideas.

  • Keep the journal and read them over at a later date. Observe and reflect on your growth!
  • Reuse them for art journals, another fun way to unleash your creativity.
  • Burn them to release and let go. This is such a powerful practice to shed those old stories.

If you have always wanted to give yourself permission to write and some support, why don’t you join me on this journey?

Every Monday morning you will receive an email with some prompts to help you get started!

Along the way, if you have any questions, I’m always happy them,

My first year in business

It’s been exactly 1 year today when I became a full-time entrepreneur and while I wasn’t fully disillusioned on that it would be hard work, there were definitely some amazing lessons to learn. Business can be hard and will challenge you in lots of ways.

Here 7 Lessons I learned in my first year in business:

Protecting your mental health is crucial 

Coming from a therapy background I knew that my mental health had to be a priority and that self-care was a critical step in this. But when you are on your own so-to-speak, it makes hard to shut off or shut down because you are told to hustle and put yourself out there ALL THE TIME. But the more your hustle and push and neglect your own mental health, the more you are down spiraling and not making any traction with anything. Getting real about time management was super important and making sure that I took time off.

Making the wrong decisions is part of the growth 

I invested early on into programs I thought would bring me exactly what I wanted without checking in with my intuition. Thus making the wrong decision really early on actually supported me in listening to my intuition more and is also one of the things I now share with others in my work. Your intuition knows better than your ego does.

Investing in yourself is important 

The only way you grow is by pushing yourself into the unknown and that means investing in yourself. Now investing in yourself looks different for everyone. This can be simply attending workshops, training seminars, hiring a coach, joining a mastermind, reading and taking courses. The importance actually is that you do invest in yourself. I have taken several programs and courses and hired coaches to help me in areas I needed support.

Teach what you know and go from there 

OMG, this one was probably the most challenging. I knew I was a coach but it’s been a crazy journey figuring out what I am teaching. I had an amazing session with someone who reads Akashic Records and it was mindblown. The challenge was however that what the angels told me to teach, I wasn’t ready to teach. So I had to back to what I knew. And all over sudden things were definitely shifting. Your business will always evolve and it will always change.

Make sure you have fun 

When you step into being a boss, we forget to have fun. We think we must work, work and work some more. But as you are scheduling your to-do’s and all the other projects you need to be working on, don’t forget to schedule in fun. Yes, schedule it in because if not you’ll forget and won’t do it and then you wonder why you are burning the hell out.

Do what feels good for you 

There are so many resources and so much support out there that tell you what has worked for them. But this doesn’t mean it will work for you, nor that it feels good to you. Hello, intuition! I always allow myself to hear what other’s are doing but then discern if this truly will work for me. I also will give it a try, like the few times, I jumped onto periscope but then realized that isn’t my thing. Or the time that I was so focused on Facebook that I forgot about my nurturing my blog and all my other projects.

Putting yourself out there is scary as hell 

I remember posting my first blog, did my first summit, and landed my first feature on the Huffington Post. It all was scary stuff. But the beauty of all of that is that the more you do it the easier it becomes. I am creeping up on my 500th blog post, have done over 10 interviews with ease and continue to find ways to challenge me and grow, like blogging every day and launching my academy. But the desire to succeed and put yourself out there has to be greater than your fear.

It’s been a hell of a first year and I have learned so much about business but also about myself. It’s okay to listen to other people, to try new things but in the end it comes down to you showing up every single day, even when it feels like shit, but you will be so much better for it.

Why being in business isn’t about the money

So you think that when you work for yourself the money is coming in and you will be rich and all your worries will be taken care of. Being in business isn’t about the money, because if it was why would you leave the job?

You can make amazing money in your job and be utterly and completely miserable. You may love the job at first and wonder how lucky you have been to land such an amazing position that shows off your skills, knowledge, and talents. Some time goes by, a few months, a year or more and you are starting to feel the strain.

The strain of the demands of the job, the lack of validation, the lack of support in the development, growth and expertise. And you realize that no matter who you work for it is always about the money for them, the bottom line. How many sales can you get in a day or week, and then week after week without burning out? Because in the end, your salary stays the same and you may even have to fight for a raise.

When I decided to be an entrepreneur it was never about the money. Although money is nice and well of course needed for basic survival.

For me being in business means freedom.

Freedom to be who I am, without ever pretending something or someone I am not.
Freedom to always speaking my truth and stand in my own power.

Being in business is about truly doing the things you love because you are so passionate about them that you can’t imagine doing anything else, but you know that you will never truly be able to experience this working for someone else.

I have had several businesses, some didn’t work out and some I am continuing to build. This is the freedom I have, to push myself, to learn and add to my knowledge box and continue on my own personal development.

Being in business is about growth!

Every time I started a business it pushed me. It wasn’t like you know a fairytale that started and ended like this:

She had a dream to be in business and decided it would be so and all the money started flowing in and she was changing the world.

No! Being in business is getting your head in the game and realize that there will be times you are ready to quit and go back to the job. Being in business is work on your mindset every single day and every single day you must decide the actions you will take – whether you like it or not.

Being in business isn’t a vacation, it’s learning strategies and adapting the ones that call you. It’s changing and growing as a person and realizing that some of your friends, well they just can’t hang out in your circle anymore. It isn’t anything against those friends, but being in business means surrounding yourself with like-minded people.

The people that yes want to change the world, change how business is done and who without a doubt believe I’m their success. Success is a hard fucking road, often compared to a roller coaster or climbing a mountain. what is isn’t is a linear path where everything is smooth sailing.

And yet, no matter the hard times, and no matter how many days I wanted to quit, I remind myself of the freedom I desire. To have the ability to live life and work in my business according to my own damn rules without having to worry about what I say because my clients want the real shit. They don’t want me to sugar coat anything – they want to be pushed and know they are supported during the highs and lows. Always!

You see being in business isn’t about the money. It is about helping and supporting others to achieve their dreams and goals. This is what gives me the freedom because I believe everyone can change their life, their world and become the person they want to be.

And don’t get me wrong, money is nice and necessary but please do not believe the illusion that it is about the money.

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You don’t know, what you don’t know

Life is a journey and a continuous work in progress.

Getting frustrated with jobs, relationships and even yourself is a sign of getting to understand where you are and where you want to be. But until you become frustrated or feel stuck, you don’t know that you are because up until that point, life was as good as it gets.

I fully believe that we get frustrated, stuck or feel like we are lacking confidence or the life we want, because we come into an awareness, that something isn’t aligned or working in your current stop on your journey.

The moment we realize we don’t know how to transition out of that frustration or being stuck, we tend to focus on everything that isn’t working, rather looking at everything that is working.

At the same time, your subconscious is working on finding the information that it needs and you searching for answers through blogs, books and but we forget to really look outside ourselves.

But what does looking outside of yourself mean?

For one, it isn’t going on this journey alone. It is being open and willing to see how other people do it and having conversations with friends, people who have been where you are now and coaches.

In 2011, full of passion and my dreams but frustrated with my relationship, I didn’t know how to no longer be frustrated and feel like I was stuck.

I knew I was unhappy and I knew that life wasn’t working the way my vision showed me it was possible. I met a lady, who is a Reiki Master and practitioner and she offered me her service.

I had never heard of Reiki before and not really understood how energy works.

I also didn’t really know or understand affirmations – even though I understood the positive thinking and that our thinking dictates our behavior.

I didn’t know what I didn’t know.

But I was open to the possibility of learning and gaining better insight into myself.

Since that day, I have not only used affirmations but have a greater understanding of energy work and how that applies to my life.

I have a greater understanding of what it means to be vulnerable and open with people when it matters. But also know when I need to protect my own energy and perhaps not share quite as much.

I have coaches and mentors come into my life that helped me move forward but also, really look at my own internal dialogue and how that impact my own life.

I am sharing this with you because when we are frustrated with something or someone in our life, or we are stuck with taking action and really learning to love ourselves – we have a tendency to hinder our own growth because we are SO focused on everything that isn’t working.

When we can look at the challenges, we have the power to yes go within, but also step outside of ourselves and be open to exploring and learning what other people have done.

Not everything works for everyone, but I fully believe we should give it a try and learn more, so we can use what does work for us and improve not only our lives but fully be the person we already are – but just maybe hiding.

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How Having No Regrets allows you let go

I always tell people, I have zero regrets.

Some people believe me, some people look at me funny, while other people try to call bullshit.

I used to have regrets until one day I realized that those are just silly things to hang onto.

Regrets will have you play over the same old story you have been telling yourself. You know the story of

  • I am stupid.
  • I made a mistake.
  • I’m a fool.
  • I can’t do anything right.

Yea that story. It will play over and over in your head and you wonder why life is as crappy as it appears.

Instead of hanging on to regrets, look at those events and experiences and see what you can learn from them. Acknowledge the negative parts of the event but also really hone in on the positive of the experience.

Yes, there is always a little of both, but once you know the positive you are creating an awareness that allows you to grow.

I don’t regret leaving a long-term relationship even though the love has never faltered. But I needed to believe in myself, find my own strength and feel 100% secure in who I am.

It provided me with room for growth and expansion that I don’t know would have been possible if I’d stayed in the relationship. Perhaps it would have but it would probably taking a tremendous amount of time longer.

I also don’t regret signing the papers that my son needed a liver transplant. Even though I didn’t know all that craziness that would follow.

“Of course you don’t regret it because everything turned out fine”.

I’ve thought about this for a long time, but I am 100% I wouldn’t regret it no matter what the outcome. And yes, I am grateful it turned out the way it did.

But here’s the thing, regrets are full of “what if’s” and I don’t remember a time in my life where “What if” really served a purpose, except for “What if I was successful” but even then I am cautious.

Regrets really dampen your confidence and your courage to try again.

Regrets hold you back and retell the story of your failure time and again.

Instead of hanging onto regrets, choose to let them go. See them for valuable teaching moments and decide that every decision you make from hereon out, will be the best decision for that given moment.

Because each decision the past was fulfilled and met the same way.

We all do our best in each given moment.

You can’t do more than that.

So decide right here and right now that you will let go of regret.

Feel the weight lifted of your shoulders and step into your self-awareness so you can acknowledge where you can grow and expand to be the best possible you – always.