Do you ever wonder how to make it happen and how having a plan can actually be useful?
One of the challenges I have seen time and time again is that people set goals based on someone else’s thoughts and opinions of what you should do.
The challenge is that just because someone else thinks it’s a good idea, it may not be true for you or even aligned with who you are.
I can’t set a goal for my partner just like he can’t set a goal for me. Goals and dreams are personal and they come to us as individuals, not as a collective.
This doesn’t mean you can’t set goals together but the same notion still applies: You must want this!
The next step is to brainstorm and map out all the actions you can think of that are going to be necessary. You may not be able to visualize all the steps, but don’t let that stop you from laying it all out as much as you can.
Some steps will emerge through the journey. Truly, we will know what we need to know when we are ready.
Got it! Now what?
Commit to your “make it happen” plan. Write down the actions into your planner and/or calendar. Don’t make excuses when the time comes to take action, instead dig in your heels and get to work.
And after a week or two, evaluate your progress. See what steps you have taken, how you feel about it all if you need to make some changes.
Rinse and Repeat!
Success has a different meaning for different people but everyone has been told these lies at one point or another and I am wanting to challenge some of the myths.
Everything happens for a reason
This depends inherently on your belief system. And it may even be the most challenging one. There is no doubt in my mind that every experience I had in my life, helped shape the woman I am. And maybe that is truly why I had all of those experiences occur. And yet at the same time, we live in a free will kind of state and we have to really look at each moment and situation carefully. It’s easy to make use “everything happens for a reason” as an excuse and deflect our own responsibility.
No such thing as failures
While I agree with this as I consider failures as lessons learned or to learn from, it’s another one of those things that we tend to hide behind. So what if the decision, event or relationship was a failure. It doesn’t mean you are a failure. But instead, we really ought to be looking at all of it as a student of life and see what we can gain from this.
Yes! We are responsible for our own lives and sometimes things happen that we are not responsible for. It’s who you are and what you do after, that matters. It’s in those moments that we need to acknowledge, we are not victims but instead, we are survivors and warriors and know that how we show up matters.
No commitment, no success
If you don’t commit to your dreams and goals, then how do you expect them to unfold? They aren’t just going to land in your lap one day.
You need to have all the answers
Newsflash: No you don’t! Sometimes the answers don’t start coming to you until you have started to take action towards something.
Overnight success is a thing
Seriously, no one has conquered Rome or Mt. Everest overnight. And to think that overnight success is a thing is just an illusion to what people want you to think. That it was easy, and truly it isn’t.
Success will make all the problems go away
That’s like saying that winning the lottery equals happiness. You can have all the money in the world and still be freaking miserable. Success may remove or change some things, but it will also bring forth a new set of problems. What matters is how you handle them.
People will like you more
If you are trying to be successful for the sake of validation and having people like you, stop. If you do not like yourself, how can you expect anyone else to like you? Your dreams and goals should never be based on another’s opinion, but purely on your heart and soul.
What success looks and feels like is inherently based on your values, thoughts, beliefs, opinions that you hold. What may be a success for one person, maybe something completely different for another?
We all have fallen into the trap of saying “one day I will” because the reality is that “one day” will never actually materialize into existence.
It’s so much easier to say “one day” instead of actually starting right here this minute.
And if you keep saying “one day” do you actually really want this thing to come into your reality?
Truth is that taking action towards the dream you have is no small feat because the doubts and fears and your ego will tell you that you
- are not good enough
- don’t have what it takes
- you will lose your friends
It’s so much easier to stay in the box of conformity and safety among your family and friends than actually standing up for what you want and what you believe in.
But you aren’t embracing who you are and you are denying the world of your skills and talents, and that’s a damn shame.
Because you are powerful being full of ideas, skills, and talents and how dare you do not stand and embrace it all?
If you want to write that book, start a business, change your life, you need to do something about it. Because let’s face it you can’t wait for “one day” and then lay on your death bed and regret that you didn’t make it happen.
How would your life change if you decided to take action today?
What kind of impact could you have if you decided that today is the day you take the first step?
I have created the vision quest to help you take that first teeny tiny step.
- Take the Vision Quest and give yourself permission to map out the direction of your dreams so you can create the life you want!
- Conquer your Thoughts and Beliefs and change them so you can rid yourself of sabotage.
- The confidence boost to help you get a perspective on who you are and the people that have always supported you!
- Decide which Be, Do and Have Goal you are going to make happen in the next 90 Days!
- Create your action plan and know exactly the steps you will take to achieve your be, do and have goal!
Have you ever considered what getting clear on your dreams does for you?
Or what one simple action will do for your life?
You have the vision that is so far out of reach and you wonder every single day when will your dream turn into reality.
You plan, plan and then plan some more waiting for perfection and just the right time. You keep analyzing every single detail about your dream. You keep talking yourself out of it and your doubts and fears tell you that it just cannot happen.
I’m going to tell you something and you may not like it, but the right time will never come into reality.
And now I am going to tell you that you CAN turn your dreams into reality, with one single thing.
Believe in you and in your dream.
But how can I take action when I don’t know what to do?
You already have a plan right? So, now create some action steps to go with the plan.
Brainstorm a list of things you will need to do.
Let’s say you want to start a business because you want the freedom.
What will you need to get started?
Create a checklist of what you will need to do.
Do those things!
Or maybe you want to make more art?
What art do you want to do? Decide it!
Purchase your supplies.
Oh but I don’t have the time.
You look at all the things you are doing now and decide what it is that no longer fits in your priority list, let that go and then voila, you now have time to do that thing you want to do.
Just maybe you are saying, but I want to be healthier.
Define what being healthier means to you.
Is it eating less junk food or cooking more meals from scratch or both. Is it exercising and moving your body more often?
Be clear on what that means for you and then write it down.
Now write all the things you can do to help you feel and be healthier.
You have just created a list of all the things you can do to take action.
When we start to overanalyzing and make excuses i.e. it’s not perfect enough or I don’t have time you are being a disservice to your own life and your own dream.
How can I help you to start acting today? Share in the comments!
How is this year going for you so far?
Do you feel like you’re on track? Or are your fumbling with direction and focus?
This is where a Mid-Year Review can be helpful.
It helps you evaluate the last 6 months and the progress or the lack thereof, you have made. If you are in business, check out your stats will be super helpful and even if you are not in business, a mid-year review can still have tremendous amount of benefits.
There are a few questions you can ask yourself:
- What goals did I achieve?
- What goals did I not make happen?
- What projects did I complete?
- What were my wins for the year so far?
- What were my challenges?
- What goals and projects should I continue with?
If you are in business add these:
- How many sales did I make?
- What were my expenses?
- How much did I sell of each service/product?
- What service/product should I focus on?
- What was my website traffic?
- What blog posts did the best?
- What social media platforms most effective?
- What opt-in/freebie did the best?
- How many e-mail subscribers do I have?
- Where did I waste money?
- What opportunities do I need to focus on?
Now that you know where you’ve been, you can plan ahead for the next 90-days to 6-months.
Go big and go deep! Grab that tea or coffee and spend some time dreaming and scheming!
- What would make the biggest impact in my life? In my business?
- What does my ideal life/business look like?
- What are some things I can do to get my life/business aligned with my vision?
- What goals and projects support what I already have going on in my life/business?
- What are new milestones I can reach in my life/business?
- What goals or projects would make me feel really excited to do in life/business?
Take a moment and look at what you wrote, and choose 3-5 goals to work on in a 90-day span. Get quiet and sit for a moment and ask yourself what would be really awesome to create first.
Write them down and then make a list of all the actions you can think it will need to make your goals and projects happen.
Sometimes we can’t see some steps and that’s okay.