Challenge, situation or circumstance I have been asked: How do you do it?
This is a simple enough question, except that I have struggled to give the answer because I just do. It is such an automatic process because it is something that I have always done.
I have very little room for bullshit such as excuses, whining and complaining. I get an idea and if it excites me enough I work towards to make it happen. Like running a 14-Day Coloring Challenge that in the middle of creating it prompted me to redo the entire website for my coloring page collection.
But sometimes one must dig deeper for the bigger vision. So here is my process:
- I get clear on what I wanted
- I create a vision of the result I want to achieve
- I do the work required to make it happen
This isn’t always as easy as it seems because obstacles and hurdles come up and try to get in the way. Fear, frustration, and self-doubt will trip you up and others, including your ego, will tell you that you can’t do it.
I was told I am a failure but if failure means going to school, graduating with two degrees and raising my children well, then I have succeeded! I win!
To gain the confidence, you must do the work and once you do the work all those negative voices will be silenced!
Going after your goal is scary and you will hear that you are not smart enough, that you are not good enough but who the heck are those naysayers? What do they know? They only know what they believe about themselves – because they didn’t go to college, you can’t go to college. Because they were told to work a job for their rest of their lives, they can’t have a business of their own and neither can you!
Well to hell with that!
Go and get clear on your dreams and turn them into focused oriented goals!
You have this amazing dream of writing a book, starting a business and perhaps even lose some weight. And yet, here we are at the end of May and you’re looking everything, realizing you didn’t get very far.
What are you waiting for?
Are you waiting for the perfect moment?
Are you waiting for until you’ve perfected the skill?
Are you waiting for the moment you feel you’re enough?
Why can’t it be right this very moment?
What is holding you back?
Is it fear of failing? Fear of disappointing yourself or others?
The lack of not knowing how?
Every excuse you make is a bullshit reason for why you are not willing to make your dream, goal or resolution happen.
When is enough, well enough?
How much longer are you willing to just watch others make their own dreams come true while you are still wishing you could?
Here is the truth: You can!
You need to stop making excuses and start taking action – even when the fear is as loud as a damn jet engine.
Fear is just an emotion, just like anger, love, happiness etc. Are you willing to allow the emotion to rule you, or are you willing to decide how you are going to feel and what you are going to do?
I think too often, we forget that we have a choice.
We always have a choice!
When we were kids, we were told we don’t have a choice. We need to follow the rules, do as we are told. We are told to graduate high school, go to college or learn a trade.
We are told that we should be grateful for the job we have and just go on with our mediocre life.
Yes, I said it: MEDIOCRE
Because I know you envision your life to be different. I know that you have dreams and goals that you want to achieve but because you were told you didn’t have a choice, you just let life slip on by.
What if I told you that you are in control of your life, that you have the power to choose what you will or will not do and how you will live?
Choose and Decide!
What’s it going to be? Living your life to the rules of someone else or your own?
If you are ready to make some changes in your life, it’s time for you to choose a path so you can start achieving your dreams and goals with like-minded people!
No one likes a challenge that leaves you overwhelmed but I am going to share some concepts that make it feel and look like a piece of cake.
When you’re faced with a big obstacle, you can tackle it much easier when you take on small actions, rather than thinking you have to do it all and make it happen right now.
Clarity will help you overcome just about anything, you need to look at the problem. Write down exactly what the situation is, what it is you need most and what the end goal is. For example, if you’re are in a situation in which you require money, be clear on the purpose for the money, how much money you need and when you need it by i.e. write down the date! Now that you know exactly what you’re up against, it’s time to make that major problem and turn it into something manageable.
You’ve still got your pen and paper in front of you, so start jotting down any ideas you can think of that can help you solve the challenge. Don’t leave any idea out and just free writer all the possible ways that money can come to you! Write down what you can sell, who you can borrow from, what odd jobs or services you can provide for extra cash and other such ideas.
Now that you have a list of ideas, look them over. All of the ideas have a possibility to work but choose the one that makes most sense or ist most like to work for you to solve the challenge. If some of them are a bit outrageous or too tricky, that’s okay just keep them on the bottom of your list of possibilities.
You’ve named the challenge, brainstormed the possible solutions and now it’s time to make a plan. Start with the first solution, and write out small steps you can take to make that idea a reality. The smaller the better. These tiny actions are easier to approach than your overwhelmingly larger goal. As you complete each one, you’ll start to feel more confident and see your goal coming closer to reality. In our quest for rent money, you may want to write down just what steps you’ll need to take in order to begin selling off your unneeded possessions. Start by making a list of what’s most valuable, and then gather the items. Next decide where to place your ads, such as in Facebook sales groups or Craigslist. Maybe you have a pawn shop near you that will give you quick cash. With each baby step you add to your plan, you’ll see that coming up with the money you need just might be doable, after all.
All the problem solving and planning won’t work if you don’t take action. Schedule activities in your planner and cross them off when you’re finished. Before you know it, you’re closer to your goals. In our example, your available funds will start to grow. Every little bit counts.
There’s no need to get stuck in overwhelm when faced with challenges. Breaking it down into baby steps will help you reach the goals you need to overcome nearly any obstacle.