Are you making your goals non-negotiable?

Are you making your goals non-negotiable?

Do you make your goals important enough and a non-negotiable for you?

Sometimes the most challenging commitment is the one you make to and for yourself.

I know this because I enjoy running but haven’t made a big enough commitment to do it consistently. I know it’s good for my health and my mindset. And yes, I too make excuses for why I can’t.

Like it’s too cold.

There are many ways I can find a way to run or at least get my body moving for just a little while.

Being a parent is often hard and demanding, special needs or not! And it can make your goals a little harder to achieve sometimes but I also know is the kind of parent you want to be, requires stamina and dedication.

And more than often, it can feel like you are failing your kids because you are spending 30 minutes on what you want to do.

You spend 30 minutes on your passion and feel guilty you weren’t present for your kids.

You can fulfill your dreams of being a writer, an artist or an entrepreneur without feeling guilty. If you think about the outcome, how much more fulfilled will you feel as a parent and as someone who goes after what they want?

Every day you are doing the best you can.

You can’t do more than your best.

But I really want you to know that you can be the parent you want to be, the artist you want to be and the entrepreneur you want to be.

Because it’s time!

Time to follow through and finish your ideas, projects, and goals.

You can have the career you want when you make the commitment and make it a non-negotiable.
You can have the health you want when you make the commitment and take the actions.
You can be the parent you want to be when you make the commitment to be that parent.

It doesn’t have to be one thing OR the other.

It can be whatever you want it to be if you are willing to stop accepting your life for what it is and make it what you to want it to be.

Life Lessons from a boy named Lennon

Life Lessons from a boy named Lennon

There are always lessons to be learned in life if you are open to recognizing them and most importantly if you are willing to listen.

My son Lennon has been changing people’s lives, inspiring them and motivating them into being more present, to not take anything for granted and also showing the shadow side of life is too short to be miserable.

When I tell people that, Lennon is my greatest teacher on how to do life, I am not joking.

The kid knows what he wants and he’s quite verbal about it too. 

And what you may not know, if you’ve never heard about Lennon, read the blog posts or the book is that he survived his first 4 years of life, living with a potentially fatal rare genetic disorder. And since it was undiagnosed for some time, his brain took a little bit of a hit in the cognitive area – but don’t let that fool you.

He is often one of the smartest people in the circle. His wisdom is often leaving me speechless.

The other day he said:

You have to be ready at some point, so why not be ready now?

Sure, you could delay being ready but aren’t you just putting off the inevitable?
The moment you decide to go after what you want – your dreams, goals and a life that feels good – is the moment you are ready. You can, of course, keep talking yourself out of it but why? What’s the point?

  • Start that business
  • Write that Book
  • Get healthy

Be ready now and stop waiting for one day.

It isn’t always about the things he said, although they are brilliant and yes I realize I may be a little bias, but the thought has crossed my mind that people needed to spend time with him and hear his story. He’d never go for it and I got to respect that. That, of course, doesn’t mean I won’t share life lessons along the way.

Like anytime I hear someone complain about how shitty life is or how miserable they are.

Because of the genetic disorder becoming unmanagable after his diagnosis, it was recommended that he has a liver transplant because while there is no cure, this can change his life for the better. And so that’s what we did but we couldn’t fathom the fact that he’d have 3 liver transplants between the ages 5-8 and that things were really tricky for a while. (You can read about his journey in Lennon Steps).

But here’s the thing, no matter how dicey things were, how painful everything was (physically or emotionally), he got up and did what he needed to do. That doesn’t mean he didn’t complain but it seemed he just knew what he needed to do in order to get home from the hospital or get back to school.

Or like now where he’s saving up for an XBOX One and he’s diligent about the chores that help him earn money.

And some days are hit or miss, but he’s never quit if it’s something he wants.

I think that’s an important lesson.

Don’t quit the life you want to have.

It takes dedication, commitment, and a willingness to go against the status quo. Even if it means people don’t like you or you don’t fit in.

Lennon isn’t worried about fitting in.
Lennon is worried about what video game he’s going to play.

So, don’t worry about fitting in, instead figure out what you are going to do next that you want to do and of course could have an impact on your life.

Worry (not really) about the important stuff. Get excited (Yes this) about it!

Choose to wake up with joy in your heart!

There aren’t many days I recall Lennon ever to be angry or grumpy (unless the pain was too much). That doesn’t mean he doesn’t get upset, it just doesn’t stick around long enough. I think he doesn’t know how to hold a grudge of any kind because he just is filled with joy and it shows.

There’s something very genuine about it and it always reminds me that you get to choose how you feel, how you engage, express yourself.

Choose to be angry, you’ll feel miserable and wonder when life will change.

Choose to feel and be joy, life looks different filled with gratitude and like an adventure.

What will you choose?

 

 

How to change your habits with these simple steps

How to change your habits with these simple steps

I am taking a little bit of a different direction with my blog this upcoming year and no better way to kick that off by answering the question of how to change your habits.

The new year always comes with new goals and the changes we want to embrace and in this video, I talk about how you can do that!

I’ve been getting questions in my inbox that I decided to just answer in this space right here and today’s question is how to shed bad habits and overcome them so that you can maintain them successfully!

First of all, you have to be clear on what habits you have that you want to remove or change. Without that clarity, you are not going to get very far!

Start with a list of the habits that you want to change, get rid of or start doing.

And it’s really just a choice! It’s a decision that you make but it starts with that clarity and once you have that you can sit down and brainstorm.

You already know some ways that you want to change them, jot down your ideas to make a list of actions you can take.

I like to encourage is to start small because you’re not going build your success overnight. Sometimes it can take a lifetime!

So you can start with the goal or habit you want to change. And create an action plan that includes only three to five times a week, maybe once or twice a day. If you’re trying to change a habit or achieve a goal and work on it for seven days a week you’re not gonna achieve that.

It just feels so much and so overwhelming and then you take that goal you have in mind, the habit you want to build on or you want to remove on and say to yourself:

Okay, I’m not going to do this for three days out of the week.

Let’s say you want to change the way you eat breakfast.

For three days a week, you’re not going to eat such-and-such food for breakfast and maybe replace it with something else.

There’s always something that’s going to be replaced when you try to build a habit or change a habit. And if you do this with pacing yourself, you will achieve your goal with more ease.

When the 3 days feel good and normal, you can add days to this.

Maybe you want to start working out.

Start with one to two days a week maybe three days a week start with walking for 10 minutes a day and build on that until it becomes a daily thing for you.

Don’t set out with this goal of being overly ambitious and saying yes I’m gonna do this for seven days a week that is a stretch and it’s too much because I guarantee you that you’re not going to want to walk seven days a week.

You’re also going to need a downtime and rest time!

  • Set that goal
  • Make it small action steps
  • Do this for 3/4 days
  • Practice this for 2-3 weeks
  • Then build on that!

Maybe your goal is to finally write that book!

You can write two days a week and you’re writing 2,000 words per session and then build on that so that it becomes normal for you.

You can’t dive in and expect yourself to be successful immediately.

You have to go slow and build on that.

If you want your question answered in a video, contact me and I’ll record it for a future post!

Why the Vision board isn’t as good as it used to be

Why the Vision board isn’t as good as it used to be

Vision boards become all the rage this time of year and yet I can’t get myself to make one anymore.

Yes, there once was a time where I would diligently find my vision in pictures, glue it to posterboard and infused it with intention.

And in the end, all it did was piss me off.

I get that for some vision boards are the best invention since sliced bread, but I think it’s okay to not have all the feels for them.

So why does the vision board not work for me and maybe even you?

It is lacking in the way I infuse feelings into my vision and transfer them to my goals.

I have experienced more success by simply writing out my vision and reading it often to get the feeling that I supposed a vision board could be doing for you.

By writing out what the year feel be and feel like by reserve engineering, aka looking back, I am giving my soul the position of leadership to guide me. Intuition is its right-hand man, confirming that this is the way to go.

The thing is, visions change… dreams change and therefore goals change.

I can literally write a new vision, during my writing hour in the morning, but a vision board takes way more time and to me feels a little inconvenient.

If a vision board works for you, that’s fantastic! Like seriously, I love that you have found something that works for you.

But if a vision board isn’t working for you and you are trying to find a different way in how to create the life you want, the goals – the dreams and so on, check out my “Create a Vision” Workshop.
Create a vision with the Rebel Soul Handbook
It’s a 45-minute video where I share with you how I’ve brought my vision to life and share with how to use the Rebel Soul Handbook – the tool I use every year to create my be, do and have goals.

You will also get the downloadable PDF file of the Rebel Soul Handbook, so you can print it and start your journey using your soul guidance to bring your vision to life.

Not only do I get to embody the person I want to be based on my vision, but I set goals that feel good in every fiber of my being… and it’s based on my inner guidance.

There is power in writing it down and if you’ve struggled with vision boards, it’s time to give the Rebel Soul Handbook a try.

Stop setting resolutions and have your best year

Stop setting resolutions and have your best year

Resolutions are a crap shoot of setting yourself up for failure.

For years and years, I set resolutions about writing that book, or be more healthy and even have better relationships with people.

And it was only a matter of weeks when all of my resolutions flew out of the window and I was in the same spot as the year before.

I started to doubt that I would ever make my ideas a reality because if I couldn’t even stick to my resolutions, how would I ever have the kind of life that I wanted?

I knew something needed to change and I discovered the most important pieces that were missing!

My Why: I needed something that dug deep into the heart of why I wanted to create the change. Without a solid why, however, I lost my momentum.

My why fuels the purpose of the books I have written and the books I am still planning to write.

My why gives me a reason for my mission to be healthier as it addresses the reasons for changing the food I eat and the motivation to exercise.

My why also helped me uncover the kind of relationships I wanted to have and what they would mean to my overall wellbeing and day-to-day life.

Do you know the why behind the changes you want to create? 

If you want to have the best year, then get clear on what you want. Which leads to the next point of my discovery!

My Vision: Without a vision of what I wanted my life to feel like and really visualize what that means, I would continue to get up every morning and exist in the life I had created up to that point.

Writing out my vision for my life and then narrow it down to the year, I was able to uncover who I wanted to be, what I wanted to do and what I wanted to have.

And before I knew it, the vision not only became a wee bit bigger than myself, but I know had a map that I could use to develop my goals from.

Goals have a much greater impact than resolutions.

What is the vision you have for your life and how can you start towards this vision now? 

There is a sweet spot for goals setting and it’s right in between short-term and long-term. Resolutions tend to be rather short-term and again without the why I found that nothing would change.

And setting lifetime goals can feel too far out of reach. So why write your visions?

So you can break them down!

You don’t build a house overnight, nor do you travel across the country in a car in one day.

Change occurs in small incremental steps.

And when you write your vision for the next year, allow your intuition to guide you. Don’t listen to the negative voices in your head or allow the judgment of others filter into your thoughts.

Instead, give yourself permission to dream uncensored.

This means that your vision includes everything you want to be, do and have interests, with passion, healthier you and better relationships – or whatever calls you!

So just how did this process change my life?

The moment I wrote out my vision, I was able to see who I wanted to become, the things I wanted to do and the things I wanted to have in my life. And when I am talking about “having” I am not just talking about material things.

So it looks like this:

  1. Write the vision. You can start with a whole life vision and then the year, or just the year. Don’t forget to include all the reasons why and how you will feel at each moment your vision comes true.
  2. Choose Be, Do and Have Goals based on your vision. And yes you may have left something off of your vision, that’s okay! You can rewrite your vision if you want to!
  3. Create 90-Day actions plans for each goal. Start with the goal and then brainstorm all the steps required to complete the goal.
  4. Tune into your intuition of when during the year this would feel really amazing. And usually, the thing that gets you most excited is THE goal to start with.

Some key points for you:

This is YOUR vision and not someone else’s and you’re going to need to be okay with the side eye from friends and family.

Your vision may change just tap back into that part that gives you purpose and motivation. Sometimes you may need to rewrite your vision until you get to the point of OMG THIS IS IT!

You will doubt yourself and your ability to achieve your goals. This is normal but don’t feed the fears!

The moment you decide to stop setting resolutions

Will create a ripple effect in all areas of your life.

When you know who you want to be, you become that person.

When you know what to do you will stop the procrastination dilemmas.

When you know what you want to have and why you will give your life purpose.

Are you willing to stop setting resolutions and allow yourself to set goals that are driven by your intuition and recognize that you have a bigger purpose in life?

My Rebel Shine Program is open for enrollment!

Where Mindset meets Strategy meets Guidance on how owning your own power and unleash yourself is the recipe for Creative Rebels and Passionate who are done living in a box and have the support of a community.

When you join the program you will receive my Rebel Soul Handbook that I have used consistently for the last 2 years to achieve my vision!