Rise above your own BS and Excuses

Rise above your own BS and Excuses

The other day I was re-reading my Reiki Bible and something that I didn’t see before was how each chakra emerges and is impacted by life experiences and this isn’t a post about chakra’s but more about synchronicity and being in alignment with what I do.

In this last year, I learned to pay attention to synchronicity as a way to affirm that what I am is what I need to be doing. I first through about Rebel Shine as a digital subscription box but something was way off… so I let it marinade a bit… I even wrote the words keep or let go underneath it on my whiteboard.

And then one day, as I was mulling it over it became clear to me that it is so much more and bigger than myself. And I needed to Rise above the Stories I told myself.

The irony is that the theme is You Rise Above!
And it starts with the stories… the mumbo jumbo that clogs your perception of who you are and what you are capable of.

You underestimate yourself because someone else did not believe in you!

You don’t take action because someone said you are not smart enough!

You are not who you are deep down because someone told you that you weren’t good enough just being you.

These stories that started from the moment you were born shaped you, your motivation and dare I say your ambition.

These stories are the reason

You’re not where you want to be
Do what you want to do
Love the way only you can love

And isn’t it high-tide that you start rewriting those stories?

That you start living life on your terms?

Be who you are even it means you walk alone? (You won’t, promise!)

Defeat your own Book writing Objections

Defeat your own Book writing Objections

You know you need to do it. You’ve had it on your to-do list for years. You’ve even told other people that you will be writing a book.

And yet…nothing.

It’s not that you don’t recognize the benefits, or that you don’t want to have a published book on your resume. You just struggle with it, and probably for the same reasons much other business owner’s resist publication.

You don’t have time. Here’s a biggie. Everyone is busy. We all get that. But that’s not a good excuse when it comes to growing your business.

Rather than lamenting your lack of time, you should be prioritizing your day to accommodate the important things, like writing your book. Maybe that means getting up 30 minutes earlier for a focused (if short) writing stint every morning, or turning off the television after dinner so you can write, or even setting aside several hours each Sunday morning until your book is done.

And seriously, we all have the same amount of time every single day. Writing 1000 words a day is better than not writing at all.

The point is, you must make this a priority. Block out the time on your calendar, and treat that time as sacred. Pretend it’s an appointment with your most important client, and do not allow anything to get in the way of keeping it.

You can’t write. Many, many people claim they cannot write; yet when you look at their blogs, there are hundreds of posts. What it really means when someone says they can’t write is that they don’t like to or they just don’t want it bad enough. The word can’t truly is just saying you won’t.

Luckily, you have plenty of options for overcoming this particular hurdle. Hire a ghostwriter. Start with PLR. Repurpose your blog posts into a book (Darren Rowse of Problogger.net did this with great success) and even I have turned blog posts into a book.

And if all else fails, speak. Use software such as Dragon Naturally Speaking, or simply record using your favorite MP3 app and then have it transcribed. I keep a small recording device in my car or I use my phone to record any thoughts I may have while traveling.

You can’t organize a long project like a book. Ok, so you’re great with blog posts, and you don’t mind writing them, but the thought of writing an entire book makes you stare at your blank screen like a deer caught in the headlights of an oncoming car.

First, if you can write a blog post, you can write an entire series of books. The process is all the same, after all. It’s just putting words into sentences, sentences into paragraphs, and so on.

But if you really feel you can’t manage a long project, then an outline is going to be your best friend. Start with a broad overview of your project, and then break it down by sections, then chapters. Make notes about what you’ll cover in each, and then it’s just a matter of filling in the blanks.

One of my favorite ways to map out a book is to use index cards and lay them out in a way that makes sense. I also use Scrivener to help me layout my chapters. It’s an amazing tool to start writing and get that book published. 

There are dozens of reasons to write a book. It’s important for establishing your expertise, for growing your audience, and for solidifying your message. But none of that will happen if you don’t actually write it. So it’s time to get beyond your hurdles and get your book done.

It’s time to make a choice

It’s time to make a choice

You are the one in the driver seat of your life and you already know the changes you need to make. It’s time to make a choice.

Do yourself a favor, don’t wait until January 1st to make a new year’s resolution.

Make the choice now.

  • Decide to become who you want to be now.
  • Decide to learn what you need to learn now.
  • Decide to change what needs changing now.

You can keep watching everyone else move forward, take action and create the life that feels amazing.

Or you can get into the game yourself.

I know what I am talking about because for too long, I waited.

  • I waited for the right time.
  • I waited for it all to be perfect.
  • I waited for the stars to align.

But it isn’t worse the cost to wait any longer.

It is time to make a choice to create all that you want to be, do and have, and frankly, it doesn’t have to be very complicated.

One small step will get you going, just make a choice in what you want.

Feeling overwhelmed, then make a list of what is going on right now and what you don’t want.

And sometimes you must just jump in, with no plan B but sheer determination to making it happen.

  • It’s time to stop the excuses.
  • It’s time to stop playing the victim.
  • It’s time to stop doubting yourself.

What is the worst that could happen?

  • You afraid that you lose friends and family?
  • Are you happy with your life and your work?
  • You have a life that you can be proud of?

I mean just imagine, doing what you love to do and having a support system that matters?

Not everyone is going to like you, and you know what, just maybe that’s okay.

If being liked is your thing keep doing what you are doing.

  • Keep playing it safe.
  • Keep playing it small.
  • Keep yourself in the box.

But if you are ready to do all that you ever wanted to do, the time is now!

Time to stop the excuses!


Stop making excuses and find reasons of why you can

Stop making excuses and find reasons of why you can

excusesIsn’t it about time that you stop making excuses of why you can’t and instead look for reasons of why you can?

There is this saying, “You don’t know what you don’t know”, so you keep making excuses of why you can’t something because the fact of the matter is you never even tried, let alone looked at the reasons why you could.

Time a moment and look at everything you have done up to this point. Your accomplishments and achievements that have gotten you this far.

  • High-school
  • College
  • Job Interview
  • Getting the job
  • Having a baby
  • Raising another human being

Make a list of everything you have done and then take stock of what it took to get there.

Courage is the reason that you can go after what you want.
Faith is believing that you in you and that you are supported.
Family and Friends that help you along your journey.
Trust in yourself that in each moment you are making the best choice for yourself.
Confidence because you acted to make it happen.

Create your own reasons of why you could do all the things you have achieved and accomplished. This is your evidence that nothing is standing in your way but yourself and every reason you are using to make an excuse keeps you playing small rather than embracing what you are called to do.

Read the list of the reasons of why you can as often as you need, to remind yourself of all the things that are possible.

Fear is a mere technique that ego uses to keep you small and safe, telling you that if you take this step or that step, you will fail. But how will you know if you don’t try?

You won’t!

You owe it to yourself to give it a chance, whatever it is you want to achieve, to act because well do you really want to lay on your death bed and wish you had acted?

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