Have you ever considered what getting clear on your dreams does for you?
Or what one simple action will do for your life?
You have the vision that is so far out of reach and you wonder every single day when will your dream turn into reality.
You plan, plan and then plan some more waiting for perfection and just the right time. You keep analyzing every single detail about your dream. You keep talking yourself out of it and your doubts and fears tell you that it just cannot happen.
I’m going to tell you something and you may not like it, but the right time will never come into reality.
And now I am going to tell you that you CAN turn your dreams into reality, with one single thing.
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Believe in you and in your dream.
But how can I take action when I don’t know what to do?
You already have a plan right? So, now create some action steps to go with the plan.
Brainstorm a list of things you will need to do.
Let’s say you want to start a business because you want the freedom.
What will you need to get started?
Create a checklist of what you will need to do.
Do those things!
Or maybe you want to make more art?
What art do you want to do? Decide it!
Purchase your supplies.
Oh but I don’t have the time.
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You look at all the things you are doing now and decide what it is that no longer fits in your priority list, let that go and then voila, you now have time to do that thing you want to do.
Just maybe you are saying, but I want to be healthier.
Define what being healthier means to you.
Is it eating less junk food or cooking more meals from scratch or both. Is it exercising and moving your body more often?
Be clear on what that means for you and then write it down.
Now write all the things you can do to help you feel and be healthier.
You have just created a list of all the things you can do to take action.
When we start to overanalyzing and make excuses i.e. it’s not perfect enough or I don’t have time you are being a disservice to your own life and your own dream.
How can I help you to start acting today? Share in the comments!
The journey of healing is hard, interesting and a powerful one.
It’s taken me more years than I’d like to admit to looking at my upbringing in foster care in a positive light.
But I am incredibly excited to finally can look back and not feel ashamed because the reality is there is so much better I have learned that has played a key role in how I approach life and business.
Taking Risk – Now this has come with good and bad experiences but one thing I have learned is to not be afraid of taking a risk.
Strategizing – This has been playing a role in my survival. Learning this skill has proven to be one of the most profound lessons.
I am in charge – I control how I show up when I show up and the actions I take. Creating the life, I want, is up to me and the past does not hold any dark clouds over me.
How all of this serve me now:
It’s really amazing what appears to be so small at times, really has the most profound impact. Because I am willing to take a risk, I have started businesses, close them when they fell out of alignment and changed course as needed. I have written books
I have written books to share my story risking judgment and ridicule.
I have taken a risk in agreeing to my son’s liver transplant even though there are a lot of risks involved and lifelong medical care.
Taking risks is the cornerstone of being an entrepreneur. It’s like laying everything on the line because your vision and mission are so much bigger than who you are.
The ability to strategize allows me to see how to connect the dots from the big vision, working backward to the point where I am now. I am a visionary, the kind of person that dreams big can see that bigger picture and my mind just channels all the pathways to make it happen.
It’s the thing that I rely on when I hit a stumbling block and feeling the frustration because it will ask me to take a step back and reevaluate the strategy and come up with a new plan.
And because I am in control, I can decide which step is the best one and the next one. I can choose to follow the initial strategy or make a change.
This life is a journey and so is your business. It isn’t easy no matter what your past but if you can look at your childhood from a different perspective can make all the difference in the world.
Lessons are always to be learned and it’s important to reflect and acknowledge them.
When I first started my coaching business, all I wanted to do was help people. It’s still what I want to do and continue to do. But as an intuitive empath and introvert, I needed to leverage how I can create income without expanding all my energy.
You can’t be everything to everyone but you can be unapologetically you in the process.
Have clarity on what you want to be, do or have
You can’t create the life or business if you don’t know the be, do or have. You need that kind of clarity to help you give yourself direction. Deciding to start a business means knowing your purpose of your business (all the why’s and what’s). It’s about knowing your passions but more importantly recognizing which passion will be the one you are monetizing on. Not every passion is a great business idea.
You don’t need to jump on the bandwagon
There are folks out there that tell you to follow this strategy or that strategy. Or you should do this or that. And if you have been reading my blogs, you know that I am all about doing what feels good and right to you. But this came with some lessons to learn.
When periscope made its appearance, everyone was on periscope and everyone said: “be on periscope”. I gave it a try a time or three but every time I did a periscope, it just didn’t feel right. And I gave myself permission to let that go and not be on that channel.
But I am excited about building video visibility on YouTube and am currently planning some content and things I want to talk about. I am in the early stages but have the reached the point of “yes this feels good”.
Social Media is great but watch for the burnout
I love hanging out on social media, posting and engaging. What I don’t love is the lack of conversation that is happening. It’s hard to engage when one is bombarded with promo after promo. One of the strategies recommended is to be helpful. And here comes the challenge: How can you be helpful if no one asks a question. A few months ago, I reached social media burnout and I am so grateful for it because it made me ask myself how I wanted to show up in the online world. Cue the daily blogging challenge I set myself, that is still going strong.
Being able to get clear on where I want to show up and how I want to show up, set into motion ideas and dreams I want to create and define on where I am going to put my focus. I still engage and participate in Facebook Groups, but it’s no longer from a feeling of necessity.
Teach what you know
I know lots of things, some may refer this to jack of all trades but really, I love learning and I have lots of interests. It’s taking me a few months to figure this one out but everything happens in due time. People have dreams and often are a bit scared to go after them but mostly they don’t know how to make them happen. There is a conversation about just getting started but isn’t that just difficult if you don’t know where to begin? I thought so, and that is why I created courses around things that I have done, such as building a handmade commerce or writing a book.
Get started because your time is now
The biggest challenge of creating a business that feels good is getting started. I hear it all the time of what people want to do and they talk about it that eventually this or someday that but the truth is, with this kind of a mindset, it will never happen. If you want to start a business that feels good, even if you are still in a job, start now. Start by doing the research around your business by finding out what other people are doing in the field (no don’t copy them) but just see what their offers (service/products) are, what they are blogging about and find yourself a mentor/coach that can help you move along.
There is a lot of talk about focusing on one thing… get good at that one thing… but what if you are good at lots of things?
What if you have a knack for learning new skills, seeing how this will lead you and bring parts of you together? And what if all that you are learning just brings harmony to all that you do?
What if you are meant to stand out, go against the grain and just be unapologetically you?
When I decided to be a full-time entrepreneur I had no freaking clue on what that may look like – like NONE.
I knew I would be amazing at coaching. It’s something I always did without knowing there was a word for it. And even though I may have talked about this dream or that dream before making it happen, I always make it happen – sort of in the right moment kind of thing. If it’s meant to be explored, created and turned into reality, then it will happen.
I knew I make art that appeals to a special kind of people – not everyone gets wood-burning you know? I also know that I love to crochet but there are only so many blankets that I am going to do. I found a rhythm that works for me and my art is a bit seasonal because I can’t crochet when I am hot in the summer and I can’t wood-burn when I am chilly in the winter.
I also knew that my website building skills and social media management knowledge would pay off in some way because I am able to monetize on that. I used not talk about this skill that I learned how to code back in the day and that I can make your WordPress theme look like it is supposed to.
I also knew that I say some brilliant things sometimes or that my family comes up with some cool things and that this randomness of amazing brilliant words needs to be on a t-shirt. And why not? This life is all about going after your dreams and making things happen.
Part of the continuous growing I have done is to always trust my intuition and to learn when to let things, negativity and people go. Because in my world, I don’t have time to be dragged down into the abyss of bullshit. And I have learned to be unapologetically myself to fly my own weird flag because my gypsy heart doesn’t know any better.
Here I am a year later, recognizing that I am first and foremost a writer and I am learning how to weave all my passions and interest into my world, without denying myself any of it. And I know it doesn’t make a lot of sense to other people and I don’t care although I am happy to talk about it.
That’s why focusing on one thing doesn’t work for me and even other people. I refuse to deny myself to include all that I love – from building websites to writing novels and blog posts to creating art.
The bottom line of success is to always be unapologetically yourself, go against the grain and do all the things you love.
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