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I turn coffee into dreams

There’s no denying that I love my coffee. Truth be told, I’ve been drinking coffee since I was a teenager and, yes I am slightly addicted (and please spare me all the health reasons of why I should stop drinking coffee).

You see, I come from a family of coffee drinkers and at one point in my life, I was drinking coffee all day long, an average of 2 pots a day.

I like love coffee. And there were times where I had to make changes because in my last pregnancy the coffee was gross, but due to my slight coffee addiction, the headaches were insane. And so I added creamer and a few pounds.

I’ve since gone back to black coffee and drink about 3-5 cups depending when I wake up. I switched to water for the rest of the day.

I applaud the person who decided that this one little bean and engaging it with water came up with this nectar.

I sometimes, wake up to coffee in bed with a few moments of closeness with my partner.

And at other times, I sit on my deck with my cup of coffee and my journal, enjoying the sounds of nature that surrounds our home.

This is a perfect start to my day.

Coffee and I have the perfect relationship because coffee understands, and it also doesn’t talk back.

I sit and ponder about the day, conjuring ideas and my next steps. And it’s beautiful.

I know coffee get’s a bad rap at times and other’s simply don’t like it. I don’t like matcha green tea. It’s all good!

We all over our likes and dislikes and we all choose what we allow to be part of our dreams.

I choose coffee.

There was a time where my love for coffee was frowned upon. And instead, I chose to embrace it.

There’s nothing wrong with turning your coffee, or tea or other favorite things into your dreams.

But coffee and me, we get along.

I created this t-shirt to show my love for coffee and that it is really a part of my life.

 

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Remove the “shoulds” from your life

A quick search on my blog posts, I can see a handful of times I have told you to “should” something.

And it’s really a word that can feel incredibly heavy.

Seriously, it’s hard to know what you want when you are “shoulding” all over yourself.

Do you remember your parents telling “you should do x, y and z so you can _______”?

Or maybe “you should A, because _______”.

Or maybe even teachers, coaches and peers have given you a bunch of shoulds.

And let me tell you, it’s all a freaking set up.

It set’s you up for a life that isn’t yours to live. In fact, it creates a life on someone else’s terms. It seriously interferes with the heart of the matter:

Doing what you want by doing what you love!

For example, parents have told you that you should have good grades, so you can go to college, earning a degree chosen by your parents.

Or maybe your gym coach told you, that you should practice 5 days out of the week if you wanted to become a competitor. Now don’t get me wrong, becoming the best at something takes dedication and hard work and yes even practicing 5 days a week.

But if it’s a should and not something you want to do, it feels heavy.

A friend of mine is a writer and she believed that she “should’ be a coach. She believed that is what she had to do to reach her destination: To be a writer.

Should, just like doubt, kills dreams!

This is the kind of stuff that happens when you listen to other people and not your intuition.

Because of other people “shoulding” all over you, you will talk yourself out of it.

And it feels heavy because it doesn’t excite you or inspire you to show up.

The moment you let go of all the shoulds you will experience a sense of relief, a sense of freedom if you will. You will feel lighter because you are now willing to follow your intuition and your heart!

 

 

Why your inner circle is the key to your success

I write a lot about going after your dreams because it is a topic I am seriously passionate about! We learn by breaking away from your fears, by doing and not waiting!

And learning to break away from your fears through doing and not waiting is really the part that will change your life!

And therefore, you need a support system, an inner circle that doesn’t squash your ideas and dreams. Instead, they help you brainstorm, lift you up on those darker days and give you a different perspective.

A group friend that are on the similar path in life and business. People who you can bounce ideas off without fearing to give too much away. And more importantly, they hold you accountable and will call you out on your bullshit.

It is one of those elements in our lives that we all should have.  You could, of course, build your dreams alone, but isn’t celebrating success with friends better?

And more importantly, they can see the blind spots, especially if you are frustrated.

Your inner circle is not meant for you to whine and complaint – they are here to help you maintain perspective and challenge you.  It is brainstorming, collaborating and creating dreams together.

Your inner circle will have different skills to suit yours and will be a mastermind of supporting you. Different skills complement each other well as opposed to everyone having the same skill.

Inner circle will provide you with emotional support, encouragement, informational support and tangible support. It is your success team.

Creating your inner circle

  • Make a list identifying who you go to for support. Circle the ones that are a positive influence and who are the negative people (the ones that are always Debbie Downer).
  • Now make a list of the ones that you want to add to your inner circle and tell them that. Be honest with them and tell them why you want them for support and accountability.
  • Nurture the relationship and share your successes and struggles and do hang out with them for fun.

Joining my accountability groups and creating my own inner circle, has tremendously changed my life and the way I do business.

Just a year ago, I was still fighting the daily struggle of what to do and create, but by showing up, staying the room and having someone that allows me to share the good, the bad and the ugly has brought forth a tremendous amount of growth.

You don’t have to do this alone! All you need to do is decide who the people are in your life that can support you and connect with them.

A word of warning perhaps, some will be on board and show up – some will not. We are all on our own journey and have different needs.

Now go off and create your inner circle of dreamers and doers and start building success together!

 

How to embrace the journey of self-acceptance and self-love

 

You are always being judged! It stands in your way of self-acceptance and ultimately loving yourself.

This isn’t a new phenomenon or revelation but since childhood. The way you played, dressed and did your school work, there has been an element of judgment. This shaped how you show up every single day.

And it can be damaging to you and in most cases. This is not meant to harm you, but it can hinder you in achieving your dreams. The reason is often the person’s own limiting beliefs and the person’s idea of how to live and be.

Let me ask you this:

  • Have you ever stopped sharing your dreams for fear of what other people think?
  • Have you ever not allowed yourself to consider the possibility because of how you may be perceived?
  • Have you ever not taken action towards a dream because you’re afraid to lose people in your life?

Small signs that you are allowing someone else’s thoughts, beliefs and judgment influence your life and your dreams.

But how do you move into self-acceptance?

By having a willingness to shed the stories you have been telling yourself. Some of them are small stories that you are barely aware of, while other’s may be more present in your awareness.

Those small stories are minor but directly relate to how you were playing with your peers and told, “you are playing too rough”. Or maybe you received a bad grade giving you the message of not being good enough.

The bigger messages are more present because they were more profound experiences such as your parents were divorcing, a loved one died, or maybe you have experienced trauma through abuse of some kind.

Those stories aren’t easy to shed. I should know! 

Accepting growing up in foster care was hard. It meant I wasn’t loveable. My parents didn’t raise me, meant that I wasn’t good enough. Because of the abuse and trauma, I experienced, it somehow was my fault.

And the reality was that growing up in foster care didn’t have anything to do with me but had everything to do with my parents. And the trauma that I experienced was more about the other person than myself.

There comes a point in your life where compassion, forgiveness, and self-acceptance are the essences of learning to love yourself, despite your experiences and the stories you hang onto.

It’s acknowledging that loving yourself is not only trusting yourself but that healing those parts of your story that keep you in your fear and the judgment is breaking those chains of personal confinement.

And there is so much goodness within you and about you!

A simple exercise that can get you closer to accepting who you are and loving yourself is to create a mind-map about you.

Answer the questions:  

  • What do you love about yourself?
  • What are your strengths?
  • What are your values?
  • Who are you?

Don’t hold back on your answers and really dig into who you are and all your awesomeness.

The moment you can see all the positives about yourself, the easier it is to shed the stories others have helped you create.

And then it just becomes a matter of letting go.

Let go of fear and the judgment.

Love yourself for who you are and stop worrying about what other people will think about you.

Stop allowing them to interfere with your dreams.

And then it just becomes a matter of letting go.

Let go of fear and the judgment.

Love yourself for who you are and stop worrying about what other people will think about you.

Stop allowing them to interfere with your dreams.

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You are only limited by your own imagination

You have dreams to make a living through creation but somewhere in your mind, you told yourself that you can’t, you shouldn’t or holy moly maybe you don’t feel good enough.

Your imagination as a creative is not only what brings you fulfillment but it maintains the balance of alignment. And isn’t that what we are all striving for a life that feels amazing, aligned with who we are at our core and leaves us fulfilled.

And in the end, it is more about the journey of how far we can stretch ourselves outside of our comfort zone.

It’s one thing for me personally to create coloring books. I love the process, I love creating tools and resources for others on a similar journey because as I create them, I am finding myself fulfilled, aligned and amazing that I get to share my imaginations with you.

I heard about Society6 a long time ago, but never did I consider that I, as a creative, an artist, could sell my work on this platform. It seemed to stretch me in areas I didn’t feel comfortable. It made me consider the stories I was telling myself.

Why the heck could I not? 

Really, there was and is no reason why I can’t other than me telling myself that I couldn’t. And then I took the leap.

This is the essence of mindset work, to dig deep into the stories that tend to hold you back. It’s also about recognizing that your imagination is here to serve you, to bring you closer to your own purpose.

What you can believe, you can achieve! 

And the thing is we tend to think linear which limits us in our growth and stepping into our imagination. Let me share with you that I am working on one of my biggest projects right now, with 183 original drawings, doodles, and illustrations. And then I realized that out of all those images, I have several more project ideas that I can make for you.

So where are you thinking too small right now?
Where do you need to allow your imagination to roam some more?
What is stopping you from tapping into that part of yourself that helps you feel fulfilled?

Tell me in the comments below!

 

 

How not to get overwhelmed setting goals

Do you have a lot of ideas, dreams, and goals you want to achieve?

Do you struggle with getting started because there is just so much you want to do?

Yep, I have totally been there and it isn’t fun feeling like a hamster stuck in the wheel.

While I very much encourage you to start taking action today, I think it’s important that we find harmony in it all.

Here are a few steps you can take to reduce the overwhelm:

1. Make a list

Having a list of all the things you want to do, all those ideas in your head will help you clear your head.

2. Prioritize through the process of elimination

When you look at your list of ideas, dreams, and goals, take the first two and ask yourself which is more important. Now use the one you chose as most important and compare it to the next idea and goal on the list.

This is a good time to either give them numbers or rewrite your list according to importance.

3. Brainstorm your actions

Take some time and brainstorm all the actions it will take for your idea and goal to be a reality. Sometimes what is helpful is working backward, from the result to the beginning, if you are trying to identify the steps more clearly.

4. Create an action plan

This is essential to taking action! Create an action plan that doesn’t overwhelm means that you are choosing 3-5 actions you will take every single day. Maybe you can only do 3 things in a day and build on this until you get to 5. And maybe all you need to do is 3 actions a day.

5. Don’t focus on the outcome but be in the journey

The overwhelm happens when we are so focused on the outcome and don’t pay attention to the journey. Know that each step, each action you are taking will get you closer to the goal. You can’t become a marathon runner in one day. It takes time and practice.