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Why your inner circle is the key to your success

I write a lot about going after your dreams because it is a topic I am seriously passionate about! We learn by breaking away from your fears, by doing and not waiting!

And learning to break away from your fears through doing and not waiting is really the part that will change your life!

And this is why you need a support system, an inner circle that doesn’t squash your ideas and dreams. Instead, they help you brainstorm, lift you up on those darker days and give you a different perspective.

A group friend that are on the similar path in life and business. People who you can bounce ideas off of without fearing to give too much away. And more importantly, they hold you accountable and will call you out on your bullshit.

It is one of those elements in our lives that we all should have.  You could, of course, build your dreams alone, but isn’t celebrating success with friends better?

And more importantly, they can see the blind spots, especially if you are frustrated.

Your inner circle is not meant for you to whine and complaint – they are here to help you maintain perspective and challenge you.  It is brainstorming, collaborating and creating dreams together.

Your inner circle will have different skills to suit yours and will be a mastermind of supporting you. Different skills compliment each other well as opposed to everyone having the same skill.

Inner circle will provide you with emotional support, encouragement, informational support and tangible support. It is your success team.

Creating your inner circle

  • Make a list identifying who you go to for support. Circle the ones that are a positive influence and who are the negative people (the ones that are always Debbie Downer).
  • Now make a list of the ones that you want to add to your inner circle and tell them that. Be honest with them and tell them why you want them for support and accountability.
  • Nurture the relationship and share your successes and struggles and do hang out with them for fun.

Joining my accountability groups and creating my own inner circle, has tremendously changed my life and the way I do business.

Just a year ago, I was still fighting the daily struggle of what to do and create, but by showing up, staying the room and having someone that allows me to share the good, the bad and the ugly has brought forth a tremendous amount of growth.

You don’t have to do this alone! All you need to do is decide who the people are in your life that can support you and connect with them.

A word of warning perhaps, some will be on board and show up – some will not. We are all on our own journey and have different needs.

Now go off and create your inner circle of dreamers and doers and start building success together!

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Petra Monaco

How to embrace the journey of self-acceptance and self-love

You are always being judged! It stands in your way of self-acceptance and ultimately loving yourself.

This isn’t a new phenomenon or revelation but since childhood. The way you played, dressed and did your school work, there has been an element of judgment. This shaped how you show up every single day.

And it can be damaging to you and in most cases. This is not meant to harm you, but it can hinder you in achieving your dreams. The reason is often the person’s own limiting beliefs and the person’s idea of how to live and be.

Let me ask you this:

  • Have you ever stopped sharing your dreams for fear of what other people think?
  • Have you ever not allowed yourself to consider the possibility because of how you may be perceived?
  • Have you ever not taken action towards a dream because you’re afraid to lose people in your life?

Small signs that you are allowing someone else’s thoughts, beliefs and judgment influence your life and your dreams.

But how do you move into self-acceptance?

By having a willingness to shed the stories you have been telling yourself. Some of them are small stories that you are barely aware of, while other’s may be more present in your awareness.

Those small stories are minor but directly relate to how you were playing with your peers and told, “you are playing too rough”. Or maybe you received a bad grade giving you the message of not being good enough.

The bigger messages are more present because they were more profound experiences such as your parents were divorcing, a loved one died, or maybe you have experienced trauma through abuse of some kind.

Those stories aren’t easy to shed. I should know! 

Accepting growing up in foster care was hard. It meant I wasn’t loveable. My parents didn’t raise me, meant that I wasn’t good enough. Because of the abuse and trauma I experienced, it somehow was my fault.

And the reality was that growing up in foster care didn’t have anything to do with me but had everything to do with my parents. And the trauma that I experienced was really more about the other person than myself.

There comes a point in your life where compassion, forgiveness, and self-acceptance are the essences of learning to love yourself, despite your experiences and the stories you hang onto.

It’s acknowledging that loving yourself is not only trusting yourself but that healing those parts of your story that keep you in your fear and the judgment is breaking those chains of personal confinement.

And there is so much goodness within you and about you!

A simple exercise that can get you closer to accepting who you are and loving yourself is to create a mind-map about you.

Answer the questions:  

  • What do you love about yourself?
  • What are your strengths?
  • What are your values?
  • Who are you?

Don’t hold back on your answers and really dig into who you are and all of your awesomeness.

The moment you can see all the positives about yourself, the easier it is to shed the stories other’s have helped you create.

And then it just becomes a matter of letting go.

Let go of fear and the judgment.

Love yourself for who you are and stop worrying about what other people will think about you.

Stop allowing them to interfere with your dreams.

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I am about to head into creating the workbook for next year and I am excited!

But I don’t want you to miss out on delaying your goals any longer.

There really is no time like the present to get started, use this workbook to help you make it happen.

Creating your colorful life is a personal journey of creating your vision.

Deciding what you are letting go off.

Being mindful about your mindset and how you want to feel in each moment.

Know where you have been and how you have grown.

Acknowledge what you are willing to release.

What you are giving yourself permission to call into your life.

The workbook is meant to be highly customizable.

Print only what you need so you have the option to print pages multiple times if you are called to.

There is room to reflect on where you are right now with the Flower of Life, so you can tune into who you want to become as you write out your vision and all that you want to do during the year.

The workbook comes with monthly planner pages to map out 3 Goals each month and the main actions that are going to get there.

It comes with mind-maps to help you get a visual on how to put all the pieces of your dreams together.

It has a goal pyramid to help you work backward so you can see all the steps to take and free-writing space to note your thoughts and feelings.

There is no wrong or right way to create your colorful life, there is only your way!

You can read about my Be, Do, Have Goals right here!

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You are only limited by your own imagination

You have dreams to make a living through creation but somewhere in your mind, you told yourself that you can’t, you shouldn’t or holy moly maybe you don’t feel good enough.

Your imagination as a creative is not only what brings you fulfillment but it maintains the balance of alignment. And isn’t that what we are all striving for a life that feels amazing, aligned with who we are at our core and leaves us fulfilled.

And in the end, it is more about the journey of how far we can stretch ourselves outside of our comfort zone.

It’s one thing for me personally to create coloring books. I love the process, I love creating tools and resources for other’s on a similar journey because as I create them, I am finding myself fulfilled, aligned and amazing that I get to share my imaginations with you.

I heard about Society6 a long time ago, but never did I consider that I, as a creative, an artist, could sell my work on this platform. It seemed to stretch me in areas I didn’t feel comfortable. It made me look into the stories I was telling myself.

Why the heck could I not? 

Really, there was and is no reason why I can’t other than me telling myself that I couldn’t. And then I took the leap.

This is the essence of mindset work, to dig deep into the stories that tend to hold you back. It’s also about recognizing that your imagination is here to serve you, to bring you closer to your own purpose.

What you can believe, you can achieve! 

And the thing is we tend to think linear which limits us in our growth and stepping into our imagination. Let me share with you that I am working on one of my biggest projects right now, with 183 original drawings, doodles, and illustrations. And then I realized that out of all of those images, I have several more project ideas that I can make for you.

So where are you thinking too small right now?
Where do you need to allow your imagination to roam some more?
What is stopping you from tapping into that part of yourself that helps you feel fulfilled?

Tell me in the comments below!

P.S. I have some spots available for 1:1 together work for anyone ready to commit to themselves and their dreams!

Let’s get on a complimentary 20-Minute Call to see how I can be best of service to you!

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How not to get overwhelmed setting goals

Do you have a lot of ideas, dreams, and goals you want to achieve?

Do you struggle with getting started because there is just so much you want to do?

Yep, I have totally been there and it isn’t fun feeling like a hamster stuck in the wheel.

While I very much encourage you to start taking action today, I think it’s important that we find harmony in it all.

Here are a few steps you can take to reduce the overwhelm:

1. Make a list

Having a list of all the things you want to do, all those ideas in your head will help you clear your head.

2. Prioritize through the process of elimination

When you look at your list of ideas, dreams, and goals, take the first two and ask yourself which is more important. Now use the one you chose as most important and compare it to the next idea and goal on the list.

This is a good time to either give them numbers or rewrite your list according to importance.

3. Brainstorm your actions

Take some time and brainstorm all the actions it will take for your idea and goal to be a reality. Sometimes what is helpful is working backward, from the result to the beginning, if you are trying to identify the steps more clearly.

4. Create an action plan

This is essential to taking action! Create an action plan that doesn’t overwhelm means that you are choosing 3-5 actions you will take every single day. Maybe you can only do 3 things in a day and build on this until you get to 5. And maybe all you need to do is 3 actions a day.

5. Don’t focus on the outcome but be in the journey

The overwhelm happens when we are so focused on the outcome and don’t pay attention to the journey. Know that each step, each action you are taking will get you closer to the goal. You can’t become a marathon runner in one day. It takes time and practice.

Want some more precise and consistent help? I just released my Mindset on Fire Bootcamp. A 6-week course to help you be clear on what you want to achieve and establishing a mindset routine that supports you in taking action.

Everything in the Bootcamp is what I do in order to achieve my own dreams and goals and I have packed it into weekly modules to support you in your journey.

Join the Bootcamp! 

5 Ways You Sabotage Your Dreams

You have dreams and goals. You have made a list of all the things you want to acheive, this year and maybe even in this life time.

But you are spinning your wheels or maybe you are running in circles.

Welcome to your own personal sabotage.

Yes, you are sabotaging yourself by not taking action.

I am going to share with you 5 ways sabotage shows up in your life!

1. You think you have to learn all the things before you can start

Sometimes this is also known as failure to launch because we believe we have to learn all the things in such a detail that we actually never get started. Prime example, my fiction novel. I thought and believed that I needed to get a degree in writing to get started. This is not the case, I can start writing now and always get a degree later.

2. You are listening to other people on what you ought to do

Ego tells us to play it safe and so do the people in our lives. Getting out of that comfort zone on your own is super challenging because you are perhaps wanting and needing someone else’s approval. And then you find yourself doing what other people think you should be doing. How about no? Do your own thing and do it your own way.

3. You question who you are on going after your dream

Who the hell am I do go after my dream? Why the heck not? Here’s the jiffy on this… ideas and dreams come to you for a reason because the universe believes you are the one to make them happen. All you have to do know is believe it yourself.

4. You don’t have a mindset routine

Mindset is everything and having a routine that set’s you up believing in yourself will help you create focus and feel confident in going after your dream. Having a mindset routine is so much more than mantra’s and affirmations. It’s about writing down what you want, how you are going to get there and what you believe to be true right here right now in the present – even if it’s in the future. Instead of “one day…”, write “I am…”

5. You don’t believe you are good enough

You are ENOUGH. All of the other four points feed into this. You don’t get started because you don’t believe you are good enough. You listen to other people because you don’t think you are good enough. You don’t go after the dreams the universe brings to you because you don’t believe you are good enough. You don’t have a mindset routine because you don’t believe you are good enough.

And I am here to tell you:

YOU ARE ENOUGH!

Instead of sabotaging yourself right from the get go, how about you start doing and be open to learning along the day. The only way to improve and get better at what we want to create is by doing. There is no other way around it.

  • Confidence is built by doing!
  • Being and feeling like you are enough is by doing!
  • Eliminating doubts and fears is done by doing!

Tell me in the comments what you are going to start today!