You are more than enough, now own it

You are more than enough, now own it

enoughDo you constantly tell yourself that you are not enough?

That you are not good enough to go after what you want?

Do you wish you would have it all together like other people appear?

Here is the thing, it is humanly impossible to have it all together all the time.

Why?

Well because we are humans.

And because we are amazing creatures we can feel but we also have the inner gremlin who stalks us and tells us that our negative feelings are valid.

We all get those moments. And anyone that says they don’t, I will call bullshit.

What sets some people apart, however, is the ability to do the inner work to self-awareness and the acknowledgment when we have thoughts that are not really serving us – although they do give us pay off.

For instance, when you say you are not good enough, you will do everything to prove that. You will fail not on purpose, but your inner critic will totally tell you “told you so”.

Don’t let the negative thoughts be the winning team in your life.

Instead, decide to do something about it.

To step into awareness of the thoughts and patterns that come up for you.

To acknowledge that those old thoughts did have a purpose but that you are ready for new and positive ones.

One way to tackle those negative thoughts such as

  • I am not good enough.
  • I am not smart enough.
  • No one wants to read or hear what I have to say.
  • I am not creative enough.
  • I don’t fit in.

Now ask yourself, how true the statement is and why it may be a true/false statement.

Let’s look at a personal example I used to struggle with.
“I am not smart enough.”
Smart enough according to whom?
Did you graduate high school? Yes.
Do you have a college degree? Yes.
Do you have a family? Yes.
Do you have a job/business? Yes.

There for the statement “I am not smart enough” is false because I have achieved those things. All those things require smartness in their own way. And this is the thing, we determine the definition of smart and how it pertains to us – not other people.

So, next time, you have a negative thought come into your head, ask yourself it if is true and then give yourself the answer to why it is true. If it is false, then also give yourself the reason of why it is false.

You soon will see that our limitations are really based on our internal dialogue and not on the external world.

Transforming your Core Beliefs

Transforming your Core Beliefs

Learning and understanding what core beliefs are and how they impact your life because you can step into the awareness of when your drift into old habits. It’s like your ego remembers a contract you have signed a long time ago but that you have since forgotten about and ego makes sure you remember that contract.

Discovering hidden core beliefs is like going on a scavenger hunt and can be an uncomfortable process as you notice the destructive behaviors your core belief persuades you to participate in.

But amazingly, we do have the ability to not only become aware of our belief system, but we can change it.

Journaling

Daily journaling of 3 pages, 10 minutes or 30 minutes is a great place to start because you can go back and read them and notice a pattern of your thoughts and the belief you are holding onto. A belief of “I don’t matter” or “I am invisible” is something you have learned through experiences. Effective journaling will help you recognize that the core belief exists.

Thought Awareness

As you are writing in your journal or go about your day, take note of the things you are telling yourself. Paying attention to our inner dialogue helps us recognize when we are engaging our core belief.

A thought diary is a great way of exploring your thoughts and brings your core belief into the forefront so you can choose to change it.

  • A thought diary may include the event.

“My girlfriends went out for Karaoke but I wasn’t invited”

  • List all self-statements you are telling yourself about the situation and ask yourself what does it mean?
  • Beliefs – everything you believe about the situation
  • What does that mean?
    “My girlfriends don’t like me”
  • What does that mean?
    “There must be something wrong with me
  • What does that mean?
    “I am unlovable” this is the core belief
  • Write down words describing how you feel.

“Hurt”
“Mad”
“Sad”

This process helps you shift through the layers until your reach the bottom of the barrel. And you are ready to identify where it originated from, the impact it has and how it feels.

I have created a core belief exercise worksheet to help you not only identify the core belief but also transform it.

The key will be to acknowledge when it comes in, tell it to stop and state the new core belief. Eventually, the old core belief will no longer be in your existence.