Do you constantly tell yourself that you are not enough?
That you are not good enough to go after what you want?
Do you wish you would have it all together like other people appear?
Here is the thing, it is humanly impossible to have it all together all the time.
Well because we are humans.
And because we are amazing creatures we can feel but we also have the inner gremlin who stalks us and tells us that our negative feelings are valid.
We all get those moments. And anyone that says they don’t, I will call bullshit.
What sets some people apart, however, is the ability to do the inner work to self-awareness and the acknowledgment when we have thoughts that are not really serving us – although they do give us pay off.
For instance, when you say you are not good enough, you will do everything to prove that. You will fail not on purpose, but your inner critic will totally tell you “told you so”.
Don’t let the negative thoughts be the winning team in your life.
Instead, decide to do something about it.
To step into awareness of the thoughts and patterns that come up for you.
To acknowledge that those old thoughts did have a purpose but that you are ready for new and positive ones.
One way to tackle those negative thoughts such as
- I am not good enough.
- I am not smart enough.
- No one wants to read or hear what I have to say.
- I am not creative enough.
- I don’t fit in.
Now ask yourself, how true the statement is and why it may be a true/false statement.
Let’s look at a personal example I used to struggle with.
“I am not smart enough.”
Smart enough according to whom?
Did you graduate high school? Yes.
Do you have a college degree? Yes.
Do you have a family? Yes.
Do you have a job/business? Yes.
There for the statement “I am not smart enough” is false because I have achieved those things. All those things require smartness in their own way. And this is the thing, we determine the definition of smart and how it pertains to us – not other people.
So, next time, you have a negative thought come into your head, ask yourself it if is true and then give yourself the answer to why it is true. If it is false, then also give yourself the reason of why it is false.
You soon will see that our limitations are really based on our internal dialogue and not on the external world.