Stop letting fear to control your life

Stop letting fear to control your life

The only thing that is constant, is change. And yet here you are afraid of it like it’s some kind of horror movie. Take a look at your life and you will see that nothing stayed the same. Change happens in small or big leaps and you may not be able to see the subtle changes, that doesn’t mean they don’t exist.

Any change, positive or negative, is going to create an element of fear such as starting a new relationship or losing your job.

Would you be surprised if I tell you that there a benefit to your fear? And that it doesn’t have to be as scary as you make it out to be?

But first let’s look at the reasons behind you fear, when you get some insight on this, you will be able to take action anyway.

You, including me, are afraid of the unknown because you don’t know what’s on the other side and it can give you the case of anxiety. Your mind tells you that it isn’t safe and encourages you to avoid to take action or even make a decision. You haven’t experienced this before so you don’t really know the outcome.

I don’t necessarily believe in the wrong choice but you make the best decision in every given moment with the information that you have. Your intuition can guide you a lot better than your mind will because of your mind as powerful as it is, has the ability to cloud your vision. Here is what I encourage you to do, let go of perfectionism and the absolutes.

Perfectionism is an illusion and doesn’t exist and absolutes can just about anytime set you up to fail because you are so hung up at the “it is this or nothing”.

And this can often increase your self-doubt. But for just one moment, reflect on your life and see where you’ve had to make adjustments in the past and how you made it happen. Use this to move forward.

And yet, by facing the unknown and embracing the change you are about to face, you learn so much about yourself and that you are capable off and inevitable learn some new skills. Its timing may never be ideal but it gives you space to examine and evaluate your core values and take a look if everything is still aligned with who you are.

Self-discovery helps you walk your path of authenticity and therefore lead to progress as you are expanding your comfort zone. You are more resilient than you give yourself credit for.

Anytime I share about the struggle we endured when my son was fighting for his life, I hear from other mom’s how they didn’t think they could handle it or deal with it. But when you are not given a choice, you are going to show up the best way you know how, and you will face whatever comes your way. Sometimes gracefully and sometimes not so much.

And that doesn’t mean you won’t face worry and anxiety along the way but by reframing the negative stories you tell yourself, and focus on the positive outcome that your forward moving action could lead to, it will feel better overall.

Now I am not going to encourage you to push your feelings aside because I don’t believe in that. I think we need to feel our feelings, how else are you ever going to grow and move forward and will ultimately make the changes in your life?

Your feelings are good indicators for you and your path and when you can name them, you are standing in your power and maintain your own control.

And again, something that may be helpful is to create a list and acknowledge the changes you have made in your life, what you have learned and remind yourself that you have made it through some tough times already.

Your life, your journey, is about putting one foot in front of the other. It’s about trusting your intuition and develop positive mindset strategies. And yes, there are going to be shit days but they aren’t all going to be like that!

You don’t have to face change alone because when you are surrounded by like-minded people and have a support system, transitions will become a lot easier to manage!

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Stop letting fear to control your life because you have a choice to feed the fear or not!
How to create a blissful life

How to create a blissful life

Bliss looks so different for everyone and sometimes we can get lost in what it all means. We have created the idea of bliss according to what other people define as bliss.

Being blissful and having bliss in your life means to be happy and bring happiness into your life.

A blissful life

How do you know that you are experiencing a moment of bliss?

When you have that moment where everything feels right in your world and you feel alive that is bliss.

Finding it difficult to contain your excitement is a complete moment of bliss.

A side effect of experiencing this blissful moment is that you are vibrating at a higher frequency. When we are in this high vibration, everything just feels amazing. You can see things with clarity and have a deep understanding of who you are. A blissful moment is being comfortable in your own skin.

How do we bring more of this bliss into your everyday life?

We don’t want to feel blissful just every now and then.  We want more of this happens, and we want it all the time.

The short answer is, do all the things that make you happy and that excite you and tune out any outside influences that may interfere.

Following your bliss is not just an idea in your head. Being happy is a continued creation meeting your needs so you can create the life you desire.

Creating a blissful life is actively engaging every single day and take action.  It is not sitting on the sideline and watching just pass by. When we allow life to just happen we will find ourselves frustrated and stuck.

Following your bliss is following your dreams, the passions that ignite you from within. It’s more than just a calling because you know you want happiness every single day.

Having a blissful life is a journey and never a destination and you don’t have to wait to create a blissful life. You can have it right now!

6 tips to have bliss in your life.

  1. Be grateful and give daily recognition of everything amazing in your life. In your gratitude practice, include your successes for that day. It is so powerful to affirm gratitude and success to bring in more happiness.
  2. Allow yourself to be open and curious about opportunities and the people that come into your life. There is so much we can learn from each other and just maybe you learn something new about yourself.
  3. Connect with your friends by letting them know what they mean to you with kind words and compliments. Allow time for them because sharing laughter with others is much more conducive to your happiness.
  4. Make blissful living your purpose and do that deliberately. Even when things aren’t going as perfect as hoped there is always something to learn form. It creates room for growth and a deeper understanding.
  5. Do the things that make you happy! Work in a career that you would do for free, engage in activities that are fun for you such as hobbies and make your home exactly what you want it to be.
  6. Be you without apology because life is too short to be anyone else. You will attract happiness and the right kind of people when you allow yourself to just be your true self.

A blissful life is a choice. It is not something that just happens to some people.

When focusing on all the negative things in your life, bliss will not be present. Instead, it will feel unreachable. Decide today that you want a blissful life and focus on the positive and include the 6 steps of blissful living.

 

Change your story so you can change your life

Change your story so you can change your life

What you tell yourself every single day is your truth.

Do you like what you are telling yourself, or do you wish it was a different story?

What if in your struggles, someone told you they feel inspired by you? What if in your frustration, someone asked you, how do you do it? How do you show up every single day?

It can be incredibly hard to get up every single morning and do the same shit, again and again. But I tell you to get through the good stuff, this is in a way necessary.

Why would the struggle and frustration be necessary?

So, you can change it. So, you can state out loud that you had enough, that you are ready and willing for change and most importantly, you are willing to look at yourself in a different way.

Struggle and frustration are teachers.

Teachers to show you what you don’t want but ultimately, they teach you that you have a choice.

You have a choice in the story you tell yourself every single day.

From the time, you open your eyes until you lay your head down on your pillow.

You have a choice.

You can stay in that same story of frustration and struggle and wonder when life will change and become easier.

Or you simply decide to change your story.

But don’t be fooled because it will not eradicate the struggle or the frustration. In fact, it will bring in new ones because your ego loves your suffering. It wants you to keep playing in the field of life never being easy. It wants to validate that life is freaking hard every single day.

Let me share an example with you.

For many years, I told everyone I was a foster kid reject. Rejected by my parents, foster parents, the system, which then followed that I would, of course, be rejected by potential partners, soulmates, and my dream career.

It made total sense.

I struggled to keep a roof over my head, to put food on the table, to maintain relationships and friendships.

And I couldn’t see how this was ever going to change, except that I needed to win the lottery or something and all my problems would be solved.

I didn’t win the lottery.

What I did win was a change of perspective.

What if my attitude, my choices and the story I told myself were the keys to unlocking what I needed to feel less struggle and less frustration.

And I made the decision to rewrite my story.

I am a foster kid success.

Changing this one sentence, made a difference because I could see and acknowledge everything I had overcome and made happen.

And just like that, the struggle was different, the frustration was different and my life was different.

Sometimes, all you have to do is change one word or one sentence.

Make a choice to change your story and watch your life unfold in ways you never imagined.

It’s time to make a choice

It’s time to make a choice

You are the one in the driver seat of your life and you already know the changes you need to make. It’s time to make a choice.

Do yourself a favor, don’t wait until January 1st to make a new year’s resolution.

Make the choice now.

  • Decide to become who you want to be now.
  • Decide to learn what you need to learn now.
  • Decide to change what needs changing now.

You can keep watching everyone else move forward, take action and create the life that feels amazing.

Or you can get into the game yourself.

I know what I am talking about because for too long, I waited.

  • I waited for the right time.
  • I waited for it all to be perfect.
  • I waited for the stars to align.

But it isn’t worse the cost to wait any longer.

It is time to make a choice to create all that you want to be, do and have, and frankly, it doesn’t have to be very complicated.

One small step will get you going, just make a choice in what you want.

Feeling overwhelmed, then make a list of what is going on right now and what you don’t want.

And sometimes you must just jump in, with no plan B but sheer determination to making it happen.

  • It’s time to stop the excuses.
  • It’s time to stop playing the victim.
  • It’s time to stop doubting yourself.

What is the worst that could happen?

  • You afraid that you lose friends and family?
  • Are you happy with your life and your work?
  • You have a life that you can be proud of?

I mean just imagine, doing what you love to do and having a support system that matters?

Not everyone is going to like you, and you know what, just maybe that’s okay.

If being liked is your thing keep doing what you are doing.

  • Keep playing it safe.
  • Keep playing it small.
  • Keep yourself in the box.

But if you are ready to do all that you ever wanted to do, the time is now!

Time to stop the excuses!

 

Deciding on action could change your life

Deciding on action could change your life

It is never too late to do what you love to do and have the life you want!

But to go after what you want, you must dig deep and do the work.

Growth only happens on the other side of the comfort zone. And the only way to step out of that zone is by taking action!

And the only way to get started is to have clarity on what you want your life to feel like.

It is cutting through

  • The negative thoughts and core beliefs
  • The obstacles and sabotage we often create ourselves
  • The procrastination and stop the excuses

You know you have amazing ideas and dreams just waiting for you to take action.

  • Affirm yourself that you have what it takes
  • Love yourself enough to honor yourself
  • Have Boundaries that support your life

When you rise above the sabotage, obstacles, and fear that has kept you playing small and mostly playing it safe, amazing things are going to happen.

All the things you want to be, do and have are slowly growing and coming into your existence.

All there will be left to do is to create a plan, commit to it and start taking action.

But be careful partaking in this course could be life changing!

Who am I to guide you into rising above and into action?

Every idea I ever had I made happen:

  • I wanted a retail store to support local artists in a small town. Done.
  • I wanted to write a book. Done.
  • I wanted to create coloring books. Done.
  • I wanted to start a business that encompasses all that I do. Done.

But it took fighting the doubts and fears and the voices that didn’t believe it could happen. It meant cutting through the bullshit of my own doing and not caring what other people think about me or my work.

It’s about believing in yourself and having an “I can do” attitude.