Children learn from example and teach you to be a leader

connectI had scheduled for us to go roller skating today, hoping for a good time before my little guy went to the hospital for one more surgery. Everyone was on board up until they skipped on the skates. The hero held on tight to my hands and halfway across the room he said he was done. Seriously? You don’t want to reconsider? Nope, done!

Seriously? You don’t want to reconsider? Nope, done!

For him, he does have reason to be overwhelmed with several people in the room and feeling uneasy. It’s part of him and I know it but man I still felt a little letdown.

And then the 15-year-old didn’t want to do it all – for fear of falling… what? How else will you learn? But neither he or the youngest could be persuaded. Though they have both told me that if they had their own and they could practice somewhere else, they would participate? What? Am I confused? I did manage a few rounds of skating secretly reliving the moments of my childhood – so fun.

But neither he or the youngest could be persuaded. Though they have both told me that if they had their own and they could practice somewhere else, they would participate? What? Am I confused? I did manage a few rounds of skating secretly reliving the moments of my childhood – so fun.

I did manage a few rounds of skating! Yay!

Well, either way, we left. But my disappointment was worn on my sleeve and obvious and I also didn’t want to go home and just sit around. So, what are we to do in a town that offers much for little to nothing?

After some discussion, we decided that we’d get our dogs and go to a nearby park and walk a 2-mile trail. Mind you that we have two 50 lbs. dogs and one itty bitty 6 lbs. Yorkie – we thought the Ty (Yorkie) wouldn’t quite make it but to our surprise, he did incredibly well and seemed to have a really good time.

And then I noticed that the kids really had a good time. Like a much better than at the roller-skating rink – they were laughter and smiles and everyone agreed it was a good walk.

And my heart was at peace again and I realized that my attitude may not have been the best due to my own disappointment but that we were still able to turn it around and have a good time.

And I realized that my kids did agree to learn how to skate and it became a much better day – the kind of day I had hoped for in the first place.

But how exactly does do they learn from you and how does it make you a leader?

You are showing flexibility. It’s one of those things I believe is needed when we want to be good leaders.

Being too rigid, too authoritarian is not helpful if you are trying to set an example.