Your vision is what you are working on every single day. Each small action you take will get you closer to that of what you desire. But it really is so much more than that because as you work towards your dreams and goals you want to make happen, you are changing in the process and truly are becoming who you already know is the real you deep inside.
But what is vision really? What does it mean and how can it help you?
What is Vision?
Vision is that place in the future of where you want to go and what you want to achieve. It’s that ongoing dream you have of all that you wanted to do and how you want to live, but you are currently not living in that version of yours. In short, vision is having a rough plan on where you are going and what you are creating in your life. Vision goes beyond the immediate short-term goals and being able to imagine yourself in the life you up until this point, you have only dreamed about.
What is the purpose of vision?
Something I find true for most of us is that we need a purpose, and vision in it’s the simplest form gives you something to strive for. It’s that dream that keeps repeating itself in your mind, that you get so excited about to make it happen. It is the essence of living and really feeling like you are alive and not merely existing. Without the visions and dreams, one might ask themselves, what is the point of all this? Why bother getting up every morning and repeat the same mundane process of life repeatedly. The purpose of your vision is to help you feel excited about getting up every single day.
But just how do you find your vision?
What is that reoccurring dream you have that you can’t wait for to be real? It feels so amazing and yet so big but you struggle to see just how you are going to that end goal. And let me just add here now, that your vision may change, you will always have new dreams and goal and you will find it challenging to reach the place of “I have arrived”. Because every time you feel like you have arrived, something new and exciting just may peak your interest.
But just for a moment, imagine your biggest dream. How does it play out in your life? What will it mean to you to achieve that vision?
Finding your vision is seeing your biggest dream come to life. And not in a fairy tale like scenario, because you will have to do something about it, although it can have that same kind of magic. It makes your body tingle with excitement, even though parts of you are scared to bits.
How do you bring your vision to life?
To bring your vision to life, you must know what you want. And sometimes that can feel overwhelming and it’s helpful to make a list of what you don’t want. Take some quiet time with your favorite drink and start creating a list of the things you don’t want. From there, start writing your vision.
Give it a date, by xx I am so happy and grateful to wake up_____________________.
It’s almost critical that you free write this without restrictions. Allow your dreams and goals unfold in front of you without restriction. Imagine that if you could not fail and didn’t worry about money, what would your life feel and be like.
- Who would be part of it?
- Where are you living?
- Who do you wake up with?
- What does your morning look like?
- When do you start working?
- What does your work day look like? Your weekend?
- What does your evening look like? Again, who is part of it?
- When do you go to bed?
- How do you feel?
- Describe your environment.
As you begin answering those questions, you will define who you want to become and realize that you can be that person right here, right now. You see your life isn’t in the future but it’s bringing those small pieces into your existents in your current reality.
As you are reading through your vision, what elements can you actively make happen now? What parts of your morning routine can you include now? What part of your work can happen now? How can you feel now?
Your vision is a lot closer than you think!
What you tell yourself every single day is your truth.
Do you like what you are telling yourself, or do you wish it was a different story?
What if in your struggles, someone told you they feel inspired by you? What if in your frustration, someone asked you, how do you do it? How do you show up every single day?
It can be incredibly hard to get up every single morning and do the same shit, again and again. But I tell you to get through the good stuff, this is in a way necessary.
Why would the struggle and frustration be necessary?
So, you can change it. So, you can state out loud that you had enough, that you are ready and willing for change and most importantly, you are willing to look at yourself in a different way.
Struggle and frustration are teachers.
Teachers to show you what you don’t want but ultimately, they teach you that you have a choice.
You have a choice in the story you tell yourself every single day.
From the time, you open your eyes until you lay your head down on your pillow.
You have a choice.
You can stay in that same story of frustration and struggle and wonder when life will change and become easier.
Or you simply decide to change your story.
But don’t be fooled because it will not eradicate the struggle or the frustration. In fact, it will bring in new ones because your ego loves your suffering. It wants you to keep playing in the field of life never being easy. It wants to validate that life is freaking hard every single day.
Let me share an example with you.
For many years, I told everyone I was a foster kid reject. Rejected by my parents, foster parents, the system, which then followed that I would, of course, be rejected by potential partners, soulmates, and my dream career.
It made total sense.
I struggled to keep a roof over my head, to put food on the table, to maintain relationships and friendships.
And I couldn’t see how this was ever going to change, except that I needed to win the lottery or something and all my problems would be solved.
I didn’t win the lottery.
What I did win was a change of perspective.
What if my attitude, my choices and the story I told myself were the keys to unlocking what I needed to feel less struggle and less frustration.
And I made the decision to rewrite my story.
I am a foster kid success.
Changing this one sentence, made a difference because I could see and acknowledge everything I had overcome and made happen.
And just like that, the struggle was different, the frustration was different and my life was different.
Sometimes, all you have to do is change one word or one sentence.
Make a choice to change your story and watch your life unfold in ways you never imagined.
What is your current frustration that you can change today?
You have a choice to live in that frustration or take some intuitive action.
I understand the frustration, I lived with it for so long. But it was so much more than just that, it was about showing up for me and I couldn’t figure out how to do it.
There was frustration about money or the lack thereof.
The frustration of not being heard.
The frustration that every time I took a step forward, something would knock me back 10 feet.
When my son was diagnosed with a rare genetic disorder, I hit my breaking point. I had enough and was done living in frustration. I wanted to provide for my family, do the things I love and be in love.
I returned to college, even though I had just finished 4 years studying accounting. I was here to do bigger and better things that sit in a cubicle all day.
And amid the chaos of learning about what my son’s diagnosis and what it would mean, this is what I learned:
Life is too short to not live and be alive.
We get stuck, overwhelmed and feel like we can’t figure out what to do, what the next step is or even see the next day.
But the cool thing about being human and all, we have the power to do something about it.
So, if you are feeling frustrated right now, sit down with pen and paper and get ready to mind-map.
Mind mapping helps you identify your frustration and allows you to problem solve for solutions.
You can make this as big or as little as you need. Therefore, I like using pen and paper because I can go however long I need to until I can’t come up with another idea.
When you finished, take a break and then come back to it and get your perspective on.
You are in control on how to handle frustration.
You have to know and believe you can do something about it.
You have to know and believe that you are in control and have the power.
So, what are you going to do about it?
What is the first step you are going to take?
As with all things, attitude and a willingness to get out of your comfort zone will help you remove any frustration.
Learning and understanding what core beliefs are and how they impact your life because you can step into the awareness of when your drift into old habits. It’s like your ego remembers a contract you have signed a long time ago but that you have since forgotten about and ego makes sure you remember that contract.
Discovering hidden core beliefs is like going on a scavenger hunt and can be an uncomfortable process as you notice the destructive behaviors your core belief persuades you to participate in.
But amazingly, we do have the ability to not only become aware of our belief system, but we can change it.
Daily journaling of 3 pages, 10 minutes or 30 minutes is a great place to start because you can go back and read them and notice a pattern of your thoughts and the belief you are holding onto. A belief of “I don’t matter” or “I am invisible” is something you have learned through experiences. Effective journaling will help you recognize that the core belief exists.
As you are writing in your journal or go about your day, take note of the things you are telling yourself. Paying attention to our inner dialogue helps us recognize when we are engaging our core belief.
A thought diary is a great way of exploring your thoughts and brings your core belief into the forefront so you can choose to change it.
- A thought diary may include the event.
“My girlfriends went out for Karaoke but I wasn’t invited”
- List all self-statements you are telling yourself about the situation and ask yourself what does it mean?
- Beliefs – everything you believe about the situation
- What does that mean?
“My girlfriends don’t like me”
- What does that mean?
“There must be something wrong with me
- What does that mean?
“I am unlovable” this is the core belief
- Write down words describing how you feel.
This process helps you shift through the layers until your reach the bottom of the barrel. And you are ready to identify where it originated from, the impact it has and how it feels.
I have created a core belief exercise worksheet to help you not only identify the core belief but also transform it.
The key will be to acknowledge when it comes in, tell it to stop and state the new core belief. Eventually, the old core belief will no longer be in your existence.
Do you believe in your dreams? In yourself? What happens when you get frustrated at everything?
You may play the blame game, wonder how you got there, feel disappointed that you are not where you envisioned yourself to be.
You wonder why you must face one challenge after another and why on earth can’t anything just be easy for you.
You look up at the sky and wonder out loud: “Haven’t I been through enough already?”
I have been there so many times, I may have lost count!
I moved to the US and I didn’t speak English at least not enough to communicate well. This, of course, can be frustrating when there is no one there to help you translate and you are literally using hands and feet to get your point across.
I was in relationships and didn’t voice my needs or wants and wondered why all the relationships fell apart. I blamed them for so long that I failed to look at myself until I wondered what I could do to improve this.
I lived penny to penny, couch surfing, living in a hotel trying to keep a roof over our heads any which way I could. I had ambitions, dreams, but had no idea how to move forward. I believed that I couldn’t go to school to get educated.
I knew intuitively something was off when my youngest was born but not a doctor could give me answers until he was 4!
am a frustration buster though I am not sure the title would really work. In any case, frustration is a sign that something isn’t working. What it doesn’t indicate is your value or your abilities! It’s the springboard for you to either step up or accept that everything just is the way it is.
But personally, I don’t believe in just accepting what is because you might as well just lay down and die.
I am one of those that refuse to believe that I was meant to be stuck in those frustrations and instead I used them to figure out how to move forward.
How about you?
We are supposed to have challenges in our lives and yes even frustrations because they allow us to grow and become more aware of the life we really want. Frustrations help us figure out what is acceptable to us and what it is we want to change.
Use your frustration as a learning tool. Take a moment to reflect what isn’t working but also make sure looking at the things you are working on. List all the possibilities, even the negative ones.
Sometimes what we perceive as a step back or as a negative idea may just be the thing you should be doing to get you to that next level of being.