In a previous post, I shared some of the benefits of facing change and moving through a transition. Any time you face a challenge, there are lessons to be learned along the way or when you are on the other side of it.
I’ve heard it all my life: What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!
And if that’s the case then by all accounts, I think you are a superhero.
But I also know that when you are in the middle of chaos, you don’t really feel like a superhero. If anything, you are struggling to see the light of day and hang onto the glimmer of hope. And yet, when you come out on the other side, there are a few things to reflect on.
When you are going through hard times, you learn that the only person you can sometimes count on is only yourself. It’s not ideal because support can mean everything and when you’re asking for help, you also have to decide who that person is you are going to reach out to! In the end, you are the one going through the motion and figure out the next step! Whatever challenge you are facing is a catalyst for change.
When you are in the middle of chaos is tough seeing all the goodness in your life. When your spirit is crushed from a break-up or a job loss and your identity is stripped down, gratitude may be the last thing on your mind. But at the same time, it can show you what’s important in your life, who your true friends are and learn to appreciate what is rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Some things that once had value may no longer hold the same as you are rebuilding your life through each challenge.
You’re human with flaws – yep – and you are bound to make a mistake. If you get fired maybe it’s because you are too outspoken (that’s me!) or you didn’t do the work up to your bosses standards. While initially bad news, it can also be amazing news. Maybe it wasn’t the “right” job in the first place but it can also help you recognize what can use a bit of improving so that at your next job you don’t run into the same problem! It’s humbling to face your own faults, but again they can also be one of the most amazing catalysts for you.
For me, it was what I needed to start my business. Sure it sucked donkey balls but as I look back at it now, it was the best thing ever and I was able to use it as an opportunity to go after what I really wanted in life and well being my own boss, has improved my life in many ways.
Your attitude about any given situation is what will help you move forward. Of course, feel your emotions. Be angry, feel resentful but don’t stay there. But if you don’t feel your emotions, how will you be able to move forward? But it’s also imperative that you develop an “I can” attitude that is fueled by determination, optimism and a dose of stubbornness. This will help you move forward and is definitely an asset you can start building before the crisis happens.
Here’s the thing, challenges are going to happen but how you handle them is the thing that matters. Face them like a superhero, and even they have days where they feel all the emotions, and yet, in the end, you will come out stronger, more resilient and more empowered!
Are you stretched too thin with too many obligations in your week?
Do you find it challenging to make time for yourself?
Do you even know what would nurture you?
I released the Nurture Yourself Challenge in the Rebels Academy aka Rebel Soul Connection.
28 days of exploration and trying new things to help you figure out what activities nurture your soul and give you the much-needed downtime from the hustle and bustle.
The goal is that you find about 3-5 things that not only light you up but truly nurture your spirit, and incorporate them into your long-term self-care regimen.
Sometimes in the chaos of life when you there are more demands in the day than you can manage, it’s challenging to find time for yourself.
In this challenge, you will spend 10-30 minutes a day, trying something different. You may already be familiar with some of the activities and that’s okay but this is about the experience and nurturing yourself more than anything else.
- What would it mean to you to take a little time for yourself every day?
- How refreshed would you feel?
- How relaxed could you go into the day?
Something I learned over the years is that if I don’t take care of myself, who will? If I don’t prioritize myself and give me that respect, how can I expect other people to respect and honor me?
And I want you to ask yourself the same questions!
And the end of the 28-day Challenge, I hope that you have found a few things that you know will work for you to help you nourish and nurture yourself.
There is no right or wrong way to engage in self-care and there whatever practice works for someone else, it may not work for you.
Join the Rebels Academy today and start taking the Nurture Yourself Challenge!
There are about 110 days left in the year and on October 2nd, 2017 it will be exactly 90 days until this year is over.
And as a dreamer, creative, goal setting junkie, I want to help you and finish this year with a bang!
Here are few of my goals that I plan on finishing the last 90-days of the year:
- Publish my 1st novel
- Publish my next personal development book
- Add new course to the Rebel Soul Connection
- Change my citizenship status
I have always wanted to write a novel and it’s time I eat my own words and stop saying “one day I will” and I am pleased to say I am through the first phase i.e. developing the story outline.
My personal development book was another idea that came to me as so many do, and I always say “why not?” and so this one will probably hit the online shelf soonish.
My goal is to add new content monthly to my membership community because my mission is to help you figure out the how and give you the tools and resources to do because it’s time to be done with the excuses!
And becoming an American Citizen has been on a long list that has moved up in priority status. I have lived in the U.S. 25 years now, never gone back to Germany and have very little interest in doing so.
Part of setting goals is to have some concise clarity and being able to let go of what may not be in alignment if you will and give yourself permission to go after whatever it is you do want!
I want you to email me with any challenges you have when it comes to achieving your goals!
Overwhelm and Procrastination hit because confidence has decided to hide from you. There are so many things you want to be, do and have but you are finding yourself thinking, who the heck am I to do this or maybe you are surrounded by the inner critic of not being enough, feeling enough and many other fears that you may not be aware of.
I am not one to beat around the bush (as you can see) and I like to dig right in and get to the core of the situation. But first, we need some clarity.
So, I want you to think about a goal you have for the next 90 days, and answer the following questions:
- What is your vision for the next 90 days?
- Who do you want to become in those 90 days?
- What goal do you want to achieve in the next 90 days?
- Why do you want to achieve this goal?
To get from point A to point B, we need directions or we end up lost in the middle of nowhere. So now that you have answered those questions, let’s go a little deeper.
- How will having confidence help you achieve your goal?
- How is lack of confidence serving you right now? In other words, how is it stopping you?
- Who can you reach out to hold you accountable and support you?
Self-awareness is the magic pill of becoming who you want to be, doing what you want to do and have all that you desire.
So, take some time today and sit with those questions. Make a cup of tea or coffee and then answer those questions in a free writing atmosphere. Don’t hold back because you really want to tap into that core of who you are.
Having answers to your motivation aka the why and knowing who you want to become, will give you the GPS coordinates to get there.
Tell me in the comments one insight you have gained and come back tomorrow for day 2!
All this week, I have talked about fear how it shows up, where it will stop us and how it is asking you to play bigger.
This is known to be true, if it scares you so much that you almost piss your pants, then you are called to step out.
Here are a few things that you can do to challenge your fear:
Start where you are in small and tiny steps
What really scares you is that your belief you should make big huge leaps and it’s more about taking tiny and consistent steps forward. What tiny thing can you do today to move forward?
Believe in yourself and trust that you know
Think back about a moment in your life where you believed in yourself. Now take this feeling and transfer it into the present moment and really feel it as you are visualizing your next steps. Trust that your intuition is guiding you and that you know what to do.
Challenge that fear by writing it down
This is perhaps one of my favorite journaling activities because I get to proof fear aka the ego wrong in many ways. Take your journal or a piece of paper and write down your fear. Now create a list of evidence to show whether it is true or false. If it’s true, journal what you can do about it.
Do something different from what you have always done
This will without question challenge you and push your comfort zone which is the point! You aren’t going to move forward and achieve your dreams by doing what you have always done. You will need to take it and just get over yourself.