For women who are ready to rise above and take charge of their mindset so they can create the life their want.
For many years, people asked me how I do it.
How do I go to work, raise children, go to school, care for a medically fragile child and still show up in the world believing and doing?
I never questioned the how of doing something as I just do but as a realization set in that this guide is to help you learn my process and create the change you want in your life.
I was driven by wanting to remove the frustration from my life, and the see the abundance that already surrounded me.
My story isn’t unique but it certainly is unique to me – a little bit of a huh? what?
There are plenty of other people who have risen above through challenging stories and each story is unique to the person. We all have what it takes to change our story and to rise above those limiting beliefs that we impose upon ourselves.
And this is exactly what this course is about, identifying what you want to change or improve and come up with a solution. You have the answers already, stuck inside of you and the course is asking you to open the doors to possibility.
Change always begins from inside before it can be translated into our outer world. This course is about the internal work and applying it to the external parts into our life.
If you had enough and you are ready to change the direction of where you want to go, then this course is for you. It’s time to stop being extra in your life and start being the main character.
Give yourself permission to dream, believe in yourself and take action.
Your time is now!
I fully believe that there is a reason why dreams enter our conscious, and it is simply because we are the intended person to make them happen.
But so many times I have seen and heard people talk themselves out of their dreams because the minute it enters awareness is the same minute we allow fear and doubt to argue against it.
We owe it to ourselves to explore the possibility and to believe that we can make those dreams happen.
So here are 7 things you do when dreams come into awareness:
1. Give yourself permission
Allow yourself to see the big picture, not the little details. The big picture is important to see all that is possible and harness the feeling of excitement of seeing it becoming a real thing.
2. Believe you are the one and in yourself
Believe that you are the person to make it happen and that you have what it takes. Write about it in your journal, it’s okay to start with the doubts and fears but then go ahead and show yourself how it’s all bullshit. You have already accomplished so much.
3. Talk about your ideas and dreams with someone
Sharing your dream is scary because you may fear that the other person thinks you are crazy but if you tell it to the right kind of person, you just may be surprised about the support you have. It also gives you the opportunity to have a different perspective.
4. Do some research
Yes, do some research and find out if other people have made this happen. This isn’t to steer you away but to show you that you too can make it happen. I don’t believe in competition in business because there are a billion people in this world and one person can’t serve them all.
5. Find out what it will take to make it happen
Yes, more research but this one is to help you figure out what you will need to do. Dreams are earned by taking action but to do so, you must know what it takes.
6. Create an Action Plan
Dreams are meant to become goals because if not there are merely wishes. So, write down your dream as the main goal, list all the tasks it will take to get there and then break it down even further into smaller action steps.
7. Take action
Don’t just do the research and plan and then do nothing. Take action, one step at a time. It doesn’t have to be big steps right out of the gate, but a small one every day or every week will make your dream a reality.
All too often we get focused on the “how” to make it happen rather than what. The how you can find out by talking to people, doing your research and even hiring a coach. Two of my personal dreams happened because I shared it with people and inadvertently those people then gave me the “how to”. This is the magic of talking about your dreams no matter how scary they are!
I just returned from a quick trip to NY for a concert, and I say quickly because it was just 24 hours all together. But it was a great experience – Madison Square Garden, Central Park and of course Time Square.
Earlier this year, I made the commitment to myself that this year would be about experiences because I don’t want to wait until I am old.
I don’t want to wait until I perhaps physically can’t-do the things I love to do and then say to myself “I should have done this or that”.
Nope, this isn’t how I envisioned living my life.
Instead, I opened myself up to possibilities and opportunities.
At the beginning of March, I traveled to Kentucky, alone. This was the first time I had traveled by myself for more than 4 hours since getting my driver’s license. For someone, who believes in overcoming whatever is holding me back, that was just another thing.
And I say another thing, because, in a few days, I will be venturing off to another location, again driving by myself for the most part, right after I drop my kids off with their dad for spring break.
Somewhere along the line, we are told we can’t or shouldn’t do the things we want to do because it isn’t safe. And we should save for retirement and then go do all the things but sometimes, just sometimes it may be a little too late.
But it isn’t just about what we are told, it is the excuses we make ourselves of why we can’t or why we shouldn’t. Years ago (and I mean years) I felt so guilty for doing the things I want to do because I would be bringing my kids along. As a mother and the service-oriented person that I am, I always put other people first before I filled my own well.
But when I was nearing my burnout and had my breakthrough or break free moment if you will, I realized that not only do I work for the things that I want and bring in my life, I deserve them because of my dedication to my family but also myself.
On the journey of self-acceptance, that meant I don’t have to share the last donut and I certainly can go on a trip without my kids. It doesn’t nor should it be all about them. And yes, I know people will disagree – and that’s totally fine by me.
We all must find whatever it is that works for us.
We must find what allows us to feel good and have the experiences we crave.
All I am saying is that we shouldn’t wait – we should live right here and right now.
And yes, of course sometimes it’s easier said than done because perhaps money is an issue, or maybe work is getting in the way.
But you are going for the adventure and the feeling that it provides and not all the things you can buy with money though money is nice and it helps.
There was a time I couldn’t see how my trip to Kentucky or NY was going to happen. I wanted the experience but it wasn’t until the moment I realized that it is about how I am in this very moment that would change everything, and, of course, believe in the possibilities.
And believing in the possibilities begins with your own attitude and mindset, followed by taking action. You can’t wish experience into your life but you can be creative on how to make it happen.
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You are strong and have that inner strength.
I fully believe that and instead of beating ourselves up about situations that at times are beyond our control doesn’t do us any good
When we decided to move ahead with my son’s liver transplant, we had no idea that we would be facing complications. It’s not that we didn’t know about them, we just didn’t expect them.
At the same time, this was going down, I was enrolled in college for my Master’s degree and let me tell you that there were days, that it took everything I had in me to keep the faith and still study.
When I share this story, people tend to look at me and ask, “how did you do it?” and the answer is that I knew I had a choice.
Believe that everything would work out with the best possible outcome and look at the bigger picture of my vision. Sometimes just focusing on the right here right now, leaves us feeling defeated and unsure how to keep going. By being able to see the result, we can tap into that inner strength we all possess.
Of course, my alternative was to quit school and sit by his bed fueling myself with sorrow and worry. But I asked myself, what good would it do? How would that be helpful during that moment in time?
Sorrow and worry have their place in our lives, but if you are going through a tough situation right now, you have a choice.
Find your inner strength, push forward so you can keep on going to the bigger picture, or you can quit.
I hope you choose to find that strength of yours and know that the outcome you want is possible. It took us 3 years, and 3 liver transplants later to have the outcome we were going for and, in the end, I know it’s because we didn’t quit.
So where ever you are and whatever you may be going through, don’t quit.
I believe in you and know you have what it takes inside of you.