Stop talking and start doing – the time is now!

Stop talking and start doing – the time is now!

painStop talking and start doing – the time is now!

You can talk about your dreams all you want, but they won’t happen if you don’t take action and implement.

  • Have you bought course after course?
  • Signed up for one freebie after the other?
  • Scrolled through Facebook, trying to find the thing that will catapult you forward?

I have totally been there, like knee-deep in “holy crap I don’t know what to do or where to begin”.

And it’s so easy to get overwhelmed with what is the first, second and third step. There is no secret on how to get take action, it comes down to just getting started.

Here are a few things you can do to get you going:

  • Look at your list
  • Pick one thing
  • Do that thing

But perhaps you have this ONE big goal that has a lot of moving parts. The key here is to break down the big goal into all the actions required to make it happen.

Let’s say you are wanting to make X amount of money.

What are the moving pieces to get you there?

  • Grow you Newsletter list
  • Sell x amount of product or service
  • Be visible

Alright, now what?

Let’s break it even down some more:

  • What are the steps to grow your newsletter list?
  • What do you need to do to make an offer for your product or service?
  • How can you be more visible?

And of course, it doesn’t have to be around money. Maybe you want to write a book.

So, what are all the steps needed to write that book?

  • Create an outline
  • Write the words
  • Publish the book

And what are the steps in the process, perhaps you need to decide:

  • How many words a day or week do you need to write?
  • When do you want to publish the book?
  • What do you need to know to publish the book?

The more you can break down your goal, the easier it is to see what you need to do.

Whatever steps and actions you decide on, plan them into your week. Schedule them, give them deadlines etc.

And most importantly COMMIT to making it happen.

  • Stop scrolling through Facebook
  • Stop buying other courses
  • Stop signing up for freebies

Start taking action by implementing!

 The time is now!

 

7 things you must do after a dreams enters your conscious

7 things you must do after a dreams enters your conscious

dreamsI fully believe that there is a reason why dreams enter our conscious, and it is simply because we are the intended person to make them happen.

But so many times I have seen and heard people talk themselves out of their dreams because the minute it enters awareness is the same minute we allow fear and doubt to argue against it.

We owe it to ourselves to explore the possibility and to believe that we can make those dreams happen.

So here are 7 things you do when dreams come into awareness:

1. Give yourself permission

Allow yourself to see the big picture, not the little details. The big picture is important to see all that is possible and harness the feeling of excitement of seeing it becoming a real thing.

2. Believe you are the one and in yourself

Believe that you are the person to make it happen and that you have what it takes. Write about it in your journal, it’s okay to start with the doubts and fears but then go ahead and show yourself how it’s all bullshit. You have already accomplished so much.

3. Talk about your ideas and dreams with someone

Sharing your dream is scary because you may fear that the other person thinks you are crazy but if you tell it to the right kind of person, you just may be surprised about the support you have. It also gives you the opportunity to have a different perspective.

4. Do some research

Yes, do some research and find out if other people have made this happen. This isn’t to steer you away but to show you that you too can make it happen. I don’t believe in competition in business because there are a billion people in this world and one person can’t serve them all.

5. Find out what it will take to make it happen

Yes, more research but this one is to help you figure out what you will need to do. Dreams are earned by taking action but to do so, you must know what it takes.

6. Create an Action Plan

Dreams are meant to become goals because if not there are merely wishes. So, write down your dream as the main goal, list all the tasks it will take to get there and then break it down even further into smaller action steps.

7. Take action
Don’t just do the research and plan and then do nothing. Take action, one step at a time. It doesn’t have to be big steps right out of the gate, but a small one every day or every week will make your dream a reality.

All too often we get focused on the “how” to make it happen rather than what. The how you can find out by talking to people, doing your research and even hiring a coach. Two of my personal dreams happened because I shared it with people and inadvertently those people then gave me the “how to”. This is the magic of talking about your dreams no matter how scary they are!

 

Take control off your thoughts

Take control off your thoughts

Thoughts are an inside action we do as a response to outside influences and the process that tends to be automatic and we may think of not having control over.  However, allow yourself to become aware of your thoughts and start taking charge and allow your behavior to become aligned with who you are.

Sometimes the best way to take charge of our thoughts is to keep a diary and take note of how many negative thoughts entire your awareness.

As you are taking note of those thoughts, also write down your behavior because there is a link between our thoughts and our actions.

There was a time in my life where I was utterly frustrated and annoyed with life and how it was progressing. I wake up grumpy and go to bed grumpy all the while putting on a good face, pushing forward with the things that needed to get done each day.

What I didn’t do is acknowledge my feelings and thoughts and how pissed off and frustrated I was with life.

Cue personal responsibility and I haven’t had a case of the Mondays since then.

Every day we have a choice. A choice in how we want to feel, what we want to experience and how we show up in the world without pretending.

Here is what I learned, we are in complete control over our thoughts and our actions and behavior.

And it was up to me to make those changes and these changes included:

  • Thought awareness – what thoughts am I experiencing without analyzing
  • The behavior that followed the thought – how am I acting
  • The impact of my thought – what does it mean and in what situations is this common for me
  • What needed to change about my thought – what thought do I need to have to not behave in a way that no longer fits me
  • What needed to change in my behavior – how can I engage and act now to support the thought transformation

One key element in this process is acknowledging that you are responsible for your thoughts and actions and therefore also in control. Which gives you tremendous power in creating the change you want in your life.

One thought can you change today that will move your life forward and what behavior will support this?

From Dreamer to Doer

From Dreamer to Doer

balanceI have always been a dreamer since I was little. In part, it was fueled by avoiding my reality which wasn’t the happiest of times.

It wasn’t bad enough my parents were unable to raise me but my foster family was quite abusive – at least to today’s standards.

Anyway, to escape from being yelled at and told I wasn’t good enough to achieve anything, I escaped into the world of imagination and dreams.

I would sing loudly going to the grocery store thinking this would be my way of being discovered.

I was always putting my best foot forward whether it be in gymnastics, playing the flute or at dance recitals because I knew I had a special talent and. It wasn’t until years later that I recognized that I just wanted to be rescued.

And so, I continued to dream about the things I would do one day, where I would live and the kind of relationship/partnership I would have. I dreamed about supporting my then husband in his business endeavors by earning an accounting degree. But as I called quit on my marriage, I wanted to more.

I wanted to make art and sell it and started my art business and while the practical part came easy to me, it became a much bigger adventure into my own past, uncovering a lot of my own story. The parts I couldn’t see clearly that were holding me back and each year I was getting closer and closer to my dream.

And here is what I realized that in the end, my dream was just simply being myself. But being yourself is easier said than done. It required self-acceptance, knowing who you are and truly loving myself. No longer worrying about what other people think and just follow my heart and with that my calling.

It required self-acceptance, knowing who you are and truly loving yourself. No longer worrying about what other people think and just follow my heart and with that my calling.

No longer worrying about what other people think and just following your heart.

It is time to stop sacrificing yourself and get in the game of creating the life that feels good. I may not be a famous singer, actress, dancer or gymnast and that is okay. My mission and vision for my own life are much bigger these days.

And it requires putting one foot in front of the other.

It will mean defining what you want in your life and acknowledging how you want to feel.

It may mean to be creative and do some reverse engineering so you can create a vision of your life.

Great Exercise for you to try:

  • Write down where you want to be in 3 years (or 5 or 10). Don’t hold back and don’t leave anything out. Silence the noise of negativity and just write what life will be like.
  • Look at what you have written and pulled out the things that are not happening or you have not achieved yet.
  • These will become your goals.
  • Brainstorm the actions you will need to take to achieve these goals.
  • Now create a timeline of actions – mark them on your calendar. Give them a deadline too!
  • Start taking action.

And before you know you, you too will have gone from dreamer to doer!

The top blogs to follow for in 2016

The top blogs to follow for in 2016

blogs to followThere are some amazing people out there and I love them because they speak my language. The language of showing up and doing the work.

There is a commonality between them is that there is passion, alignment, dreams, and creation. If you are a creative with a passion you must let the world know. You must share your gifts with the ones that will listen to you because those are your people.

Oh and if you don’t like foul language these may not be your people.

Leonie Dawson 

What can I say about here other than I love her hippie creative energy? The biggest message that I received from her is to always do everything your way. Not everyone is going to love you and not everyone should. So just show up as you and do you!

Kat Loterzo 

Kat has an amazing flair with words, to challenge you to be in alignment and be a leader and creator. My take away with her is to just do the work. Yes, mindset work is key but if you are a creator, like herself or me, then just put your creations into this world. Just get it out there. Stop holding back and hiding your amazing self.

Rebecca T Dickson 

Rebecca has the perfect title. I read her blog, emails and her Facebook posts because I know she is spot on. She resonates with me too with the words and message she shares. Get your mindset right or don’t bother.

Denise Duffield-Thomas

Mindset and Forgiveness are the biggest lessons I received from Denise. I love her spin on forgiveness because of all too often we think it’s about the other person when it really just is about us. When you can give yourself the love, compassion, and forgiveness, you free yourself and with that, you declutter and free your mindset from all the bullshit.

Those 4 women are the most influential to me. They kick ass in their zone of genius and aren’t afraid to call you out on your own bullshit.

Because really what are you afraid of that could happen if in fact you are going after your dream and make shit happen?

Are you afraid to lose friends? Perhaps you shouldn’t be friends in the first place.

Are you afraid that people will come after your money? Maybe you need some boundaries.

Are you afraid that you don’t deserve the life you want? DO YOU MINDSET WORK.

Those 4 women are movers and shakers. They rattle you, inspire you and motivate you.

And push you towards you!

So check them out, read their blogs and pay attention to their message!