Do you ever wonder how to make it happen and how having a plan can actually be useful?
One of the challenges I have seen time and time again is that people set goals based on someone else’s thoughts and opinions of what you should do.
The challenge is that just because someone else thinks it’s a good idea, it may not be true for you or even aligned with who you are.
I can’t set a goal for my partner just like he can’t set a goal for me. Goals and dreams are personal and they come to us as individuals, not as a collective.
This doesn’t mean you can’t set goals together but the same notion still applies: You must want this!
The next step is to brainstorm and map out all the actions you can think of that are going to be necessary. You may not be able to visualize all the steps, but don’t let that stop you from laying it all out as much as you can.
Some steps will emerge through the journey. Truly, we will know what we need to know when we are ready.
Got it! Now what?
Commit to your “make it happen” plan. Write down the actions into your planner and/or calendar. Don’t make excuses when the time comes to take action, instead dig in your heels and get to work.
And after a week or two, evaluate your progress. See what steps you have taken, how you feel about it all if you need to make some changes.
Rinse and Repeat!
For many years I didn’t understand what mindset was. As a matter of fact, it wasn’t even part of my vocabulary. What I do know is that a successful mindset for me was all was a part of who I am. This is how and why I was able to face many challenges I encountered through the years.
I’ve compiled a list of 18 ways to create a Mindset on Fire
Use what feels good, try new things and trust that you have what it takes to create the life you want.
It’s through openness that we are allowing us to be willing to see opportunities and possibilities. We obtain information when we are needing it the most. It’s the magnetic way of coexisting with the universe.
A negative and pessimistic mind has never achieved anything successfully unless you consider living in misery a success. Being optimistic is more than just hoping though. It’s about an inner knowing that everything will be as you want it. Maybe not overnight, but in time.
Learn from experience
We have all made mistakes and decisions that ended up being a slap in the face of some kind. It’s in that situation however that you gain so much information that will help you next time you face a similar situation.
Be a student of and for life
Even at the perfect moments, there is something to learn. It’s in those moments we can acknowledge what we did that went well and how we went about it. And even if we are facing new challenges, we can ask you, what do I need to learn to get to where I want to be!
Allow the actions to guide your decisions
Sometimes we do have to act before we make a decision. It’s like trying on that new outfit at the store, deciding if we want to buy it or not. You can always make new decisions!
Challenge the status quo
There’s no right or wrong way in forging your own path, and sometimes that means going against what everyone else is doing or thinking. I believe that we are here to show other’s what their life could feel and be like by simply giving a different perspective.
Process and analyze often
Our thoughts and behavior are intertwined, and we are not always aware of them. When you can acknowledge why you do something, where it stems from (and it’s often from your childhood) you can engage new thoughts and behavior.
Change what you can about yourself
If you are playing small, hiding from you truly are, start there. If you don’t like something about yourself, change it. Want to be more assertive, then seek the information that you will need to be more assertive.
Take the next step even you think you are finished
Sometimes we think we are all finished with something, just to realize that there is another step to take.
Always be true to you
There’s nothing worse than pretending something you are not or now showing up as who you are by hiding behind a charade. You have values and core beliefs that are true to you, show them, live by them.
Start small when necessary and you feel the need to
Sometimes goals can look bigger than Mt. Everest. It’s in those moments that it’s good to remember that no mountain is climbed through big actions, but rather one small step at a time.
Believe in you, your dreams and your journey
If you don’t believe in yourself, who will? You have to without a shadow of a doubt believes in you, your dreams and your journey. Your faith will be tested over and over again and that is what this matters so much.
Have a morning and/or evening routine that helps you shatter the doubts that may have crept up overnight. Be it through journaling, meditating or exercising. Crush those doubts and make them shiver with fear.
Make no excuses
Truly, excuses are only going to keep you playing small and fuel the avoidance of really showing up in this world. No one has ever achieved a goal by saying they can’t do something.
If you want to achieve your dreams and goals you have to keep going after them. like a wolf goes after its prey. (and I may have just been reading too many werewolf books).
View problems as challenges
Stop thinking that they are here to stop you. Instead view them as a challenge, as that next goal and figure out how to overcome it, instead of throwing up your hands and walking away.
Have a vision
If you don’t know where you are going, how will you know that you are arriving at each stopping point? Having a vision of dreams and goals and what you want your life to be like, is of the essence.
Be courageous despite fear
Have the courage to take action even when you are scared. Confidence is creating through doing and not waiting for the right moment. It’s in those actions you can really see how amazing you are!
There are some people in this world that can hit rock bottom again and again and the next time you look, their life seems to be on par.
And here you are wondering when the breakthrough, or rather the break free is going to happen.
And trust me when I say the people who keep hitting the proverbial rock bottom are wondering the same damn thing.
What keeps these people going?
Why do they not just quit and throw in their towel?
Well for starters, they don’t have it within them to quit, There is this internal drive fueled by the belief and inner knowing that in the end, everything is going to be okay.
That doesn’t mean they don’t feel the pain and the frustration. Quite the opposite actually, they feel it in every fiber of their being.
So what is it about them that gives them the fuel?
They get super clear on what they don’t want, maybe even make a list of it all. And then with purpose and intention, they rewrite the list with everything they do want.
I don’t want to be broke then becomes I want to always have money in the bank.
I don’t want to be alone becomes I want to be in a loving, funny, equal relationship.
I don’t want relationships that suck becomes friendships that are nurtured.
I don’t want my son to die becomes I want my son to have a full life.
I don’t want my kids to fail becomes I want my children to succeed.
I don’t want a soul-sucking job becomes a business that lights me up.
Transforming your thoughts and beliefs is a constant act of reminding yourself of all the things you have overcome and achieved and that inner knowing that all will be well in the end.
But ask yourself, what does having money in the bank look like? Is it an extra $100 or $1000? What will this bring you? What feelings will this give to you?
What does haveing a loving, funny and equal relationship feel and look like?
How about your friendships?
My son’s medical journey meant really turning on the faith and steadfast on the mindset that one day he will walk out of the hospital.
And the kids not failing mean that I am giving them the tools and resources to follow their own dreams.
And what does the work you do bring to you? What kind of work? What mission are you on when it comes to your job or business?
Being in the trenches and hitting rock-bottom looks very different for everyone. For me, it was always being broke, being homeless, my son fighting for his life and my job not giving me the satisfaction I wanted in my life despite the good I was doing in this world
Pulling yourself up is messy and requires a soul walk of sorts. It’s shedding all the layers you’ve been hanging onto for so long and embracing who you are at your core.
It is known that every action you are taking will get you to where you want to go because let’s be honest, no one loves living in the trenches but no one is coming to save you either.
You’ll need to – perhaps even a little more than you believe in yourself.
Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help.
You have this amazing dream of writing a book, starting a business and perhaps even lose some weight. My guess you are thinking about your new year’s resolution and making some plans for 2016.
That’s great, but what are you waiting for?
Why does January 1st have to be the day you start taking action and begin your journey?
Why can’t it be right this very moment?
What is holding you back?
Is it fear of failing? Fear of disappointing yourself or others?
The lack of not knowing how?
Every excuse you make is a bullshit reason for why you are not willing to make your dream, goal or resolution happen.
When is enough, well enough?
How much longer are you willing to just watch others make their own dreams come true while you are still wishing you could?
Here is the truth: You can!
You need to stop making excuses and start taking action – even when the fear is as loud as a damn jet engine.
Fear is just an emotion, just like anger, love, happiness etc. Are you willing to allow the emotion to rule you, or are you willing to decide how you are going to feel and what you are going to do?
I think too often, we forget that we have a choice.
We always have a choice!
When we were kids, we were told we don’t have a choice. We need to follow the rules, do as we are told. We are told to graduate highschool, go to college or learn a trade.
We are told that we should be grateful for the job we have and just go on with our mediocre life.
Yes, I said it: MEDIOCRE
Because I know you envision your life to be different. I know that you have dreams and goals that you want to achieve but because you were told you didn’t have a choice, you just let life slip on by.
What if I told you that you are in control of your life, that you have the power to choose what you will or will not do and how you will live?
Choose and Decide!
What’s it going to be? Living your life to the rules of someone else or your own?
If you are ready to make some changes in your life, I invite you to visit The Rebel Soul Connection and start achieving your dreams and goals with like-minded people!
Setting goals and making it all happen
I set lots of high goals with doable action steps – every single month for personal, family and business. As a matter of fact, I have post-it notes hanging on the wall of things that I need to do to reach my next goals. They are there as a constant reminder to stay focused on what I want to achieve.
In the past, I would let that get to me that the to-dos aren’t moving or changing but as I look at my list today, it has changed. I have completed a few action steps and simply replaced them with the next few steps to follow.
I will often copy my goal list into my daily planner because when I am out and about and have a “minute” to work on a goal, I seize the opportunity.
Like today, I wrote a blog post for an upcoming segment while I was sitting the library on small pieces of paper just so I wouldn’t lose my train of thought – because really I will not remember the awesome opening had I told myself I will write it down later. It never happens that way.
I review my goals monthly with a mind-map of where I want to place my focus in that current moment. This helps me make sure I am still aligned with them and allow myself to free of goals and dreams that no longer suit me.
How to reach your goal in 4 steps:
- Begin with making a list of 10 things you want to accomplish in one month.
- Take each goal and break it down into the individual task.
- Schedule your task to spread them out over the month.
- And voila at the end of the month – you will have achieved a goal or three!
It is really that simply achieving the life you envision by small steps, making changes when you must to ensure you are in alignment with you and the space around you.