I used to struggle and even dread Mother’s Day. Moms were celebrated for their love, caring and doing what needs to be done.
I know because I am this kind of mom. The kind of mom that is going to bat for her kids and puts them in their place, when necessary.
But my dread came around because I didn’t have this kind of mother growing up. It took me years to really appreciate my mom but I could only do this with compassion.
Compassion was my key to forgiveness.
My mom did the best she could in every given moment!
This was incredibly hard to accept but as I maneuvered through motherhood, giving up one of my son’s to be raised by someone else, I too did the best I could in each given moment.
I had held onto the pain, hurt and anger for a very long time and allowed it to almost destroy me because I struggled to love my mom just for – well-being her.
Unconditionally – the good, the bad and the in-between.
We are all a work in progress and we all do the best we can in each given moment and we are exactly where we are supposed to be.
When we can consider the pain, and hurt and meet the other with compassion, we can move towards forgiveness.
And I am not saying that the things that have happened, the things that caused the pain, hurt and anger are ok. What I am saying by acknowledging we are all human beings, we can learn.
We can learn to be compassionate.
We can learn to forgive.
We can learn to let go of all the stuff that we hang onto that diminishes us.
Love does not require attachment or creating a relationship. You can love people from afar and just value the lessons learned, the strength you have and the how it got you to this exact very moment.
I am celebrating my mother and all the other mm’s, who are doing their best in each given moment.
It is not my job to judge or criticize, but it is my job to the be best in each moment that I am alive.
If you are struggling today – whatever reason – look at where you can find compassion!