A quick search on my blog posts, I can see a handful of times I have told you to “should” something.
And it’s really a word that can feel incredibly heavy.
Seriously, it’s hard to know what you want when you are “shoulding” all over yourself.
Do you remember your parents telling “you should do x, y and z so you can _______”?
Or maybe “you should A, because _______”.
Or maybe even teachers, coaches and peers have given you a bunch of shoulds.
And let me tell you, it’s all a freaking set up.
It set’s you up for a life that isn’t yours to live. In fact, it creates a life on someone else’s terms. It seriously interferes with the heart of the matter:
Doing what you want by doing what you love!
For example, parents have told you that you should have good grades, so you can go to college, earning a degree chosen by your parents.
Or maybe your gym coach told you, that you should practice 5 days out of the week if you wanted to become a competitor. Now don’t get me wrong, becoming the best at something takes dedication and hard work and yes even practicing 5 days a week.
But if it’s a should and not something you want to do, it feels heavy.
A friend of mine is a writer and she believed that she “should’ be a coach. She believed that is what she had to do to reach her destination: To be a writer.
Should, just like doubt, kills dreams!
This is the kind of stuff that happens when you listen to other people and not your intuition.
Because of other people “shoulding” all over you, you will talk yourself out of it.
And it feels heavy because it doesn’t excite you or inspire you to show up.
The moment you let go of all the shoulds you will experience a sense of relief, a sense of freedom if you will. You will feel lighter because you are now willing to follow your intuition and your heart!