I just returned from a quick trip to NY for a concert, and I say quickly because it was just 24 hours all together. But it was a great experience – Madison Square Garden, Central Park and of course Time Square.
Earlier this year, I made the commitment to myself that this year would be about experiences because I don’t want to wait until I am old.
I don’t want to wait until I perhaps physically can’t-do the things I love to do and then say to myself “I should have done this or that”.
Nope, this isn’t how I envisioned living my life.
Instead, I opened myself up to possibilities and opportunities.
At the beginning of March, I traveled to Kentucky, alone. This was the first time I had traveled by myself for more than 4 hours since getting my driver’s license. For someone, who believes in overcoming whatever is holding me back, that was just another thing.
And I say another thing, because, in a few days, I will be venturing off to another location, again driving by myself for the most part, right after I drop my kids off with their dad for spring break.
Somewhere along the line, we are told we can’t or shouldn’t do the things we want to do because it isn’t safe. And we should save for retirement and then go do all the things but sometimes, just sometimes it may be a little too late.
But it isn’t just about what we are told, it is the excuses we make ourselves of why we can’t or why we shouldn’t. Years ago (and I mean years) I felt so guilty for doing the things I want to do because I would be bringing my kids along. As a mother and the service-oriented person that I am, I always put other people first before I filled my own well.
But when I was nearing my burnout and had my breakthrough or break free moment if you will, I realized that not only do I work for the things that I want and bring in my life, I deserve them because of my dedication to my family but also myself.
On the journey of self-acceptance, that meant I don’t have to share the last donut and I certainly can go on a trip without my kids. It doesn’t nor should it be all about them. And yes, I know people will disagree – and that’s totally fine by me.
We all must find whatever it is that works for us.
We must find what allows us to feel good and have the experiences we crave.
All I am saying is that we shouldn’t wait – we should live right here and right now.
And yes, of course sometimes it’s easier said than done because perhaps money is an issue, or maybe work is getting in the way.
But you are going for the adventure and the feeling that it provides and not all the things you can buy with money though money is nice and it helps.
There was a time I couldn’t see how my trip to Kentucky or NY was going to happen. I wanted the experience but it wasn’t until the moment I realized that it is about how I am in this very moment that would change everything, and, of course, believe in the possibilities.
And believing in the possibilities begins with your own attitude and mindset, followed by taking action. You can’t wish experience into your life but you can be creative on how to make it happen.
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