I always tell people, I have zero regrets.
Some people believe me, some people look at me funny, while other people try to call bullshit.
I used to have regrets until one day I realized that those are just silly things to hang onto.
Regrets will have you play over the same old story you have been telling yourself. You know the story of
- I am stupid.
- I made a mistake.
- I’m a fool.
- I can’t do anything right.
Yea that story. It will play over and over in your head and you wonder why life is as crappy as it appears.
Instead of hanging on to regrets, look at those events and experiences and see what you can learn from them. Acknowledge the negative parts of the event but also really hone in on the positive of the experience.
Yes, there is always a little of both, but once you know the positive you are creating an awareness that allows you to grow.
I don’t regret leaving a long-term relationship even though the love has never faltered. But I needed to believe in myself, find my own strength and feel 100% secure in who I am.
It provided me with room for growth and expansion that I don’t know would have been possible if I’d stayed in the relationship. Perhaps it would have but it would probably taking a tremendous amount of time longer.
I also don’t regret signing the papers that my son needed a liver transplant. Even though I didn’t know all that craziness that would follow.
“Of course you don’t regret it because everything turned out fine”.
I’ve thought about this for a long time, but I am 100% I wouldn’t regret it no matter what the outcome. And yes, I am grateful it turned out the way it did.
But here’s the thing, regrets are full of “what if’s” and I don’t remember a time in my life where “What if” really served a purpose, except for “What if I was successful” but even then I am cautious.
Regrets really dampen your confidence and your courage to try again.
Regrets hold you back and retell the story of your failure time and again.
Instead of hanging onto regrets, choose to let them go. See them for valuable teaching moments and decide that every decision you make from hereon out, will be the best decision for that given moment.
Because each decision the past was fulfilled and met the same way.
We all do our best in each given moment.
You can’t do more than that.
So decide right here and right now that you will let go of regret.
Feel the weight lifted of your shoulders and step into your self-awareness so you can acknowledge where you can grow and expand to be the best possible you – always.