In my own journey, I have been more afraid of success than I have of failure. I think I have failed many times but always picked myself up and kept on going. But to really embody my vision, to really step into it brought up a lot of fear.
The challenge around success can be
- losing friends and family
- making more money than your partner
- thinking you won’t have time for yourself
And really isn’t it just silly to think you are losing friends and family? Because here’s the thing, people come and go and not everyone is meant to stay in your life.
What is the worst that could happen if you find new friends or letting go of people who don’t really support you? I mean, you want to be supported and hanging out with those that don’t believe may not be the best thing for you.
And so, what if you are making more money than your partner? Is that really a bad thing? Will that shift your relationship or will it create room to improve it? Having an open dialogue with your partner is always a good idea.
And just think the more successful you are and money you make, you can hire support for your business and even in your home and boom there you go, more time for you.
But what about the fear of failure?
Are you already expecting to fail so that you are not creating the product or the service? Are you expecting that no one will read your book and so you don’t bother writing it?
I suspect that this old messaging that you have learned since childhood. From your school days and bad grades to either not being hired and even fired. All of which may have said to you that you are not good enough, which is bull.
So how can you move through the fear of success or failure?
- Declutter your mind
The best way to declutter your mind is to write all your fears and doubts out of your head.
This can be huge because maybe you need to forgive a teacher or a former boss, so that you can step into your new belief.
Be compassionate with yourself and others. This was then and this is now. You have learned and grown so much, don’t hang on to the day you were not hired.
Own your strength and make a list of all the things you are amazing at and what you do.
Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements no matter how big or small.
Journal about the fears, the forgiveness, compassion and your strength. Acknowledging your fear is a good thing because then you can look at it like a detective and see where the evidence is in that belief. Chances are that you have done so much more since you received a bad grad or were fired.