You and me, we are social creatures and are not meant to go through this world alone. Even introverts need a support system although the thought of being alone is super yummy, it doesn’t benefit your overall mental health.
So why is having a support system such a great idea?
For one thing, you can receive encouragement on those shit days where life just feels like utter chaos and is completely overwhelming. Your people in your corner will cheer you own, give you insights and some wisdom of course. And in turn, you will learn to feel more positive but also find new ways of expressing yourself.
But how do you go about finding your people?
I get it, going outside into the world can sometimes feel like the last thing you want to do. And as much as I love my online business, it can be really refreshing for me to go to my local networking event.
But to find your people, you have to figure out what you may need support for. Make a list of some of the areas in your life that you know could use a little more outside perspective and support.
- Ask yourself who in your life can help you meet your needs?
- Can your turn to family and friends?
- Do you need to join social activities with like-minded people?
- Or maybe can you volunteer to make connections with others. Sometimes receiving is more about giving and both are needed in your life.
- If you run a business are there local meetups you can join?
It is okay to go look outside of your already existing circle!
There is no right or wrong way to create your support system and sometimes to have an objective outside perspective, we need to go look elsewhere.
Maybe hiring a coach or mentor is what you need. Someone who has been where you are right now and who can help you and support you!
Sometimes an accountability partner or a buddy of some kind can be just what you need.
Why is this so important?
When I was a therapist, one of the things you learn early on is that every therapist has a therapist. It’s supportive for your own mental health and sometimes when you work with people you pick up other people’s stuff. Or maybe something happened that you need to get a different perspective on.
Not too long ago, I was in conversation with someone and all over sudden I was on the receiving end of what felt like a verbal attack. I won’t lie, I was in tears because not only am I an introvert but I am super sensitive being. It’s taken a few days to process the event and immediately when I shared, I knew it was a projection of the other person.
But because of events like this and many others such as stress, overwhelm and frustrating moments, creating your support system is not only good for mental health but also personal growth!