3 Ways to Stop the Overwhelm dead in it’s tracks

3 Ways to Stop the Overwhelm dead in it’s tracks

Sometimes the biggest obstacle you face in moving forward after a crisis or major change has occurred in your life is your own sense of overwhelm. It’s scary to wonder where to go from here or how to dig yourself out of a tough situation.

Sometimes it just all seems like too much. And I know even for me that is true on numerous occasions. As I think back to the day when my son was diagnosed with his genetic disorder, I kept saying over and over again “Why me? Have I not been through enough already? Why my child? Why must we face another thing”?

And even with less crazy situations, you can experience the same emotions and while I advocate having some kind of plan on hand. You can’t prepare for all situations but when you can approach it with a level head, then you can come up with a plan, break it down and implement it!

Keep reading to learn how you can stop the overwhelm by setting smaller goals you can more readily attain.

Break It Down

I recently shared with you how journaling can help get your worries out of your head so that you can start to face them head-on. Brainstorming works much the same way. Take some time to write down all of the ideas you have for ways you can move ahead in your current situation. No matter how small or how far-fetched, just get them out. Then begin to break it all down into tangible, manageable and realistic steps you can actually take to overcome your problem. This act alone may help you to feel less stress and more hopeful, as you can now see the possibilities that may have been blurred before.

Set Milestones

Next, you’ll want to set some milestones or checkpoints to help to keep yourself on track. Again, consider taking baby steps to help you overcome the overwhelm by setting your check-ins fairly regularly. Making your first goal post something readily attainable will help to increase your confidence, as well as your motivation to make it to the next milestone. Creating these assessment points also forces you to develop some sort of plan for your goal, rather than just hoping things will get better.

Review Regularly

Take time to regularly review your original goal in order to be sure it’s still working for you or that you’re even still on the right path. Sometimes we find ourselves set on achieving something that’s no longer in our best interests simply because we’re too stubborn or scared to assess our circumstances. Reflect honestly on where you’re going looking back on the milestones you’ve passed so far. If it feels right in your gut, keep on keeping on. Should something seem off or if you’re not making the progress you’d hoped, go back to the drawing board. Take notes on your situation, jotting down your ultimate desire and brainstorming steps to help you attain it. Then begin anew with your revised game plan.

Doing something is almost always better than doing nothing. This is true when facing times of change, for sure. Follow these suggestions for gaining control over the obstacles in your life and moving ahead one baby step at a time. You’ll soon see that what you want can be achieved and your troubles can be overcome.

How to use Journaling to cope with life changes

How to use Journaling to cope with life changes

Something I know to be true is that change is constant and the way you respond to it matters. Not all change is bad but any kind of switch in your life can still cause you stress. Allowing life to toss you around and remaining at its mercy simply keeps us stuck and can make it harder for you to remove yourself from an undesirable situation.

Journaling is definitely a method I support and found incredibly useful during times of strife. I would like to say I embody journaling every single day, but that isn’t the case. But it is definitely my number one go-to method when facing any kind of challenge or problem. Take a look at some of the ways that something as simple as journaling can help you to cope with those big life changes that seem insurmountable.

What Is Journaling?

A journal is different than a diary. In a diary, you write about the events of your day. It’s merely a chronological record of what you experience throughout life. A journal is different is a tool you can use to record your feelings on those significant life events. There is power when you put pen to paper, not only does it provide a therapeutic space, you can coach yourself into moving through the challenge.  For a consistent mindset practice it is helpful to do this part of your morning routine, but even taking the time to jot down your reactions to a particularly stressful one-time event can do you some good.

Benefits of Journaling

Writing in your journal can help you get through times of change in a myriad of ways. By getting things out of your mind, you’re able to clarify you’re them and to make better sense of your thoughts and feelings. You’re taking the time to process events and to break them down into segments, such as cause and effect. Doing so lets you visualize what happened and gives you a better sense of how to improve your situation. It also clears your mind and frees up the cognitive space needed for implementing practical solutions. Here’s the thing, when you’re stuck in your own head and dwelling on the negative, it’s nearly impossible to make actual progress toward setting things right.

When you write it down, you can begin to prioritize the parts of your life that are most important to you through this form of processing. Finally, journaling gives you a record of how far you’ve actually come because you can see what’s worked for you thus far and what hasn’t. Seeing your progress is a strong motivator to keep going.

Types of Journaling

There are all kinds of journaling methods you could try. I’d like to highlight some that I believe to be particularly useful when it comes to coping with change. First, a simple gratitude journal can be a good place to start if you find you need to improve your attitude. Writing down what you’re thankful for and fortunate to have is a quick way to begin to feel more empowered. The phrase I like to use is “I am happy and grateful that….” and I will include current things I am grateful for and things I am working towards as if they are already in existence.

Free writing is good for an emotional release. Just begin writing on a particular thought you’ve had going through your mind. As you begin to expand upon it, patterns will emerge that you may never have expected. This is a fantastic strategy for processing emotions and generating solutions. Even keeping a planning journal or agenda can be useful if you need a little motivation to get things done. Taking even the smallest proactive step can help to overcome the inertia that can set in with the depression and anxiety that often comes with times of uncertainty. Something I want to mention about free writing, you will find yourself resisting and NOT writing it down alas censoring yourself. This is not the time or place for you to do that however because this is only for you and not to be shared on social media!

This is just a quick synopsis of how journaling can help you to cope with unexpected changes in your world. Use these suggestions and incorporate your own when you’re feeling stuck in your reactions to difficult situations. You’ll find yourself moving forward and coming up with solutions in no time.

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After you finished the 21-day journaling course you will know exactly who you are, what you stand for and start walking on the level of your soul.

And I believe that you will feel relief, excitement and recognize just how much in control you are in your life.

You have it within you to face anything but there’s more! You’re a superhero!

You have it within you to face anything but there’s more! You’re a superhero!

In a previous post, I shared some of the benefits of facing change and moving through a transition. Any time you face a challenge, there are lessons to be learned along the way or when you are on the other side of it.

I’ve heard it all my life: What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!

And if that’s the case then by all accounts, I think you are a superhero.

But I also know that when you are in the middle of chaos, you don’t really feel like a superhero. If anything, you are struggling to see the light of day and hang onto the glimmer of hope. And yet, when you come out on the other side, there are a few things to reflect on.

Self-Reliance

When you are going through hard times, you learn that the only person you can sometimes count on is only yourself. It’s not ideal because support can mean everything and when you’re asking for help, you also have to decide who that person is you are going to reach out to! In the end, you are the one going through the motion and figure out the next step! Whatever challenge you are facing is a catalyst for change.

Gratitude

When you are in the middle of chaos is tough seeing all the goodness in your life. When your spirit is crushed from a break-up or a job loss and your identity is stripped down, gratitude may be the last thing on your mind. But at the same time, it can show you what’s important in your life, who your true friends are and learn to appreciate what is rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Some things that once had value may no longer hold the same as you are rebuilding your life through each challenge.

Self-Improvement

You’re human with flaws – yep – and you are bound to make a mistake. If you get fired maybe it’s because you are too outspoken (that’s me!) or you didn’t do the work up to your bosses standards. While initially bad news, it can also be amazing news. Maybe it wasn’t the “right” job in the first place but it can also help you recognize what can use a bit of improving so that at your next job you don’t run into the same problem! It’s humbling to face your own faults, but again they can also be one of the most amazing catalysts for you.

For me, it was what I needed to start my business. Sure it sucked donkey balls but as I look back at it now, it was the best thing ever and I was able to use it as an opportunity to go after what I really wanted in life and well being my own boss, has improved my life in many ways.

Attitude

Your attitude about any given situation is what will help you move forward. Of course, feel your emotions. Be angry, feel resentful but don’t stay there. But if you don’t feel your emotions, how will you be able to move forward? But it’s also imperative that you develop an “I can” attitude that is fueled by determination, optimism and a dose of stubbornness. This will help you move forward and is definitely an asset you can start building before the crisis happens.

Here’s the thing, challenges are going to happen but how you handle them is the thing that matters. Face them like a superhero, and even they have days where they feel all the emotions, and yet, in the end, you will come out stronger, more resilient and more empowered!

Stop letting fear to control your life

Stop letting fear to control your life

The only thing that is constant, is change. And yet here you are afraid of it like it’s some kind of horror movie. Take a look at your life and you will see that nothing stayed the same. Change happens in small or big leaps and you may not be able to see the subtle changes, that doesn’t mean they don’t exist.

Any change, positive or negative, is going to create an element of fear such as starting a new relationship or losing your job.

Would you be surprised if I tell you that there a benefit to your fear? And that it doesn’t have to be as scary as you make it out to be?

But first let’s look at the reasons behind you fear, when you get some insight on this, you will be able to take action anyway.

You, including me, are afraid of the unknown because you don’t know what’s on the other side and it can give you the case of anxiety. Your mind tells you that it isn’t safe and encourages you to avoid to take action or even make a decision. You haven’t experienced this before so you don’t really know the outcome.

I don’t necessarily believe in the wrong choice but you make the best decision in every given moment with the information that you have. Your intuition can guide you a lot better than your mind will because of your mind as powerful as it is, has the ability to cloud your vision. Here is what I encourage you to do, let go of perfectionism and the absolutes.

Perfectionism is an illusion and doesn’t exist and absolutes can just about anytime set you up to fail because you are so hung up at the “it is this or nothing”.

And this can often increase your self-doubt. But for just one moment, reflect on your life and see where you’ve had to make adjustments in the past and how you made it happen. Use this to move forward.

And yet, by facing the unknown and embracing the change you are about to face, you learn so much about yourself and that you are capable off and inevitable learn some new skills. Its timing may never be ideal but it gives you space to examine and evaluate your core values and take a look if everything is still aligned with who you are.

Self-discovery helps you walk your path of authenticity and therefore lead to progress as you are expanding your comfort zone. You are more resilient than you give yourself credit for.

Anytime I share about the struggle we endured when my son was fighting for his life, I hear from other mom’s how they didn’t think they could handle it or deal with it. But when you are not given a choice, you are going to show up the best way you know how, and you will face whatever comes your way. Sometimes gracefully and sometimes not so much.

And that doesn’t mean you won’t face worry and anxiety along the way but by reframing the negative stories you tell yourself, and focus on the positive outcome that your forward moving action could lead to, it will feel better overall.

Now I am not going to encourage you to push your feelings aside because I don’t believe in that. I think we need to feel our feelings, how else are you ever going to grow and move forward and will ultimately make the changes in your life?

Your feelings are good indicators for you and your path and when you can name them, you are standing in your power and maintain your own control.

And again, something that may be helpful is to create a list and acknowledge the changes you have made in your life, what you have learned and remind yourself that you have made it through some tough times already.

Your life, your journey, is about putting one foot in front of the other. It’s about trusting your intuition and develop positive mindset strategies. And yes, there are going to be shit days but they aren’t all going to be like that!

You don’t have to face change alone because when you are surrounded by like-minded people and have a support system, transitions will become a lot easier to manage!

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You are a Master of Adversity

You are a Master of Adversity

Do you consider yourself a Master of Adversity?

I know I have and truly you are in our own way because the truth is that you have dealt with hard times, and it’s nearly impossible to avoid change in your life. I’d love to share with you what I’ve learned about facing adversity and managing transitions, along with some concrete strategies that can help you to navigate the difficulties you will encounter from time to time.

Overcoming anything you face has to do with your own attitude about the challenge and the change you are facing, but I also know that having a positive attitude alone isn’t going to help you create the life you want or move through the challenges. But adjusting how you think about a challenge or a change and then taking proactive measures with purpose, can move you through the storm without getting swallowed by the wave. Being in the storm doesn’t feel good but as the adage goes, this too shall pass.

I know I have and truly you are in our own way because the truth is that you have dealt with hard times, and it’s nearly impossible to avoid change in your life. I’d love to share with you what I’ve learned about facing adversity and managing transitions, along with some concrete strategies that can help you to navigate the difficulties you will encounter from time to time.

Overcoming anything you face has to do with your own attitude about the challenge and the change you are facing, but I also know that having a positive attitude alone isn’t going to help you create the life you want or move through the challenges. But adjusting how you think about a challenge or a change and then taking proactive measures with purpose, can move you through the storm without getting swallowed by the wave. Being in the storm doesn’t feel good but as the adage goes, this too shall pass.

You can gain back a bit of control when life seems to be throwing you curveballs. And while change can be scary when you are facing big challenges, you are able to embrace new things, break obstacles down into manageable steps and it requires you to stay focused on your vision for your path.

Further, if you can incorporate self-care into your everyday routine, you are developing positive habits to support you and have a better ability to cope with the storm you are facing. Sometimes, it’s important to recognize when getting some help from a friend or a professional is necessary. No one expects you to be perfect, and there’s no shame in accepting assistance when needed. And when you are ready it’s ready for but only you can decide that. And yes, all it takes is one decision.

Change doesn’t have to be overwhelming, and challenges can be overcome without pain. Trust yourself enough that you have what it takes because you are more resilient than you think!

Rise above your own BS and Excuses

Rise above your own BS and Excuses

The other day I was re-reading my Reiki Bible and something that I didn’t see before was how each chakra emerges and is impacted by life experiences and this isn’t a post about chakra’s but more about synchronicity and being in alignment with what I do.

In this last year, I learned to pay attention to synchronicity as a way to affirm that what I am is what I need to be doing. I first through about Rebel Shine as a digital subscription box but something was way off… so I let it marinade a bit… I even wrote the words keep or let go underneath it on my whiteboard.

And then one day, as I was mulling it over it became clear to me that it is so much more and bigger than myself. And I needed to Rise above the Stories I told myself.

The irony is that the theme is You Rise Above!
And it starts with the stories… the mumbo jumbo that clogs your perception of who you are and what you are capable of.

You underestimate yourself because someone else did not believe in you!

You don’t take action because someone said you are not smart enough!

You are not who you are deep down because someone told you that you weren’t good enough just being you.

These stories that started from the moment you were born shaped you, your motivation and dare I say your ambition.

These stories are the reason

You’re not where you want to be
Do what you want to do
Love the way only you can love

And isn’t it high-tide that you start rewriting those stories?

That you start living life on your terms?

Be who you are even it means you walk alone? (You won’t, promise!)

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