So, last Friday, I was hanging out on the futon, reading and just kind of getting lost in my book. At about 9 pm I received a text that said something along the lines of: “Got time in the morning to be on the air? 7:30 in the studio?”
Why yes, yes I do.
And even if I had something planned on a Saturday morning for some reason, I found have found a way to be there. Not only to help out my friend because that’s like a no-brainer but dude free airtime on the radio where I get to be center of attention for 10 minutes? Yes, please.
And then, Saturday morning rolled around and I was there at 7:25 and recorded this quick video. I believe that when we know that opportunities can show up at any moment, then they will. And it helps when you have relationships with people. I mean those relationships that matter – not the ones that feed your ego and are self-serving and one-sided.
But that wasn’t the only time during that week where I was reminded that relationships are pretty important – no matter your career choice.
Because my weekly accountability partner had just had her 3 days even and I was a surprise bonus for anyone that invested into her mentorship program.
It can be challenging to build relationships and yet it shouldn’t be. My accountability partner and I met in a program we both invest in and even though the accountability piece ended for us, we continue to meet, week after week and it’s really turned into an amazing friendship.
And my friend, the radio host? Well, I look forward to co-working where both are going to get some things done that have been neglected and/or work ahead so we can have more control over our time.
As much as we perhaps love to do things on our own, but the reality is that we don’t really do it all alone. There are people in your world that support you, even if they don’t do or say anything in the scheme of things. And then there are the people that do things that you never expected, like your services being the surprise bonus or being on a radio show.
All too often, we think of power as destructive and find it challenging to see it as constructive. But what if for just a moment you recognize that it is neither nor and just is?
There are some forces of nature you don’t have control over such as Thunder and Lighting or the people around us. You do however have control over how to act or react to any given situation which can then be seen as giving life to something or someone or being destructive.
I believe self-awareness is crucial to our growth and creating a life that is in harmony even during a storm. It’s about setting your intention, your values and your willingness to actively supporting you and your life with all its ups and downs.
You have the power to do good as well as bad but it does you no good to overthink and get caught up in the deciding whether or not your decisions are good or bad. Here’s the thing, you will already know intuitively if something is good or if it’s going in the wrong direction. It’s important to check in with your gut (aka the intuition aka the inner wisdom center) and allow it to support you as you are tapping into who you are and recognize the power you hold in your own life and perhaps the life of other’s as well.
Tap into your intuition through meditation or prayer and pay close attention to the inner voice as your choice and next step are revealed to you.
I believe we all have an inner coach, or as I like to say inner Rebel. It’s the voice that encourages us to step up and make a decision that feels good not only energetically but you can physically feel good about it.
And wielding your power always comes back to choice.
Just like in nature, lighting has the ability to sharpen our senses of awe as you watch the show or elicit fear. And then you wait for the roar of thunder that often follows. Here’s where open hearts and minds matter because power just is and a reminder that you are not in control of our natural world but in control of yourself.
The other day, my son had is 6-months transplant check-in and 3 months of lab work. There’s this part of me that recognizes how far he had come but it didn’t really hit me until one of the nurse practitioners said: “we’ll see you in a year”.
We’ve only been on a 6 months rotation this past year and before that, it was 3 months rotation… and before that, it was monthly and before that, it was weekly.
So year, this feels a bit big.
After all this crazy, this is a huge milestone to celebrate and recognize for him but also reminded me that in any other journey, milestones often get overlooked because the ultimate goal hasn’t been reached yet.
And therein also lies the problem because one forgets to experience the journey along the way.
For just a moment, take a time out and reflect on the milestones you’ve achieved and celebrated them. And this can look like anything that calls you.
You can celebrate by
give the air a high-five
take yourself out to dinner
make a special dinner
buy something that you’ve been holding off on
share the milestone with someone
Working towards your dreams and goals is at times quite challenging but when you push through and keep going, you deserve to celebrate each step along the way.
The goal for my son has been to give him a quality life and it continues to be just that. I try not to worry or wonder about all the things that could go wrong and live in the “what-if” stage because really that would just create chaos.
And every day I am reminded to live in the moment and be present because truly tomorrow the world could change drastically but that’s tomorrow.
You can only do your best at each given moment. You can’t do more than that nor can you do less than that. Know this and honor this as best you can.
It can be frustrating to realize you are not where you want to be, yet, but you can still know that you are moving forward – one moment – one day at a time and then celebrate the heck out of each milestone you reach.
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Life as you know it isn’t going to change if you are not willing to look at the dark side of things. Life, contrary to some belief isn’t all rainbows, glitter, and unicorns. And even if you reach that in your life, something will at eventually trip you up.
This life is a journey but it’s really more an adventure than anything. So you fall down, get turned around and maybe even lost for a little bit. This doesn’t mean you are on the wrong path – it simply means you have forgotten who you and what you stand for – and live in such a way that you can reflect on your life with awe – even during the dark times.
An adventure you want to look back so you can say:
Yes, I lived.
Yes, I took action when I was scared.
Yes, I cried.
Yes, I was mad.
Yes, I did something worthwhile.
And the list could go on and on. I love setting goals and achieving them, but goals are mere resting points, not stopping points.
And they can be highly addictive too. Once you set one goal and you’ve achieved it, you will want to do this again and again.
But part of this can stop you from truly living, from taking that much needed time out and getting yourself grounded into your being.
I love setting goals and am probably a goal junkie but I have learned over the years to take a step back.
And for me that looks something like this:
go to concerts
lounge on the futon and watch TV
It can simply mean doing less.
And that can have you going all kinds of crazy in your mind because you have all the things to do.
But how can you live in the moment if you are too busy to take a timeout?
Frankly, you can’t. When you cater to other people, do things that don’t matter in the big scheme of things, you are allowing life to slip away. Don’t allow that to be you!
So today, make a list of all the things that:
bring you joy
give you peace
make you feel alive
bring you happiness
give you fulfillment
And then commit to doing ONE of those things a day.
Fear is a bit of a tricky beast every now and again and it shows up in different ways and from different places in our body.
Fear is a signal of danger but the challenge is that you don’t always know if it’s real or fake.
If you are going hiking and standing on the edge of the path, and there is that possibility of falling, that is an actual fear because you fear the result, which depending on the height of the edge can be landing you in the hospital or worse.
There is some reality to that kind of fear because you know it could happen and you are being signaled to get off the path for your safety.
But what about the fear when it comes to our dreams and goals?
This fear is often self-imposed because you fear change, success, failure and even missing out. I will be covering all of this in my posts this week, so you can go after what you want and have a better understanding when fear is sabotaging you.
For today I am going to just cover how the beast shows up as that can help you as you move through the actions you must or want to take to move forward.
Procrastination is when you are having an idea of what you want to do but you just can’t sit down and make it happen because you are riddled with doubt and second-guessing. It’s the internal messaging system that signals you with limiting beliefs that you may be holding on to such as “I am not good enough, no one wants what I offer or I am a fraud”. These are things you may have picked up over time from experiences that chipped you a bit in your mindset and tend to hang on to. It is also a signal of not knowing how important something is. Procrastination is when you keep putting things off which leads me to the next point.
Lack of Clarity
When you don’t know what you want and where you want to go, the beast is telling you that right here right now, this is the best you’re going to get. Because there is a lack of clarity, you don’t know what you ought to be doing, what the steps are to get there and how it will all turn out. Having clarity will enable you to feel excited, and it does not mean you won’t feel the fear, but once you know, you are willing to go after what you want anyway. If you have clarity and you can make this idea or dream a priority, your ego will be a little more silent as you are making progress. But this brings me to the last and final point of today’s post.
Are you over-committing?
See the thing about fear is that the ego will find excuses and activities to keep you so busy that you do not have time to prioritize your own dreams and goals. And in the end, you are allowing the beast to win because you are not prioritizing your own stuff and then wonder why you are not progressing and again it comes down to fear. So maybe you could look at your commitments and get some clarity on what you are able to let go?!
When I first started my business, I didn’t realize that a lack of clarity for me personally actually meant that I have a fear of success and that procrastination meant that I have a fear of failure.
Here is what I know however that fear shows up for you to push through, to look at it for what it is, recognize it and know that you are much bigger than your fear and most importantly your ego.
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