Money Bootcamp and my journey with mindset

Money Bootcamp and my journey with mindset

Do you ever wonder why you are stuck in life exactly where you are right now? What is that missing piece that will help you level up?

It’s mindset.

But more specifically it’s your money mindset.

I have always believed there is a way to make things happen and that life really doesn’t have to be so much of a struggle.

I’ve always known it relates to the story we tell ourselves and the impact of our experiences that have imprinted themselves into our person.

What I didn’t realize is that some of those stories are directly related to money too. Here I was thinking all of these years that if I change my thoughts, I will change my life.

And yes, for the most part, it is true. But it is so much more than that, and this is wat the Money Bootcamp is all about.

It’s like you are becoming an architect of all the stories and transform yourself into this amazing archeologist with this super cool finds, although sometimes those finds can be heart-shattering.

But in order to be, do and have our deepest desires to be fulfilled, we need to dig deep to unearth the roots of all things.

I started my journey by reading Denise Duffield-Thomas book “Get Rich, Lucky Bitch” and it was eye-opening. One moment what was a true reality, my father being an alcoholic, became a money memory of how I wasn’t worth more than a bottle of beer.

I joined the boot camp because I wanted to unearth it all and truly learn how to step into my own power, to rewrite those stories and it was a hard one for sure.

And I keep going back to take the boot camp again and again because there is always more dirt to uncover.

And Denise Duffield-Thomas has decided to once again run this boot camp live.

If you are ready to be and feel lucky and done being stuck, then this boot camp is totally for you!

Denise Duffield-Thomas is the money mindset mentor for the new wave of online female entrepreneurs. Her best-selling books “Lucky Bitch” and “Get Rich, Lucky Bitch” give a fresh and funny road-map to create an outrageously successful life and business.

Denise helps women release their fear of money, set premium prices for their services and take back control over their finances. She is an award-winning speaker, author, and entrepreneur who helps women transform their Economy-Class money mindset into a First-Class life.

And now Denise Duffield-Thomas has JUST opened the doors the incredible 2018 LIVE round of Money Bootcamp.  

In case you haven’t heard yet, Money Bootcamp is THE money mindset program for women who want to transform their money stories and finally earn the income they deserve.

This is a game-changing experience that is about much more than just money. Yes, when you join Money Bootcamp you’ll gain the tools, mentorship, and community to drastically increase your income.

What’s really great about Bootcamp, though, is that Denise’s mission is to empower women to step into their roles as the leaders they’re meant to be — in their lives and businesses.

This program will touch every aspect of your life in a positive way — and Denise has thousands of happy Bootcampers who are living proof of that.

If I were you, I would NOT miss this opportunity to join Denise and a global community of thousands of brilliant women united in sisterhood and a desire for greater abundance (for themselves and the world), for the next 6 weeks in her 2018 Live Money Bootcamp.

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How to Focus on the positive

How to Focus on the positive

I am not going to sit here and say that focusing on the positive is easy because honestly, it’s not. In fact, it’s really freaking hard when you are in a shit storm and you can’t see your way out of it. And yet, I know that if you dig deep and get some perspective, the good is available to you!

Often times, when we think about our lives changing, we automatically consider the negatives that come with that. However, even in times of turbulence or stress, some good things can also come from having your world shaken up. Taking time to focus on the positive and finding the good in change is yet another strategy that can help you to better deal with uncertainty. And another truth bomb right here: life always changes and nothing stays the same and in a flash or with one decision the life you knew is different. Guaranteed!

But there are definitely a few things you can do to support you through challenging times and yes focus on the positive!

Discover Your Strengths

With change comes adaptability. We need to adapt in order to roll with the punches. You’ll soon discover some of your greatest strengths as you figure out how to handle the twisted life has thrown your way. Perhaps you’re more creative than you realized, coming up with some neat ideas to raise quick cash. Maybe you’re a good networker and can rally people to your side during those times when you just can’t do it all alone. Change can really bring out the best in us.

Become More Resilient

Another quality you may not have realized you possessed is resiliency. A resilient person gets back up when life knocks them down. Often, we have no choice but to keep going and not give up. Adversity can truly show you your potential to bounce back. In my own journey, I have had parents tell me they don’t know if they could be strong like me or even people in general. I am pretty much a master of adversity but I am telling you that when you are left without a choice, you will dig into your heels.

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Learn Something New

While it’s great to lean on your friends in times of trouble, there are also those cases in which changes require you to learn something completely new to you. This type of personal development is invaluable. Gaining new skills or discovering unknown personality traits is almost always a blessing. Instead of looking at a particular situation as a problem, it can help to view it as a learning opportunity.

Speaking of personal development, ask yourself, what can you learn from this experience? How can and will it help you?

There is wisdom in your answers!

Gain Self-Confidence

All of the above byproducts of change can lead to a tremendous boost in self-confidence for you. When you handle a big change like a boss, you can’t help but feel a sense of pride and accomplishment. Discovering just how strong, resilient, smart, innovative and creative you can bring a shot of feel-good chemicals like none other. And if you are struggling to find that bit of self-confidence, make a list of all the things you’ve achieved already.

 

Reinvent Your Life

Finally, change sometimes requires us to completely reinvent our lives. Out with the old, in with the new. There are just some life events that are so big that they will never leave you the same. And that can be okay. In fact, it can be absolutely amazing in some cases. When something happens that causes you to do a complete life turnaround without your consent, it can leave you feeling powerless. Turn that feeling around by considering the ways you can adapt to this bombshell and make it work to your advantage. Maybe a job loss can be the catalyst you needed to learn about that industry you’ve been obsessed with for years. Perhaps a breakup will force you to reevaluate the types of relationships you’ve chosen until now. Unexpected change is often the kick in the pants we actually needed to live a more authentic life.

Be the phoenix rising!

While all of these things may not apply to your situation, I hope you can at least see what reframing the idea of change can do for your outlook. By altering the way you look at your circumstances, you can move forward in a more positive and healthier way.

Having clarity of where to go, what to do and who you are in the process is only one step of the equation.

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How to find your inner voice when the world is louder

How to find your inner voice when the world is louder

Do you struggle with listening to your inner voice? Do you doubt yourself and every inner signal you get?

You’re not alone.

It is really hard to hear your own inner voice when you are always available to other people but never make yourself available for your own interests.

Maybe you have people in your life you can’t see your vision.

Maybe you have people in your life who don’t have the mindset of possibility.

Maybe you’ve been listening to what society expects your life to be like.

It’s also easy to get lost in the noise with social media. Everyone keeping taps on everyone. You seeing what everyone is up to and then wonder why you’ve not made more progress.

When you are listening to people on how to live your life, what you should do and that having gratitude is enough you are stifling yourself!

So just how can you turn that around? How can you start listening to your own voice?

1. Start a daily writing practice. Whatever comes to mind write that down. Spend about 30 minutes every morning all the thoughts are in your head. Don’t restrict or restrain yourself from the thoughts. Freewriting helps you release your inner voice and give it the space it needs to be your guide. In addition, a daily writing practice can help you keep focused on your vision and goals you want to make happen.

2. Spend time outside in nature. Go for 30-minute walks and just be and allow your thoughts to roam. Your inner voice will make itself known. How? When your inner voice speaks your ego will argue against it, alas it will talk you out of whatever idea and inspiration you may have had. When you reach a moment of clarity, ego will question your judgment.

3. Disconnect from social media and do the work. When you are scrolling through the social, you will lose track of time and before you know it you’ve wasted an hour. During that hour you could have created art, written words for your book or spend time with your family. The less you are connected to any kind of media be it social or entertainment, the more you are able to hear your own inner voice.

Pick one of these activities and start doing it as often as you can. Writing every day will help you hear your inner voice sooner. You will be able to see who is speaking to you, ego, society or your own inner voice. Spending time outside not only helps you stay grounded but it will deepen your connection to your own inner voice.

Staying off social media helps you hear your voice more clearly and brings back the focus and commitment you want to develop to achieve your goals.

How to use Journaling to cope with life changes

How to use Journaling to cope with life changes

Something I know to be true is that change is constant and the way you respond to it matters. Not all change is bad but any kind of switch in your life can still cause you stress. Allowing life to toss you around and remaining at its mercy simply keeps us stuck and can make it harder for you to remove yourself from an undesirable situation.

Journaling is definitely a method I support and found incredibly useful during times of strife. I would like to say I embody journaling every single day, but that isn’t the case. But it is definitely my number one go-to method when facing any kind of challenge or problem. Take a look at some of the ways that something as simple as journaling can help you to cope with those big life changes that seem insurmountable.

What Is Journaling?

A journal is different than a diary. In a diary, you write about the events of your day. It’s merely a chronological record of what you experience throughout life. A journal is different is a tool you can use to record your feelings on those significant life events. There is power when you put pen to paper, not only does it provide a therapeutic space, you can coach yourself into moving through the challenge.  For a consistent mindset practice it is helpful to do this part of your morning routine, but even taking the time to jot down your reactions to a particularly stressful one-time event can do you some good.

Benefits of Journaling

Writing in your journal can help you get through times of change in a myriad of ways. By getting things out of your mind, you’re able to clarify you’re them and to make better sense of your thoughts and feelings. You’re taking the time to process events and to break them down into segments, such as cause and effect. Doing so lets you visualize what happened and gives you a better sense of how to improve your situation. It also clears your mind and frees up the cognitive space needed for implementing practical solutions. Here’s the thing, when you’re stuck in your own head and dwelling on the negative, it’s nearly impossible to make actual progress toward setting things right.

When you write it down, you can begin to prioritize the parts of your life that are most important to you through this form of processing. Finally, journaling gives you a record of how far you’ve actually come because you can see what’s worked for you thus far and what hasn’t. Seeing your progress is a strong motivator to keep going.

Types of Journaling

There are all kinds of journaling methods you could try. I’d like to highlight some that I believe to be particularly useful when it comes to coping with change. First, a simple gratitude journal can be a good place to start if you find you need to improve your attitude. Writing down what you’re thankful for and fortunate to have is a quick way to begin to feel more empowered. The phrase I like to use is “I am happy and grateful that….” and I will include current things I am grateful for and things I am working towards as if they are already in existence.

Free writing is good for an emotional release. Just begin writing on a particular thought you’ve had going through your mind. As you begin to expand upon it, patterns will emerge that you may never have expected. This is a fantastic strategy for processing emotions and generating solutions. Even keeping a planning journal or agenda can be useful if you need a little motivation to get things done. Taking even the smallest proactive step can help to overcome the inertia that can set in with the depression and anxiety that often comes with times of uncertainty. Something I want to mention about free writing, you will find yourself resisting and NOT writing it down alas censoring yourself. This is not the time or place for you to do that however because this is only for you and not to be shared on social media!

This is just a quick synopsis of how journaling can help you to cope with unexpected changes in your world. Use these suggestions and incorporate your own when you’re feeling stuck in your reactions to difficult situations. You’ll find yourself moving forward and coming up with solutions in no time.

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After you finished the 21-day journaling course you will know exactly who you are, what you stand for and start walking on the level of your soul.

And I believe that you will feel relief, excitement and recognize just how much in control you are in your life.

You have it within you to face anything but there’s more! You’re a superhero!

You have it within you to face anything but there’s more! You’re a superhero!

In a previous post, I shared some of the benefits of facing change and moving through a transition. Any time you face a challenge, there are lessons to be learned along the way or when you are on the other side of it.

I’ve heard it all my life: What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!

And if that’s the case then by all accounts, I think you are a superhero.

But I also know that when you are in the middle of chaos, you don’t really feel like a superhero. If anything, you are struggling to see the light of day and hang onto the glimmer of hope. And yet, when you come out on the other side, there are a few things to reflect on.

Self-Reliance

When you are going through hard times, you learn that the only person you can sometimes count on is only yourself. It’s not ideal because support can mean everything and when you’re asking for help, you also have to decide who that person is you are going to reach out to! In the end, you are the one going through the motion and figure out the next step! Whatever challenge you are facing is a catalyst for change.

Gratitude

When you are in the middle of chaos is tough seeing all the goodness in your life. When your spirit is crushed from a break-up or a job loss and your identity is stripped down, gratitude may be the last thing on your mind. But at the same time, it can show you what’s important in your life, who your true friends are and learn to appreciate what is rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Some things that once had value may no longer hold the same as you are rebuilding your life through each challenge.

Self-Improvement

You’re human with flaws – yep – and you are bound to make a mistake. If you get fired maybe it’s because you are too outspoken (that’s me!) or you didn’t do the work up to your bosses standards. While initially bad news, it can also be amazing news. Maybe it wasn’t the “right” job in the first place but it can also help you recognize what can use a bit of improving so that at your next job you don’t run into the same problem! It’s humbling to face your own faults, but again they can also be one of the most amazing catalysts for you.

For me, it was what I needed to start my business. Sure it sucked donkey balls but as I look back at it now, it was the best thing ever and I was able to use it as an opportunity to go after what I really wanted in life and well being my own boss, has improved my life in many ways.

Attitude

Your attitude about any given situation is what will help you move forward. Of course, feel your emotions. Be angry, feel resentful but don’t stay there. But if you don’t feel your emotions, how will you be able to move forward? But it’s also imperative that you develop an “I can” attitude that is fueled by determination, optimism and a dose of stubbornness. This will help you move forward and is definitely an asset you can start building before the crisis happens.

Here’s the thing, challenges are going to happen but how you handle them is the thing that matters. Face them like a superhero, and even they have days where they feel all the emotions, and yet, in the end, you will come out stronger, more resilient and more empowered!

Stop letting fear to control your life

Stop letting fear to control your life

The only thing that is constant, is change. And yet here you are afraid of it like it’s some kind of horror movie. Take a look at your life and you will see that nothing stayed the same. Change happens in small or big leaps and you may not be able to see the subtle changes, that doesn’t mean they don’t exist.

Any change, positive or negative, is going to create an element of fear such as starting a new relationship or losing your job.

Would you be surprised if I tell you that there a benefit to your fear? And that it doesn’t have to be as scary as you make it out to be?

But first let’s look at the reasons behind you fear, when you get some insight on this, you will be able to take action anyway.

You, including me, are afraid of the unknown because you don’t know what’s on the other side and it can give you the case of anxiety. Your mind tells you that it isn’t safe and encourages you to avoid to take action or even make a decision. You haven’t experienced this before so you don’t really know the outcome.

I don’t necessarily believe in the wrong choice but you make the best decision in every given moment with the information that you have. Your intuition can guide you a lot better than your mind will because of your mind as powerful as it is, has the ability to cloud your vision. Here is what I encourage you to do, let go of perfectionism and the absolutes.

Perfectionism is an illusion and doesn’t exist and absolutes can just about anytime set you up to fail because you are so hung up at the “it is this or nothing”.

And this can often increase your self-doubt. But for just one moment, reflect on your life and see where you’ve had to make adjustments in the past and how you made it happen. Use this to move forward.

And yet, by facing the unknown and embracing the change you are about to face, you learn so much about yourself and that you are capable off and inevitable learn some new skills. Its timing may never be ideal but it gives you space to examine and evaluate your core values and take a look if everything is still aligned with who you are.

Self-discovery helps you walk your path of authenticity and therefore lead to progress as you are expanding your comfort zone. You are more resilient than you give yourself credit for.

Anytime I share about the struggle we endured when my son was fighting for his life, I hear from other mom’s how they didn’t think they could handle it or deal with it. But when you are not given a choice, you are going to show up the best way you know how, and you will face whatever comes your way. Sometimes gracefully and sometimes not so much.

And that doesn’t mean you won’t face worry and anxiety along the way but by reframing the negative stories you tell yourself, and focus on the positive outcome that your forward moving action could lead to, it will feel better overall.

Now I am not going to encourage you to push your feelings aside because I don’t believe in that. I think we need to feel our feelings, how else are you ever going to grow and move forward and will ultimately make the changes in your life?

Your feelings are good indicators for you and your path and when you can name them, you are standing in your power and maintain your own control.

And again, something that may be helpful is to create a list and acknowledge the changes you have made in your life, what you have learned and remind yourself that you have made it through some tough times already.

Your life, your journey, is about putting one foot in front of the other. It’s about trusting your intuition and develop positive mindset strategies. And yes, there are going to be shit days but they aren’t all going to be like that!

You don’t have to face change alone because when you are surrounded by like-minded people and have a support system, transitions will become a lot easier to manage!

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