This is one line “Whenever you’re ready, it’s ready for you” is not only my personal mantra but my tagline.
Over the years, I have had many ideas, a few I acted on, a few I let go and a lot of them that just kind of marinated until I was ready.
Sometimes we can’t want all of our ideas to materialize but we struggle to take action and I believe it’s because we are not ready for the idea to actually be a reality.
Why is that?
I think we have to do the internal work first. The kinda of internal work that allows us to remove fear and doubt, so we can tap into our strength and the firm belief that we are here to follow those ideas.
Not all ideas are meant to take on a life form though I will stand by the notion that we need to explore them. There are some ideas we cannot wait to take action on because the excitement is too big and then there are some ideas that are so scary, we keep pushing them into the background.
But when you are ready, it’s ready for you.
I’ve been wanting to write fiction for over 20 years and started with short stories. My challenge is that because English is my second language, I can’t write. But more than anything else what’s been holding me back is the notion of not only who am I do write fiction but who will want to read what comes out of my sometimes twisted mind.
I felt like there was no room for the kinds of stories I wanted to write, which really is just an excuse.
About 2 months ago, I decided I needed a hobby that helps me unplug and doesn’t become a money-making machine and enables me to not work all the time.
I haven’t read for pleasure in about 7 years. After spending 8 years in college online and reading textbook after textbook, followed by writing one paper after another, I was burned out on reading. And I enjoyed reading before that time.
If I wasn’t crocheting or wood-burning, my nose was in a book solving crimes. I am a huge mystery, crime and true story kind of person. And I missed it. A lot.
Ok back to my story. I started reading paranormal romance and have since then read over 20 books on my kindle. So I am totally winning at taking the time out of my business.
But something else happened. A spark that was smoldering in the depth of my soul was lit on fire. The idea that I wanted to write fiction book took a hold of me and not just any kind of fiction. Paranormal Romance Suspense, that kind of fiction.It’s really merging the short stories I used to write with an interest in paranormal I didn’t know I had.
And you see, years ago I wasn’t ready to write those kinds of books. There’s a lot of internal work that had to happen first and a lot of clarification that needed to come out of the darkness about who I was, what I am meant to do and how I wanted to spend my time.
But what I just shared is true for every phase of my life as I look back on it. Whenever I was ready to take the action, the ideas and how to make them happen unfolded right in front of me. And I believe the same thing for you.
- When you are ready to put yourself first, it will happen because you will know what to do.
- When you are ready to live your life without negativity, you will know what to do.
- When you are ready to start a career or a business that has been calling you, you will know what to do.
I’ve been sharing parts of my world in different places, trying to maintain several blogs because part of me wasn’t ready to merge them all in one place. But I was ready, right before my 43rd Birthday to have every part of me be whole in one place.
Gone is the shiny website that indicated I might be a coach and I certainly could be but my mission really has become more about giving you and showing you the how to lead you and to guide you to the life that you want by allowing you to see my shadow sides but also the transformation that happened.
Because I know that sometimes you wonder if your life will ever be different, and I am telling you it can be the moment you are ready, but not until then.
The struggle, the pain, and the frustrations are so much part of the journey and you need to dig deep to not just change your mindset but to really own your power and decide you are going to be you. As long as you are still hiding because it’s nice, safe and the secure, you are not going to be ready for the next step, the next phase or the next idea.
So take my mantra “Whenever you’re ready, it’s ready for you”, write it on a post-it note and place it wherever you can see it all the time as a small reminder that your journey is unfolding just as it needs to and that the moment you are ready, things will shift and they will change!
And if you want to be a little bit more of an accelerated path, the Rebel Soul Connection is here to support you! It’s the place and space where I share what I have learned in 43 years of being on this planet and 15 years in business… and beyond!
There’s usually a lot of focus on the negative parts of the mindset that we forget the power words that I find we need to build on more.
Confidence is one for those that require more attention to overcome self-doubt and limiting beliefs. Yes, we all need to do work on those but feeling good should be a priority. Sometimes we really on others too much to help us feel good but we only need ourselves for reassurance.
And because we have the power on how to feel about ourselves, we can do something about it.
So just how to become more confident?
There is something to be said about “fake it till you make it”. No one needs to know how you feel, not your customer or clients – ever. Sure, there is something to be said about transparency but everything has a time and place for it. Use it as a teaching moment is usually a better way. When we look confident, we will feel confident. Voila!
In my businesses, I work from home 90% of the time and this means I have a choice between staying my pj’s or get dressed. When I decide to put on some clothes it immediately shifts something for me and I am already feeling more confident in what I do.
Posture is everything
Body language says so much about how we feel about ourselves. Changing our posture can be hard at first but having your shoulders and spine straight and your chin up is not only good for your body but your confidence. So, pay attention on how you position yourself at home and in public and make a conscious effort to show confidence.
A smile does go a long way! For many years people would tell me to smile or ask me what’s wrong when I was happy as a clam. I don’t need to go around smiling all day but trying to smile shows confidence and make other’s feel good. And I am in the business of helping you feel good and transform your life!
Acknowledge your talents and qualities
Doing this will help you from continuously pointing out your flaws. to help you, think about compliments you received and successes you can celebrate. Graduating college or writing a book all things that help you feel good and confident!
Look at what is standing in your way
Sometimes looking at what is hindering us from feeling confident can help us shift your thinking and how we feel. Perhaps you missed a deadline on a project. It’s not the end of the word and luckily there is something you can do about it. You can refocus on your purpose for the project, set a new deadline and write smaller doable steps to get it done. Checking off those action steps will help you grow your confidence!
Confidence is a process that happens over time and sometimes it still is shaken up but knowing that you can do something about it will help you along the way. Use these 5 steps to help you grow and nurture your confidence!
For many years I didn’t understand what mindset was. As a matter of fact, it wasn’t even part of my vocabulary. What I do know is that a successful mindset for me was all was a part of who I am. This is how and why I was able to face many challenges I encountered through the years.
I’ve compiled a list of 18 ways to create a Mindset on Fire
Use what feels good, try new things and trust that you have what it takes to create the life you want.
It’s through openness that we are allowing us to be willing to see opportunities and possibilities. We obtain information when we are needing it the most. It’s the magnetic way of coexisting with the universe.
A negative and pessimistic mind has never achieved anything successfully unless you consider living in misery a success. Being optimistic is more than just hoping though. It’s about an inner knowing that everything will be as you want it. Maybe not overnight, but in time.
Learn from experience
We have all made mistakes and decisions that ended up being a slap in the face of some kind. It’s in that situation however that you gain so much information that will help you next time you face a similar situation.
Be a student of and for life
Even at the perfect moments, there is something to learn. It’s in those moments we can acknowledge what we did that went well and how we went about it. And even if we are facing new challenges, we can ask you, what do I need to learn to get to where I want to be!
Allow the actions to guide your decisions
Sometimes we do have to act before we make a decision. It’s like trying on that new outfit at the store, deciding if we want to buy it or not. You can always make new decisions!
Challenge the status quo
There’s no right or wrong way in forging your own path, and sometimes that means going against what everyone else is doing or thinking. I believe that we are here to show other’s what their life could feel and be like by simply giving a different perspective.
Process and analyze often
Our thoughts and behavior are intertwined, and we are not always aware of them. When you can acknowledge why you do something, where it stems from (and it’s often from your childhood) you can engage new thoughts and behavior.
Change what you can about yourself
If you are playing small, hiding from you truly are, start there. If you don’t like something about yourself, change it. Want to be more assertive, then seek the information that you will need to be more assertive.
Take the next step even you think you are finished
Sometimes we think we are all finished with something, just to realize that there is another step to take.
Always be true to you
There’s nothing worse than pretending something you are not or now showing up as who you are by hiding behind a charade. You have values and core beliefs that are true to you, show them, live by them.
Start small when necessary and you feel the need to
Sometimes goals can look bigger than Mt. Everest. It’s in those moments that it’s good to remember that no mountain is climbed through big actions, but rather one small step at a time.
Believe in you, your dreams and your journey
If you don’t believe in yourself, who will? You have to without a shadow of a doubt believes in you, your dreams and your journey. Your faith will be tested over and over again and that is what this matters so much.
Have a morning and/or evening routine that helps you shatter the doubts that may have crept up overnight. Be it through journaling, meditating or exercising. Crush those doubts and make them shiver with fear.
Make no excuses
Truly, excuses are only going to keep you playing small and fuel the avoidance of really showing up in this world. No one has ever achieved a goal by saying they can’t do something.
If you want to achieve your dreams and goals you have to keep going after them. like a wolf goes after its prey. (and I may have just been reading too many werewolf books).
View problems as challenges
Stop thinking that they are here to stop you. Instead view them as a challenge, as that next goal and figure out how to overcome it, instead of throwing up your hands and walking away.
Have a vision
If you don’t know where you are going, how will you know that you are arriving at each stopping point? Having a vision of dreams and goals and what you want your life to be like, is of the essence.
Be courageous despite fear
Have the courage to take action even when you are scared. Confidence is creating through doing and not waiting for the right moment. It’s in those actions you can really see how amazing you are!
2008 was a rough year for my family but more challenging for my youngest kiddo.
It’s no cake walk receiving 2 liver transplants 3 days apart. You go into surgery one day, wake up just to go into the second surgery a few days later and then be in a medically induced coma for the coming weeks.
In order to keep my head and thoughts above water, I needed another outlet other than studying for my degree because there’s only so much homework you can do in one day.
As an artist, I am always expanding my arsenal of creative outlets and decided that doodling would be perfect while we lived in the intensive care unit. It’s not like I could bring in my wood-burner, though that would have been great. But realistically it wasn’t an option and although I had my crochet work, it just wasn’t enough.
And off to the craft store, we went to pick up pen and paper and the doodling began.
I needed to affirm the words, believe, faith, hope, dream and created different versions of each doodle.
Jump ahead a few years later and I am able to take my art and have them on different products.
Drink your coffee in the Dream Doodle Mug and envision all of the possibilities you can create in your life.
Dreaming expands your imagination and creates room for opportunities, provided you don’t censor your thoughts and talk yourself out of it.
Dreaming can provide new ideas on how to solve problems and lead you into action.
So why don’t you get your mindset support in the form of a mug and every time you take a sip you are reminded to dream?
Give yourself permission to dream! You are only one step away!
There are some people in this world that can hit rock bottom again and again and the next time you look, their life seems to be on par.
And here you are wondering when the breakthrough, or rather the break free is going to happen.
And trust me when I say the people who keep hitting the proverbial rock bottom are wondering the same damn thing.
What keeps these people going?
Why do they not just quit and throw in their towel?
Well for starters, they don’t have it within them to quit, There is this internal drive fueled by the belief and inner knowing that in the end, everything is going to be okay.
That doesn’t mean they don’t feel the pain and the frustration. Quite the opposite actually, they feel it in every fiber of their being.
So what is it about them that gives them the fuel?
They get super clear on what they don’t want, maybe even make a list of it all. And then with purpose and intention, they rewrite the list with everything they do want.
I don’t want to be broke then becomes I want to always have money in the bank.
I don’t want to be alone becomes I want to be in a loving, funny, equal relationship.
I don’t want relationships that suck becomes friendships that are nurtured.
I don’t want my son to die becomes I want my son to have a full life.
I don’t want my kids to fail becomes I want my children to succeed.
I don’t want a soul-sucking job becomes a business that lights me up.
Transforming your thoughts and beliefs is a constant act of reminding yourself of all the things you have overcome and achieved and that inner knowing that all will be well in the end.
But ask yourself, what does having money in the bank look like? Is it an extra $100 or $1000? What will this bring you? What feelings will this give to you?
What does haveing a loving, funny and equal relationship feel and look like?
How about your friendships?
My son’s medical journey meant really turning on the faith and steadfast on the mindset that one day he will walk out of the hospital.
And the kids not failing mean that I am giving them the tools and resources to follow their own dreams.
And what does the work you do bring to you? What kind of work? What mission are you on when it comes to your job or business?
Being in the trenches and hitting rock-bottom looks very different for everyone. For me, it was always being broke, being homeless, my son fighting for his life and my job not giving me the satisfaction I wanted in my life despite the good I was doing in this world
Pulling yourself up is messy and requires a soul walk of sorts. It’s shedding all the layers you’ve been hanging onto for so long and embracing who you are at your core.
It is known that every action you are taking will get you to where you want to go because let’s be honest, no one loves living in the trenches but no one is coming to save you either.
You’ll need to – perhaps even a little more than you believe in yourself.
Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help.
Here is what I know about myself:
I get ideas, follow them and they either get completed or put to the wayside, but I take action. And this has allowed me to learn a lot of skills over the years, from building websites, starting businesses, creating my own coloring books and much more.
I have learned to work from the inside out, that when I am okay with myself when I can look in the mirror and say “I love you” and when I stay consistent with my boundaries but more importantly with my vision, things just fall into place.
I am a big dreamer and visionary. I am also a creative and a rebel.
I want to do things in a way that feels really good to me, from the inside out. And for me, this had been the missing link for a lot of years. I tried to follow other people’s structure and systems only to realize it doesn’t work that way.
It wasn’t always this way because I was intimidated by other people’s presence and success and so I kept saying “one day I will”. And then I heard other people talk about their dreams and goals and they too said: “one day I will”.
But life is funny sometimes because it provides you with events and lessons and you soon realize that “one day” will actually never arrive with one exception “one day you will die!”
And then not so many moons ago, I wrote my vision for 2017 and in that vision, I wrote about making an impact to help people, to support them with their dreams and goals and to give them the tools and resources they could want and need to make it all happen.
The Rebels Academy a community of like-minded people, who have big dreams and goals, who may or may not be intuitive, quirky but they are rebels, creatives, and dreamers.
The courses, programs, and guides within the community are the framework for you to build on. There is no right or wrong way to create the life you want and forging your own path.
Surround yourself with people like you sometimes we need a little help from our friends along the way. We need our own cheerleaders and pep-talk squad to make it through those hard days where you wonder if any of it will actually pay off.
Your one day is today!
It truly is time to start doing what you have always been talking about and stop wasting time just waiting for one day to happen.
What is Rebel’s Academy?
Rebel’s Academy is a system of videos, fun-to-do activities and in-depth guides to help you overcome obstacles and go the distance.
The key to creating a lifestyle of ultimate freedom.
The Rebel Plus program includes The Complete Rebel’s Handbook and membership to the Rebel’s Academy online portal.
The portal contains all three Rebel’s Academy Lifestyle Business Tracks and access to 1:1 support, when you need it most.
Your membership doesn’t expire. You’ll even have access to future materials added to the Lifestyle Business Tracks at no extra charge.
Your materials, resources and supportive tribe of rebels will all be there, ready to stand beside you in your own Rebelution.
But there is more!
There are threads in your private hangout to set goals, share your struggle, office hours where I answer your questions, sharing your wins and getting feedback. I am going to support you, cheer you on and help you achieve your dreams.
There are prices and rewards to be given out for committing to your goal and taking action to get there.
Some rewards include:
- 1:1 Sessions with me
- Apparel and other gifts
- and whatever else I can come up with.
And I don’t know about you, but being rewarded for the work you put in feels pretty damn sweet to me.
Join the Rebels Academy and be the first one to know when the doors open and get in on the early-bird special!
You are one decision away!
Here’s what I know to be true:
I know this because I’ve followed other people’s system for a really long time, only to find myself frustrated.
My vision and personal mission are to give you the tools, guides, and resources to get started and to support you with daily check-ins and monthly coaching calls to answer questions and help you through the challenging days.
Everyone’s journey is different, and we all want to get there and often want to do it alone. But the hidden truth is that a community raises your confidence, supports you during the days you want to give – and together we achieve great things.
It’s time to stop saying “one day” or “some day”.
It’s time to start saying “Today is the day, that I will…”
A Manifesto of Sorts
Here’s what it means to be a rebel soul:
Rebels are driven by their vision for the future
Rebels are relentless
Rebels take back the power from their captors
Rebels are strongest together
Rebels see the spark in others and help fan it into flame