Let’s kick it off some questions for you:
What’s most important to you? What is the one thing you really want to do on a daily basis that would make a big difference, but you just can’t seem to find the time for?
Now be more clear, what habits do you want to cultivate that could really create a positive impact on your life?
And maybe you need to start writing about your current mornings and define what you don’t like about them, so you can create the clarity on what would make all the difference in your world!
Maybe you want to eat a better breakfast and have for time to sit down rather than grab your food and run. Or maybe you want to spend some time writing, exercising or reading.
For me, it’s quality time in the mornings with my partner. Those 5-10 minutes I get to hang out with him before he heads out the door are what makes me feel good and loved in the mornings.
Now that you know what you want your mornings to look and feel like, you have something you can work towards.
Take some time to visualize what your perfect morning feels like and looks like in every single detail and how it will help you have the most amazing day, every day!
Imagine not being stressed or feeling rushed.
Maybe you get some time to take a longer shower, go for a run, spent time with your partner or just have some solid time that you get to be with yourself.
And while this may look like a lot of maybe’s, you get to decide what to include in your morning routine and how it will happen every day.
And please for all that is good in the world, don’t try to make all the changes right now in one fell swoop. For now, simply just imagine what your perfect morning feels and looks like.
I want you to become very clear on what you want that perfect morning to look like. Imagine it in as much detail as you possibly can. Write it down in a journal or on a piece of paper that you can refer back to as needed.
Why is this so important?
Because you can’t start to make any meaningful changes until you know what your goals are.
You need to know your destination before you can start to pick a route and figure out how you’ll get there. That’s what today’s task is all about. It’s figuring out where you want to get to. Don’t stop until you have it figured out and firmly pictured in your mind.
In a previous post, I shared some of the benefits of facing change and moving through a transition. Any time you face a challenge, there are lessons to be learned along the way or when you are on the other side of it.
I’ve heard it all my life: What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!
And if that’s the case then by all accounts, I think you are a superhero.
But I also know that when you are in the middle of chaos, you don’t really feel like a superhero. If anything, you are struggling to see the light of day and hang onto the glimmer of hope. And yet, when you come out on the other side, there are a few things to reflect on.
When you are going through hard times, you learn that the only person you can sometimes count on is only yourself. It’s not ideal because support can mean everything and when you’re asking for help, you also have to decide who that person is you are going to reach out to! In the end, you are the one going through the motion and figure out the next step! Whatever challenge you are facing is a catalyst for change.
When you are in the middle of chaos is tough seeing all the goodness in your life. When your spirit is crushed from a break-up or a job loss and your identity is stripped down, gratitude may be the last thing on your mind. But at the same time, it can show you what’s important in your life, who your true friends are and learn to appreciate what is rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Some things that once had value may no longer hold the same as you are rebuilding your life through each challenge.
You’re human with flaws – yep – and you are bound to make a mistake. If you get fired maybe it’s because you are too outspoken (that’s me!) or you didn’t do the work up to your bosses standards. While initially bad news, it can also be amazing news. Maybe it wasn’t the “right” job in the first place but it can also help you recognize what can use a bit of improving so that at your next job you don’t run into the same problem! It’s humbling to face your own faults, but again they can also be one of the most amazing catalysts for you.
For me, it was what I needed to start my business. Sure it sucked donkey balls but as I look back at it now, it was the best thing ever and I was able to use it as an opportunity to go after what I really wanted in life and well being my own boss, has improved my life in many ways.
Your attitude about any given situation is what will help you move forward. Of course, feel your emotions. Be angry, feel resentful but don’t stay there. But if you don’t feel your emotions, how will you be able to move forward? But it’s also imperative that you develop an “I can” attitude that is fueled by determination, optimism and a dose of stubbornness. This will help you move forward and is definitely an asset you can start building before the crisis happens.
Here’s the thing, challenges are going to happen but how you handle them is the thing that matters. Face them like a superhero, and even they have days where they feel all the emotions, and yet, in the end, you will come out stronger, more resilient and more empowered!
Do you consider yourself a morning person? Or more of an evening person?
I love mornings or rather, I love waking up and see the new opportunities each wake up can bring. It’s also a moment to reflect and create a fresh start if need be.
Now I am a morning person and my routine pretty much sets me up for the day and I can reflect at the end of the day what went well and what didn’t go so well. And then, of course, do better the next day.
This is not a moment, however, to beat yourself up because you can only do your best at each given moment.
But no matter the time you wake up, having a routine gives you a solid start on the day!
So let’s talk about your mornings!
Do you set an alarm so you have time to exercise, meditate, journal or just have some quiet time to yourself? But then you keep hitting the snooze button until you are out of time to actually follow through with your intentions?
Some mornings are better than others, and if you have more mornings where you hit the snooze button, again don’t beat yourself up.
But here’s what I want you to reflect on, the days that you did get up with the alarm:
Did you feel different?
How much did you get done?
Did you get that “me time”?
How did that feel?
How do the days you actually get up compare to the ones you keep hitting the snooze button?
Chances are that the mornings you did manage to make it out of bed when the alarm woke you up, your day not only went smoother but you got more accomplished. And the days you slept through the snooze button you felt frazzled for most of the day.
My mornings start off with a cup of coffee and 5 minutes of just being, although there are some days, I am up and out of bed and ready to roll. But I notice the days I take a few minutes to just be, I feel calmer in my day. From there, I am focused on getting my kid ready for school and out the door and then it’s “me time”. I spend time journaling and prepping for my day according to my plan or make adjustments as needed.
The days I don’t get that “me time” I tend to not get much done because I didn’t spend the time getting myself ready not prepped for the day ahead.
I share this with you because your morning routine can without a doubt set the tone of your day. And if you can absolutely enjoy your mornings rather than feel grumpy about them.