14-Day Coloring Page Challenge

14-Day Coloring Page Challenge

Do you pay attention to that inner voice that tells you to just be who you already are?

Does the inner voice also tell you what action to take but you make excuses and end up playing it small?

Do you wonder what can happen when you not only listen to your inner rebel but also act on what she says?

During the 14-Days you will tune into your own transformation and know that you are okay in all that was and all that is. Becase when you listen to your inner voice, you can see that you are a Unicorn amongst horses.

Sometimes it can be challenging to know what our purpose is but it will be easy enough when you make space through coloring meditation. A picture of who you need to become in the process will emerge.

During this challenge, you will ask yourself if you are really committed and how you can seek refuge to honor yourself and your own needs. You know that love – love for yourself – can heal the pains of the past and pave the way to the future. But coloring helps you maintain present in the moment.

You will tap into your bravery and get clear on who you are – although I already know you’re a masterpiece.

Tune into your inner Rebel and embrace what she wants you to know and what it will take for you to leap.

Every day for 14 days you will receive an email with a new coloring page and a few thoughts to tune into the intention for that day!

Cut Through the Bullshit

Cut Through the Bullshit

How many excuses a day are you making to avoid

  • healing
  • taking action
  • confrontation
  • setting boundaries
  • being uncomfortable

If I had a guess, I’d say a lot, like all day long.

I know because I have been there. I avoided looking at the stories I told myself, keeping me in the shadows. I didn’t take action on my dreams, because who the heck was I? I hated confrontation, and I am still not a huge fan of it but understand it’s the necessity. I didn’t know boundaries were a thing that could support and protect me. And I freaking hated being uncomfortable so I just didn’t face my reality.

I lived like this for 34 years of my life. I look back and can see where my inner Rebel nudged me, giving me little pushes to do the work I needed to do. It wasn’t until I was facing the possibility of losing my son. I have had miscarriages but this was so inherently different. He was 4 and he was alive. It’s his journey that made me realize the bullshit I was feeding myself.

Up until this time on one August day in 2007, I found all the reasons of why I can’t do the things I wanted to do, albeit always believing life can and will be better if I just keep going.

  • Foster kids don’t become successful.
  • Single Parents will always struggle.
  • Abuse and Rape Survivors never have healthy relationships.
  • Special needs moms will always fear the worst.

And I can probably keep going being a woman and an immigrant. But those themes I just mentioned are the ones most prevalent in my life.

Foster kids can be successful at anything and everything, just like their peers. In fact, I believe that foster kids make amazing entrepreneurs. We know how to survive in chaos, we understand risks in ways I can’t describe and we adapt to unknown situations.

Single parents don’t always struggle. Single parenting is hard as shit, don’t get me wrong. I raised 3 boys by myself, and even though I am in a committed relationship, I am still the one responsible for all the decisions to be made. And since each child has a different personality and different needs, a cake walk it wasn’t or isn’t.

And don’t let me get started on blended family living and the clashes that can happen within that space. But having friends and a partner that supports you can make all the difference. And just like foster kids, single parents are incredible with managing time, budget, work and their household.

I have been in a committed relationship for the last 12 years, not without dealing with some really shitty times and even left, and yet it’s my longest relationship I’ve ever had. But in my own healing journey, we were able to heal parts of us together. It meant cutting out the bullshit, stop looking at who we were and instead look at who we are now. It meant to communicate and yes even set boundaries within our relationship.

The more you know yourself, the way you think, act and react, the better you can communicate that with your partner. And when you do that, you are making space for intimacy and open the door for the partner to do the same. Now mind you, it’s not my job (or your job) to heal and fix our partners. We can only heal ourselves and be a mirror to those in our lives.

My abuse and trauma still longers but I am aware most of the time. There are sometimes, I am not and it becomes apparent in my mood and my own attitude. But it’s those moments I get to be reflective and remove the bullshit I may have been feeding myself.

And if anything in my life taught me to cut out the bullshit, it is without question becoming a special needs parent. I watched my son fight for his life more than I’d like to think about, but it’s his spirit and his tenacity that have helped me along my journey. He takes each day as it comes, no more no less. There are no stories about the past he is feeding himself and only dreams he talks about for the future. He doesn’t question any of it, he’s quite matter of fact about his dreams will happen.

And he has plenty of reasons to make excuses. But he doesn’t.

I get tired of hearing excuses of why you can’t do something. It makes my heart sad and every now and then I want to shake up awake and tell you that you absolutely can have the life you want. All you have to do is cut through the bullshit and see it for what it is. Your ego trying to keep you playing small.

If you are ready, and only if, join me for my 2-hour live group coaching class where we look at your excuses and remove them while deciding on your first step.

It’s a time to connect and a time to release

It’s a time to connect and a time to release

Do you sometimes wonder what in your life needs attention and where your mind overshadows all the things?

Do you wonder what is ready to burn down and what will ignite within you to go the next step?

Do you wonder what adventure is opening up for you and what message you can take with you?

Spring is always a time of rebirth and the tears you’ve shed over the past few months have cleared the path for what is ready to emerge.

It’s time to ditch the rules of society and tune into your instinctual cues and let the spirit of the wolf be your teacher. This can lead to confusion and when you feel this way, this is not the time to make decisions.

But with faith and grace, you are ready to emerge. Let by instinct, feel the sensation in your body and make space for it to connect to your mind. Together they will know what to do. Even if you are experiencing a time of confusion, use it to be still and patient. When body, soul, and mind connect and you allow the flow to move you, you will feel no resistance but know in every fiber of your being that everything is as it should be.

Connect during this time with music, art, and nature to activate your senses. Don’t be afraid of physical touch when you feel the need to be held. Connect with your inner self and allow yourself the space you need for that deep connection your soul craves.

It’s easy to seek sanctuary in places that you think are safe but you always have a place of peace within you that is your sanctuary and the time has come for you to find this place out in nature. Go find the trails, the meadows, and the mountains to seek that physical space for you.

Because this is the time to release shame so you can uncover who you really are. Look at the stories you tell yourself and find compassion for the child within you. Take time to acknowledge the stories, write a letter to yourself and ugly cry if you need to. And then rewrite this letter with compassion and understanding so you can take every opportunity to heal this shame and remember the innocent child within you.

 

 Want to tune into your inner Rebel and embrace what she wants you to know.

What’s it going to take before you will take action

What’s it going to take before you will take action

You have this amazing dream of writing a book, starting a business and perhaps even lose some weight. And yet, here we are at the end of May and you’re looking everything, realizing you didn’t get very far.

What are you waiting for?

Are you waiting for the perfect moment?
Are you waiting for until you’ve perfected the skill?
Are you waiting for the moment you feel you’re enough?

Why can’t it be right this very moment?

What is holding you back?

Is it fear of failing? Fear of disappointing yourself or others?

Worry?

The lack of not knowing how?

Every excuse you make is a bullshit reason for why you are not willing to make your dream, goal or resolution happen.

When is enough, well enough?

How much longer are you willing to just watch others make their own dreams come true while you are still wishing you could?

Here is the truth: You can!

You need to stop making excuses and start taking action – even when the fear is as loud as a damn jet engine.

Fear is just an emotion, just like anger, love, happiness etc. Are you willing to allow the emotion to rule you, or are you willing to decide how you are going to feel and what you are going to do?

I think too often, we forget that we have a choice.

We always have a choice!

When we were kids, we were told we don’t have a choice. We need to follow the rules, do as we are told. We are told to graduate high school, go to college or learn a trade.

We are told that we should be grateful for the job we have and just go on with our mediocre life.

Yes, I said it: MEDIOCRE

Because I know you envision your life to be different. I know that you have dreams and goals that you want to achieve but because you were told you didn’t have a choice, you just let life slip on by.

What if I told you that you are in control of your life, that you have the power to choose what you will or will not do and how you will live?

Choose and Decide!

What’s it going to be? Living your life to the rules of someone else or your own?

If you are ready to make some changes in your life, it’s time for you to choose a path so you can start achieving your dreams and goals with like-minded people!

New Book Release: Rebel Shine – The guide to have your best year, every year

New Book Release: Rebel Shine – The guide to have your best year, every year

I just released my new book Rebel Shine and I am thrilled. Not only because I finished it but because people are already leaping into action and stop waiting for the right moment. One message I received:

Hey! Congrats on the book 👏 I bought it and started reading and I got this crazy idea (from your story)…

and this is why I wrote this book.

Not only to help you get a vision of where you want to go in your life but do it in such a way that every, year truly is the best year.

Rebel Shine is more than just a book, however. It’s really a guide to help you rise above from what is holding you back, so you can have the best year, every year. What would it mean to you to have a clear vision of the direction for your life and the dreams waiting to be unleashed?

It’s time that you own your own power and release the stories and belief patterns that have held you back until now. It’s time to tap into your imagination and embrace self-care while embodying an attitude of gratitude. Opportunities will emerge as you elevate your life and embrace vulnerability.

If your purchase the kindle version, each chapter is followed by questions for you to answer. And each chapter builds upon the other.

If you by the paperback version, there is space for you to write in the book directly as you move through each chapter.

I really believe that when we have a clear vision of the path we are wanting to take, we can move through our lives with a bit more ease.

I didn’t want to focus on a long-term vision so much, although that can play a key role. But I know that anything and everything can change at a moments notice and that is why Rebel Shine is focused on just one year at a time.

This book can apply to your life or your business or even a combination of both. It doesn’t matter where you are in your life and what is currently going on, what does matter is your willingness to embrace your inner Rebel and make those small or radical changes just waiting on you to decide that this moment right here, is THE moment.

And in the words of Meatloaf “what’s it going to be?”

A challenge for change – You won’t know until you act

A challenge for change – You won’t know until you act

Last months I attended an author event. It was the first time I had entered a writing competition and pushed myself into the lion’s den of being judged.

I didn’t know the outcome because winners weren’t announced until the night of the event. I’ve been writing aka blogging or books for over 10 years now but never once had I considered entering a competition. It’s not really my scene because I want to not care what people think about my writing or what I do. Ever.

Because the moment I start caring what other people think in terms of my writing or the work that I do, I create a space to shrink and play it small. And yet, if I don’t push those boundaries, how will I grow?

And so I wrote a 500-word essay and entered the competition. I found myself among some incredible human beings.

Challenge into Change is a forum for real-life stories about women overcoming personal struggles to find growth and healing. We invite you to submit a piece of writing of 500 words or less about a woman (yourself or someone you know) surmounting a difficult situation in her life. Both prose and poetry are welcome. Winners will receive cash awards; all entrants will have the chance to be published in our Challenge into Change book and will be honored at a ceremony at the 2018 Festival of the Book in Charlottesville. – Women’s Initiative

And what a humbling experience to hear and read the stories of over 80 authors who have had some incredibly challenging experiences in their own lives. We are truly never alone and the only time we find ourselves alone is when we don’t share our stories.

I didn’t win and yet I did all at the same time.

I won because I put myself out there and I won because of the comments from the judges about my story.

These comments sum up who I am as a human and as a writer. In fact, the point that got me is that through my writing they were indeed able to see everything about me.

But I am not going to sit here and say that I wasn’t disappointed. There was a small part of me that was bummed out about not winning. And that reminds me that I am human after all and that sometimes can mean the world.

I wouldn’t have known the outcome or this experience:

If I didn’t write the essay
If I didn’t submit the essay
If I didn’t go to the event

If you want to change your life then you gotta push those boundaries of your comfort zone a little at a time!