How Fear shows up in your life

How Fear shows up in your life

Fear is a bit of a tricky beast every now and again and it shows up in different ways and from different places in our body.

Fear is a signal of danger but the challenge is that you don’t always know if it’s real or fake.

If you are going hiking and standing on the edge of the path, and there is that possibility of falling, that is an actual fear because you fear the result, which depending on the height of the edge can be landing you in the hospital or worse.

There is some reality to that kind of fear because you know it could happen and you are being signaled to get off the path for your safety.

But what about the fear when it comes to our dreams and goals?

This fear is often self-imposed because you fear change, success, failure and even missing out. I will be covering all of this in my posts this week, so you can go after what you want and have a better understanding when fear is sabotaging you.

For today I am going to just cover how the beast shows up as that can help you as you move through the actions you must or want to take to move forward.

Procrastination

Procrastination is when you are having an idea of what you want to do but you just can’t sit down and make it happen because you are riddled with doubt and second-guessing. It’s the internal messaging system that signals you with limiting beliefs that you may be holding on to such as “I am not good enough, no one wants what I offer or I am a fraud”. These are things you may have picked up over time from experiences that chipped you a bit in your mindset and tend to hang on to. It is also a signal of not knowing how important something is. Procrastination is when you keep putting things off which leads me to the next point.

Lack of Clarity

When you don’t know what you want and where you want to go, the beast is telling you that right here right now, this is the best you’re going to get. Because there is a lack of clarity, you don’t know what you ought to be doing, what the steps are to get there and how it will all turn out. Having clarity will enable you to feel excited, and it does not mean you won’t feel the fear, but once you know, you are willing to go after what you want anyway. If you have clarity and you can make this idea or dream a priority, your ego will be a little more silent as you are making progress. But this brings me to the last and final point of today’s post.

Are you over-committing?

See the thing about fear is that the ego will find excuses and activities to keep you so busy that you do not have time to prioritize your own dreams and goals. And in the end, you are allowing the beast to win because you are not prioritizing your own stuff and then wonder why you are not progressing and again it comes down to fear. So maybe you could look at your commitments and get some clarity on what you are able to let go?!

When I first started my business, I didn’t realize that a lack of clarity for me personally actually meant that I have a fear of success and that procrastination meant that I have a fear of failure.

Here is what I know however that fear shows up for you to push through, to look at it for what it is, recognize it and know that you are much bigger than your fear and most importantly your ego.

If you are tired of fear getting in the way and you are done making excuses, 5 Minutes to Freedom is exactly what you need. In just 5 minutes a day, you can break free and out of your comfort zone!

Dream Life Creation Marathon

Dream Life Creation Marathon

Join {Dream Life Creation Marathon}

A live online summit with 36 speakers, who will bring value and inspiration to everyone trying to make their dreams come true. They will give you guidance, tools, and techniques you can use to start immediately, to enjoy the journey and to make it your own.

Friday, June 22 – Sunday, June 24
Each day from 10 am UK (5 am EST) to 10 pm UK (5 pm EST)
with a training streamed live every hour!

I am excited to be part of this amazing event that my friend Alenka is putting together. I will be sharing on how to embrace your inner Rebel and how you can get started right away.

But this Dream Life Creation Marathon is so much more than that.

Dream Life Creation Marathon

It can be hard to know what you want from your life or wonder if your dreams are too big. And maybe you are struggling with some fears and doubts to help you make your dreams come true.

All too often we create our own stress due to overwhelming feelings and thoughts, especially when there’s information overload because you either don’t know where to begin or know how to keep going.

When you join the Dream Life Creation Marathon, you will have a clear picture of your dreams and goals and receive the steps and tools to make them happen. You will develop your own blueprint that feels amazing and motivates you to keep going and believe in possibilities.

It can be challenging to know who to turn to for help, but during this event, you will absolutely make new friends that support you along the way.

We know life gets in a way and you might miss a training or two! We got you covered! Get access to download or stream ALL 36 (over 18 Hours) Training Sessions after the event is over (and keep it forever). And we added some great BONUSES too!

HERE’S WHAT YOU WILL RECEIVE:

  • Downloadable VIDEO and AUDIO of all 36 sessions
  • BONUS 1: PDF Transcripts of each session
  • BONUS 2: Handouts/Workbook of each session from our expert speakers

So don’t wait to sign up – Join Today! 

Getting clear on your goals

Getting clear on your goals

Challenge, situation or circumstance I have been asked: How do you do it?

This is a simple enough question, except that I have struggled to give the answer because I just do. It is such an automatic process because it is something that I have always done.

I have very little room for bullshit such as excuses, whining and complaining. I get an idea and if it excites me enough I work towards to make it happen. Like running a 14-Day Coloring Challenge that in the middle of creating it prompted me to redo the entire website for my coloring page collection.

But sometimes one must dig deeper for the bigger vision. So here is my process:

  • I get clear on what I wanted
  • I create a vision of the result I want to achieve
  • I do the work required to make it happen

This isn’t always as easy as it seems because obstacles and hurdles come up and try to get in the way. Fear, frustration, and self-doubt will trip you up and others, including your ego, will tell you that you can’t do it.

I was told I am a failure but if failure means going to school, graduating with two degrees and raising my children well, then I have succeeded! I win!

To gain the confidence, you must do the work and once you do the work all those negative voices will be silenced!

Going after your goal is scary and you will hear that you are not smart enough, that you are not good enough but who the heck are those naysayers? What do they know? They only know what they believe about themselves – because they didn’t go to college, you can’t go to college. Because they were told to work a job for their rest of their lives, they can’t have a business of their own and neither can you!

Well to hell with that!

Go and get clear on your dreams and turn them into focused oriented goals!

14-Day Coloring Page Challenge

14-Day Coloring Page Challenge

Do you pay attention to that inner voice that tells you to just be who you already are?

Does the inner voice also tell you what action to take but you make excuses and end up playing it small?

Do you wonder what can happen when you not only listen to your inner rebel but also act on what she says?

During the 14-Days you will tune into your own transformation and know that you are okay in all that was and all that is. Becase when you listen to your inner voice, you can see that you are a Unicorn amongst horses.

Sometimes it can be challenging to know what our purpose is but it will be easy enough when you make space through coloring meditation. A picture of who you need to become in the process will emerge.

During this challenge, you will ask yourself if you are really committed and how you can seek refuge to honor yourself and your own needs. You know that love – love for yourself – can heal the pains of the past and pave the way to the future. But coloring helps you maintain present in the moment.

You will tap into your bravery and get clear on who you are – although I already know you’re a masterpiece.

Tune into your inner Rebel and embrace what she wants you to know and what it will take for you to leap.

Every day for 14 days you will receive an email with a new coloring page and a few thoughts to tune into the intention for that day!

Cut Through the Bullshit

Cut Through the Bullshit

How many excuses a day are you making to avoid

  • healing
  • taking action
  • confrontation
  • setting boundaries
  • being uncomfortable

If I had a guess, I’d say a lot, like all day long.

I know because I have been there. I avoided looking at the stories I told myself, keeping me in the shadows. I didn’t take action on my dreams, because who the heck was I? I hated confrontation, and I am still not a huge fan of it but understand it’s the necessity. I didn’t know boundaries were a thing that could support and protect me. And I freaking hated being uncomfortable so I just didn’t face my reality.

I lived like this for 34 years of my life. I look back and can see where my inner Rebel nudged me, giving me little pushes to do the work I needed to do. It wasn’t until I was facing the possibility of losing my son. I have had miscarriages but this was so inherently different. He was 4 and he was alive. It’s his journey that made me realize the bullshit I was feeding myself.

Up until this time on one August day in 2007, I found all the reasons of why I can’t do the things I wanted to do, albeit always believing life can and will be better if I just keep going.

  • Foster kids don’t become successful.
  • Single Parents will always struggle.
  • Abuse and Rape Survivors never have healthy relationships.
  • Special needs moms will always fear the worst.

And I can probably keep going being a woman and an immigrant. But those themes I just mentioned are the ones most prevalent in my life.

Foster kids can be successful at anything and everything, just like their peers. In fact, I believe that foster kids make amazing entrepreneurs. We know how to survive in chaos, we understand risks in ways I can’t describe and we adapt to unknown situations.

Single parents don’t always struggle. Single parenting is hard as shit, don’t get me wrong. I raised 3 boys by myself, and even though I am in a committed relationship, I am still the one responsible for all the decisions to be made. And since each child has a different personality and different needs, a cake walk it wasn’t or isn’t.

And don’t let me get started on blended family living and the clashes that can happen within that space. But having friends and a partner that supports you can make all the difference. And just like foster kids, single parents are incredible with managing time, budget, work and their household.

I have been in a committed relationship for the last 12 years, not without dealing with some really shitty times and even left, and yet it’s my longest relationship I’ve ever had. But in my own healing journey, we were able to heal parts of us together. It meant cutting out the bullshit, stop looking at who we were and instead look at who we are now. It meant to communicate and yes even set boundaries within our relationship.

The more you know yourself, the way you think, act and react, the better you can communicate that with your partner. And when you do that, you are making space for intimacy and open the door for the partner to do the same. Now mind you, it’s not my job (or your job) to heal and fix our partners. We can only heal ourselves and be a mirror to those in our lives.

My abuse and trauma still longers but I am aware most of the time. There are sometimes, I am not and it becomes apparent in my mood and my own attitude. But it’s those moments I get to be reflective and remove the bullshit I may have been feeding myself.

And if anything in my life taught me to cut out the bullshit, it is without question becoming a special needs parent. I watched my son fight for his life more than I’d like to think about, but it’s his spirit and his tenacity that have helped me along my journey. He takes each day as it comes, no more no less. There are no stories about the past he is feeding himself and only dreams he talks about for the future. He doesn’t question any of it, he’s quite matter of fact about his dreams will happen.

And he has plenty of reasons to make excuses. But he doesn’t.

I get tired of hearing excuses of why you can’t do something. It makes my heart sad and every now and then I want to shake up awake and tell you that you absolutely can have the life you want. All you have to do is cut through the bullshit and see it for what it is. Your ego trying to keep you playing small.

If you are ready, and only if, join me for my 2-hour live group coaching class where we look at your excuses and remove them while deciding on your first step.

May Review and June Goals

May Review and June Goals

May continued to be about refining my systems and organizing my business and life. And the most amazing thing is that I am done with it. And what’s even better is that it has actually reduced my work hours tremendously. There is something to be said about having a strategy an systems in place.

But other amazing things happened in the process and I am going to update success below.

  1. Rebel Shine Book –  I actually published in! One day I stood on my porch and saw the final product emerge and boom done!
  2. Exercise – Running & Soccer – Soccer season is currently on hold until after the 4th of June and so I have been pushing myself to run a bit more.
  3. Create at least one or two new pieces of art – that really didn’t happen. I have so much finished items floating around my studio that I decided to update the pictures instead and get my inventory wall organized.
  4. Support my clients as needed – this has been going really well. I have set aside specific days to just focus on my VA clients and it’s been a dream to support them on their own journey.
  5. Things not planned but achieved! Something that happened right after I published my book is that I created guides – you can find them here. I was inspired and acted and now you can have a quick guide to write your book, set goals, start a business or a blog.
  6. I went to a soccer game to watch for fun. The town I live in now has its own team and I am excited to be supporting them by showing up. And I love a good soccer game.
  7. I accepted an opportunity to speak on productivity and time management for a local entrepreneur group.

Which now leads me to goals for June and I actually had to think about them for a bit because I don’t have anything BIG planned right this moment as I am settling into a new way of working and being.

With that said here are some of the things I know that are going down!

My friend Alenka from Dream Life Creation is putting on a marathon of training in June and I am excited to be part of her inspired idea! Every day is filled with 12 speakers and it’s a three-day event. Be sure to get on my VIP list to stay informed about the event.

And as I mentioned above I accepted an opportunity to speak on productivity and time management, so I’ll be hashing out the details for this as well. I don’t know the date yet, but if you are local to me, check out the events page to stay updated.

Every month, I am offering a Cut the Bullshit LIVE Group Coaching call where you can show up and get the guidance you need to remove any excuses. Again this will be listed on the events page.

I have some art pieces I need to finish up and take them to the Gallery so that’s definitely on the list.

And then, I am developing a podcast and while I already have a name for it, I still need to hash out the details. Again it might be a great idea for you to be part of my VIP list so you can stay up-to-date with my shenanigans.

I feel like there is still a lot of room to do things but I am in the space of more being present than always fueling always doing mode that I find myself to be in quite often. I don’t know where this will lead but I am open to the experience.