As a multi-passionate and multipotentialite, finding a work-life balance has perhaps been one of the most challenging activities I needed to figure out. This was true when I was still an employee but became more important when I ventured into being an entrepreneur.
Developing habits that help you manage your flow of the day is not just about getting things done. It could include finding better ways to eat healthier, adding a workout or write every single day.
There are so many areas in your lives that could be improved and made easier when new habits are established, but it’s often easier said than done. Some habits are of course easier but how do you start creating a habit for those more challenging ones, like managing your time in ways that help you do all the things you may want to do.
I’m going to break this down in 3 simple steps!
Decide What You Want To Do
This is by far one of the most important steps and one where you need to be as specific as possible. Don’t just say you are going to write more, instead of saying I will write for 30 minutes or I will write 1000 words 5 days a week. Deciding what your new habit will be and committing to when and how youíre going to do it, is half the battle.
Remind Yourself To Get It Done
The first week may be the easiest to get started because you are motivated and excited, but then it dips down and you find yourself having slipped into old habits.
Maybe you hit on writer’s block or you got carried away cleaning the house (hey it could happen!). It’s important to add it to your calendar as a non-negotiable as well as have an alert set on your phone.
Make It Part Of Your Routine Until It Becomes A Habit
Which brings us to the last step. It takes some time before a new behavior becomes a true habit. Until then, a routine will work to your best advantage. Even before the new behavior becomes automatic, a routine will help you get it done without having to spend a lot of willpower or relying on daily reminders.
Make that writing part of your morning routine or after dinner routine. Find a spot in your day where it makes the most sense for you to build on this habit.
Something that I do during the last week of my month is to plan the month ahead. It helps me decide on the projects I want to tackle, space for client work and of course writing time. I include events such as self-care time and date time and then batch my days together.
By batching I mean, I write most of my social media content in one day and schedule it. I will also work out some blog post topics and spend a day outlining and writing them. This now frees me up to focus on creative activities that I like to fill my days with.
Not everything in life is love and light. In fact, your shadow side is always present and it relates to anything you may have suppressed. At the time, it was for good reasons such as hiding your pain or simple survival. It’s okay for your dark side to emerge through a form of self-expression such as painting or writing. It’s in this process you may remember a dream you’ve secretly had but until you heal shame and guilt, aren’t quite ready to move forward to make that a reality.
The time has come to create your own personal ritual to connect to your inner self and uncover your shadow side, acknowledge the pain and judgment you’ve been holding onto and trust the guidance you are given. This is not a time to be too hard on yourself, because you have an inner strength that allows you to face whatever comes your way.
This is not the time to hibernate but instead, follow the inner call to honor yourself whether it be with a walk outside or a warm bath to help you be more present at the moment. When you are in that space, acknowledge those parts in your life that no longer serve you and give yourself permission to make space for new.
Take a look around and see what no longer fits into your personal space, this can be clothing, furniture, and even food in your cabinets. Acknowledge relationships that have come to an end, even if it may be painful – not all are meant to be on and in your path for life. Ask yourself if your current career is exactly what you want and if it’s not what you would want to do instead. Be open and be willing to see the dark parts and know that by letting them go you and your world will feel lighter.
When you embrace your shadow acknowledge the strength you possess because it has gotten you here to this moment. Be willing to find the harmonic dance between rest and action.
When your days feel like too much routine or repeating themselves over and over again, like your in the movie groundhog, it may be that you are feeling spacey or scattered.
It happens to the best of us, including myself.
When you experience a disconnect, it’s a gentle reminder to ground yourself. Go outside with your feet firmly planted on the ground and feel the etheric roots that extend deeply into the earth. With each exhale, imagine the roots going deeper and each time you inhale draw on the nurturing power from mother earth.
Think about how trees are rooted and standing in balance with their branches reaching up and out as giving thanks and praise. The roots are deeply planted into the soil and give back by accommodating the needs of other plants and the animals that surround them.
See the strength in being rooted into the earth as your ground yourself, allow yourself to be reminded of your own strength. Your spark (dreams and goals) are the light you are moving towards too but not only upward but recognize that as you are grounded that you have an impact on those around you.
In contrast, not all trees are deeply rooted and supported by mother nature. Sometimes grounding yourself to remove the scatteredness is to be willing to let go of what no longer fits into your journey.
Trees that are not contributing to nature are let go to make room for new growth. As you stand outside and strengthening your roots, be willing to recognize the parts in your life that have reached the end and let them go, so you have room to bring new focus into your being.
The 2019 Rebel Spark Goal Book is now available and yes, if you were aware of the workbook from last year, I created a smidgen of change.
This is how ideas and creative works for me. I start with an idea and then over time, it evolves until it feels right and I’ve been in a transition this last year to really narrow down my work and have all of my content reflect all parts of me.
But back to the workbook 🙂
This year’s Rebel Spark Goal book comes with:
- Thank you 2018
- Flower of Life
- 2019 Vision
- Be, Do and Have Goals
- Quartley Goals
- Monthly planning Pages supported by Inspired living pages and hashing out goal pages.
- Problem-solving mind map and a blank mind maps
- Blank pages
The goal book has 97 pages to help you and support you in reflecting on this past year and give thanks to the good and the lessons.
The flower of life helps you give some thought of where you are and where you would like to be that you will incorporate into your vision.
Once your vision is complete you can use your intuition to decide on your goals for the year.
The monthly planning pages are here to help you note the dates of actions and deadlines for each goal, while the goal pyramid and goal worksheet are here to guide you on the action steps that you will want to take to achieve your goal.
I’ve included a problem-solving mind map this year because it’s not fun being overwhelmed and frustrated but you can solve them by weighing all the options. This can be great working in partnership with a friend or accountability partner.
And last but not least, the pages are meant for you to personalize them by coloring them in and adding your own doodles and sketches as you feel fit. The coloring is helpful for active meditation i.e. think about how you want to feel and then color in a page and tune in on what’s need it to make it happen.
I love being on the trails in nature surrounded by trees. As I walk or run through the forest I am in awe of nature around me, how everything grows and falls. It’s calming and brings a shift into my own being.
When I feel all over the place in my thoughts, or when I am experiencing a challenging situation I get on the trail and just allow myself to be while simultaneously observe my surroundings. It’s helped me solve problems that I haven’t been able to work through as well as receive new creative ideas for a new project or even finish a project.
When you step into nature, it automatically shifts your breathing but it helps in releasing because in that space there is a deep connection that feels magical. Every time you exhale, you have the ability to let go. It’s where you get to go into thought and consciously become objective about current situations you are facing and with a deep breath choose to release what is hanging on or even holding you back.
Make time for a nature walk and be an observer in the miracles and the collaboration between plants and animals that help serve each other live and thrive. And then step into the moment to take in the sights, sounds and smells as you walk through the forest. Nature always reminds me to get back to being in the moment, not in the past or in the future. Trees don’t worry about the storm ahead and fear the fall nor do they worry about how they got to be where they are. And yet it feels magical all the same.
Engage in active gratitude for what is, the lessons that you were given and as you walk out from your connection with nature, observe the shifts you were able to experience as you take each breath.
Every day your mind carries prominent beliefs that stop you from fully engaging in your life.
Every day your heart is aching for forgiveness and move into a space of love.
Every day your body reminds you of taking care of yourself.
This is the time to purge your beliefs, allow yourself to embrace the blessings and step into forgiveness. It’s okay to feel grief and have a good cry. This does not make you weak. In fact, it will help you release what has been weighing you down so you can move into the space of healing your wounds.
If necessary, detoxify your body by changing your diet, doing a cleanse or drink more water. Whatever feels right to you, do that. If you have a medical condition, please consult your doctor to make sure you do not cause yourself any harm. But just increasing your water intake can help revitalize your body and your spirit.
Declutter your home, one room at a time, to help shift the energy in your living space. Hanging onto things that no longer fit into your life, have a tendency to drag you down or keep you stuck.
Sometimes the purge is slow while at other times it needs to be radical.
Maybe you need to cut off all your hair or give it a drastic color change. I have seen this a few times that when a woman cuts her hair, change is about to happen.
Maybe you need to get rid of all the clothes that no longer fit. You know the ones you’ve been waiting to fit into again? Here’s a thought I want to share with you: Your wardrobe will change over time and you can always purchase no clothes that fit you better than the ones you keep hanging onto.
Maybe you need to let go of old bedsheets and blankets and get ones that help you feel calm and refreshed.
Maybe you need to let go of people that drag you down, you already know a person in your life like that. It’s okay to let people go with love and recognize that they were only here for part of the journey.
And maybe it’s time for you to shed the thoughts, beliefs, and stories you’ve been telling yourself that hinder you from moving forward.
Give yourself permission to purge and make space for the new.