New Video: On Setting Goals

New Video: On Setting Goals

Every week I am coming to you unscripted but with thought and topic in mind. There will be no styling and no make-up but what you will get is me fully and unapologetically!

Today I am talking about about how to start taking action towards your dreams and goals.

The reality is you aren’t going to know all the actions steps that are going to take you to the end. And that can often lead to the struggle of getting started.

And it always starts with a goal.

It’s often that decision to actually do that thing that will reveal each action step that has to happen. Even when you don’t know it all – and do we ever? – you’ll notice that you know the step but you don’t know how to go about it.

This was true for me when I started writing my first book. I have had this dream for the longest time but I didn’t know how to go about it.

Well, I knew how to write but I didn’t know how to get it out into the world. And I was challenged because English is my second language and but what really stopped me from moving forward was the publishing aspect of my endeavor.

And here’s the thing, when you talk about your goal or dream to all the people you come across, eventually you will find someone that has the know-how and they’ll reveal that step to you.

And that’s exactly what happened to me. Now when I published my first book in 2009, I didn’t have an online business per say (I had a website for my art business that’s it) and I didn’t rely on my own ability to hang out on the search engine to find out what I needed.

But nonetheless, I met someone who shared with me on how to go about publishing my book and in a two months time, it was done.

New Video: Not taking Action

New Video: Not taking Action

Every week I am coming to you unscripted but with thought and topic in mind. There will be no styling and no make-up but what you will get is me fully and unapologetically!

Today I am sharing with you what not taking action can mean and where it can hold you back.

I share my personal story of getting on an airplane at the age of 18 and not looking back but it was that one single action that ended changing my life completely.

Sure I could have returned home but that one action leads to another and another. Life is about experiences and taking actions even if you don’t know what happens in the end.

The thing is you don’t have to do a thing. You can stay exactly where you are with the life you currently have but are you having fun?

Life is about experiences and sometimes you have to through spaghetti on the wall to see what sticks… yes I am talking about trial and error. You can’t know what to act on if you don’t go on an adventure and explore what excites you or even makes you tick.

Sure sometimes not doing anything may just be the thing you need to do but if you’re feeling frustrated with life, your job or your relationships, just maybe it’s time to do something about it.

And if you don’t know what you want to do then check out my free guide. The woman who had a spark in her soul will help you uncover what lights you up and can help you create a life that’s less boring.

You only have this one life to live so let’s make it a good one with doing the things you’ve always been dreaming about!

So let’s do this!

Taking Action is the way forward.. that’s it

Taking Action is the way forward.. that’s it

It’s so easy to say, isn’t it?

Taking action and voila your life is moving in the direction that you want.

But really that is only part of it and perhaps the easiest part.

First, you have to know what you want. I mean if you don’t know what you want to be, do and have, how are you ever going to take the first step. It’s like going into the forest, stumbling over fallen trees and ultimately end up lost because you didn’t even see the path you should take.

Secondly, you really have to know why you want to be, do and have something. Sure you could walk into the forest without purpose and while the sights and smells are amazing, if you don’t know the reason behind going into the forest, then what is the point?

And this may be the most important one, you have to rebel through the fear. You have to embrace the fears, doubts and limiting beliefs and be willing to look at the dark side of it all. I am not all love and light, in fact, I believe that if you don’t look on the other side, you don’t even know what needs to change, why you act/react in a certain way in the first place and acknowledge that in order to move forward you are in fact in control and in charge.

For many years, I made excuses. I could give you a list of reasons why I didn’t take action. This list looked something like this:

  • I grew up in foster care and well foster kids aren’t successful.
  • I was too promiscuous during my teenage years.
  • I had a baby at 17 without really knowing how to be a parent.
  • I’m an immigrant and I can’t make the kind of living I want here
  • I don’t know how to make this life I want to happen
  • I am not smart, good or savvy enough to pull it all (dreams, goals, etc)

And truly those are just excuses and I had to really look at the dark side. No growing up in foster care was not my fault, but repeating the story of rejecting and abandonment and using it as a reason, totally up to me. I had to rewrite the story, change my beliefs and really see the value and the lessons on my own journey.

And here I am today believing that whatever I want to do I can do. That I am good enough and more importantly worthy of all the be, do and have dreams and goals that are mulling in my head, heart, and soul.

Ultimately all of this required me to be absolutely clear on what I wanted to be, do and have, work on myself and my mindset and tap into why I wanted any of it.

It’s not easy work, but shoot it’s so worth it.

And I want to help.

I want to help you have the clarity you desire.

I want to help you get unstuck.

I want to help you discover your why … your motivation.

I want to help you take action!

And here’s how we can do this starting now by discovering what is getting in the way of actually finishing what you’ve already started!

 

2019 Rebel Spark Goal Book

2019 Rebel Spark Goal Book

The 2019 Rebel Spark Goal Book is now available and yes, if you were aware of the workbook from last year, I created a smidgen of change.

This is how ideas and creative works for me. I start with an idea and then over time, it evolves until it feels right and I’ve been in a transition this last year to really narrow down my work and have all of my content reflect all parts of me.

But back to the workbook 🙂

This year’s Rebel Spark Goal book comes with:

  • Reflection
  • Thank you 2018
  • Flower of Life
  • 2019 Vision
  • Be, Do and Have Goals
  • Quartley Goals
  • Monthly planning Pages supported by Inspired living pages and hashing out goal pages.
  • Problem-solving mind map and a blank mind maps
  • Blank pages

The goal book has 97 pages to help you and support you in reflecting on this past year and give thanks to the good and the lessons.

The flower of life helps you give some thought of where you are and where you would like to be that you will incorporate into your vision.

Once your vision is complete you can use your intuition to decide on your goals for the year.

The monthly planning pages are here to help you note the dates of actions and deadlines for each goal, while the goal pyramid and goal worksheet are here to guide you on the action steps that you will want to take to achieve your goal.

I’ve included a problem-solving mind map this year because it’s not fun being overwhelmed and frustrated but you can solve them by weighing all the options. This can be great working in partnership with a friend or accountability partner.

And last but not least, the pages are meant for you to personalize them by coloring them in and adding your own doodles and sketches as you feel fit. The coloring is helpful for active meditation i.e. think about how you want to feel and then color in a page and tune in on what’s need it to make it happen.

Get your copy here

There are always things that don’t make sense but yet you keep on traveling

There are always things that don’t make sense but yet you keep on traveling

Life isn’t supposed to make sense all the time. Life is a journey and when you travel along the path, you will see things and wonder and question it. 

There are always things that don’t make sense but yet you keep on traveling. 

But it’s hard, isn’t it? So incredibly challenging when you try to understand why something is happening or how it even got to this point.

Sometimes when you try too hard to make sense of something, in order to find the closure, you’re only going to confuse yourself even more. 

The painful experiences and memories that haunt you don’t always make sense as you wonder why did this happen to me? What did I do to cause this? 

It’s so incredibly easy to get wrapped up in all of that. And yet, sometimes things happen for no rhyme or reason but you have the opportunity to look and see who emerged because of those experiences. 

But in the moments when nothing makes sense to you at all, you will want to give yourself the space to say goodbye and let it all go. You can’t change your life by always trying to figure out what it all means. 

Take some time and think about the events that don’t make sense. And then take some more time and write out what you appreciate about those moments. And then make the space to see what you have learned because of them. 

Even when it was painful. Even when you want to just yell and scream about them. And in the end, give yourself a pat on the back because you’ve made it through them despite whatever challenges may have stood in the way. 

You can’t let go without compassion towards yourself. Give yourself that. When you feel compassion and love for yourself you have the ability to unfold the hands around your heart and let go. 

 

How to get things done that are important to you

How to get things done that are important to you

I know what it feels like to have these ideas and dreams and struggle to get started. Figuring out what is important and how to get things done can be challenging.

I have 3 kids, am a multi-passionate and run 3 businesses. It wasn’t until I discovered how to create focus and time management skills that suited me that I began making an impact in my life and in my businesses.

But just how to do you identify what is important to you? How to narrow down what your steps are to move towards your goal?

At the end of each month, I sit down and get clear on the goals that I want to achieve. I start with the main goal and then break it down into smaller goals. The smaller goals are the action steps that support the main goal.

This will look like this:

  • Main Goal
    • Smaller goal
    • Smaller goal
    • Smaller goal

You can create as many smaller goals as you need that will support your main goal. And once you have identified what will help you achieve the main goal, it is time to create action steps for each goal.

  • Smaller goal
    • Action step
    • Action step
    • Action step

The one thing I learned that may be helpful to you is that goals and action steps change. It’s important to allow for flexibility and recognize when something becomes less important.

Here’s the thing to remember, all those smaller goals and action steps support your main goal, and you can work them into your schedule. Start with the one that seems most important or pressing to get done, and add it to your daily planner.

Then look at all the other steps and tasks you need to get done and rank them by priority and fit them into your schedule accordingly. Some tasks will take less time than others. Some smaller goals you can get done in one day while other’s need to be spread out over a week or months.

Rebels Guide to Goals

Check out the Rebels Guide to Achieve Your Goals! 

 

 

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