Create Freedom with Boundaries Series, a three-part series in helping you identify what you need, communicate them and maintain them.
Today I want to talk about how we can communicate about our boundaries!
Odds are that the other person doesn’t even recognize that they have crossed a boundary. And it’s not really because they are oblivious to them. People are not mind-readers!
And speaking your truth, naming your boundaries can be tough, especially if this is still foreign to you.
An indicator of your boundaries being crossed is when you find yourself irritated. Perhaps you are responding to the other person with a cranky remark. Something was triggered within us, such as a crossed boundary.
- First, take a deep breath.
- Recognize if this is a boundary crossing.
- And then share with the other person that this wasn’t okay.
People want you to communicate with them because just like you, they want to keep the peace but they won’t know unless you say something.
Sometimes it can be too much and you just need to give it a day or two before you can acknowledge this with the other person. It’s okay to create space from the event and then go back to the person and share with them what happened.
Now I want to add, that if the other person continues to disrespect your boundaries even after you shared with them, it’s time to evaluate your relationship.
Sometimes it takes a person a view reminders about boundaries, like calling after a certain time of day (life or business). But it this keeps going on, then it’s a huge form of disrespect and frankly, no one needs that in their lives.
Don’t get upset with yourself if you stumble over the words expressing your boundaries, like everything else, this takes practice.
In our third and final part of Boundaries create Freedom, I will talk about how to maintain them.