Bring yourself back into Harmony

Bring yourself back into Harmony

Have you been holding your breath? Did you even notice?

Are you feeling a bit more tired?

Holding your breath often relates to survival mode or perceived danger. It also has an influence on setting goals and taking that very first step. OR when life gets a little bit too crazy and you don’t really know what is up or down.

And when you’re holding your breath, you will have a tendency to suppress thoughts and emotions that feel heavy and negative. But the thing is that in order to release the thoughts, feelings and even people that no longer are useful in your life or needed, holding your breath is spending the energy you don’t really have to give away.

Sometimes you don’t notice what you’re holding on to with dear life and so the energy becomes heavy. Connect with your senses by going outdoors for a walk, take a warm bath, listen to music or create art. It’s in that process thoughts and feelings can and will open themselves to you that are ready to be healed and let go off.

But perhaps before you begin or even during said activities, close your eyes for a moment and take three deep breath and fully be aware of the present. And then take three more breath acknowledging your inner chaos and the heaviness you’ve been feeling. Take three more breath and remember when everything as on harmony and as you exhale with each breath, release the energy that has found itself to you but is no longer serving you.

Sometimes the best thing one can do when trying to find balance again is to let go and get lost – not in the physical sense but in a “you’re so into your activity that you’ve lost space and time”.

Give yourself the opportunity to get lost so you can release the energy that’s causing you to hold your breath and then open yourself up to release it one exhale at a time!

Taking Action is the way forward.. that’s it

Taking Action is the way forward.. that’s it

It’s so easy to say, isn’t it?

Taking action and voila your life is moving in the direction that you want.

But really that is only part of it and perhaps the easiest part.

First, you have to know what you want. I mean if you don’t know what you want to be, do and have, how are you ever going to take the first step. It’s like going into the forest, stumbling over fallen trees and ultimately end up lost because you didn’t even see the path you should take.

Secondly, you really have to know why you want to be, do and have something. Sure you could walk into the forest without purpose and while the sights and smells are amazing, if you don’t know the reason behind going into the forest, then what is the point?

And this may be the most important one, you have to rebel through the fear. You have to embrace the fears, doubts and limiting beliefs and be willing to look at the dark side of it all. I am not all love and light, in fact, I believe that if you don’t look on the other side, you don’t even know what needs to change, why you act/react in a certain way in the first place and acknowledge that in order to move forward you are in fact in control and in charge.

For many years, I made excuses. I could give you a list of reasons why I didn’t take action. This list looked something like this:

  • I grew up in foster care and well foster kids aren’t successful.
  • I was too promiscuous during my teenage years.
  • I had a baby at 17 without really knowing how to be a parent.
  • I’m an immigrant and I can’t make the kind of living I want here
  • I don’t know how to make this life I want to happen
  • I am not smart, good or savvy enough to pull it all (dreams, goals, etc)

And truly those are just excuses and I had to really look at the dark side. No growing up in foster care was not my fault, but repeating the story of rejecting and abandonment and using it as a reason, totally up to me. I had to rewrite the story, change my beliefs and really see the value and the lessons on my own journey.

And here I am today believing that whatever I want to do I can do. That I am good enough and more importantly worthy of all the be, do and have dreams and goals that are mulling in my head, heart, and soul.

Ultimately all of this required me to be absolutely clear on what I wanted to be, do and have, work on myself and my mindset and tap into why I wanted any of it.

It’s not easy work, but shoot it’s so worth it.

And I want to help.

I want to help you have the clarity you desire.

I want to help you get unstuck.

I want to help you discover your why … your motivation.

I want to help you take action!

And here’s how we can do this starting now by discovering what is getting in the way of actually finishing what you’ve already started!

 

You know what to do

You know what to do

All too often, you and I don’t give ourselves enough credit for the things we know and the inner wisdom that that is waiting for us to acknowledge the answers we’ve been seeking! And even if you still have doubt, you can ask yourself to receive a clear sign to validate your thoughts and ideas.

Let me ask you: When you have ideas, do you sit on them or do you make a decision on what your next step should be? Sometimes tapping into your own willingness to do the work is the turning point.

We don’t always love the idea of doing the work, but you don’t have to. But when you hold on to the thoughts that support you and fuel your actions with positive energy, you will achieve that what you set out to do.

This means however that you may need to look at your lifestyle and the schedule you hold. You can’t expect to get things done when there is no room for it on your schedule. And further, the food you eat matters too. I love carbs but I know that it will lead to carb crash and I won’t be any good after eating it – so I will often choose to eat most of my carbs later in the day when I don’t have to use my brain anymore 🙂

And again, you already know what’s good for you and no one can or should tell you how to do any of this thing called life. You do you and you have the answers – so trust yourself on this journey.

if you’ve been seeking answers and experienced repetitive thoughts, acknowledge them. If you have a blog, book or business idea that’s been showing up, notice your thoughts and ideas that keep coming back to you. Write them down but don’t say “One day I will” instead try saying “on this day >date< I will start …!

Part of the journey of designing the life you want, of having the best year every year and brings you to the point of remembering who you are! Don’t be afraid or hide when people tell you “you’re too much” or “you’re crazy” or “you can’t have the cake and eat it too!

What other people think of you is none of your business and what you think of you matters a whole lot more.

So be open to tap into your own inner wisdom, pay attention to the thoughts and ideas that show up for you and then choose how soon you will embrace the change that is waiting!

Develop Habits for better Work Life Balance

Develop Habits for better Work Life Balance

As a multi-passionate and multipotentialite, finding a work-life balance has perhaps been one of the most challenging activities I needed to figure out. This was true when I was still an employee but became more important when I ventured into being an entrepreneur.

Developing habits that help you manage your flow of the day is not just about getting things done. It could include finding better ways to eat healthier, adding a workout or write every single day.

There are so many areas in your lives that could be improved and made easier when new habits are established, but it’s often easier said than done. Some habits are of course easier but how do you start creating a habit for those more challenging ones, like managing your time in ways that help you do all the things you may want to do.

I’m going to break this down in 3 simple steps!

Decide What You Want To Do

This is by far one of the most important steps and one where you need to be as specific as possible. Don’t just say you are going to write more, instead of saying I will write for 30 minutes or I will write 1000 words 5 days a week. Deciding what your new habit will be and committing to when and how youíre going to do it, is half the battle.

Remind Yourself To Get It Done

The first week may be the easiest to get started because you are motivated and excited, but then it dips down and you find yourself having slipped into old habits.

Maybe you hit on writer’s block or you got carried away cleaning the house (hey it could happen!). It’s important to add it to your calendar as a non-negotiable as well as have an alert set on your phone.

Make It Part Of Your Routine Until It Becomes A Habit

Which brings us to the last step. It takes some time before a new behavior becomes a true habit. Until then, a routine will work to your best advantage. Even before the new behavior becomes automatic, a routine will help you get it done without having to spend a lot of willpower or relying on daily reminders.

Make that writing part of your morning routine or after dinner routine. Find a spot in your day where it makes the most sense for you to build on this habit.

Something that I do during the last week of my month is to plan the month ahead. It helps me decide on the projects I want to tackle, space for client work and of course writing time. I include events such as self-care time and date time and then batch my days together.

By batching I mean, I write most of my social media content in one day and schedule it. I will also work out some blog post topics and spend a day outlining and writing them. This now frees me up to focus on creative activities that I like to fill my days with.

Embrace your Shadow

Embrace your Shadow

Not everything in life is love and light. In fact, your shadow side is always present and it relates to anything you may have suppressed. At the time, it was for good reasons such as hiding your pain or simple survival. It’s okay for your dark side to emerge through a form of self-expression such as painting or writing. It’s in this process you may remember a dream you’ve secretly had but until you heal shame and guilt, aren’t quite ready to move forward to make that a reality.

The time has come to create your own personal ritual to connect to your inner self and uncover your shadow side, acknowledge the pain and judgment you’ve been holding onto and trust the guidance you are given. This is not a time to be too hard on yourself, because you have an inner strength that allows you to face whatever comes your way.

This is not the time to hibernate but instead, follow the inner call to honor yourself whether it be with a walk outside or a warm bath to help you be more present at the moment. When you are in that space, acknowledge those parts in your life that no longer serve you and give yourself permission to make space for new.

Take a look around and see what no longer fits into your personal space, this can be clothing, furniture, and even food in your cabinets. Acknowledge relationships that have come to an end, even if it may be painful – not all are meant to be on and in your path for life. Ask yourself if your current career is exactly what you want and if it’s not what you would want to do instead. Be open and be willing to see the dark parts and know that by letting them go you and your world will feel lighter.

When you embrace your shadow acknowledge the strength you possess because it has gotten you here to this moment. Be willing to find the harmonic dance between rest and action.

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