Can you name your struggle?

You know your life isn’t what you want it to be but can you name your struggle?

It’s easy to put your head in the sand and just become complacent about what is happening.

It’s easy to just resign and tell yourself this is what your life is supposed to be.

What is not easy is naming the struggle you are experiencing and then showing up to do the work and create the change that you are so desperately seeking.

When you feel like there is no way out and that everything you are doing is pointless, it’s simple enough to just throw in the towel.

But seriously, how do you think life will change if you just go back into your shell because life is too hard?

I remember living from paycheck to paycheck wondering if I would ever get out of the hell I was in order to provide for my kids.

I remember hiding behind a charade because I believed I had to – because I thought I was hard to like or love.

I remember being girl Friday at every single job, hoping and pleading to be noticed and recognized for what I was contributing.

And yet, in the end, I hurt.

I hurt myself by not recognizing what was causing me pain and not acknowledging that I allowed myself to struggle.

It’s so damn easy to be the victim to your story.

In this last year, something became very clear to me.

For the longest time, I blamed myself for being a foster kid, like there was something so flawed about me that no one could love me, not even myself. And I also believed that the stigma around foster kids was what was holding me back.

Here’s the thing, it’s not the kid’s fault that the parents are struggling with something that is supposed to come so natural. And yes, we can totally blame the parents for not owning their shit and do what society believes they should do.

Again we all have a story that isn’t a damn fairy tale.

But you have to name it. You have to acknowledge all the reasons within your story to understand where the work needs to happen.

And no one can make you do it.

You either show up for yourself and do the work – or you stay where you are and life will always remain a constant struggle.

If you want to dig in and aren’t afraid of being called out on your bullshit, then this Free E-Book is for you!

#12MinRVConvos with Engel Jones

I am a huge fan of meeting my online friends and connections in real life and when I heard that Engel Jones was taking his 12-Minute Conversation on the road, I could not pass it up.

I met Engel online a few years ago when he set a goal of getting in the Guinness World Records after having the most conversations in a short period of time. I love people in my world that set crazy goals and then work hard to make them happen. And even though his request was denied he still ended up with 1509 Conversations in 3 months. Now that’s dedication and commitment to a single goal. I can only imagine how amazing this experience was for him.

I am thrilled to be part of his journey because this time around he is taking his #12minRVconvo on the road. He is traveling from June until September, meeting previous podcast guest in real life. Check out his map click here – and of course, I couldn’t pass up being part of this amazing journey once again.

So on Sunday, June 17th I drove out to Richmond to meet up with Engel and his team. And I have to tell you, I was pleasantly surprised by what he remembered and took in during our last conversation.

Engel Jones and Petra Monaco

Most of the time, people either remember or connect with the story of becoming a mom to a transplant recipient. But nope, not this guy. He remembered that I grew up in foster care and that is where our conversation went because there is so much value in that. I believe that when we start loving our story despite the heartache and downright painful moments, we can allow our Soul to breathe again.

If you want to be inspired and start believing of what is possible, follow Engel Jones

And since this is about connecting with people, I got to meet Anthony Hayes who advocates for Mental Health, Mindset & Misunderstanding. Let’s break the stigma of mental illness & learn from it. Topics: Mindset, Mental Health, Habits, Inspiration. Go check him out too!

Engel Jones and Anthony Hayes

How Fear shows up in your life

Fear is a bit of a tricky beast every now and again and it shows up in different ways and from different places in our body.

Fear is a signal of danger but the challenge is that you don’t always know if it’s real or fake.

If you are going hiking and standing on the edge of the path, and there is that possibility of falling, that is an actual fear because you fear the result, which depending on the height of the edge can be landing you in the hospital or worse.

There is some reality to that kind of fear because you know it could happen and you are being signaled to get off the path for your safety.

But what about the fear when it comes to our dreams and goals?

This fear is often self-imposed because you fear change, success, failure and even missing out. I will be covering all of this in my posts this week, so you can go after what you want and have a better understanding when fear is sabotaging you.

For today I am going to just cover how the beast shows up as that can help you as you move through the actions you must or want to take to move forward.

Procrastination

Procrastination is when you are having an idea of what you want to do but you just can’t sit down and make it happen because you are riddled with doubt and second-guessing. It’s the internal messaging system that signals you with limiting beliefs that you may be holding on to such as “I am not good enough, no one wants what I offer or I am a fraud”. These are things you may have picked up over time from experiences that chipped you a bit in your mindset and tend to hang on to. It is also a signal of not knowing how important something is. Procrastination is when you keep putting things off which leads me to the next point.

Lack of Clarity

When you don’t know what you want and where you want to go, the beast is telling you that right here right now, this is the best you’re going to get. Because there is a lack of clarity, you don’t know what you ought to be doing, what the steps are to get there and how it will all turn out. Having clarity will enable you to feel excited, and it does not mean you won’t feel the fear, but once you know, you are willing to go after what you want anyway. If you have clarity and you can make this idea or dream a priority, your ego will be a little more silent as you are making progress. But this brings me to the last and final point of today’s post.

Are you over-committing?

See the thing about fear is that the ego will find excuses and activities to keep you so busy that you do not have time to prioritize your own dreams and goals. And in the end, you are allowing the beast to win because you are not prioritizing your own stuff and then wonder why you are not progressing and again it comes down to fear. So maybe you could look at your commitments and get some clarity on what you are able to let go?!

When I first started my business, I didn’t realize that a lack of clarity for me personally actually meant that I have a fear of success and that procrastination meant that I have a fear of failure.

Here is what I know however that fear shows up for you to push through, to look at it for what it is, recognize it and know that you are much bigger than your fear and most importantly your ego.

How to get things done that are important to you

I know what it feels like to have these ideas and dreams and struggle to get started. Figuring out what is important and how to get things done can be challenging.

I have 3 kids, am a multi-passionate and run 3 businesses. It wasn’t until I discovered how to create focus and time management skills that suited me that I began making an impact in my life and in my businesses.

But just how to do you identify what is important to you? How to narrow down what your steps are to move towards your goal?

At the end of each month, I sit down and get clear on the goals that I want to achieve. I start with the main goal and then break it down into smaller goals. The smaller goals are the action steps that support the main goal.

This will look like this:

  • Main Goal
    • Smaller goal
    • Smaller goal
    • Smaller goal

You can create as many smaller goals as you need that will support your main goal. And once you have identified what will help you achieve the main goal, it is time to create action steps for each goal.

  • Smaller goal
    • Action step
    • Action step
    • Action step

The one thing I learned that may be helpful to you is that goals and action steps change. It’s important to allow for flexibility and recognize when something becomes less important.

Here’s the thing to remember, all those smaller goals and action steps support your main goal, and you can work them into your schedule. Start with the one that seems most important or pressing to get done, and add it to your daily planner.

Then look at all the other steps and tasks you need to get done and rank them by priority and fit them into your schedule accordingly. Some tasks will take less time than others. Some smaller goals you can get done in one day while other’s need to be spread out over a week or months.

Rebels Guide to Goals

Check out the Rebels Guide to Achieve Your Goals! 

 

 

 

 

 

Dream Life Creation Marathon

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A live online summit with 36 speakers, who will bring value and inspiration to everyone trying to make their dreams come true. They will give you guidance, tools, and techniques you can use to start immediately, to enjoy the journey and to make it your own.

Friday, June 22 – Sunday, June 24
Each day from 10 am UK (5 am EST) to 10 pm UK (5 pm EST)
with a training streamed live every hour!

I am excited to be part of this amazing event that my friend Alenka is putting together. I will be sharing on how to embrace your inner Rebel and how you can get started right away.

But this Dream Life Creation Marathon is so much more than that.

Dream Life Creation Marathon

It can be hard to know what you want from your life or wonder if your dreams are too big. And maybe you are struggling with some fears and doubts to help you make your dreams come true.

All too often we create our own stress due to overwhelming feelings and thoughts, especially when there’s information overload because you either don’t know where to begin or know how to keep going.

When you join the Dream Life Creation Marathon, you will have a clear picture of your dreams and goals and receive the steps and tools to make them happen. You will develop your own blueprint that feels amazing and motivates you to keep going and believe in possibilities.

It can be challenging to know who to turn to for help, but during this event, you will absolutely make new friends that support you along the way.

We know life gets in a way and you might miss a training or two! We got you covered! Get access to download or stream ALL 36 (over 18 Hours) Training Sessions after the event is over (and keep it forever). And we added some great BONUSES too!

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  • Downloadable VIDEO and AUDIO of all 36 sessions
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