As a multi-passionate and multipotentialite, finding a work-life balance has perhaps been one of the most challenging activities I needed to figure out. This was true when I was still an employee but became more important when I ventured into being an entrepreneur.
Developing habits that help you manage your flow of the day is not just about getting things done. It could include finding better ways to eat healthier, adding a workout or write every single day.
There are so many areas in your lives that could be improved and made easier when new habits are established, but it’s often easier said than done. Some habits are of course easier but how do you start creating a habit for those more challenging ones, like managing your time in ways that help you do all the things you may want to do.
I’m going to break this down in 3 simple steps!
Decide What You Want To Do
This is by far one of the most important steps and one where you need to be as specific as possible. Don’t just say you are going to write more, instead of saying I will write for 30 minutes or I will write 1000 words 5 days a week. Deciding what your new habit will be and committing to when and how youíre going to do it, is half the battle.
Remind Yourself To Get It Done
The first week may be the easiest to get started because you are motivated and excited, but then it dips down and you find yourself having slipped into old habits.
Maybe you hit on writer’s block or you got carried away cleaning the house (hey it could happen!). It’s important to add it to your calendar as a non-negotiable as well as have an alert set on your phone.
Make It Part Of Your Routine Until It Becomes A Habit
Which brings us to the last step. It takes some time before a new behavior becomes a true habit. Until then, a routine will work to your best advantage. Even before the new behavior becomes automatic, a routine will help you get it done without having to spend a lot of willpower or relying on daily reminders.
Make that writing part of your morning routine or after dinner routine. Find a spot in your day where it makes the most sense for you to build on this habit.
Something that I do during the last week of my month is to plan the month ahead. It helps me decide on the projects I want to tackle, space for client work and of course writing time. I include events such as self-care time and date time and then batch my days together.
By batching I mean, I write most of my social media content in one day and schedule it. I will also work out some blog post topics and spend a day outlining and writing them. This now frees me up to focus on creative activities that I like to fill my days with.
Not everything in life is love and light. In fact, your shadow side is always present and it relates to anything you may have suppressed. At the time, it was for good reasons such as hiding your pain or simple survival. It’s okay for your dark side to emerge through a form of self-expression such as painting or writing. It’s in this process you may remember a dream you’ve secretly had but until you heal shame and guilt, aren’t quite ready to move forward to make that a reality.
The time has come to create your own personal ritual to connect to your inner self and uncover your shadow side, acknowledge the pain and judgment you’ve been holding onto and trust the guidance you are given. This is not a time to be too hard on yourself, because you have an inner strength that allows you to face whatever comes your way.
This is not the time to hibernate but instead, follow the inner call to honor yourself whether it be with a walk outside or a warm bath to help you be more present at the moment. When you are in that space, acknowledge those parts in your life that no longer serve you and give yourself permission to make space for new.
Take a look around and see what no longer fits into your personal space, this can be clothing, furniture, and even food in your cabinets. Acknowledge relationships that have come to an end, even if it may be painful – not all are meant to be on and in your path for life. Ask yourself if your current career is exactly what you want and if it’s not what you would want to do instead. Be open and be willing to see the dark parts and know that by letting them go you and your world will feel lighter.
When you embrace your shadow acknowledge the strength you possess because it has gotten you here to this moment. Be willing to find the harmonic dance between rest and action.
So, last Friday, I was hanging out on the futon, reading and just kind of getting lost in my book. At about 9 pm I received a text that said something along the lines of: “Got time in the morning to be on the air? 7:30 in the studio?”
Why yes, yes I do.
And even if I had something planned on a Saturday morning for some reason, I found have found a way to be there. Not only to help out my friend because that’s like a no-brainer but dude free airtime on the radio where I get to be center of attention for 10 minutes? Yes, please.
And then, Saturday morning rolled around and I was there at 7:25 and recorded this quick video. I believe that when we know that opportunities can show up at any moment, then they will. And it helps when you have relationships with people. I mean those relationships that matter – not the ones that feed your ego and are self-serving and one-sided.
But that wasn’t the only time during that week where I was reminded that relationships are pretty important – no matter your career choice.
Because my weekly accountability partner had just had her 3 days even and I was a surprise bonus for anyone that invested into her mentorship program.
It can be challenging to build relationships and yet it shouldn’t be. My accountability partner and I met in a program we both invest in and even though the accountability piece ended for us, we continue to meet, week after week and it’s really turned into an amazing friendship.
And my friend, the radio host? Well, I look forward to co-working where both are going to get some things done that have been neglected and/or work ahead so we can have more control over our time.
As much as we perhaps love to do things on our own, but the reality is that we don’t really do it all alone. There are people in your world that support you, even if they don’t do or say anything in the scheme of things. And then there are the people that do things that you never expected, like your services being the surprise bonus or being on a radio show.
It happens to the best of us and to most of us. You lose perspective because there’s the belief that something has to happen without about a specific situation. And when you’re too closely enmeshed, you are struggling to make a decision or take action supporting the big picture.
Let go of the guilt that you’re not doing enough and detach yourself from the situation and/or the people involved so you can get a clear head about what is really happening.
This can be an indication that you’ve not honored yourself and taken care of your own needs. It’s okay to rest and just be in the moment. In fact, your solution or decision to be made will come to you when you allow space to do nothing. You can be in the moment still receive answers from your own intuition collaborating with your mind. You’re always guided through these moments and maybe it’s time you trust the signs and omens coming your way.
Stepping back allows you to look at a picture with fresh eyes. During this time, make space for the creative, imaginative and magical side of you and trust your creative spark and give yourself permission to express yourself in a way that feels good. This can be through writing, drawing, painting, dancing and so on…
You have the resources to get through the challenges, but when you get too close, it becomes clouded and we forget the knowledge we hold. Using your creative muscles distracts you in such a way that it can often bring the answers you want to solve a problem and find a resolution to a situation.
And when you’re ready to take action, it’s okay to make a stand for what you believe in – even when other’s aren’t on board or get where you’re coming from.
When your days feel like too much routine or repeating themselves over and over again, like your in the movie groundhog, it may be that you are feeling spacey or scattered.
It happens to the best of us, including myself.
When you experience a disconnect, it’s a gentle reminder to ground yourself. Go outside with your feet firmly planted on the ground and feel the etheric roots that extend deeply into the earth. With each exhale, imagine the roots going deeper and each time you inhale draw on the nurturing power from mother earth.
Think about how trees are rooted and standing in balance with their branches reaching up and out as giving thanks and praise. The roots are deeply planted into the soil and give back by accommodating the needs of other plants and the animals that surround them.
See the strength in being rooted into the earth as your ground yourself, allow yourself to be reminded of your own strength. Your spark (dreams and goals) are the light you are moving towards too but not only upward but recognize that as you are grounded that you have an impact on those around you.
In contrast, not all trees are deeply rooted and supported by mother nature. Sometimes grounding yourself to remove the scatteredness is to be willing to let go of what no longer fits into your journey.
Trees that are not contributing to nature are let go to make room for new growth. As you stand outside and strengthening your roots, be willing to recognize the parts in your life that have reached the end and let them go, so you have room to bring new focus into your being.