Cut Through the Bullshit

Cut Through the Bullshit

How many excuses a day are you making to avoid

  • healing
  • taking action
  • confrontation
  • setting boundaries
  • being uncomfortable

If I had a guess, I’d say a lot, like all day long.

I know because I have been there. I avoided looking at the stories I told myself, keeping me in the shadows. I didn’t take action on my dreams, because who the heck was I? I hated confrontation, and I am still not a huge fan of it but understand it’s the necessity. I didn’t know boundaries were a thing that could support and protect me. And I freaking hated being uncomfortable so I just didn’t face my reality.

I lived like this for 34 years of my life. I look back and can see where my inner Rebel nudged me, giving me little pushes to do the work I needed to do. It wasn’t until I was facing the possibility of losing my son. I have had miscarriages but this was so inherently different. He was 4 and he was alive. It’s his journey that made me realize the bullshit I was feeding myself.

Up until this time on one August day in 2007, I found all the reasons of why I can’t do the things I wanted to do, albeit always believing life can and will be better if I just keep going.

  • Foster kids don’t become successful.
  • Single Parents will always struggle.
  • Abuse and Rape Survivors never have healthy relationships.
  • Special needs moms will always fear the worst.

And I can probably keep going being a woman and an immigrant. But those themes I just mentioned are the ones most prevalent in my life.

Foster kids can be successful at anything and everything, just like their peers. In fact, I believe that foster kids make amazing entrepreneurs. We know how to survive in chaos, we understand risks in ways I can’t describe and we adapt to unknown situations.

Single parents don’t always struggle. Single parenting is hard as shit, don’t get me wrong. I raised 3 boys by myself, and even though I am in a committed relationship, I am still the one responsible for all the decisions to be made. And since each child has a different personality and different needs, a cake walk it wasn’t or isn’t.

And don’t let me get started on blended family living and the clashes that can happen within that space. But having friends and a partner that supports you can make all the difference. And just like foster kids, single parents are incredible with managing time, budget, work and their household.

I have been in a committed relationship for the last 12 years, not without dealing with some really shitty times and even left, and yet it’s my longest relationship I’ve ever had. But in my own healing journey, we were able to heal parts of us together. It meant cutting out the bullshit, stop looking at who we were and instead look at who we are now. It meant to communicate and yes even set boundaries within our relationship.

The more you know yourself, the way you think, act and react, the better you can communicate that with your partner. And when you do that, you are making space for intimacy and open the door for the partner to do the same. Now mind you, it’s not my job (or your job) to heal and fix our partners. We can only heal ourselves and be a mirror to those in our lives.

My abuse and trauma still longers but I am aware most of the time. There are sometimes, I am not and it becomes apparent in my mood and my own attitude. But it’s those moments I get to be reflective and remove the bullshit I may have been feeding myself.

And if anything in my life taught me to cut out the bullshit, it is without question becoming a special needs parent. I watched my son fight for his life more than I’d like to think about, but it’s his spirit and his tenacity that have helped me along my journey. He takes each day as it comes, no more no less. There are no stories about the past he is feeding himself and only dreams he talks about for the future. He doesn’t question any of it, he’s quite matter of fact about his dreams will happen.

And he has plenty of reasons to make excuses. But he doesn’t.

I get tired of hearing excuses of why you can’t do something. It makes my heart sad and every now and then I want to shake up awake and tell you that you absolutely can have the life you want. All you have to do is cut through the bullshit and see it for what it is. Your ego trying to keep you playing small.

If you are ready, and only if, join me for my 2-hour live group coaching class where we look at your excuses and remove them while deciding on your first step.

May Review and June Goals

May Review and June Goals

May continued to be about refining my systems and organizing my business and life. And the most amazing thing is that I am done with it. And what’s even better is that it has actually reduced my work hours tremendously. There is something to be said about having a strategy an systems in place.

But other amazing things happened in the process and I am going to update success below.

  1. Rebel Shine Book –  I actually published in! One day I stood on my porch and saw the final product emerge and boom done!
  2. Exercise – Running & Soccer – Soccer season is currently on hold until after the 4th of June and so I have been pushing myself to run a bit more.
  3. Create at least one or two new pieces of art – that really didn’t happen. I have so much finished items floating around my studio that I decided to update the pictures instead and get my inventory wall organized.
  4. Support my clients as needed – this has been going really well. I have set aside specific days to just focus on my VA clients and it’s been a dream to support them on their own journey.
  5. Things not planned but achieved! Something that happened right after I published my book is that I created guides – you can find them here. I was inspired and acted and now you can have a quick guide to write your book, set goals, start a business or a blog.
  6. I went to a soccer game to watch for fun. The town I live in now has its own team and I am excited to be supporting them by showing up. And I love a good soccer game.
  7. I accepted an opportunity to speak on productivity and time management for a local entrepreneur group.

Which now leads me to goals for June and I actually had to think about them for a bit because I don’t have anything BIG planned right this moment as I am settling into a new way of working and being.

With that said here are some of the things I know that are going down!

My friend Alenka from Dream Life Creation is putting on a marathon of training in June and I am excited to be part of her inspired idea! Every day is filled with 12 speakers and it’s a three-day event. Be sure to get on my VIP list to stay informed about the event.

And as I mentioned above I accepted an opportunity to speak on productivity and time management, so I’ll be hashing out the details for this as well. I don’t know the date yet, but if you are local to me, check out the events page to stay updated.

Every month, I am offering a Cut the Bullshit LIVE Group Coaching call where you can show up and get the guidance you need to remove any excuses. Again this will be listed on the events page.

I have some art pieces I need to finish up and take them to the Gallery so that’s definitely on the list.

And then, I am developing a podcast and while I already have a name for it, I still need to hash out the details. Again it might be a great idea for you to be part of my VIP list so you can stay up-to-date with my shenanigans.

I feel like there is still a lot of room to do things but I am in the space of more being present than always fueling always doing mode that I find myself to be in quite often. I don’t know where this will lead but I am open to the experience.

It’s a time to connect and a time to release

It’s a time to connect and a time to release

Do you sometimes wonder what in your life needs attention and where your mind overshadows all the things?

Do you wonder what is ready to burn down and what will ignite within you to go the next step?

Do you wonder what adventure is opening up for you and what message you can take with you?

Spring is always a time of rebirth and the tears you’ve shed over the past few months have cleared the path for what is ready to emerge.

It’s time to ditch the rules of society and tune into your instinctual cues and let the spirit of the wolf be your teacher. This can lead to confusion and when you feel this way, this is not the time to make decisions.

But with faith and grace, you are ready to emerge. Let by instinct, feel the sensation in your body and make space for it to connect to your mind. Together they will know what to do. Even if you are experiencing a time of confusion, use it to be still and patient. When body, soul, and mind connect and you allow the flow to move you, you will feel no resistance but know in every fiber of your being that everything is as it should be.

Connect during this time with music, art, and nature to activate your senses. Don’t be afraid of physical touch when you feel the need to be held. Connect with your inner self and allow yourself the space you need for that deep connection your soul craves.

It’s easy to seek sanctuary in places that you think are safe but you always have a place of peace within you that is your sanctuary and the time has come for you to find this place out in nature. Go find the trails, the meadows, and the mountains to seek that physical space for you.

Because this is the time to release shame so you can uncover who you really are. Look at the stories you tell yourself and find compassion for the child within you. Take time to acknowledge the stories, write a letter to yourself and ugly cry if you need to. And then rewrite this letter with compassion and understanding so you can take every opportunity to heal this shame and remember the innocent child within you.

 

 Want to tune into your inner Rebel and embrace what she wants you to know.

Brainstorming Email Session

Brainstorming Email Session

Every day there are a gazillion ideas floating in my head. Some of those excite the heck out of me and other’s feeling a bit meh. And then there are the times that I absolutely love the idea but I get stuck on my next move.

As a matter of fact, this happened with my book Rebel Shine. I had an idea and even the content to support the idea but I was stuck on how to make the concept meet the vision I had for it.

I talked to my trusted accountability partners bouncing off ideas and getting feedback. And of course, ultimately it was up to me to decide which way to proceed with the book. And in the end, I ended up taking a different path to finalizing the book.

But it was because I let it sit and then one day Boom it solved itself. But here’s the thing, I did reach out for feedback.

So let me ask you how many times have you:

been stuck with creative blocks?
been at a loss for ideas?
wished you had your own brainstorming buddy at your beck and call?

There is no doubt in my mind that when you have someone in your back pocket to help you overcome whatever is getting in the way, you a can achieve your goal and go the next step.

If you need to get unstuck, I got you.
If you need ideas (and like, now), I got you.
If you need inspiration, I got you.

There’s really nothing worse to me than being stuck or feel like you’ve run out of ideas to feel the flow of inspiration. So, allow me to be your secret weapon and a direct line solving the creative idea and inspiration challenge you are experiencing.

And if you need a weekly or monthly action plan you can use this service as well. Just be clear in your email to me! 

Here is how it’s going to work.

You pay the investment of $33 and then you’ll be redirected to a page where you tell me all about one specific project or challenge you are facing. I will answer your email with a detailed response, a list of ideas, and whatever else comes to my mind so you can bust through whatever is holding you back.

Don’t allow on small thing stand in your way to do great things!

What’s it going to take before you will take action

What’s it going to take before you will take action

You have this amazing dream of writing a book, starting a business and perhaps even lose some weight. And yet, here we are at the end of May and you’re looking everything, realizing you didn’t get very far.

What are you waiting for?

Are you waiting for the perfect moment?
Are you waiting for until you’ve perfected the skill?
Are you waiting for the moment you feel you’re enough?

Why can’t it be right this very moment?

What is holding you back?

Is it fear of failing? Fear of disappointing yourself or others?

Worry?

The lack of not knowing how?

Every excuse you make is a bullshit reason for why you are not willing to make your dream, goal or resolution happen.

When is enough, well enough?

How much longer are you willing to just watch others make their own dreams come true while you are still wishing you could?

Here is the truth: You can!

You need to stop making excuses and start taking action – even when the fear is as loud as a damn jet engine.

Fear is just an emotion, just like anger, love, happiness etc. Are you willing to allow the emotion to rule you, or are you willing to decide how you are going to feel and what you are going to do?

I think too often, we forget that we have a choice.

We always have a choice!

When we were kids, we were told we don’t have a choice. We need to follow the rules, do as we are told. We are told to graduate high school, go to college or learn a trade.

We are told that we should be grateful for the job we have and just go on with our mediocre life.

Yes, I said it: MEDIOCRE

Because I know you envision your life to be different. I know that you have dreams and goals that you want to achieve but because you were told you didn’t have a choice, you just let life slip on by.

What if I told you that you are in control of your life, that you have the power to choose what you will or will not do and how you will live?

Choose and Decide!

What’s it going to be? Living your life to the rules of someone else or your own?

If you are ready to make some changes in your life, it’s time for you to choose a path so you can start achieving your dreams and goals with like-minded people!