You decide how your mornings go but first define a morning routine

You decide how your mornings go but first define a morning routine

Let’s kick it off some questions for you:

What’s most important to you? What is the one thing you really want to do on a daily basis that would make a big difference, but you just can’t seem to find the time for?

Now be more clear, what habits do you want to cultivate that could really create a positive impact on your life?

And maybe you need to start writing about your current mornings and define what you don’t like about them, so you can create the clarity on what would make all the difference in your world!

Maybe you want to eat a better breakfast and have for time to sit down rather than grab your food and run. Or maybe you want to spend some time writing, exercising or reading.

For me, it’s quality time in the mornings with my partner. Those 5-10 minutes I get to hang out with him before he heads out the door are what makes me feel good and loved in the mornings.

Now that you know what you want your mornings to look and feel like, you have something you can work towards.

Take some time to visualize what your perfect morning feels like and looks like in every single detail and how it will help you have the most amazing day, every day!

Imagine not being stressed or feeling rushed.
Maybe you get some time to take a longer shower, go for a run, spent time with your partner or just have some solid time that you get to be with yourself.

And while this may look like a lot of maybe’s, you get to decide what to include in your morning routine and how it will happen every day.

And please for all that is good in the world, don’t try to make all the changes right now in one fell swoop. For now, simply just imagine what your perfect morning feels and looks like.

I want you to become very clear on what you want that perfect morning to look like. Imagine it in as much detail as you possibly can. Write it down in a journal or on a piece of paper that you can refer back to as needed.

Why is this so important?

Because you can’t start to make any meaningful changes until you know what your goals are.

You need to know your destination before you can start to pick a route and figure out how you’ll get there. That’s what today’s task is all about. It’s figuring out where you want to get to. Don’t stop until you have it figured out and firmly pictured in your mind.

You have it within you to face anything but there’s more! You’re a superhero!

You have it within you to face anything but there’s more! You’re a superhero!

In a previous post, I shared some of the benefits of facing change and moving through a transition. Any time you face a challenge, there are lessons to be learned along the way or when you are on the other side of it.

I’ve heard it all my life: What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!

And if that’s the case then by all accounts, I think you are a superhero.

But I also know that when you are in the middle of chaos, you don’t really feel like a superhero. If anything, you are struggling to see the light of day and hang onto the glimmer of hope. And yet, when you come out on the other side, there are a few things to reflect on.

Self-Reliance

When you are going through hard times, you learn that the only person you can sometimes count on is only yourself. It’s not ideal because support can mean everything and when you’re asking for help, you also have to decide who that person is you are going to reach out to! In the end, you are the one going through the motion and figure out the next step! Whatever challenge you are facing is a catalyst for change.

Gratitude

When you are in the middle of chaos is tough seeing all the goodness in your life. When your spirit is crushed from a break-up or a job loss and your identity is stripped down, gratitude may be the last thing on your mind. But at the same time, it can show you what’s important in your life, who your true friends are and learn to appreciate what is rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Some things that once had value may no longer hold the same as you are rebuilding your life through each challenge.

Self-Improvement

You’re human with flaws – yep – and you are bound to make a mistake. If you get fired maybe it’s because you are too outspoken (that’s me!) or you didn’t do the work up to your bosses standards. While initially bad news, it can also be amazing news. Maybe it wasn’t the “right” job in the first place but it can also help you recognize what can use a bit of improving so that at your next job you don’t run into the same problem! It’s humbling to face your own faults, but again they can also be one of the most amazing catalysts for you.

For me, it was what I needed to start my business. Sure it sucked donkey balls but as I look back at it now, it was the best thing ever and I was able to use it as an opportunity to go after what I really wanted in life and well being my own boss, has improved my life in many ways.

Attitude

Your attitude about any given situation is what will help you move forward. Of course, feel your emotions. Be angry, feel resentful but don’t stay there. But if you don’t feel your emotions, how will you be able to move forward? But it’s also imperative that you develop an “I can” attitude that is fueled by determination, optimism and a dose of stubbornness. This will help you move forward and is definitely an asset you can start building before the crisis happens.

Here’s the thing, challenges are going to happen but how you handle them is the thing that matters. Face them like a superhero, and even they have days where they feel all the emotions, and yet, in the end, you will come out stronger, more resilient and more empowered!

2018 Rebel Shine Summit is a hit with anyone ready to embrace their Inner Rebel

2018 Rebel Shine Summit is a hit with anyone ready to embrace their Inner Rebel

If you would have told me 3 years ago that I would put a Summit together, I would have looked at you like you are crazy. I am an introvert and this can make it challenging for me when too much peopling is involved, but I decided that this would not stop me achieving my mission!

So at the beginning of the year, I had this idea to interview people for a project and then it literally fell into the thought of “Why not put a Summit together?”

Technology doesn’t scare me and I have some good things in place, the only thing I needed was speakers, oh and setting a date for the summit.

And before I knew it, I had a date set in place and posted on Facebook that I was looking for speakers and within 3 days, I kid you not, I had 23 speakers lined up – booked and speaker agreements signed!

Let me tell you that whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, putting a summit together is no small feat and from my research on the interwebs, most recommend a 3 months strategy. But if you know me, then you know I take action on the ideas that excite me to no end.

What attracted my speakers to the Summit?

If I had to guess it’s the message of it all:

It’s time to rise above from what is holding you back and embrace your inner Rebel!

2018 Rebel Shine Summit

Now that everyone was scheduled, the interviews were rolling out one by one, sometimes three in a day. I didn’t get much else done because the moment everyone was booked, I got sick. Go figure, right?

Anyway, I did the important things in my business and then focused on taking care of myself. By the time January 30th, came around I had 25 speakers for the Summit and everyone was interviewed.

And I am so excited to share this with you for Free!

Why do you want to join the Summit?

Because it is your Time to Embrace your Inner Rebel!

The topics covered on this summit are

Your best year
Own your power
Unleash yourself
Release
Imagination
Self-Care
Elevate your life
Attitude of Gratitude
Back to Basics
Opportunities
Vulnerability
Evaluate your Life

And if you read the first letter of each topic down, you will see that it says “YOU RISE ABOVE” because to me that is what embracing your inner rebel means. It’s saying no to conformity and saying yes to doing life – and business – the way you are being called to do it.

It’s time to squish the doubts and fears and for once in your life put yourself first. Gone are the days where everyone comes before you – and no we are not discounting being a partner or a mom.

But let me ask you:

  • When is it your time?
  • When is it your time to follow your ideas and unleash them in the world? When is it your time to take care of you?
  • When is it your time to take care of you?
  • When is it your time you say no to frustration and overwhelm?
  • When is it your time to elevate your life and own your power?

For 12 Days you will be able to listen and watch 2 interviews per day – 3 on Day 8!

We start on February 12th and end on February 23rd, 2018!

It is time you embrace your Inner Rebel

Your Morning Routine has an impact on your day

Your Morning Routine has an impact on your day

Do you consider yourself a morning person? Or more of an evening person?

I love mornings or rather, I love waking up and see the new opportunities each wake up can bring. It’s also a moment to reflect and create a fresh start if need be.

Now I am a morning person and my routine pretty much sets me up for the day and I can reflect at the end of the day what went well and what didn’t go so well. And then, of course, do better the next day.

This is not a moment, however, to beat yourself up because you can only do your best at each given moment.

But no matter the time you wake up, having a routine gives you a solid start on the day!

So let’s talk about your mornings!

Do you set an alarm so you have time to exercise, meditate, journal or just have some quiet time to yourself? But then you keep hitting the snooze button until you are out of time to actually follow through with your intentions?

Some mornings are better than others, and if you have more mornings where you hit the snooze button, again don’t beat yourself up.

But here’s what I want you to reflect on, the days that you did get up with the alarm:

Did you feel different?
How much did you get done?
Did you get that “me time”?
How did that feel?
How do the days you actually get up compare to the ones you keep hitting the snooze button?

Chances are that the mornings you did manage to make it out of bed when the alarm woke you up, your day not only went smoother but you got more accomplished. And the days you slept through the snooze button you felt frazzled for most of the day.

My mornings start off with a cup of coffee and 5 minutes of just being, although there are some days, I am up and out of bed and ready to roll. But I notice the days I take a few minutes to just be, I feel calmer in my day. From there, I am focused on getting my kid ready for school and out the door and then it’s “me time”. I spend time journaling and prepping for my day according to my plan or make adjustments as needed.

The days I don’t get that “me time” I tend to not get much done because I didn’t spend the time getting myself ready not prepped for the day ahead.

I share this with you because your morning routine can without a doubt set the tone of your day. And if you can absolutely enjoy your mornings rather than feel grumpy about them.

Stop letting fear to control your life

Stop letting fear to control your life

The only thing that is constant, is change. And yet here you are afraid of it like it’s some kind of horror movie. Take a look at your life and you will see that nothing stayed the same. Change happens in small or big leaps and you may not be able to see the subtle changes, that doesn’t mean they don’t exist.

Any change, positive or negative, is going to create an element of fear such as starting a new relationship or losing your job.

Would you be surprised if I tell you that there a benefit to your fear? And that it doesn’t have to be as scary as you make it out to be?

But first let’s look at the reasons behind you fear, when you get some insight on this, you will be able to take action anyway.

You, including me, are afraid of the unknown because you don’t know what’s on the other side and it can give you the case of anxiety. Your mind tells you that it isn’t safe and encourages you to avoid to take action or even make a decision. You haven’t experienced this before so you don’t really know the outcome.

I don’t necessarily believe in the wrong choice but you make the best decision in every given moment with the information that you have. Your intuition can guide you a lot better than your mind will because of your mind as powerful as it is, has the ability to cloud your vision. Here is what I encourage you to do, let go of perfectionism and the absolutes.

Perfectionism is an illusion and doesn’t exist and absolutes can just about anytime set you up to fail because you are so hung up at the “it is this or nothing”.

And this can often increase your self-doubt. But for just one moment, reflect on your life and see where you’ve had to make adjustments in the past and how you made it happen. Use this to move forward.

And yet, by facing the unknown and embracing the change you are about to face, you learn so much about yourself and that you are capable off and inevitable learn some new skills. Its timing may never be ideal but it gives you space to examine and evaluate your core values and take a look if everything is still aligned with who you are.

Self-discovery helps you walk your path of authenticity and therefore lead to progress as you are expanding your comfort zone. You are more resilient than you give yourself credit for.

Anytime I share about the struggle we endured when my son was fighting for his life, I hear from other mom’s how they didn’t think they could handle it or deal with it. But when you are not given a choice, you are going to show up the best way you know how, and you will face whatever comes your way. Sometimes gracefully and sometimes not so much.

And that doesn’t mean you won’t face worry and anxiety along the way but by reframing the negative stories you tell yourself, and focus on the positive outcome that your forward moving action could lead to, it will feel better overall.

Now I am not going to encourage you to push your feelings aside because I don’t believe in that. I think we need to feel our feelings, how else are you ever going to grow and move forward and will ultimately make the changes in your life?

Your feelings are good indicators for you and your path and when you can name them, you are standing in your power and maintain your own control.

And again, something that may be helpful is to create a list and acknowledge the changes you have made in your life, what you have learned and remind yourself that you have made it through some tough times already.

Your life, your journey, is about putting one foot in front of the other. It’s about trusting your intuition and develop positive mindset strategies. And yes, there are going to be shit days but they aren’t all going to be like that!

You don’t have to face change alone because when you are surrounded by like-minded people and have a support system, transitions will become a lot easier to manage!

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