Permission to Nurture yourself – granted!

Permission to Nurture yourself – granted!

This time of year is great to spend the time to go within so you can reflect on what worked, what didn’t and what you would like to do or do more of going forward. 

Self-Awareness is the key to show up as you and start embracing who you are – flaws and all. Think about where you’ve been hiding and ponder the reasons. Perhaps you feel like you can’t be your true self because what will your mother think? How will your best friend react?  

It is okay to be you! 

You can’t push for growth and change but you can allow for it to unfold at its own pace while holding the faith that all will be as it should. When you work too hard through the resistance, there’s a message in there so give yourself permission to hear it and take a break. 

This is where giving yourself permission to nurture yourself is important and comes into play. Take time for a quiet walk or a bath to allow your thoughts and feelings to rise and look at them from the outside in. What is the message? What are these thoughts and feelings trying to tell you?

Nurture yourself by quietly writing them out with a cup of coffee (or tea) and reflect. The answers you want or are looking for are within that space. And when you honor yourself, you are opening yourself up to receiving – whether it will be your next step or something else. 

Reach out and allow other’s to support and nurture you. Don’t push them away during your challenging days – instead, invite them in. Share your thoughts and maybe let them pamper you for a change. 
 
Trust your Creative Spark

Trust your Creative Spark

Every time you ponder your life purpose or a specific situation, pay attention and use your intuition and creative spark to help guide you. Sometimes we need to just pay attention to signals from others and our own intuition.

This can throw things out of balance and may need more of your attention. Perhaps a shift in your exercise routine or your nutrition is in order. Your body knows things and your intuition will share this with you. And it could also be the people in your world, the job, the family and maybe friends too. Your intuition is your own inner personal wisdom center. Make it your best friend!

Of course, sometimes we need to stay in the background rather than trying to control the tide. Just being present doesn’t require pushing your own agenda on other people. And it doesn’t mean to stay stagnant but sometimes simply observing the world around you can give you exactly the information you are wanting and perhaps even needing. And then infuse it all with compassion and maybe forgiveness.

Trust your Creative Spark because it is in that process her you can acknowledge your feelings and express your thoughts. That intuition, your own inner personal wisdom center, will guide you so give it permission to exist. Journal about what your body needs or your mind needs and maybe what you need overall. Free write this without judgment and censoring. This can be not only revealing but give you the release and healing you need to move forward.

Bring yourself back into Harmony

Bring yourself back into Harmony

Have you been holding your breath? Did you even notice?

Are you feeling a bit more tired?

Holding your breath often relates to survival mode or perceived danger. It also has an influence on setting goals and taking that very first step. OR when life gets a little bit too crazy and you don’t really know what is up or down.

And when you’re holding your breath, you will have a tendency to suppress thoughts and emotions that feel heavy and negative. But the thing is that in order to release the thoughts, feelings and even people that no longer are useful in your life or needed, holding your breath is spending the energy you don’t really have to give away.

Sometimes you don’t notice what you’re holding on to with dear life and so the energy becomes heavy. Connect with your senses by going outdoors for a walk, take a warm bath, listen to music or create art. It’s in that process thoughts and feelings can and will open themselves to you that are ready to be healed and let go off.

But perhaps before you begin or even during said activities, close your eyes for a moment and take three deep breath and fully be aware of the present. And then take three more breath acknowledging your inner chaos and the heaviness you’ve been feeling. Take three more breath and remember when everything as on harmony and as you exhale with each breath, release the energy that has found itself to you but is no longer serving you.

Sometimes the best thing one can do when trying to find balance again is to let go and get lost – not in the physical sense but in a “you’re so into your activity that you’ve lost space and time”.

Give yourself the opportunity to get lost so you can release the energy that’s causing you to hold your breath and then open yourself up to release it one exhale at a time!

Taking Action is the way forward.. that’s it

Taking Action is the way forward.. that’s it

It’s so easy to say, isn’t it?

Taking action and voila your life is moving in the direction that you want.

But really that is only part of it and perhaps the easiest part.

First, you have to know what you want. I mean if you don’t know what you want to be, do and have, how are you ever going to take the first step. It’s like going into the forest, stumbling over fallen trees and ultimately end up lost because you didn’t even see the path you should take.

Secondly, you really have to know why you want to be, do and have something. Sure you could walk into the forest without purpose and while the sights and smells are amazing, if you don’t know the reason behind going into the forest, then what is the point?

And this may be the most important one, you have to rebel through the fear. You have to embrace the fears, doubts and limiting beliefs and be willing to look at the dark side of it all. I am not all love and light, in fact, I believe that if you don’t look on the other side, you don’t even know what needs to change, why you act/react in a certain way in the first place and acknowledge that in order to move forward you are in fact in control and in charge.

For many years, I made excuses. I could give you a list of reasons why I didn’t take action. This list looked something like this:

  • I grew up in foster care and well foster kids aren’t successful.
  • I was too promiscuous during my teenage years.
  • I had a baby at 17 without really knowing how to be a parent.
  • I’m an immigrant and I can’t make the kind of living I want here
  • I don’t know how to make this life I want to happen
  • I am not smart, good or savvy enough to pull it all (dreams, goals, etc)

And truly those are just excuses and I had to really look at the dark side. No growing up in foster care was not my fault, but repeating the story of rejecting and abandonment and using it as a reason, totally up to me. I had to rewrite the story, change my beliefs and really see the value and the lessons on my own journey.

And here I am today believing that whatever I want to do I can do. That I am good enough and more importantly worthy of all the be, do and have dreams and goals that are mulling in my head, heart, and soul.

Ultimately all of this required me to be absolutely clear on what I wanted to be, do and have, work on myself and my mindset and tap into why I wanted any of it.

It’s not easy work, but shoot it’s so worth it.

And I want to help.

I want to help you have the clarity you desire.

I want to help you get unstuck.

I want to help you discover your why … your motivation.

I want to help you take action!

And here’s how we can do this starting now by discovering what is getting in the way of actually finishing what you’ve already started!

 

You know what to do

You know what to do

All too often, you and I don’t give ourselves enough credit for the things we know and the inner wisdom that that is waiting for us to acknowledge the answers we’ve been seeking! And even if you still have doubt, you can ask yourself to receive a clear sign to validate your thoughts and ideas.

Let me ask you: When you have ideas, do you sit on them or do you make a decision on what your next step should be? Sometimes tapping into your own willingness to do the work is the turning point.

We don’t always love the idea of doing the work, but you don’t have to. But when you hold on to the thoughts that support you and fuel your actions with positive energy, you will achieve that what you set out to do.

This means however that you may need to look at your lifestyle and the schedule you hold. You can’t expect to get things done when there is no room for it on your schedule. And further, the food you eat matters too. I love carbs but I know that it will lead to carb crash and I won’t be any good after eating it – so I will often choose to eat most of my carbs later in the day when I don’t have to use my brain anymore 🙂

And again, you already know what’s good for you and no one can or should tell you how to do any of this thing called life. You do you and you have the answers – so trust yourself on this journey.

if you’ve been seeking answers and experienced repetitive thoughts, acknowledge them. If you have a blog, book or business idea that’s been showing up, notice your thoughts and ideas that keep coming back to you. Write them down but don’t say “One day I will” instead try saying “on this day >date< I will start …!

Part of the journey of designing the life you want, of having the best year every year and brings you to the point of remembering who you are! Don’t be afraid or hide when people tell you “you’re too much” or “you’re crazy” or “you can’t have the cake and eat it too!

What other people think of you is none of your business and what you think of you matters a whole lot more.

So be open to tap into your own inner wisdom, pay attention to the thoughts and ideas that show up for you and then choose how soon you will embrace the change that is waiting!

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